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By *arley4mrj OP   Couple
over a year ago

MANCHESTER

Hi just wondering what the thoughts were from single ladies and the community as a whole.. about couples who's male half is allowed to find and play alone.

Do people tend to disbelieve the couple?

What would reassure single women to be happy to meet the male half only or vice versa?

It seems all fine for the female half to meet alone and actively encouraged but I tend to get the feeling the opposite isn't seen in as good as light.

If there are any give us a shout lol

Thanks in advance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Essentially when the male half is playing alone he joins the ranks of all the other "lone" males looking for a meet, so is likely to suffer from the same sort of challenges in getting meets as the rest of us.

The unfortunate truth is that even with couples it's essentially the female of the couple that is the desired one in most instances - the guy is there to be tolerated to get access to the female (obviously that's a generalisation but often true)!

Where you will have an advantage over many married guys looking to play alone is that your wife can validate that you are playing with her consent - I would make this very clear in any approaches you make as long as your wife is happy to speak to your prospective meets first.

Are you looking to meet alone off of your couples profile or set up a separate singles one? I'd be more cynical if I got a message from a couples profile but the request was for the male to play alone!

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

I think if you have a large social circle within the scene you have no problem of it being an excepted form of play within that couple. However if you don't then as mentioned that male half just joins the ranks of single guys, except he may well have prove that he is indeed playing with permission which means a lot of women won't bother to return contact in the first place because there are so many other options out there....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I give my wife freedom to meet alone but she don't fell very comfortable with that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trouble is some "couples" profiles are just the man pretending to be a couple.

It's fairly easy to spot generally so if you're genuine you should be fine, and you have veris to prove it, but I think that's why people tend to be suspicious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because I don't enjoy lots of casual. Meeting the male half of the couple regularly, would make me feel the 'third person' in a relationship. Don't really want to be there personally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It wouldn't bother me - my male partners meet whoever they want, whenever they want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's because there are a lot of fakes who set up a couples profile and it's only the man meeting.

However if anyone wants to borrow Paul for the night feel free, he comes highly recommended

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Hi just wondering what the thoughts were from single ladies and the community as a whole.. about couples who's male half is allowed to find and play alone.

Do people tend to disbelieve the couple?

What would reassure single women to be happy to meet the male half only or vice versa?

It seems all fine for the female half to meet alone and actively encouraged but I tend to get the feeling the opposite isn't seen in as good as light.

If there are any give us a shout lol

Thanks in advance"

This is just me talkin' 'bout myself

First of all; I never believe those profiles. The only way I would believe it if I were to speak to both together on webcam or for them to give me their landline number where I can call them and speak to both

Secondly, I am not certain why I'd want to meet just the male half of a couple when there are so many single guys around

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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago

Clacton on sea, Essex

I (John) have met quite a few women on here on my solo profile so single ladies do exist on Fab.

They are usually single ladies we have met as a couple & have made good friends of or word of mouth from one lady to another.

I also make it plain from the start that they can ring & speak to Kim as we have no secrets between us, some have actually done this & were surprised she answered their call to say its fine.

If your marriage is strong with no cracks solo play is fine but if their is doubt or the slightest jealousy don't go there.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I used to meet the male half of a couple, and I believed he was allowed to play as it was written on their joint profile and not hidden away or secret messages when she wasn't there, I even met her at some of the socials

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The unfortunate truth is that even with couples it's essentially the female of the couple that is the desired one in most instances - the guy is there to be tolerated to get access to the female (obviously that's a generalisation but often true)!"

You clearly don't have a clue regarding the dynamics of couples swinging for if you did you'd understand that statement has no logic to it.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

If I knew them outside of Fab ie from a club and had chatted to the wife, knew she was OK with it then yes fine. But if the only contact was on here I would be dubious, there are many couples profiles with only the man involved, no Mrs or she knows nothing about his hobby.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I do not meet half of a couple! To have that I would meet single people only.If a guy messages me he says,so and so is a sleep! My reply is when she wakes up,say hi from me!

I know some couples have their own dynamics but I can't ,do it that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The unfortunate truth is that even with couples it's essentially the female of the couple that is the desired one in most instances - the guy is there to be tolerated to get access to the female (obviously that's a generalisation but often true)!

You clearly don't have a clue regarding the dynamics of couples swinging for if you did you'd understand that statement has no logic to it."

We totally agree with you its a four way attraction or nothing for us we are not here to satisfy one persons sexual desire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're clearly well verified as a couple, as a single woman I'd want to speak to Mrs briefly.

Issue comes with unverified couples profiles, I'd tend to believe it was just the guy who'd set the profile up, without the Mrs' knowledge if they weren't verified.

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By *eardedSilverFoxMan
over a year ago

Colchester


"I (John) have met quite a few women on here on my solo profile so single ladies do exist on Fab.

They are usually single ladies we have met as a couple & have made good friends of or word of mouth from one lady to another.

I also make it plain from the start that they can ring & speak to Kim as we have no secrets between us, some have actually done this & were surprised she answered their call to say its fine.

If your marriage is strong with no cracks solo play is fine but if their is doubt or the slightest jealousy don't go there."

Well a John and Kim answer is as good as a Wikipedia answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Essentially when the male half is playing alone he joins the ranks of all the other "lone" males looking for a meet, so is likely to suffer from the same sort of challenges in getting meets as the rest of us.

The unfortunate truth is that even with couples it's essentially the female of the couple that is the desired one in most instances - the guy is there to be tolerated to get access to the female (obviously that's a generalisation but often true)!

Where you will have an advantage over many married guys looking to play alone is that your wife can validate that you are playing with her consent - I would make this very clear in any approaches you make as long as your wife is happy to speak to your prospective meets first.

Are you looking to meet alone off of your couples profile or set up a separate singles one? I'd be more cynical if I got a message from a couples profile but the request was for the male to play alone!"

It's such a shame that there isn't a cheer emoji! I wholeheartedly agree. Guys very much are tolerated or paid lip service in an attempt to get to the lady. I'm curious as to how far a guy would go to get close to Redhead

Beard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not something we've ever struggled with to be honest, I've met quite a few people on my own and have never encountered anyone believing I'm trying to pull the wool over their eyes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The unfortunate truth is that even with couples it's essentially the female of the couple that is the desired one in most instances - the guy is there to be tolerated to get access to the female (obviously that's a generalisation but often true)!

You clearly don't have a clue regarding the dynamics of couples swinging for if you did you'd understand that statement has no logic to it.

We totally agree with you its a four way attraction or nothing for us we are not here to satisfy one persons sexual desire "

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The unfortunate truth is that even with couples it's essentially the female of the couple that is the desired one in most instances - the guy is there to be tolerated to get access to the female (obviously that's a generalisation but often true)!

You clearly don't have a clue regarding the dynamics of couples swinging for if you did you'd understand that statement has no logic to it.

We totally agree with you its a four way attraction or nothing for us we are not here to satisfy one persons sexual desire

Exactly "

Glad a couple thinks the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The unfortunate truth is that even with couples it's essentially the female of the couple that is the desired one in most instances - the guy is there to be tolerated to get access to the female (obviously that's a generalisation but often true)!

It's such a shame that there isn't a cheer emoji! I wholeheartedly agree. Guys very much are tolerated or paid lip service in an attempt to get to the lady."

Sorry. This is just ugly. It's a very male-centric view that imagines the women in swinging couples as taking one for the team all the time so their man can have the sexy babe. This doesn't square with our experience of swinging at all and it's most certainly not how we swing.

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