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By *LikeToPleaseHer OP   Man
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

Trying to get the hang of this, I'd appreciate some tips on my profile what maybe a no no or a turn off. I been patient and polite but not really had luck, even just general chit chat. Any ideas? Be nice though lol

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

Read all the other threads where people ask that.

Make sure none of the negative comments therein apply to your profile.

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By *LikeToPleaseHer OP   Man
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

I will have a look, was seeing if I could get a more of a direct response to my profile as personal criticism is best

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Some of your pics are off putting, no need for us to see women on a single male profile.

Tidy your room before taking them too

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By *LikeToPleaseHer OP   Man
over a year ago

Hertfordshire


"Some of your pics are off putting, no need for us to see women on a single male profile.

Tidy your room before taking them too"

Good point never really thought it would be, and it weren't my room

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Some of your pics are off putting, no need for us to see women on a single male profile.

Tidy your room before taking them too

Good point never really thought it would be, and it weren't my room "

Us women take in all sorts of clues when we look at profiles

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By *LikeToPleaseHer OP   Man
over a year ago

Hertfordshire


"Some of your pics are off putting, no need for us to see women on a single male profile.

Tidy your room before taking them too

Good point never really thought it would be, and it weren't my room

Us women take in all sorts of clues when we look at profiles "

If only I was gifted with that knowledge

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"I will have a look, was seeing if I could get a more of a direct response to my profile as personal criticism is best "

OK. You're clearly too lazy to do your own research.

Personal enough?

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

your pictures are unappealing and your text gives no clue of what you might have to offer...

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"Some of your pics are off putting, no need for us to see women on a single male profile.

Tidy your room before taking them too

Good point never really thought it would be, and it weren't my room

Us women take in all sorts of clues when we look at profiles

If only I was gifted with that knowledge "

You're joking!

That's basic common sense

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

Me personally I don't like the cock pics and I for one delete all winks I'd rather they send a message.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I will have a look, was seeing if I could get a more of a direct response to my profile as personal criticism is best "

You're unique so it's you that knows you best so it's you that can write about yourself. Fab, in many ways, is a visual medium so you need to make sure whatever you're inviting people to look at, is pleasing to the eye.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Trying to get the hang of this, I'd appreciate some tips on my profile what maybe a no no or a turn off. I been patient and polite but not really had luck, even just general chit chat. Any ideas? Be nice though lol "

What one person sees as a negative another will see as a plus, you will never please everyone, be yourself and look for what you want, not what you think others are looking for.

So many men as the same questions about their profiles instead of just beng true to themselves, have the conviction to be unashamedly YOU.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The truth is (I'm sorry to say) that you are a guy with an average physique and a fairly unremarkable profile. With the ratio of men to women on here your chances of any real success are minimal. You might beaver away for months, sending out message after message, and eventually get someone to reply. You might even get a meet, who knows. But the odds are against you becoming a 'swinger'. It's not impossible, just very unlikely.

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By *unkasaurusMan
over a year ago

Glossop

Best tip is politeness and patience and lots of both no matter what others are like with you.

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By *inkySlinkyCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

OP. I never respond to a wink. I dont even look at who sent them. I assume other people are the sane Why not send a message instead?

Sally

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By *LikeToPleaseHer OP   Man
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

Thanks for the response, and wow I never thought a swinger site would be such a chore to be a particular standard! I been polite and respectful and try to have conversations but bluntly get told to move along as I'm 'not for them!' ... so to just be friendly you have to be attractive on here?

I ain't no hunk of a guy or got any enhancement tweak to my pics but feel that this site is becoming a hostile place for the 'average' guy in this scene. Thanks for everyone's input, I think fab hasn't got a place for me any more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the response, and wow I never thought a swinger site would be such a chore to be a particular standard! I been polite and respectful and try to have conversations but bluntly get told to move along as I'm 'not for them!' ... so to just be friendly you have to be attractive on here?

I ain't no hunk of a guy or got any enhancement tweak to my pics but feel that this site is becoming a hostile place for the 'average' guy in this scene. Thanks for everyone's input, I think fab hasn't got a place for me any more"

Totally agree!!

Fab isn't for everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the response, and wow I never thought a swinger site would be such a chore to be a particular standard! I been polite and respectful and try to have conversations but bluntly get told to move along as I'm 'not for them!' ... so to just be friendly you have to be attractive on here?

I ain't no hunk of a guy or got any enhancement tweak to my pics but feel that this site is becoming a hostile place for the 'average' guy in this scene. Thanks for everyone's input, I think fab hasn't got a place for me any more"

Now flip it and see it from the perspective of the people you are messaging. Some, single women in particular, get hundreds of messages so you're doing better than some guys getting a reply. It's nice to meet friendly people but if there's no intention to meet they probably don't have time to chat to everyone who is friendly.

This is meant to be fun, so if it's a chore don't do it. If you decide to give it another go remember your profile is your shop window, and pics are so important.

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France


"Thanks for the response, and wow I never thought a swinger site would be such a chore to be a particular standard! I been polite and respectful and try to have conversations but bluntly get told to move along as I'm 'not for them!' ... so to just be friendly you have to be attractive on here?

I ain't no hunk of a guy or got any enhancement tweak to my pics but feel that this site is becoming a hostile place for the 'average' guy in this scene. Thanks for everyone's input, I think fab hasn't got a place for me any more"

You don't have to be a " hunk": and attraction doesn't mean 6'6 and a six pack;

But as a " well built" guy, you would probably be more appealing in a pic if you were dressed smart casual.....

You don't have to " enhance" pics; just take ones that are a bit more stylish......

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

......"hanks for the response, and wow I never thought a swinger site would be such a chore to be a particular standard....."

I'd be interested in the lower standard sites where one can have sexual success with shit photos, shit profile and shit messages. I'd be able to get a meet whilst having one then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"......"hanks for the response, and wow I never thought a swinger site would be such a chore to be a particular standard....."

I'd be interested in the lower standard sites where one can have sexual success with shit photos, shit profile and shit messages. I'd be able to get a meet whilst having one then "

You're on one. Youre just the wrong sex...

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

the 'particular' standard is

good profile, good pics, friendly and positive attitude and getting known face to face

if you can, write a profile that details you

have pics, that are appealing..

get involved on the forums and/ or

get out to clubs and socials, you are likely to have a decent time here..

if you cant or wont make the effort in these categories, Fab probably isnt for you. nothing personal, its just the way it is here x

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff


"Thanks for the response, and wow I never thought a swinger site would be such a chore to be a particular standard! I been polite and respectful and try to have conversations but bluntly get told to move along as I'm 'not for them!' ... so to just be friendly you have to be attractive on here?

I ain't no hunk of a guy or got any enhancement tweak to my pics but feel that this site is becoming a hostile place for the 'average' guy in this scene. Thanks for everyone's input, I think fab hasn't got a place for me any more

Now flip it and see it from the perspective of the people you are messaging. Some, single women in particular, get hundreds of messages so you're doing better than some guys getting a reply. It's nice to meet friendly people but if there's no intention to meet they probably don't have time to chat to everyone who is friendly.

This is meant to be fun, so if it's a chore don't do it. If you decide to give it another go remember your profile is your shop window, and pics are so important. "

It's not a chore and you don't have to be a Adonis on here at all.

You do need to show you're willing to make an effort and have something that reveals something about you and your character.

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