FabSwingers.com forum: mfm 3sum advice for newbies pls

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just posted this msg in lounge but think this support section is more appropriate. Heres the situation....

We are a North West based, happily married, young (early 30's) couple with good sex life.

We had a couple of threesome's (mfm) with hubby's best friend a few years ago (completely straight). We didn't discuss it for years until recently and turns out its been a huge fantasy of his ever since. So we are gonna try it again ... cant find a suitable friend at the min for various reasons so here we are on fab! II just have a few concerns and questions and was hoping for some advice pls guys?

- I don't like using condoms. But don't want to get pregnant by someone else as me and hubby are trying for more. Not ideal of course. Any advice? And surely its like playing STI roulette on this site without condoms. Or is it not as bad as I think? Any tips on minimising risk and what to do if we think we have something would be much appreciated (not been Gum clinic in yrs so don't know if things have changed or improved with technology or medicine in recent years).

- I'm not very confident in myself lately and a bit nervous about it all. The thought of a club is scary lol. Any suggestions how to get started? Shall we invite someone straight round, or go for drinks first in pub or night club, or will that be too awkward? Or should i suck it up, have a few drinks and try and hit a swingers club?

- Any other advise about any aspect of swinging (particularly 3sums) would be great

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Hi and welcome. What I would say is take it at your own pace and only do whatever you feel comfortable.

For us we mainly meet people for a social drink first to see if there is a connection and attraction. If there is we will arrange a play date for another time, if not at least you have been out for a few drinks and had a laugh(hopefully lol).

On the other hand clubs can be a good way to dip your toe in the water. We go to La Chambre in Sheffield and were really nervous the first time. But its actually just like a night in the pub, you get chatting to people and have a laugh and a drink. The only difference is if you pull there are rooms to go off to play in.

Generally people in clubs are very friendly and respectful. We sometimes just have a drink and a chat with people and then go off and play by ourselves and watch others.

Sorry if this is long winded. Suppose what I'm trying to say is just do what you are comfortable with and try to relax. Jack

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you asking how you can bare back without getting pregnant?

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

Or is it not as bad as you think???? I'd say it's possibly worse!!

Why would you even be thinking Of having unprotected sex with a stranger off here when you are trying for more children?

What if they had a STD that was dormant and passed it on to you and then you got pregnant and that child suffered from it?

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By *inkySlinkyCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

You say "the thought of a club is scary". Going to a club is nowhere near as scary as contemplating unprotected sex when you are trying to conceive.

Sally

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By *entralscotscpl7Couple
over a year ago

Falkirk

Wouldn't advise it but your grown ups and you can do what you like.

Just remember you will be responsible if anything goes wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've had a meet already though? Little green tick?

Some people have fantasies about getting impregnated from a meet on here. If that's not your thing, then it doesn't really matter a sod what your opinion is of condoms, why would you risk going without? And regardless of whether you bareback or not, regular health checks at the GUM should be done if you want to swing....and yes that does include you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Other than that, if you're meeting intimately and you're feeling nervous (understandable) then I think a relaxed no pressure social is a great way to start to put you at ease and check if the chemistry is there and the dynamic feels right for all 3 of you. Clubs are generally friendly inclusive places, and you've got each other for support. Go easy on the drink though....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one likes condoms... But I also don't want my dick to drop off either.... So I always carry a rain mack, regular fuck buddies or a one off. Only my cuckquean feels my skin inside her.

Don't risk it guys, the consequences are not worth it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there's nothing to be nervous about but the not getting pregnant thing is weird...

if you don't wanna risk pregnancy then you can't really fuck anyone else. if your cycle is 100% regular that makes it so you can work around ovulation somewhat but it's also possible you might release eggs unexpectedly.

kind of skepitcal about your post tbh and suspect you've written it to attract certain guys willing to become involved in your breeding fetish.

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