FabSwingers.com forum: Do women message men?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm sure there are dozens of men for every woman here and it seems women get swamped with messages, so women of course can be as picky as they wish. Fair enough market forces and all that. So with you women just doing bulk delete without reading messages, you have no need to send any messages yourself. The question is do you?

I suppose I'm wondering if there's actually any point to site, because I'll be honest I find it rather boring, and right now I could be watching 'Mock the Week' rather than typing this.

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

Yes. But you have to earn it.

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

There you go then!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't. We get knock backs too some are so rude it's beyond belief so I no longer send initial messages.

I only reply to a polite message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do occasionally ...

I also watch mock the week

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Very very rarely

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By *iss-PinkWoman
over a year ago

Gloucester

I do - although not many - the profile has to really catch my eye and I have to think that I stand a good chance lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I even send messages to people on here while I'm watching Mock The Week...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i used to.

i've realised a lot of men don't get much attention online, therefore they might only be talking to me out of desperation. so no, i stopped doing that now.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sometimes I even send messages to people on here while I'm watching Mock The Week..."

Ah that's because being a woman you can multitask I presume.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do send message if I happen to read a status that some guy has put on his profile that I feel the need to respond to but this is on the local updates.

I also message if i have come across a particularly sexy photo of a guy.

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By *rs Mia WallaceWoman
over a year ago

Bathwyche

I do when some one catches my eye... I just forget to browse much as dont meet alot of of clubs. Too much headache.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"i used to.

i've realised a lot of men don't get much attention online, therefore they might only be talking to me out of desperation. so no, i stopped doing that now."

That's something that hadn't occurred to me but with respect it does highlight that this whole malarkey is fundamentally flawed.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

I send some

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France

I receive some

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, not every day but it happens.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

Very rarely in our experience, more likely to get a wink if your lucky. We think it's a real shame more don't, but then they don't have to by and large & they have to deal with the single guys & we don't. Spoke to one stunning forumite on this very subject & she said she never sends first messages due to possible rejection & how that would affect her.

I think she may have been slightly taken aback when I replied that no its not much fun getting them tbh..

Whilst many ladies will not send them for this reason probably the same ladies will think nothing of block erasing their unread message files..

Just one of the things you get used to or you just fuck off and leave. Don't get me wrong I'm not complaining just stating what I think are facts. We got around this mostly by living on the forums & not messaging any non forumites & are happy with where we are after nearly five months on Fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sometimes send a message to a guy if something about their profile catches my eye, or I will wink them. And 95% of the time I never hear back from them

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

All but one of my meets are from me making the first move/sending the first message

What can I say I know what I want and sometimes I get it too!

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

I do. No point sitting on a pedestal getting endless messages from divs. One has become a very good friend

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

I've got a first message from a woman n got a meet from it n made a few friends too this way .

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

I've had couples winking at me n then they won't reply back when I send a message .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I once got one . July 16th 2012 . A Monday 7pm

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

It's as rare as finding chicken teeth but I've had the odd one or two

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

"Sometimes I even send messages to people on here while I'm watching Mock The Week..."

Yes but that's multi tasking!

Clearly the OP can't do that... which could be a concern in the bedroom

I never message a guy first in relation to a meet. I sometimes message about a status /comment but that is all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm sure there are dozens of men for every woman here and it seems women get swamped with messages, so women of course can be as picky as they wish. Fair enough market forces and all that. So with you women just doing bulk delete without reading messages, you have no need to send any messages yourself. The question is do you?

I suppose I'm wondering if there's actually any point to site, because I'll be honest I find it rather boring, and right now I could be watching 'Mock the Week' rather than typing this. "

I do.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

I suppose I'm wondering if there's actually any point to site, because I'll be honest I find it rather boring, and right now I could be watching 'Mock the Week' rather than typing this. "

yes they do OP in my experience couples to by the way,but OP and all the guys in here for that matter who say its very rare its not that rare fellas.

if you want to be noticed and messaged your going to have to express yourselves in the forums fellas .

now not in sycophantic way but with your true voice .

yes if you do that some are going to disagree with you and yes you will at times be asked to explain yourself god I know because I'm often answering follow up questions to my more controversial forum posts. but trust me guys if you do this and can keep your cool when someone with a axe to grind comes at you which they will if you take this route ,

then slowly over time people will see you for the person you truly are and at that point those who find you interests more often than not funny more often than not will start to message you .

here's the absolute truth fellas I rarely trawl profiles so due to that fact I don't send fishing messages . I will message due to a status update if I have anything to say on that update and I will message due to a forum post and you know something fellas I do rather well

don't let my lack of veri make you think otherwise I'm not a fan of the system as I find it can cause more trouble than good in a lot of cases.

I've took this approach since day one of joining OP and you know what I get winked at friend invites and messages so to those who say rarely I say this advertise your true voice in the forums yes some shit will come your way for doing that but trust me the fun that comes out of doing that far out numbers the negatives of such a approach to site life and having those all important naught fun filthy adventures .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have and will send a message if the profile attracts me. Won't if it's just a cock pic and nothing else. Find a lot of the profile names that guys have puts me off too.

I hate when guys send a one liner with no thought to it and clearly have not read my profile either.

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By *amesB66Man
over a year ago

St Peter Port

Yes women do message men...just not terribly often

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always read before I delete. Even the not so nice messages. And let's be honest some men dont know how to approach a woman nicely. Only crudely!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a few. And from couples. And a few lovely meets as a result. But it's rare - doesn't happen very often. Keep being positive - make yourself visible and I'm sure the contact will come.

Good luck my friend!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have just started doing my own hunting XXX

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

It does happen.

I still do a little dance of joy and possibly a celebratory wank when it does, but it does happen

It won't if the slightest bit of negativity creeps in in someone's posts or profiles though ;

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've messaged only two guys. First got a massive ego because a woman contacted him that he was the complete opposite of how his profile depicted. The second guy got so excited that he instantly began telling me what he wanted to do sexually on his reply. Both got blocked. So now I only do clubs no private meets due to the messages people send me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do sometimes if I'm feeling in a naughty way and see where it leads but it's only in a blue moon, normally just chat to them at a club but sometimes a profile catches my eye and I send a message. Me. Xx

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By *reykiwi500Man
over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)

I get messaged/winked more than I message/wink, although I have to stress the counts of both are very low compared to what I imagine most receive or send, before anyone thinks I'm bragging

I know with the sheers numbers on here they don't need to be, but overall I wish women were more proactive if they want to contact a guy. I enjoy receiving messages and love a pleasant conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've blocked everyone and message guys myself, wouldn't get meets otherwise and it works very well for me. I always hated all the crude messages, some abusive ones and some constantly pestering me but now I get none of that and its great! Very few male profiles are that good they entice me to message but the ones that are really stand out.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I message men, women and couples if something they post in the forum interests me or their photos are particularly interesting. In my experience it's mainly couples I struggle with and that's resulted in me not messaging first any more. I much prefer the dynamic of talking to one and not dealing with different tones from two different people. So in summation, yes, I message first.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

I suppose I'm wondering if there's actually any point to site, because I'll be honest I find it rather boring, and right now I could be watching 'Mock the Week' rather than typing this. "

I agree there are loads more guys than ladies..

Ladies might be choosy ... You do know Guys have the same choicese to say yes or no as well,

Ladies do message guys first... You have to tick their boxes and if you do you'll get a surprise in your inbox.. likewise they should tick yours

If you're not having fun... Change something

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have done.

I send a lot of messages to ladies that's more 'chat' or a compliment.

There was one particular fella that was like a leech. He thought that was it we were 'FB 4 LYF' and it kinda put me off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Last two messages (first messages, not replies) are from women. One in response to a forum post...one more local and expressing interest.

So yes OP. They do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have only sent a couple without them contacting me first...don't really have time to browse n message as my inbox is usually bloody carnage already...but the last one I messaged, I thought I would get knocked back, but he is now my very regular fwb

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I message guys, mostly those who have browsed my profile and have pique my interest after reading their profile in return. I also block those who I have no interest in meeting for whatever reason, (smokers for example). I read all messages I get, and will respond with at least a 'Thanks for the message' back, unless of course, the original message was rude, inappropriate or unintelligible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never messaged a man with the intention of meeting him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have done.

I send a lot of messages to ladies that's more 'chat' or a compliment.

There was one particular fella that was like a leech. He thought that was it we were 'FB 4 LYF' and it kinda put me off "

This is what puts me off sending a first message. I'd not want something to think that because I messaged, showing interest, it was a done deal that we would have sex. Some people assume that just by me responding to their message.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

"I have done.

I send a lot of messages to ladies that's more 'chat' or a compliment.

There was one particular fella that was like a leech. He thought that was it we were 'FB 4 LYF' and it kinda put me off

I gotta ask ..what's the difference in sending a message first initiating a conversation and replying to a message and continuing a conversation...

They can both lead to something or nothing ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mostly receive winks from women and I return the compliments with a polite message of appreciation which in the normal world should attract an appreciative response back but sadly NO RESPONSE!

It makes me wonder why the wink in the first place?

Unlucky for me I tend to receive messages from men instead. That is increasing pushing me through the exit door here because I share a different belief.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a shame more women don't message first, I get some but not that many. They are nearly always in response to forum posts or status updates though.

There is a good dating app which only allows women to message first, the catch being that they have a time limit on being able to do so before the guy they matched with is deleted from their matches. From a guys point of view its great as if you get a message you know they at least have some interest in you.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

Some do, some don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have done.

I send a lot of messages to ladies that's more 'chat' or a compliment.

There was one particular fella that was like a leech. He thought that was it we were 'FB 4 LYF' and it kinda put me off

I gotta ask ..what's the difference in sending a message first initiating a conversation and replying to a message and continuing a conversation...

They can both lead to something or nothing ?"

But if you send the message first then it looks like it's a done deal... as opposed to replying to an opening mail

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a shame more women don't message first, I get some but not that many. They are nearly always in response to forum posts or status updates though.

What's it called

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very rarely.

Experience has shown me that most men on here lie on their Profiles - they write what they think sounds good - not what they really want. So if you respond to their Profile - you just find that they're completely different, or they want very different things.

Been bitten by that one too many times to risk it again, no matter how much I'd like to....

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By *workoutMan
over a year ago

Cradley Heath

I have quite a healthy inbox so yes they do, it's by no means a guarantee of anything though mind! I've had some nice chats and hopefully will meet some of them.

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By *otlips2000Man
over a year ago

swadlincote

I may be thick but what is OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I may be thick but what is OP"

'Original poster'

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester

Yes! Some do message but there has to be a good reason for it, and even then, most are kind of weird/uneasy about it.

I get a message maybe once a day or so. When I used to be on here a lot, I used to get "I'm sorry for messaging you, I hope you don't mind. Blah blah blah...". As if I'd mind!

Anyway, yes they do message, but they tend to be very reserved about it.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"I've messaged only two guys. First got a massive ego because a woman contacted him that he was the complete opposite of how his profile depicted. The second guy got so excited that he instantly began telling me what he wanted to do sexually on his reply. Both got blocked. So now I only do clubs no private meets due to the messages people send me. "

that's rather sad darling I do wish you would reconsider yes there are a lot of fuck wits on here but still there are a few articulate intelligent gents on here to you know .

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I get messages from ladies and sometimes couples an quite often from men. quite a few people put up filters and then do the looking themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" So now I only do clubs no private meets due to the messages people send me."

This is me all over now too xx

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

I'm obviously not a single woman

but as a couple, we prefer to search and send first messages. We usually have our filter on and go looking ourselves.

Most of the men, we've met, have been those we've contacted first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes they do, I get them from women and couples

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

"I have done.

I send a lot of messages to ladies that's more 'chat' or a compliment.

There was one particular fella that was like a leech. He thought that was it we were 'FB 4 LYF' and it kinda put me off

I gotta ask ..what's the difference in sending a message first initiating a conversation and replying to a message and continuing a conversation...

They can both lead to something or nothing ?

But if you send the message first then it looks like it's a done deal... as opposed to replying to an opening mail "

I'm not a lady so I'll go with that logic .... Not sure an opening message unless it's "you asked ...so let's fu*k now" doesn't imply a done deal..

Each to their own.. if I see a profile that interests me I send a message, I've received messages from ladies so I guess I interested them.. some have led somewhere others haven't... It's one of the reasons I always suggest folk have the best profile they can ...they dogenerate interest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not been here long and don't use the site that often but I see its potential in the longerterm.

I would say most local genuine women will reply to a message rather than send.

I may send maybe 2 or 3 messages over a number of weeks to someone I would like to chat too. If there is no response I just knock'em off the hot list not because they don't answer, just so I don't message them again because nobody like a pest !

But there are a few attention seekers here along with a few fakes but it don't take long to work them out and block those ones asap.

Any network is what you want to make it put the effort in your will build trust and a platform that suits you. Be half hearted or superior then you will be 'fucked' but not in the way this site was intended

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Yes "

I hope they didn't tell you to fuck off the site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to use the chatrooms and have received messages of women who i've seen in there or who know me via friend off a friend sort of deal.

Always nice to receive a message - and not all are looking to meet. Some are just to say hi and thanks or chat etc

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By *isa 59Woman
over a year ago

Newcastle

I've never done a block delete.

I do send out initial messages and have had some great results from doing so. You get out of this site what you put into it and why should the guys be expected to make all the effort?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like fishing for carp. You set up shop, sit in the cold for a while, sometimes it rains but when you least expect it someone will take the bait.. And then its a struggle from start to finish if your using a 7lb rod lol

I believe in charity though, women could! Send a few messages to remind us not to be creeps, its so easy to pass that line out of frustration. If your regular and and get 200 messages a day its because guys are left in the cold.. Saw one guy he was a total athlete cock the size of a forearm probably on page 3 somewhere saying he had no messages for weeks whats wrong ect. Makes me think its not just me and that it is a game of patience. Picky choosy is match.com not a swinging site surely.

Me personally im patient, my girl will find me soon enough

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By *inkyChrissy99TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

I go looking personally but tbh I don't get as many as real girls i'm sure.

My guess would be most girls on here have enough to pick from Without having to go looking.

Unless they are after a particular look or type of person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never done a block delete.

I do send out initial messages and have had some great results from doing so. You get out of this site what you put into it and why should the guys be expected to make all the effort? "

This is a very good point!

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By *olden RatioWoman
over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

Yes, I will message the men who I am interested in.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I once got one . July 16th 2012 . A Monday 7pm

Sounds about right.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sometimes I even send messages to people on here while I'm watching Mock The Week...

Yes but that's multi tasking!

Clearly the OP can't do that... which could be a concern in the bedroom

I never message a guy first in relation to a meet. I sometimes message about a status /comment but that is all."

You don't want multitasking in the bedroom, you want to be focused entirely on pleasing the woman at hand.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have just started doing my own hunting XXX"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I have never messaged anyone on here yet...only message my friends on here to ask them stuff. Will reply to messages of course!

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By *reykiwi500Man
over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)

"I've never done a block delete.

I do send out initial messages and have had some great results from doing so. You get out of this site what you put into it and why should the guys be expected to make all the effort? "

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

Yes ive messaged men after reading their profile ... only if they are local .... and they sound interesting ....

Ive made some lovely friends on here .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep I made the first move with a nice guy I'm talking to now xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very rarely I'm afraid of looking stupid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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over a year ago

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

I (male) suspect my secuality puts some off, however those that do we/I know they are interested.

L has her own profile on here and I know she will if there is someone of interest.

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By *ik MMan
over a year ago

Lancashire

I think I've received 2 random messages in all the time I've been here, including on previous profiles. Thinking about it neither of those made much sense.

Conversely I send our messages when updates or status' catch my eye but probably get a reply to one in ten. I can't explain how frustrating this is especially when you can see your message has been read. How long would a thanks but no thanks reply take??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thinking about it I haven't actually had a meet from messaging first, they have all come about from ladies messaging me.

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By *edylogosMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

I've literally had about 3 ladies message me since I've been here.

I understand why they don't by and large due to the influx of their own inboxes must make it incredibly difficult in actually looking!

That having being said I would say a lot of people are missing out on meeting people they would actually have a great time with due to this trend

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By *rimo4uMan
over a year ago

north kensington w10

I suppose I'm wondering if there's actually any point to site, because I'll be honest I find it rather boring, and right now I could be watching 'Mock the Week' rather than typing this. "

Yes, on an average day i might get up to 5 message from women!

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

Man here willing to receive msgs from girls/ladies...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes if someone catches my eye on the forum's with humour. I don't use the search option

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes if I like the look of a man I'll message him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course they do

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By *ongleglisaWoman
over a year ago

thanet

I've messaged men x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will wink men if I like the look of them and that usually gets the ball rolling so to speak xx

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By *inglehotchickWoman
over a year ago

blackpool

I have messaged a couple of guys but usually I send a wink

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By *iver2015Woman
over a year ago

middlesbrough

Sent one an hour ago. Read but not replied. Shouldn't feel disappointed as I understand that I'm not to everyone's taste but it was a bloody nice message. Lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have done a few times but I don't anymore

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

got all my filters on, so i am always the one messaging first...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haha for a second I thought this thread said, "Do women measure men?". Im tired.

Doll.x

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By *obwithkiltMan
over a year ago

Belton

Had quite a few ladies message me first....and ling may it continue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. I've messaged quite a few first. Had meets in the past from it too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"got all my filters on, so i am always the one messaging first..."

You should get rid of this filter until your social in London .I got few questions about the cake and the meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Haha for a second I thought this thread said, "Do women measure men?". Im tired.

Doll.x "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suppose I'm wondering if there's actually any point to site, because I'll be honest I find it rather boring, and right now I could be watching 'Mock the Week' rather than typing this.

yes they do OP in my experience couples to by the way,but OP and all the guys in here for that matter who say its very rare its not that rare fellas.

if you want to be noticed and messaged your going to have to express yourselves in the forums fellas .

now not in sycophantic way but with your true voice .

then slowly over time people will see you for the person you truly are and at that point those who find you interests more often than not funny more often than not will start to message you .

don't let my lack of veri make you think otherwise I'm not a fan of the system as I find it can cause more trouble than good in a lot of cases.

How are veri's more trouble?

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By *ed wineMan
over a year ago

Where the streets have no name

Yes, they do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have received in the past messages of women, so I know that they are out there. Just hope the ones that like you are the ones that you like, in my case they have been

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By *r an Mrs xMan
over a year ago

liverpool

My inbox is always full. Lol

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By *ocknboobs4uCouple
over a year ago

Carlisle

I suppose I'm wondering if there's actually any point to site, because I'll be honest I find it rather boring, and right now I could be watching 'Mock the Week' rat

her than typing this. "

I the lady of this couple quite often message guys.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Yes sometimes

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By *eforfuncplCouple
over a year ago

Morecambe

"Yes sometimes"

Snap

. If I like then y not xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suppose I'm wondering if there's actually any point to site, because I'll be honest I find it rather boring, and right now I could be watching 'Mock the Week' rather than typing this. "

If you were a woman you could multi task and do both

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By *edylogosMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

I suppose I'm wondering if there's actually any point to site, because I'll be honest I find it rather boring, and right now I could be watching 'Mock the Week' rather than typing this.

If you were a woman you could multi task and do both

Haha well I don't think multitasking is the issue - I certainly can if I'm interested in something

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have in the past mailed men first, it doesn't really work for me though, I have had zero meets as a result of mailing men first, infact I have never had a reply from a single person I made first contact with so I tend to just sort through the guys who mail me and reply to the ones I'm interested in, I figure if they have mailed me first there is at least some interest on their part

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No"

I take it back. Yes

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

I suppose I'm wondering if there's actually any point to site, because I'll be honest I find it rather boring, and right now I could be watching 'Mock the Week' rather than typing this. "

I think I've received less than a handful of unsolicited messages from women since I've been on fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just picked up on this

simple answer is yes women do message men, if we have something they read in our profiles they like

but I will admit Bisexual men like me, don't as many messages - but that's just how it is

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By *ed wineMan
over a year ago

Where the streets have no name

"I have in the past mailed men first, it doesn't really work for me though, I have had zero meets as a result of mailing men first, infact I have never had a reply from a single person I made first contact with so I tend to just sort through the guys who mail me and reply to the ones I'm interested in, I figure if they have mailed me first there is at least some interest on their part "

Of course we have interest on you

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By *ye SeMan
over a year ago

london

"Very very rarely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always do. I know who I want as a victim

and I'm not afraid to ask or be rejected

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By *ed wineMan
over a year ago

Where the streets have no name

"I always do. I know who I want as a victim

and I'm not afraid to ask or be rejected

What kind of brainless would reject you?

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By *ornyspiceCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

"I sometimes send a message to a guy if something about their profile catches my eye, or I will wink them. And 95% of the time I never hear back from them

It could be they have read your veris and can see they are all events & socials

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By *lan43sumMan
over a year ago

Leicester

I've had the odd message from a lady and always have replied. Some have later turned out to be from males sadly.

In every case I can't see why people would be rude. Treat others as you want to be treated yourself?

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"got all my filters on, so i am always the one messaging first...

You should get rid of this filter until your social in London .I got few questions about the cake and the meet

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if you really need to contact me..my couples profile will accept messages x

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By *nterracial2Couple
over a year ago

Ribble Valley

Yupp, rarely I must admit!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I first went single here a few months ago I had a single lady message me, profile was well thought out though not intriguing and she was initially well mannered, 3/4 messages in it was clear that she, though very pretty, wasn't attracting my attention mentally and a polite no thankyou you resulted in a barrage of quite frankly some of the best abuse I have ever received.

Seems some women don't like rejection either.

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By *lbi niceMan
over a year ago

romsley

"I send some

Oh boy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can count on one hand the number of times women/couples have messaged me first!

Most I've turned down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I first went single here a few months ago I had a single lady message me, profile was well thought out though not intriguing and she was initially well mannered, 3/4 messages in it was clear that she, though very pretty, wasn't attracting my attention mentally and a polite no thankyou you resulted in a barrage of quite frankly some of the best abuse I have ever received.

Seems some women don't like rejection either.

Well I hope she blocked and reported you too

Single men turning women down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems some women don't like rejection either.

Well I hope she blocked and reported you too

Single men turning women down

Haha, she may very well have done.

Was too busy marveling at the awesome abuse I got.

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By *drianukMan
over a year ago

Spain, Lancs

They do sometimes. A lady on here invited me to a threesome with a male friend. He eventually couldn't make it - so we met anyway

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By *ye SeMan
over a year ago

london

Seems some women don't like rejection either.

Well I hope she blocked and reported you too

Single men turning women down

Nothing hotter then a confident women wanting to make the first move

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By *ilmissplumpyWoman
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

I haves messaged guys and suggested they ask if i fancy meeting fir a coffee....

I also have deleted many messages from men who have blatantly not read my profile which i think is quite clear in what i am looking for...

Lmn

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By *iceguy25Man
over a year ago

tongbridge

Yes, is the simple answer , I go months without getting a single message, then all of a sudden I get so many I cant keep up

Simply dont rely on this site as your main source of "fun" I use it more for socialising and meeting new people, if I get to have abit of fun along the way im not going to be complaining

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