FabSwingers.com forum: First couple experience advice pls.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Speaking to a lovely older couple 36 and 40 who want to meet me. Only female present for furst meet. Just looking for advice and reassurance as quite nervous yet excited. Will be praticising safe sex but should i worry about oral if they are married and have no veris?

Cheers!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fake

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Fake "

They have messaged me on multiple platform and spoken to male and female and exchanged pictures on request

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi OP,

Check with them before the meet to make sure it's definitely on. If you've done enough to satisfy yourself that they are real, then that is great, but always be cautious of going out of your way for any meet (in my opinion).

As for oral, I'm not sure why they're not being verified should worry you? Could you elaborate? I'm a bit thick tonight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fake

They have messaged me on multiple platform and spoken to male and female and exchanged pictures on request "

Hi alpha, there are a lot of negative people on here, lot of people who offer nothing but maliciousness or hostility but bare with it.

Advice.....

Speak to both on phone, get info about what they want out of a meet up. See if it matches what you want.

Discuss boundaries do's/donts and go have some fun.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Fake

They have messaged me on multiple platform and spoken to male and female and exchanged pictures on request

Hi alpha, there are a lot of negative people on here, lot of people who offer nothing but maliciousness or hostility but bare with it.

Advice.....

Speak to both on phone, get info about what they want out of a meet up. See if it matches what you want.

Discuss boundaries do's/donts and go have some fun.

Good luck

Thanks both! Faith restored in nice people being on here! Great profile I hope fab treats you both well!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hi OP,

As for oral, I'm not sure why they're not being verified should worry you? Could you elaborate? I'm a bit thick tonight

Thanks for the advice! No I am saying that's better! Must be my lack of sleep! Just very worried as I have a partner and haven't had a casual hook up for ages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi OP,

As for oral, I'm not sure why they're not being verified should worry you? Could you elaborate? I'm a bit thick tonight

Thanks for the advice! No I am saying that's better! Must be my lack of sleep! Just very worried as I have a partner and haven't had a casual hook up for ages"

Oh! I see, sorry!

In my opinion veris don't really give you a very good idea of someone's sexual history. People are on and off this site and others like it's going out of style! Be as careful as you feel you need to be on all your meets, in my opinion. That level will of course depend on your own risk assessment.

One thing I would say about couples, though, is to make sure you understand their boundaries. I know this is true for everyone, but couples often have a different dynamic at work because they are in it together as opposed to individually. If you keep that in mind you should be fine.

Have lots of fun on your meet!

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By *alleyGirl7569Couple
over a year ago

Aberdare

As a couple, we arranged a brief social meet first. Everyone was happy and discussed what was comfortable for all.

The meet itself then went swimmingly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its one of those things, as long as you have taken enough precautions for your own peace of mind then just relax and enjoy.

My only 2 pieces of advice as with everyone not just you:

Do NOTHING you are not happy with no matter how much they go on, keep to your boundaries.

If either are d*unk, leave, never play with d*unk people.

other than that have a fantastic time.

personal opinion only.

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"Speaking to a lovely older couple 36 and 40 who want to meet me. Only female present for furst meet. Just looking for advice and reassurance as quite nervous yet excited. Will be praticising safe sex but should i worry about oral if they are married and have no veris?

Cheers!"

First time I met a couple we had a social at a coffee shop first. In fact, I do this whenever I meet ANYONE of the internet for the first time.

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By *untimes6969Man
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Always have a social meet first - everyone can suss each other out, it makes good sense!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social meet first is advisable in our book - with both of them, the dynamic is very different from meeting just one.

In terms of STIs (assuming that's what you're talking about re oral), assume everyone you meet is a potential carrier of anything, decide what level of risk is acceptable to you, even if they tell you they've been monogamous for 20 years, one or both of them could be a serial cheater.

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By *romleycouple 400Couple
over a year ago

bromley

U see it on News date rape drugged and found weeks latter died

U never know be safe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same as most people be safe and meet in a public place

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