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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

ok so im a nice guy.

think im decent looking, nobody is perfect lol

so why are people not interested? is it simply because theres shes loads of guys on here for people to choose from?

any feedback will be appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ok so im a nice guy.

think im decent looking, nobody is perfect lol

so why are people not interested? is it simply because theres shes loads of guys on here for people to choose from?

any feedback will be appreciated "

This place is all about persistence, timing and luck. It will never be easy for us single guys, just don't take it too seriously or let it get you down!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

28 and cannot accommodate... thats two issues right there.... so you will have to be patient; like the rest of us. Sorry chap but thats the way it goes; get yourself to your local social or a local club; go with managed expectations and it will come to you. Fab isn't always an overnight success for single guys; but the more you put in, the more people put out.... (so going to get slaughtered for that last sentence)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ok so im a nice guy.

think im decent looking, nobody is perfect lol

so why are people not interested? is it simply because theres shes loads of guys on here for people to choose from?

any feedback will be appreciated

This place is all about persistence, timing and luck. It will never be easy for us single guys, just don't take it too seriously or let it get you down!"

I think there's a lot more to it than just persistence, timing and luck to be honest, I'm not quite sure what yet but I am deffinitaly onto a winner

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"ok so im a nice guy.

think im decent looking, nobody is perfect lol

so why are people not interested? is it simply because theres shes loads of guys on here for people to choose from?

any feedback will be appreciated "

Maybe they think the 'legal warning' on profiles makes them think the profile owner is a fool.

Anyone who seriously thinks it works is someone to be avoided.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience luck and good manners

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ok so im a nice guy.

think im decent looking, nobody is perfect lol

so why are people not interested? is it simply because theres shes loads of guys on here for people to choose from?

any feedback will be appreciated "

There is actually a lot more than most guys put on here ...i think it is just persistence and getting yourself out there. Clubs/partys and of course theae forums.

But you get a thumbs up from me as a girl originally from St Helens

Mx

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By *erryteeMan
over a year ago

wigan

it,s no surprise that you hav'nt had any meets on here mate. single str8 guys get the mucky end of the stick on here as you have to be half queer to have any sort of chance. i,ve been on here a while & got nowhere . iv,e been on 3 other sites with success on all of them but this 1 takes the cake with none. all iv,e had on here is abuse from people who are only average at best & when they get a face pic with the promise of theirs back you get the line "not what were looking for" accompanied with a block so you cant ask why they hav,nt sent theirs. i,d look elsewhere if i were you .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the threads are an amazingly big filter tool, can kinda work out by a persons attitude on a daily basis who's up for mind altering sex and who ain't, hope this helps op

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"it,s no surprise that you hav'nt had any meets on here mate. single str8 guys get the mucky end of the stick on here as you have to be half queer to have any sort of chance. i,ve been on here a while & got nowhere . iv,e been on 3 other sites with success on all of them but this 1 takes the cake with none. all iv,e had on here is abuse from people who are only average at best & when they get a face pic with the promise of theirs back you get the line "not what were looking for" accompanied with a block so you cant ask why they hav,nt sent theirs. i,d look elsewhere if i were you ."

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Half Queer" = bisexual?

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea


"ok so im a nice guy.

think im decent looking, nobody is perfect lol

so why are people not interested? is it simply because theres shes loads of guys on here for people to choose from?

any feedback will be appreciated "

Im in almost the same boat.

Ive been on hear for about 6 weeks and had no luck to.

Everyone tells me pashounce is the kee and from wot I've seen. 1 guy got 1 meet after 8 munts so I think its just down to wate and hope till sumone taks a interest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah can't accom is a question most women will either dismiss you for or ask why, and your profile just looks like a copy and paste of every other guys profile on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...

Fab isn't always an overnight success for single guys; but the more you put in, the more people put out.... (so going to get slaughtered for that last sentence)"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...

Fab isn't always an overnight success for single guys; but the more you put in, the more people put out.... (so going to get slaughtered for that last sentence)

"

Thought I had got away with it...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah can't accom is a question most women will either dismiss you for or ask why, and your profile just looks like a copy and paste of every other guys profile on here."

I wont accomodate so i would not expect a guy to. I prefer hotel rooms which adds to the whole experience and atmosphere.

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By *iver2015Woman
over a year ago

middlesbrough

Reading your profile. Obviously I can only say what would personally put me off.

1) Use the word pussy but lose the bit about the doughnut. It shouldn't be a "thing" to like giving oral. If you like getting it then you should like giving it.

2) Ditch the warning. It makes you look un-intelligent.

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

OP your profile looks better than most single men's on here. You have actually made a bit of an effort. Definitely lose the pointless disclaimer at the end though, it's a huge turn off and not legally binding anyway so a waste of time. Try getting involved in the forums more to get known to others and maybe try an organized social too.

As for the guy further down the thread saying he gets the mucky end of the stick. I'm not a bit surprised. You have no public pics on your profile, the text is shite and your little moan/rant about not getting any on here is the biggest turn off of all. Unless you make changes you've got no chance with the discerning ladies of Fab.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thanks guys and gals.

my profile is 100% my own as are the pics if me.

i dont mind waiting around, just curious as to weather or not i was doing anything wrong.

as for the not being able to accom, its simply i have my own place but dont live alone.

dont think having women round my little boy is right, especially if its a first time meet

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire


"it,s no surprise that you hav'nt had any meets on here mate. single str8 guys get the mucky end of the stick on here as you have to be half queer to have any sort of chance. i,ve been on here a while & got nowhere . iv,e been on 3 other sites with success on all of them but this 1 takes the cake with none. all iv,e had on here is abuse from people who are only average at best & when they get a face pic with the promise of theirs back you get the line "not what were looking for" accompanied with a block so you cant ask why they hav,nt sent theirs. i,d look elsewhere if i were you ."

One would think you saw enough on a photo to message the person in the first place! ! As you have no public photos if you didn't attach with the message then why shouldn't they ask?

If they reply saying no thank you what else is needed. . It isn't about persuasion :/ they block to ensure you or them don't come up on searches again.

Just because you may not be getting the replies you expected there is no need to be impolite about people on here and your perception of their looks (who seem good enough for you until they say no :/) or to tell someone else it's a waste of time.

If it doesn't work for you leave use sites that do.

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire


"ok so im a nice guy.

think im decent looking, nobody is perfect lol

so why are people not interested? is it simply because theres shes loads of guys on here for people to choose from?

any feedback will be appreciated "

Hi

In general good profile, range of pics and narrative .

The like of explanation re accommodate would concern me.

You have only been here 8 weeks. Patience is a virtue

Keep sending personal messages, look to attend socials in your area and start chatting in the forums to help get your personality across

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"thanks guys and gals.

my profile is 100% my own as are the pics if me.

i dont mind waiting around, just curious as to weather or not i was doing anything wrong.

as for the not being able to accom, its simply i have my own place but dont live alone.

dont think having women round my little boy is right, especially if its a first time meet"

Don't we remember you saying that you have a partner?

That might be your problem.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

had

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By *entralscotscpl7Couple
over a year ago

Falkirk


"had"

Did she catch you lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

haha no, she set the account up.

turns out the reason things was crap between up was 'coz she had someone else in mind.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

Where to begin...

You've eern here 8 weeks... Takes time fella..

Your profile is your shop window .. not the worst not the best.

Your age group is very narrow 18-30.. the more niche your requirements the longer you'll search..

Have fun..

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I must admit on here your age preference stopping at 30 will limit your selection, I'm not saying change it as that is what you're looking for, just saying it will stop a lot of people messaging you but good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are very few women here in the age group you're looking for, so you're already at a disadvantage numbers wise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

6 or 8 weeks is no time to be on here for really. I don't see the not accommodating being a deal breaker most of the time, I can only accommodate at mine very occasionally but hotels are so cheap today that it's not been a problem for me. The 18-30 age bracket I think is more your issue, fab is not be the best place to find those imho.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

guess im too picky lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I must admit on here your age preference stopping at 30 will limit your selection, I'm not saying change it as that is what you're looking for, just saying it will stop a lot of people messaging you but good luck "

I agree with this. Your age range is small and there aren't a ton of women in that age range on the site. I'm going to be too old in two years

I don't think you should change it - you should only look for people you're interested in. It's just that it could play into you having a harder time finding people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"guess im too picky lol"
dont worry about being picky but would help if you added a few yrs lol theres some hot older ladies on here who will happily meet you

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)


"it,s no surprise that you hav'nt had any meets on here mate. single str8 guys get the mucky end of the stick on here as you have to be half queer to have any sort of chance. i,ve been on here a while & got nowhere . iv,e been on 3 other sites with success on all of them but this 1 takes the cake with none. all iv,e had on here is abuse from people who are only average at best & when they get a face pic with the promise of theirs back you get the line "not what were looking for" accompanied with a block so you cant ask why they hav,nt sent theirs. i,d look elsewhere if i were you ."

I'd suggest you pack this site in then as you're soooo successful on your other three sites or have you made the queer statement on there too and received loads of abuse. Some people just insist on shooting themselves in the foot then wonder why they walk with a limp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ok so im a nice guy.

think im decent looking, nobody is perfect lol

so why are people not interested? is it simply because theres shes loads of guys on here for people to choose from?

any feedback will be appreciated "

You're spot on. Loads of competition, and you really have to make your profile stand out.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

OP you look nice but your profile is all about what you want.

Not everyone on here likes BDSM.

I'm always wary of single guys, particularly if they've had no meets, with pics of women on their profiles too.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"it,s no surprise that you hav'nt had any meets on here mate. single str8 guys get the mucky end of the stick on here as you have to be half queer to have any sort of chance. i,ve been on here a while & got nowhere . iv,e been on 3 other sites with success on all of them but this 1 takes the cake with none. all iv,e had on here is abuse from people who are only average at best & when they get a face pic with the promise of theirs back you get the line "not what were looking for" accompanied with a block so you cant ask why they hav,nt sent theirs. i,d look elsewhere if i were you ."

Lovely chap

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K


"guess im too picky lol"

and the over 30's aren't?

The 'glazed doughnut' comment is unsavoury.

Single guy profiles with pics of others aren't to everyones taste.

Be pleasant in your messages, be patient, join in the forums.

Good luck OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be tempted by you if you were closer.

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

Nothing wrong with knowing what you want and waiting for it....

But that means it takes time ( believe me I'm still looking! !)

And it's a shame about your age limit xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

ok thanks everyone. most of you have been helpful and kind

another question though, everyone keeps refaring to me as OP and i dont know why :-/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ok thanks everyone. most of you have been helpful and kind

another question though, everyone keeps refaring to me as OP and i dont know why :-/ "

It means "original poster" or "original post," OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"it,s no surprise that you hav'nt had any meets on here mate. single str8 guys get the mucky end of the stick on here as you have to be half queer to have any sort of chance. i,ve been on here a while & got nowhere . iv,e been on 3 other sites with success on all of them but this 1 takes the cake with none. all iv,e had on here is abuse from people who are only average at best & when they get a face pic with the promise of theirs back you get the line "not what were looking for" accompanied with a block so you cant ask why they hav,nt sent theirs. i,d look elsewhere if i were you ."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't call women 'females' - lots of women don't like being referred to that way as it reduces them to their sex organs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You'll get use to it i can assue you...i am genuinely single ...can accommodate...i have a good body and never even get a look let alone a meet with a single woman. But i keep smiling and keep going.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"You'll get use to it i can assue you...i am genuinely single ...can accommodate...i have a good body and never even get a look let alone a meet with a single woman. But i keep smiling and keep going. "

You must have fake verifications then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You'll get use to it i can assue you...i am genuinely single ...can accommodate...i have a good body and never even get a look let alone a meet with a single woman. But i keep smiling and keep going.

You must have fake verifications then. "

Interesting observation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You'll get use to it i can assue you...i am genuinely single ...can accommodate...i have a good body and never even get a look let alone a meet with a single woman. But i keep smiling and keep going.

You must have fake verifications then. "

Unless he's just removed them he doesn't appear to have verifications. However when I joined I was verified by 2 people I knew away from FAB so it means nothing in itself about 'success'.

I don't think single guys realise just how stacked the odds are against them. If you check who's on line in your area it's probably 10:1 men and women. Considering how many women are just fakes, what's the real odds? 20:1? Most guys just aren't ever going to get anywhere. But they just give up rather than complaining on the forums...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You'll get use to it i can assue you...i am genuinely single ...can accommodate...i have a good body and never even get a look let alone a meet with a single woman. But i keep smiling and keep going.

You must have fake verifications then.

Unless he's just removed them he doesn't appear to have verifications. However when I joined I was verified by 2 people I knew away from FAB so it means nothing in itself about 'success'.

I don't think single guys realise just how stacked the odds are against them. If you check who's on line in your area it's probably 10:1 men and women. Considering how many women are just fakes, what's the real odds? 20:1? Most guys just aren't ever going to get anywhere. But they just give up rather than complaining on the forums... "

He HAS removed them!!

Why would you want to remove genuine verifications??

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"You'll get use to it i can assue you...i am genuinely single ...can accommodate...i have a good body and never even get a look let alone a meet with a single woman. But i keep smiling and keep going.

You must have fake verifications then.

Unless he's just removed them he doesn't appear to have verifications. However when I joined I was verified by 2 people I knew away from FAB so it means nothing in itself about 'success'.

I don't think single guys realise just how stacked the odds are against them. If you check who's on line in your area it's probably 10:1 men and women. Considering how many women are just fakes, what's the real odds? 20:1? Most guys just aren't ever going to get anywhere. But they just give up rather than complaining on the forums...

He HAS removed them!!

Why would you want to remove genuine verifications??"

They're back!

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K


"You'll get use to it i can assue you...i am genuinely single ...can accommodate...i have a good body and never even get a look let alone a meet with a single woman. But i keep smiling and keep going.

You must have fake verifications then. "

His verifications are from couples, maybe he's referring to never having met a single woman..

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"You'll get use to it i can assue you...i am genuinely single ...can accommodate...i have a good body and never even get a look let alone a meet with a single woman. But i keep smiling and keep going.

You must have fake verifications then.

His verifications are from couples, maybe he's referring to never having met a single woman.."

No, one of them was from a single woman. I checked before I posted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You'll get use to it i can assue you...i am genuinely single ...can accommodate...i have a good body and never even get a look let alone a meet with a single woman. But i keep smiling and keep going.

You must have fake verifications then.

His verifications are from couples, maybe he's referring to never having met a single woman.."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Firstly your profile doesn't speak about you! Instead greeting people you start with not looking for commitments!

When you say you can be picky come across arrogant!I am not surprised people are being picky themselves!

Any way good luck as I am looking to get married tomorrow!

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

I'm straight but I'll do the bloke if it gets me pussy.

That's how we read it.

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