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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What constitutes late? I had a stated 6 ish meet last night....venue near her work for convenience...I had to come across London on the tube x when I emerged 12 minutes late I had a text saying....gone! You could have let me know!.....reasonable behaviour?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did she know you were travelling? As long as someone has communicated that they will be late I have no issue with that and will wait, vice versa as I'm always running late but I'll message to let them know

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Did she know you were travelling? As long as someone has communicated that they will be late I have no issue with that and will wait, vice versa as I'm always running late but I'll message to let them know "

Yes she knew x....get the impression she wasn't there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd only wait around 15/20 mins unless they had kept in contact and said there was an issue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You didn't do yourself any favours by stating from the outset a '6ish' meet. That's open to interpretation.

Then, did you let her know you were going to be a little late?

We wouldn't hang around much more than 20-30 minutes if we haven't heard from them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would you really interpret 6ish as anything before or a bit after. My interpretation and I know others whom I've met it would imply from 6 as one of us could be a few minutes late. That said I always message if I'm running slightly late and keep update with progress.

I had a no show once, I messaged on arrival as agreed and had messaged a few times while waiting. ..they got the messages but didn't reply after 30 minutes messaged that I was leaving, I turned round and returned home then after about 2hrs after in tial meeting time I get a message saying I'm waiting and where are you....said she didn't get my messages.

Really? The two ticks tells me you recieved them lol...then she blocked me. Was not amused to say the least.

We met up months later after she appologise and said it was her first meet and was very nervous. We've played a few times and spanked her arse for it on one occasion.

Moral.... no need to always report and block... sometimes best to just accept it and move on without causing a noise.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"I'd only wait around 15/20 mins unless they had kept in contact and said there was an issue "

+1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What constitutes late? I had a stated 6 ish meet last night....venue near her work for convenience...I had to come across London on the tube x when I emerged 12 minutes late I had a text saying....gone! You could have let me know!.....reasonable behaviour?"

If it was a first meeting, I would agree a specifc time rather than "ish."

If they were not there within 5 minutes of that time and had not contacted me, I would leave. I have always been a stickler for punctuality.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"You didn't do yourself any favours by stating from the outset a '6ish' meet. That's open to interpretation.

Then, did you let her know you were going to be a little late?

We wouldn't hang around much more than 20-30 minutes if we haven't heard from them."

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

As it's normally me late I always tell them not to leave until I'm ready and I tell them when I'm leaving.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it was Admiral Lord Nelson who said " I owe all my good fortune in life to arriving a quarter hour before".

I would not expect anyone to wait for me and I would not wait for anyone.

Late is late

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By *rince Charming 69Man
over a year ago

Loughborough

One of my rules in life is:

If you arrive on time..........

You are 20 minutes late!

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

...

I'm late for everything.

Fashionably so though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chances are she probably wasn't even there!

I can accept 10/15 mins early/late for a meet.....what difference does it make, you are there to have fun, not judge on there punctuality skills!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

12 minutes isn't that late.

I've waited 30 minutes before. Anything more than that and it's being stood up.

Which has also happened to me before.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you let her know you were at the mercy of london transport and would be a little late then I think not waiting is bad form. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had said 4ish for my last meet, I was running a bit late so messaged be there 4.10. I,d wait about 10 minutes unless got message saying late XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm late for everything.

Fashionably so though "

And clearly worth waiting for

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

...


"I'm late for everything.

Fashionably so though

And clearly worth waiting for "

Of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd wait for around 30 mins if I'd heard nothing then go texting them to say as I hadn't heard from them I'm off. If the person concerned said they were coming by tube then its not unreasonable for them to not be able to send a message and that there is a posibility they could be delayed so would wait more than 10 minutes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you let her know you were at the mercy of london transport and would be a little late then I think not waiting is bad form. X "

This. Unless she was never even there...

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

I'm always there well before d lady n will give her at least 30 minute unless I've heard from her to say otherwise

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

It's a gents job to b there on time

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By *ommenhimCouple
over a year ago

wigan


"It's a gents job to b there on time "

Why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bloody hell!!! I'm glad I don't meet for socials. ...which I assume this was? I never give an exact time as I never know what's going to happen at home. ...I always let them know when I'm leaving though so they know roughly when to expect me. I tend to meet people that suit my way of doing things though. I clearly wouldn't be a match for those that are sticklers for time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And in my mind 12 minutes past is 6ish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a frequent user of London Underground I know that you can be later than you expected and that you can't stay in contact.

I wouldn't even consider 12 minutes as being late, it's always a roundabout or ish time for me anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a gents job to b there on time "

Don't talk rubbish. Anyone can be late.

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By *reykiwi500Man
over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)


"It's a gents job to b there on time

Don't talk rubbish. Anyone can be late. "

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

When did you message her last bearing in mind the London traffic and the non coverage on the tube?

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

If someone said 6ish to me I would presume it would be after 6 and probably wait a max of 20 mins if I hadn't had a message. It was harsh of her, you poor man

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