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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi just wondering if anyone gets any meets from here . Me and my partner are looking for a lady to us for a threesome but finding it difficult to get anything . Or can anyone suggest any decent clubs to go to in the East Midlands area

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meets? Yep.

East mids? I don't know. West mids; I'd travel to for chams.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of people meet, have you considered why you might not be getting enough interest? You haven't asked for profile advice so I won't say any more on that.

Clubs are always a good way forward, meeting people in the flesh is good

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How do we get the most out of the site then please .

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Hi just wondering if anyone gets any meets from here . Me and my partner are looking for a lady to us for a threesome but finding it difficult to get anything . Or can anyone suggest any decent clubs to go to in the East Midlands area "

You've written more here than in your profile.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Firstly you are only looking for women which is a challenge in itself and you won't find one overnight, trust us as we have been on and off the site for 5 years and have yet to find one that we both like and that like us both so a couple of months is nothing, and secondly simply putting you are looking for a woman for a threesome on your profile is pretty basic, you need to actually make and effort and make your profile stand out, maybe let people know what you are into, what experiences you have had (if any) we know that 90% of the single women we have chatted to prefer the female half to have had some experience with another woman in the past. Basically give it time and add more detail to your profile, make it stand out, as almost all of the couples on here are looking for the same thing as you!! Have fun!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loads of people meet - just check their veri's!

Ah you're looking for that most elusive, yet most demanded, specimen on here - a single female looking to play with a couple!

It's simply a case of supply and demand - the ladies are out there but have loads of choice to choose from so you need to stand out from the crowd.

As someone else has said - get to a club and you may well have more success.

But good luck with your search, I hope you find what you're looking for!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Firstly you are only looking for women which is a challenge in itself and you won't find one overnight, trust us as we have been on and off the site for 5 years and have yet to find one that we both like and that like us both so a couple of months is nothing, and secondly simply putting you are looking for a woman for a threesome on your profile is pretty basic, you need to actually make and effort and make your profile stand out, maybe let people know what you are into, what experiences you have had (if any) we know that 90% of the single women we have chatted to prefer the female half to have had some experience with another woman in the past. Basically give it time and add more detail to your profile, make it stand out, as almost all of the couples on here are looking for the same thing as you!! Have fun!!!"

Best advice right there!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a women your profile would not attract me as it tells me almost nothing about you and as there are two of you, and you are after a mff, the potential meet needs to see both of you.

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By *randMrs Spanish BrunetteCouple
over a year ago

home sweet home

Yes. We do.

MrsSB

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do we get the most out of the site then please . "

Gear your profile more towards women. To me it doesn't look very female friendly and would only attract men and fakes. If a couple is looking to play with a female I'd expect to see pictures of both of you.

Liberty Elite is East Mid way or Chams is worth travelling to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You get the most from this site by writing an attractive profile. Popping up some decent pics of BOTH of you. And putting in the effort to write decent messages to people you fancy who say in their profile that they seek people like you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes forgot to say also that because you are on here as a couple and you state you are looking for a threesome then you need to add atleast one photo of the male half too as all we can see is about 7 pictures of the female, after all if he is going to be involved too then Amy woman looking at your profile will want to see what he looks like too (and we don't meant a cock picture either).

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the advice ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do we get the most out of the site then please . "

Search local matches. Chat to them people. Ask to meet some of them. Fuck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for all the advice , looks like we need to up out game a bit ??

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

When I was part of a couple we only did mff and we're pretty successful once I as the fem started to take the lead on the account, I would only just generally chat to the lady the discussion never became sexual (other than a basic play boundaries discussion) and a lot of the fems I spoke said the found my approach so refreshing. I would also make it clear that the play would be an all round experience as opposed to her being treat like a glorified sex toy, now I'm using the site as a single fem it's shocking the amount of couples that actually just view you that way. There was an equal mix of pictures of use bothe publicly one the profile to pique interest, and we had a profile that mainly detailed our personality as well as basic sexual info. Also we never have gential pics or play pics in show they are a massive turn off for a good majority of women

We also got lots of mff fun at swinging clubs too. Mainly at La chambre in Sheffield to be specific

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for all the advice , looks like we need to up out game a bit ??"

You have to consider why an attractive female would pick you out of the everyone else (especially if you're waiting for them to find and message you).

A bi female who plays with men, women and couples and probably goes to the local clubs will have more offers than they could accept, so what are you doing to make you and your profile interesting and attractive to the type of person you want to meet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for all the advice , looks like we need to up out game a bit ??"

It may sometimes seem that some people may come across a bit harsh on here when your asking for advice but 9 times out of ten it's not meant in a harsh way at all, we are just letting you know from experience.

Trust us, we had the most boring profile on here when we first started (5years ago) and we had so many negative comments we almost sacked it all off, we came into it as swinging Virgins and I (Mrs) had never even kissed another girl so it was hard work for people to take us seriously at the start but we put an effort into our profile and tried to put as much detail in what we were both looking for from this whole experience and it worked out for us, are profile is still pretty poop now but it seems to work for us and that what you need to do.

You are on here as a couple so tell people about yourselves, what you want to experience, what you have experienced, maybe a few do's and don'ts, if you are looking for a regular thing with the right people or if you are just into lots of random meets etc, detail is the key and make it interesting, but don't send people to sleep. And lastly give it some time, don't beg for people to meet you, do a search for people who are looking for the same as you and send them a nicely worded message which includes a face picture x

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

luton

We have been on site for seven years and not managed to find that magic single woman to join us for fun , we use club and party's with more success , we use site mainly for chat or aranging our visits to club or when looking for single guy to join us for mmf ??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks everyone . Will set about getting a more detailed profile sorted . Really appreciate the advice xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks everyone . Will set about getting a more detailed profile sorted . Really appreciate the advice xx"

Good luck

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

Your profile is not attractive to women, were I looking to meet couples I wouldn't give your profile a second glance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some decent positive helpful comments here which is nice to see, and the ever present bitchy/aggressive ones.....

As others have said OP, its a numbers game, your looking for the 4 leaf clover.

Defiantly "up your game" the more you bring to the table the more chance people will want to eat.

Ask the female half what she might want to hear if she were a single fem and look at other well written profiles.

Most of all, enjoy the hunt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just to echo the above really, your profile needs to attract woman, if I was a single woman the fact that the profile only shows you and doesn't tell me anything about you would put me off. It's a numbers game, you need to stand out.

Have a look on the clubs reviews for your area - you will probably have more chance at a club as people can see what your really like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for all the advice , looks like we need to up out game a bit ??

It may sometimes seem that some people may come across a bit harsh on here when your asking for advice but 9 times out of ten it's not meant in a harsh way at all, we are just letting you know from experience.

Trust us, we had the most boring profile on here when we first started (5years ago) and we had so many negative comments we almost sacked it all off, we came into it as swinging Virgins and I (Mrs) had never even kissed another girl so it was hard work for people to take us seriously at the start but we put an effort into our profile and tried to put as much detail in what we were both looking for from this whole experience and it worked out for us, are profile is still pretty poop now but it seems to work for us and that what you need to do.

You are on here as a couple so tell people about yourselves, what you want to experience, what you have experienced, maybe a few do's and don'ts, if you are looking for a regular thing with the right people or if you are just into lots of random meets etc, detail is the key and make it interesting, but don't send people to sleep. And lastly give it some time, don't beg for people to meet you, do a search for people who are looking for the same as you and send them a nicely worded message which includes a face picture x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've still to here about a couple meeting a single female yet from this site . ....I have tried but our mff hasn't happened.....don't think it will from this site either x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

patience is the biggest lesson to learn from this site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep we get loads of fun. But then we look for guys not gals. I suspect we would struggle too if we wanted a single lady to spend some time with. I would suggest use clubs to network, and build friendships with a variety of like minded folk. Don't be too prescriptive about what you are looking for. Go with the flow and see what happens.

Mrs

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire


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When I was part of a couple we only did mff and we're pretty successful once I as the fem started to take the lead on the account, I would only just generally chat to the lady the discussion never became sexual (other than a basic play boundaries discussion) and a lot of the fems I spoke said the found my approach so refreshing. I would also make it clear that the play would be an all round experience as opposed to her being treat like a glorified sex toy, now I'm using the site as a single fem it's shocking the amount of couples that actually just view you that way. There was an equal mix of pictures of use bothe publicly one the profile to pique interest, and we had a profile that mainly detailed our personality as well as basic sexual info. Also we never have gential pics or play pics in show they are a massive turn off for a good majority of women

We also got lots of mff fun at swinging clubs too. Mainly at La chambre in Sheffield to be specific "

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe


"Me and my partner are looking for a lady to us for a threesome"

Not sure if you meant to say 'use' instead of "us" but if you did it's probably best to rephrase that.

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

yep I do, or what's the point in using the site?!

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By *oleene HoneybeeWoman
over a year ago

on the naughty side of the street


"

When I was part of a couple we only did mff and we're pretty successful once I as the fem started to take the lead on the account, I would only just generally chat to the lady the discussion never became sexual (other than a basic play boundaries discussion) and a lot of the fems I spoke said the found my approach so refreshing. I would also make it clear that the play would be an all round experience as opposed to her being treat like a glorified sex toy, now I'm using the site as a single fem it's shocking the amount of couples that actually just view you that way. There was an equal mix of pictures of use bothe publicly one the profile to pique interest, and we had a profile that mainly detailed our personality as well as basic sexual info. Also we never have gential pics or play pics in show they are a massive turn off for a good majority of women

We also got lots of mff fun at swinging clubs too. Mainly at La chambre in Sheffield to be specific "

I totally agree ...I'm one of the few genuine elusive bi females on here. Clubs are a good way to met fellow fabbers and you can both explore your desires also find your boundaries

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"

When I was part of a couple we only did mff and we're pretty successful once I as the fem started to take the lead on the account, I would only just generally chat to the lady the discussion never became sexual (other than a basic play boundaries discussion) and a lot of the fems I spoke said the found my approach so refreshing. I would also make it clear that the play would be an all round experience as opposed to her being treat like a glorified sex toy, now I'm using the site as a single fem it's shocking the amount of couples that actually just view you that way. There was an equal mix of pictures of use bothe publicly one the profile to pique interest, and we had a profile that mainly detailed our personality as well as basic sexual info. Also we never have gential pics or play pics in show they are a massive turn off for a good majority of women

We also got lots of mff fun at swinging clubs too. Mainly at La chambre in Sheffield to be specific

I totally agree ...I'm one of the few genuine elusive bi females on here. Clubs are a good way to met fellow fabbers and you can both explore your desires also find your boundaries "

It also provides the single gem the security of knowing she's in a safe environment a lot of couples don't realise how daunting it can be to go meet two essential strangers (depending on the stranger Meeetingnone can be bad enough)

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By *oleene HoneybeeWoman
over a year ago

on the naughty side of the street


"I've still to here about a couple meeting a single female yet from this site . ....I have tried but our mff hasn't happened.....don't think it will from this site either x"

Trust me. ... unicorns do meet couples just takes time

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By *oleene HoneybeeWoman
over a year ago

on the naughty side of the street


"

When I was part of a couple we only did mff and we're pretty successful once I as the fem started to take the lead on the account, I would only just generally chat to the lady the discussion never became sexual (other than a basic play boundaries discussion) and a lot of the fems I spoke said the found my approach so refreshing. I would also make it clear that the play would be an all round experience as opposed to her being treat like a glorified sex toy, now I'm using the site as a single fem it's shocking the amount of couples that actually just view you that way. There was an equal mix of pictures of use bothe publicly one the profile to pique interest, and we had a profile that mainly detailed our personality as well as basic sexual info. Also we never have gential pics or play pics in show they are a massive turn off for a good majority of women

We also got lots of mff fun at swinging clubs too. Mainly at La chambre in Sheffield to be specific

I totally agree ...I'm one of the few genuine elusive bi females on here. Clubs are a good way to met fellow fabbers and you can both explore your desires also find your boundaries

It also provides the single gem the security of knowing she's in a safe environment a lot of couples don't realise how daunting it can be to go meet two essential strangers (depending on the stranger Meeetingnone can be bad enough) "

Mwahhhhh

The dynamics of the relationship is a key factor for me and safety is an even bigger factor xxx

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"Thanks for all the advice , looks like we need to up out game a bit ??

You have to consider why an attractive female would pick you out of the everyone else (especially if you're waiting for them to find and message you).

A bi female who plays with men, women and couples and probably goes to the local clubs will have more offers than they could accept, so what are you doing to make you and your profile interesting and attractive to the type of person you want to meet? "
this

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Never ceases to amaze me how people who can't get meets assume it's because no one else is meeting.

I meet and the men I meet meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They used to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No never meet! Who is this elusive meet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've still to here about a couple meeting a single female yet from this site . ....I have tried but our mff hasn't happened.....don't think it will from this site either x"

Yes they do!!

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"No never meet! Who is this elusive meet? "

Would you like to?

/subtlety

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck. Don't build up any hopes

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By *oenickmanMan
over a year ago

Hatfield

I would so do with some advice, I communicate decently and respectfully. I've sent both brief messages 1-2 paragraphs while also have sent longer ones but all got ignored.

I always attaché pics, speak truth, still get hurt. Hurt not from rejection but all the time energy and effort did not even deserve a no thanks.

One expects when you decide to contact them to be kind and nice but they don't seem to give same back in return, how does that work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi mate perseverance and a good profile .have plenty of non dick pics and plenty about yourself ie likes dislikes hobbies u got to make yourself interesting without being arrogant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For a start your profile had nothing about you and no visible pictures no text saying what your looking for so most woman will view you as a chancer and not a serious potential meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would so do with some advice, I communicate decently and respectfully. I've sent both brief messages 1-2 paragraphs while also have sent longer ones but all got ignored.

I always attaché pics, speak truth, still get hurt. Hurt not from rejection but all the time energy and effort did not even deserve a no thanks.

One expects when you decide to contact them to be kind and nice but they don't seem to give same back in return, how does that work "

Many women get a LOT of messages. Site rules says no reply means no thank you. Unfortunately, nobody is entitled to a reply on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would so do with some advice, I communicate decently and respectfully. I've sent both brief messages 1-2 paragraphs while also have sent longer ones but all got ignored.

I always attaché pics, speak truth, still get hurt. Hurt not from rejection but all the time energy and effort did not even deserve a no thanks.

One expects when you decide to contact them to be kind and nice but they don't seem to give same back in return, how does that work "

Maybe read the FAQ for the site abd start your own thread. Thread hi jacking is considered bad form.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Firstly you are only looking for women which is a challenge in itself and you won't find one overnight, trust us as we have been on and off the site for 5 years and have yet to find one that we both like and that like us both so a couple of months is nothing, and secondly simply putting you are looking for a woman for a threesome on your profile is pretty basic, you need to actually make and effort and make your profile stand out, maybe let people know what you are into, what experiences you have had (if any) we know that 90% of the single women we have chatted to prefer the female half to have had some experience with another woman in the past. Basically give it time and add more detail to your profile, make it stand out, as almost all of the couples on here are looking for the same thing as you!! Have fun!!!

Best advice right there!"

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"I would so do with some advice, I communicate decently and respectfully. I've sent both brief messages 1-2 paragraphs while also have sent longer ones but all got ignored.

I always attaché pics, speak truth, still get hurt. Hurt not from rejection but all the time energy and effort did not even deserve a no thanks.

One expects when you decide to contact them to be kind and nice but they don't seem to give same back in return, how does that work "

Do you reply to all the junk mail that gets posted through letter box just to be nice or do you throw it in the bin?

Most guys don't read profiles so even though they may have constructed a well written message, they have often messaged someone that as specified in their profile they wouldn't be interested in you them whatever Reason, so that makes it junk mail.

If guys that do this can't be arsed to read before sending their message they've wasted their own time and been rejected for a valid reason.

As for rejection if it truely bothers you you're in the wrong place, even if every women/couple etc you messaged did reply to you, if rejection hurts how is an inbox full of "sorry not interested" type messages really going to be helpful to you afterall your still being rejected regardless? Answer is that it wouldn't be, all it would be is merely deemed politer by your social standards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the probability of meets is lowered by the fact times and dates at so far in the future.

'I can meet you on the 21st of next month!' That's all well and good now. But life gets in the way in 4 weeks time.

Something may come up.

It's a shame more here aren't more flexible and spontaneous. And I'm sure they have their reasons why they're not. But it's still a shame.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the probability of meets is lowered by the fact times and dates at so far in the future.

'I can meet you on the 21st of next month!' That's all well and good now. But life gets in the way in 4 weeks time.

Something may come up.

It's a shame more here aren't more flexible and spontaneous. And I'm sure they have their reasons why they're not. But it's still a shame. "

We cannot be flexible and spontaneous. We generally play on a Saturday night when the kids go to my mothers. That gets arranged in advance, because that's what works for my mother. But when we put a play-date in the diary nothing ever 'comes up', that would cause us to cancel. We try to mix with people who have a similar approach to diary management.

Mrs

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By *reygorCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

this thread starts with chams as the only place and finishes with chams the only place.because the people there are players on the day .we know roughly when our female has her cycle [not a fucking honda before you start],but carnt garantee a few days before .

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed


"I think the probability of meets is lowered by the fact times and dates at so far in the future.

'I can meet you on the 21st of next month!' That's all well and good now. But life gets in the way in 4 weeks time.

Something may come up.

It's a shame more here aren't more flexible and spontaneous. And I'm sure they have their reasons why they're not. But it's still a shame. "

Having kids basically means we run to their tune.

Lots of cpls and singles have to plan for the odd night of freedom.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't rely on Fab to get meets, simply put in about 2 & 1/2 years we've never managed to successfully meet a single lady by chatting on here, we have however met single ladies at clubs & parties who we've played with and continue to.

So get out and go to clubs & parties xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All of our meets are through clubs or fab friends. We use this site to stay in touch, like a Facebook but without the shit people share.

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