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By *ickasscouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Near Leeds

Hi Guys, been on for a few months now and whilst we're getting contact from couples, we very rarely get contacted by other ladies. We know that every couple is looking for the same thing, so we wondered if there is anything we could do to our profile to make it stand out more?

Equally is there anything off-putting on there?

Any helpful ideas and suggestions for us, we would love to hear and suggestions that would benefit the profile in general are also very welcome.

Many thanks for any help in advance for any assistance.

S & P xx

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By *ade_of_StarsCouple
over a year ago

Whitburn

I think your profile is really good. Is clean and informative and you have a wide variety of enticing pictures.

As for enticing single females? I couldn't say. 90% of single females that have messaged us have been very likely fake profiles looking for pictures and chat. A couple have been really cool but we've not met any single girls we didn't know before fet.

I guess they call it unicorn hunting because it's hard. However you have all the tools in place. Be patient and believe.

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By *ickasscouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Near Leeds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You may have more luck at a social event of in a club.

Single ladies at the holy grail on FAB

xx

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By *ickasscouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Near Leeds


"I think your profile is really good. Is clean and informative and you have a wide variety of enticing pictures.

As for enticing single females? I couldn't say. 90% of single females that have messaged us have been very likely fake profiles looking for pictures and chat. A couple have been really cool but we've not met any single girls we didn't know before fet.

I guess they call it unicorn hunting because it's hard. However you have all the tools in place. Be patient and believe. "

Thanks for your feedback. It's encouraging to see it's not a disaster

We've experienced Fakers too. Why go through the the effort of faking profiles to get pictures when there is so much readily available porn online is strange!

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

From your profile it sounds like you just want girl on girl play. Most single females who meet couples want to play with both of you otherwise they would just look for another single female.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've only been contacted once by a single female

Mrs

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By *pforfun1234562016Couple
over a year ago

leamington spa

We got the same problem very frustraighting we think there must be something wrong with our profile but dont know what else to put

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"We got the same problem very frustraighting we think there must be something wrong with our profile but dont know what else to put "

You need to start your own thread though, advice to the OP might be different to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

all of the long term female friends we've made and continue to meet and play with have come through organised socials, club meets and parties. it's helpful for someone to see the couple dynamic in reality, that both are as fully engaged with the idea of meeting and that they will feel comfortable being part of it and that it's as much about them and what their needs are as the couples. it's how I'd do it if I was a single female, not directly from the site. it's also useful for the couple also to see that the person they're thinking of meeting understands how it all works too. we've got some wonderful single bi female friends out of it, so it really works that way for us

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

A single female joining a couple to play needs to feel comfortable that the dynamic is right. Is the play going to work for everyone? Are there underlying issues? etc.etc.

This is hard to pick up from a profile. Your veris seem to show you are 'genuine' people , but no play veris yet. They will come I'm sure, that will help.

Meeting at clubs will help as it is easier fpr someone to pick up in person if everything is right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From your profile it sounds like you just want girl on girl play. Most single females who meet couples want to play with both of you otherwise they would just look for another single female."

This

Additionally as a couple it would put us off too, as it looks like wanting to meet couples is you settling for that rather than actually wanting to?

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By *dventurouscouple69Couple
over a year ago

swingerville

Some very good advice here and your profile looks good.

As mentioned there are plenty of fakes so if it looks to good to be true it probably is.

Socials are good to meet ladies as are clubs, at least you know they are who they say and not some guy collecting pics.

Stick with it, look for verified profiles etc and check who verified them. A lot of single female profiles have one veri only and the profile of the verification is usually just one also so we presume fake and move on.

Good luck op

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"From your profile it sounds like you just want girl on girl play. Most single females who meet couples want to play with both of you otherwise they would just look for another single female.

This

Additionally as a couple it would put us off too, as it looks like wanting to meet couples is you settling for that rather than actually wanting to? "

This

Us too, soft swap is fine, but the profile is so geared to single females we would not meet.

BUT, if that is what you want you should leave it as it is. The profile is supposed to be an accurate description of YOU. Don't make it something you're not, to get meets that won't actually work.

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By *ickasscouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Near Leeds

Hi everyone, some fantastic and really helpful advice here. It is invaluable to get the point of view of others who only get to 'see' us from the profile and see how it paints us, what we are about and what we're looking for.

We wanted to say a big thanks to those of you who've already taken time out of your day to read and feedback to us, it is massively appreciated.

S & P xx

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By *pforfun1234562016Couple
over a year ago

leamington spa

We want to say thanks aswell really appriciate people bothering to give us advice be 100 by time female with us lol thanks again got to have laugh xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"all of the long term female friends we've made and continue to meet and play with have come through organised socials, club meets and parties. it's helpful for someone to see the couple dynamic in reality, that both are as fully engaged with the idea of meeting and that they will feel comfortable being part of it and that it's as much about them and what their needs are as the couples. it's how I'd do it if I was a single female, not directly from the site. it's also useful for the couple also to see that the person they're thinking of meeting understands how it all works too. we've got some wonderful single bi female friends out of it, so it really works that way for us"

absolutely!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"all of the long term female friends we've made and continue to meet and play with have come through organised socials, club meets and parties. it's helpful for someone to see the couple dynamic in reality, that both are as fully engaged with the idea of meeting and that they will feel comfortable being part of it and that it's as much about them and what their needs are as the couples. it's how I'd do it if I was a single female, not directly from the site. it's also useful for the couple also to see that the person they're thinking of meeting understands how it all works too. we've got some wonderful single bi female friends out of it, so it really works that way for us

absolutely! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It reads like you're looking for someone who will put on a lesbian show for the male half of the couple to watch.

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By *ickasscouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Near Leeds

Seems it's time to give the profile an update, taking on board the advice given.

As someone said to us , the profile is a living organism that continues to grow and develop.

So again, we'd like to say thanks for those who've taken time to reply. It's wonderful to get the views of others on this when you "can't see the wood for the trees".

Cheers - S & P xx

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

There is only one photograph of him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It reads like you're looking for someone who will put on a lesbian show for the male half of the couple to watch."

Exactly!

If I was going to play with just a woman I would meet another single woman.

There's only one picture of him and it sounds like you want a performance not a 3some x

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

In fairness to the OP 90% of other couples profiles have the bulk of photos of the female half.

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By *ickasscouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Near Leeds

We've taken a stab at updating the profile, hope it's better!

Now we need to address the pics...

Thanks to everyone for your help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looking great, certainly more appealing imo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You mention "soft swap" for couples, but not for threesomes. I would specify if you want to have penis in vagina sex if you're just meeting a single woman or if you're just looking for soft swap. At the moment it reads like you only want soft swap which is what makes me think it's just a performance for the male parter.

(Also you specify "bi female" in the first line but not "straight male" - why? That feels a bit weird.)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Although for what it's worth I won't play with couples who expect the guy to screw other women but where the woman isn't allowed to screw other guys. There is far too much jealousy drama in single penis policy relationships so it's a huge red flag.

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By *ickasscouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Near Leeds


"You mention "soft swap" for couples, but not for threesomes. I would specify if you want to have penis in vagina sex if you're just meeting a single woman or if you're just looking for soft swap. At the moment it reads like you only want soft swap which is what makes me think it's just a performance for the male parter.

(Also you specify "bi female" in the first line but not "straight male" - why? That feels a bit weird.)"

Sorry, didn't read this until we'd made another change, we've mentioned both bi and the straight bit in the profile now.

We are looking for soft swap with either couple or single female as you're 100% correct in your next post about jealousy etc.

So it's not about a performance as such with a single female, everyone should participate, and share in the fun, just without full-sex penetration, lots of oral etc.

Not sure how we'd get that across, perhaps this is clearer?

"We would love to meet either single ladies or similar bi-fem couples who enjoy soft-swap, same room fun where time is taken to touch, caress, stroke and tease to build up the sexual tension during play."

It's quite a tricky challenge, but thanks for your ongoing help everyone. Hopefully these pointers are helping others too.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

I think it's clear. Soft swap with either a single female or a couple, means just that.

It might not appeal to everybody, it will appeal to others, but that is what the OP wants, and it is what they should write in the profile.

I think concluding it's a performance is a bit of a leap. People play how is right for them. If it doesn't appeal to the other party, then fine, that's what honest profiles are for.

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