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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I cannot get a meet. I have found since I have been on here that you guys on the forums are really nice and give great advice but out of the forums is a nightmare! If I put a meet out there I never get a response. When I send messages to couples or single females they chat then ignore me? I know there is a lot of competition on here but why do people engage in conversation if they plan on ignoring you half way through? There must be someone out there local to me that would like a piece of me??

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

The standard advice is try a club or attend a social. Decent profile, face pic a plus, maybe fill out with a bit more detail on you. Good luck OP

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The standard advice is try a club or attend a social. Decent profile, face pic a plus, maybe fill out with a bit more detail on you. Good luck OP"

Thank you

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands


"The standard advice is try a club or attend a social. Decent profile, face pic a plus, maybe fill out with a bit more detail on you. Good luck OP

Thank you "
no worries

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By *omerladyWoman
over a year ago

Taunton

I would agree with the advice already given. I love a profile with some substance and although a little more challenging to write, something that eludes to what is under the surface. Some mystery, so to speak.

But that's just what I like

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would agree with the advice already given. I love a profile with some substance and although a little more challenging to write, something that eludes to what is under the surface. Some mystery, so to speak.

But that's just what I like "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes everyone in the forums is nice , and they offer advice etc.....

The problem is though , lots aren't looking to meet and they are perhaps not in your position , so their advice is not worth much .

So here's the thing . You ask why people start talking to you and then stop . It could be a number of reasons , but the obvious one is that they have either lost interest , or something they consider to be better has come along . Harsh but true .

So your best bet is to keep an eye on local meets posted , and get in quick to get that first meet under your belt . Hopefully you'll get a nice veri and that will make life a bit easier .

Don't waste your time trying to get a meet with anyone who isn't actually looking to meet .

And don't expect too much , as you'll soon end up disappointed . It's a very competitive place here , so imagine you're in a packed pub . What's going to attract those you fancy to choose you in that pub ? When you look around at all the other fellas in that pub , you can see why it's hard for a middle aged guy to pull . It's the same on here .

Good luck mate .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes everyone in the forums is nice , and they offer advice etc.....

The problem is though , lots aren't looking to meet and they are perhaps not in your position , so their advice is not worth much .

So here's the thing . You ask why people start talking to you and then stop . It could be a number of reasons , but the obvious one is that they have either lost interest , or something they consider to be better has come along . Harsh but true .

So your best bet is to keep an eye on local meets posted , and get in quick to get that first meet under your belt . Hopefully you'll get a nice veri and that will make life a bit easier .

Don't waste your time trying to get a meet with anyone who isn't actually looking to meet .

And don't expect too much , as you'll soon end up disappointed . It's a very competitive place here , so imagine you're in a packed pub . What's going to attract those you fancy to choose you in that pub ? When you look around at all the other fellas in that pub , you can see why it's hard for a middle aged guy to pull . It's the same on here .

Good luck mate ."

Top advice

Thanks

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Socials are a really good way to meet people.we have been to lots now and people are generally really nice

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have to agree with going to a club and get yourself noticed by talking and being a nice guy.

Certainly thats how it started for me.

You see on here we are all guilty of being a little shallow and go alot on the pics rather than get to know the person behind the pics whereas at a club conversation flows and people get to know the real you and attraction is partly visual but alot more on the perso you

Daunting stuff I know and I still find it hard to strike up that conversation but if you dont try...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also when talking on here alot can get lost in translation you may say something one way and the other takes it a different way and is put off. Again in person it removes that element

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have to agree with going to a club and get yourself noticed by talking and being a nice guy.

Certainly thats how it started for me.

You see on here we are all guilty of being a little shallow and go alot on the pics rather than get to know the person behind the pics whereas at a club conversation flows and people get to know the real you and attraction is partly visual but alot more on the perso you

Daunting stuff I know and I still find it hard to strike up that conversation but if you dont try..."

Cheers Pal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do like seeing you have made the decision to put a face pic up in your profile that gets a big from us we are not that brave

Will say your profile text needs a bit more substance but hey you just put want you want

It's not just single guys like you that have the problem with people chatting then all communications just suddenly stopping , we have also experienced most of the things you've had and that's what we only now ever meet in clubs

If we arrange a meet and they are a no show then at least we have not wasted our night

You will often here people saying try clubs and socials etc and I think they are all right , it's always worked for us and it may work for you too

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do like seeing you have made the decision to put a face pic up in your profile that gets a big from us we are not that brave

Will say your profile text needs a bit more substance but hey you just put want you want

It's not just single guys like you that have the problem with people chatting then all communications just suddenly stopping , we have also experienced most of the things you've had and that's what we only now ever meet in clubs

If we arrange a meet and they are a no show then at least we have not wasted our night

You will often here people saying try clubs and socials etc and I think they are all right , it's always worked for us and it may work for you too "

Good advice thank you

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

OP if you have been around the forums for a while then you will have seen the numerous posts from other people in similar situations to you. Lots of advice has already been given out many, many times to previous posters so hopefully you may have seen it too and can take on board some of it.

One thing I do find off putting is your username. It's the kind of name I expect from a 18-25 year old and not someone older and more mature.

That said, I'm happy to meet for a cuppa so you can get that elusive green tick if you're ever in my neck of the woods.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally believe that Fab doesn't work for everybody and it is not a solution for everybody. And with regards to single men, there are simply too many to go round so there are some that won't get anything for this reason alone. I've also noticed that couples and ladies deviate towards the same single men, leaving even more with no meets. But the sought after men on Fab, probably don't need Fab to get sex anyway. Profiles can be improved, messages can be improved, but if there is still no success the next best thing is to go to a club, and get to know people in person. Some people find it easier to show there personalities in person than on-line. The biggest key in my opinion is sex appeal - that is what men need to show if they want success on the swing scene. Ultimately as long as there are a high disproportionate amount of men in clubs and on swinging sites, there will always be some men who don't get. It's a mathematical equation.

Mrs

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