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By *reddi3 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Any tips for introducing a partner to the scene? I guess I don't know how she will react but I have always fantasised about watching her with another man.

I am, however, not sure how she would react to the suggestion. I hope that this would then lead to couples soft play and see how we go from there...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pillow talk, or when you're messing about together, bring it up.

As its a fantasy I would keep it in the realm of sex when you broach it for the first time.

Maybe when you're having sex tell how much you like to watch her and how the thought of watching her with someone else turns you on.

Who knows, she might have thought it too.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I spoke to my husband and asked him what he thought.

We then negotiated our boundaries and we continue to before each club visit.

We then talk about what went on.

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By *ll 4 herCouple
over a year ago

Bury/Bolton

We started this when discussing fantasies, once we started to discuss it I just told V that I had fantasies about seeing her with other men and it went from there.

I had done some research beforehand about hotwifing so I had some backup info to show her what it was all about and that it wasn't that uncommon.

Be warned though she may not share your fantasy and whilst she may explore 'your' fantasy she could object to your participating with other women. If you are OK with that then there's no harm in discussing the fantasy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Any tips for introducing a partner to the scene? I guess I don't know how she will react but I have always fantasised about watching her with another man.

I am, however, not sure how she would react to the suggestion. I hope that this would then lead to couples soft play and see how we go from there..."

Simple. Ask her.

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By *roticGoddessXXWoman
over a year ago

Richmond

And please remember...as so many don't seem to realize--that pushing anyone into a scene they are not OK with is sexual abuse.

My partner and I (met on the scene) have come to an agreement that for now at least, this stays between the two of us. While more sounds fun, there is an intimate boundary that should never be crossed.

Talk, talk, talk and then talk some more. If it's right for you BOTH--it'll happen.

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By *adpikey41Man
over a year ago

hove

"And please remember...as so many don't seem to realize--that pushing anyone into a scene they are not OK with is sexual abuse.

Talk, talk, talk and then talk some more. If it's right for you BOTH--it'll happen."
but eh all u do is talk lol not every one is open to this scence just be careful

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By *oandjohnCouple
over a year ago

South Wales, will travel to Hereford, Worcestershire and Shropshire

Ask her what her wildest fantasy is when playing about in bed after a few drinks or maybe a lot of alcohol .. push it a bit with the odd comment like 'hmm I thought you was a bit more wild than that' keep it light hearted and fun. But don't push too hard. If you get a good response say positive things and I would like to be part of that.. keep playing and have fun.. then ask/say shall we do it as I/you would love to experience it with her.. keep supportive and make her feel that she is your world...

Good luck

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By *100Man
over a year ago

Essex

Would love to get my wife on here too I think fab is great fun.

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By *atureandhornyCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool

She always fantasised during sex about another cock so I set it up without her knowing, the other guy and I chatted for a while about how we'd go about it then we went to his with the pretence of him having some computer stuff for me. After a couple of bottles of wine he put a blue movie on she didn't object and I knew she was getting turned on. He sat next to her and started to massage her neck,again she didn't object. I run my hand up her dress and started playing with her pussy she was getting wet. To my surprise she unzipped his pants and got his cock out. That was it, we undressed her and both of us undressed. She was loving it We spit roasted her swapping around before Cumming all over her tits. We met him several times after that before we tried our second guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pillow talk, or when you're messing about together, bring it up.

As its a fantasy I would keep it in the realm of sex when you broach it for the first time.

Maybe when you're having sex tell how much you like to watch her and how the thought of watching her with someone else turns you on.

Who knows, she might have thought it too.

Good luck "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always a tricky one as its a massive thing to bring up for the first time. When I (male) decided to bring it up it was because of a sexual fantasy app that you both downloaded, completed a questionnaire type thing and entered a code so the app compared results... it only told you what you both ticked so if I liked group sex and she didn't it wouldn't notify her so there no risk. We talked more about it and here we are

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

Wow, can't believe some of the replies on this thread. Ply her with alcohol and make her feel like she is important ... just as well this type of reply is juxtaposed with the one that points out this type of thing is sexual abuse ... closer to the truth for a lot of couples than those who are determined to convince everyone else that both partners suddenly imagined it together, to truly feel fulfilled. The sort of person who plies their partner with alcohol and makes them feel special for their own sexual gratification only puts the scene to shame.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The mojo quiz can be a fun thing to do together

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By *atureandhornyCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool

Rather exaggerating plying them with alcohol, my wife likes a wine or two to unwind which in turn lowers her inhibitions. She's still compos mentis and knows what and who she wants.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"Rather exaggerating plying them with alcohol, my wife likes a wine or two to unwind which in turn lowers her inhibitions. She's still compos mentis and knows what and who she wants.

It was planned with someone else behind her back and a couple of bottles of wine in my book is a lot. We are a coupe who talk and don't need an app, but I understand its a good way for people to share what they want. Getting someone drink and organising like this something behind their back, that's not on in my book ...

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Any tips for introducing a partner to the scene? I guess I don't know how she will react but I have always fantasised about watching her with another man.

I am, however, not sure how she would react to the suggestion. I hope that this would then lead to couples soft play and see how we go from there..."

This is what happened to us. Hubby just came out with it..! It was a yes or no answer.. and the answer was yes. Just come straight out with it, she can only say no.

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By *atureandhornyCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool

It was her fantasy I was fulfilling she just needed the situation and it worked, if it wasn't to her liking then nothing would have happened nor would there have been any more meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really want to try the app but can't find it!

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By *reddi3 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Thanks for the advice everyone

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