FabSwingers.com forum: What should I do??

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm a married man in a sexless marriage, it's been nearly two years since I last had any fun. I'm married to a wife who has little sympathy for my high sex drive and is not openly willing to allow me to play away, however I have no intention of abandoning her or my marriage. She is not sexually active due to medical reasons and for this reason, and the promises I made when I married her, I have bided my time and have satisfied myself, so to speak. However this alone has become mentally not good for me, which is why I joined this site. However I am not having any success even for my basic need, which would be fun naughty chats, (much more than that is difficult due to my current situation) maybe more if there is a lady who understands and is patient enough to work around my restrictions. However, I'm finding it difficult to get ladies to even read my messages let alone reply to them, so this solution is perhaps not working for me.

So I ask this, and I'm serious: is there a product, technique or prescription drug I can use to lower my sex drive???

I'm not looking for sympathy, and that's the truth, I just need constructive suggestions that will help... thanks for reading..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bromide. U can buy it over the counter at a chemist. Prisons use it an the military used to. It lowers the sex drive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dirty chat with men? that's what my ex used to do, it made no difference to him coz it was only sex chat.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Two good suggestions there, thanks.

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

"I'm a married man in a sexless marriage, it's been nearly two years since I last had any fun. I'm married to a wife who has little sympathy for my high sex drive and is not openly willing to allow me to play away, however I have no intention of abandoning her or my marriage. She is not sexually active due to medical reasons and for this reason, and the promises I made when I married her, I have bided my time and have satisfied myself, so to speak. However this alone has become mentally not good for me, which is why I joined this site. However I am not having any success even for my basic need, which would be fun naughty chats, (much more than that is difficult due to my current situation) maybe more if there is a lady who understands and is patient enough to work around my restrictions. However, I'm finding it difficult to get ladies to even read my messages let alone reply to them, so this solution is perhaps not working for me.

So I ask this, and I'm serious: is there a product, technique or prescription drug I can use to lower my sex drive???

I'm not looking for sympathy, and that's the truth, I just need constructive suggestions that will help... thanks for reading.."

Join in the chat rooms. Get to know people in there and maybe you will find a spark with someone else. Better than just having messages deleted.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Six weeks isn't long to be fair so don't give up yet.

Join in the forum a bit you might establish a rapport with some people and chat from there.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Six weeks isn't long to be fair so don't give up yet.

Join in the forum a bit you might establish a rapport with some people and chat from there."

Thanks 'nicecouple' that's a good idea, I'll stick with it for a while and see how it goes..

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"Six weeks isn't long to be fair so don't give up yet.

Join in the forum a bit you might establish a rapport with some people and chat from there."
this xxx

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I also think that using the forums more will get you chatting with people you might not have thought of having a conversation with. Also use the chatrooms too and surely there's nothing wrong with attending a social. Good luck with it all.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

You've joined a swingers site and found people openly swapping partners or looking for sex, so if this doesn't heighten your libido I don't know what will. If you do get a meet I wonder if you'll go through with it going by what you've said.

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By *aughtyinguMan
over a year ago

swindon

Mirtazapine has lowered mine, but could u not try kneesex with your wife?

And literotica is good

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By *aGaGagging for itCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Take a step back and look at things more globally than the detail. Your options are:

1. Accept the way things are.

2. Change things, (you or her) so its not an issue.

3. Get out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Train spotting.

Not the film. Try train spotting a few hours taking down numbers would kill my libido.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You really need to sit down and talk to your wife without arguing or blaming and let her know your feelings about this. Ive been in a sexless relationship and it eats away at you, humans have emotional and physical needs for intimacy. There are lots of other things you can do to connect intimately and sexually if penetrative sex if off the cards due to medical reasons. I would recommend having a look at reddit.com/r/DeadBedrooms/ there are many men and women in the same situation as you there, they give excellent advice and support. X

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By *imonP23Man
over a year ago

Shepton Mallet

Interesting. I'm in exactly the same situation (no sex with my wife for years now). Yet nobody has yet mentioned the most straightforward solution. Is it against the rules on here to suggest paying for sex?

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France

"Interesting. I'm in exactly the same situation (no sex with my wife for years now). Yet nobody has yet mentioned the most straightforward solution. Is it against the rules on here to suggest paying for sex?

This;

There will be howls about it from the self - righteous; but frankly if you need some relief ; find a good quality " escort".

Will see to your needs; a good one will totally understand and do what you need ;

It's a done and dusted service, at a time of your choosing.

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By *ad-GirlWoman
over a year ago

Huddersfield

"You really need to sit down and talk to your wife without arguing or blaming and let her know your feelings about this. Ive been in a sexless relationship and it eats away at you, humans have emotional and physical needs for intimacy. There are lots of other things you can do to connect intimately and sexually if penetrative sex if off the cards due to medical reasons. I would recommend having a look at reddit.com/r/DeadBedrooms/ there are many men and women in the same situation as you there, they give excellent advice and support. X"

Good advice talking about it is best if you are struggling yet don't want to leave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From what you are saying, you sound as though you have a measure of depression? Perhaps speak to your GP.....be open about how you feel. Some of the newer drugs can help in two ways.

They lighten your general mood.

They can suppress libido which you also suggest would help.

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