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After the first social meet - what then ?

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By *obin_and_marion OP   Man
over a year ago

Beaconsfield

So you've met socially at a pub for a first meet, had a great time, all got on well and all participants want to take it further...

So what then ?

What do you do for a next meet ? Especially if neither of you can accommodate ? How and where do you meet up ?

How do keep up or recreate the great connection you had at the first meet ? Especially if you don't want a clinical wham bam meet up.

We're new and interested in the practicalities of taking things forward so any input would be appreciated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So you've met socially at a pub for a first meet, had a great time, all got on well and all participants want to take it further...

So what then ?

What do you do for a next meet ? Especially if neither of you can accommodate ? How and where do you meet up ?

How do keep up or recreate the great connection you had at the first meet ? Especially if you don't want a clinical wham bam meet up.

We're new and interested in the practicalities of taking things forward so any input would be appreciated."

Club or hotel would be the best bet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hotel with a restaurant/nice bar. Enjoy the company and let it flow. Share the cost of the room but anyone can pull out if they chose with no bad feeling's.

Or come to our's... make it 6 people and see what happens

T&L xx

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By *obin_and_marion OP   Man
over a year ago

Beaconsfield


"

Club or hotel would be the best bet "

Yeah... but lets say you at the first meet say there was time to chat and flirt and get 'enticed'...

How do you recreate that 'connection' before going to the hotel room - meet up and go straight to a hotel room, wham bam doesn't seem quite the same to me.

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By *obin_and_marion OP   Man
over a year ago

Beaconsfield


"Hotel with a restaurant/nice bar. Enjoy the company and let it flow. Share the cost of the room but anyone can pull out if they chose with no bad feeling's.

Or come to our's... make it 6 people and see what happens

T&L xx"

LOL... is that an invite to yours ???

I was kind of thinking that a second meet would go best with some chance to recreate the flirty atmosphere of the first meet.

If a hotel then meeting for drinks and a meal (maybe swim/sauna) first before 'retiring' to hotel room.

Another idea I had was renting an apartment and having some lounging around, maybe some 'party games' with some drink and chill before retiring to rooms.

Or do people just go for it - get a room, go to room, get straight down to biz ?

Just curious about other people's experiences.

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By *obin_and_marion OP   Man
over a year ago

Beaconsfield

Clubs or hotels or apartments or your place / their place ?

Which do you prefer and why ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have been meeting a couple regularly and if anything we think its sexier after a few meets everyone is 100% relaxed but its still naughty plus everyone knows what the others like and dont we're definitely of the opinion that regular freinds are better than one off's that being said we're still newbies so by no means experts

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By *hocksandmissusCouple
over a year ago

Chester-ish

We have found that of a first meet has gone that well and the flirtations have been rife then the anticipation of the second meet knowing you get the chance to have them in your hands hold them explore them is enough to get the blood boiling.

We have in the past planned on a second meet being one were we go out dance have a few drinks flirt and then back to the room although on the night we have never got as far as leaving the room lol xxxxx

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

As a couple we used to meet for a light meal and drinks

Or just a few pubs

This can be done before going to the hotel you've booked or in the hotel restaurant

It meant that although we weren't starting from scratch there was still no immediate pressure we could chat flirt by sitting next to the other partner and build it up that way

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By *ooking for bbwsCouple
over a year ago

secret garden chilling, always something to do in the garden

Hi i love going to clubs as u can take it at ur own place an everyone knows wot ur looking for the only thing I find frustrating is the single guys! But from wot I read a hotel with a good bar can be the way forward!

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By *inkyChrissy99TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

Either a club with a hotel nearby or a hotel with a nice bar/restaurant.

If you share the cost it won't be that much and then you can have a few drinks and socialise before having fun in a private place x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find this very difficult because I hate being under any pressure. I like things to progress naturally and booking a hotel just feels like sex is expected. This is why I always try to meet guys who can accommodate then I can just go round for coffee for our second meet and see how things progress.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have always booked a room in a hotel with a bar and met up in the bar (very similar scenario to the social) we share a few drinks reconnect then disappear up to our rooms. We have always found this to be fun and relaxed and it's always worked well for us.


"So you've met socially at a pub for a first meet, had a great time, all got on well and all participants want to take it further...

So what then ?

What do you do for a next meet ? Especially if neither of you can accommodate ? How and where do you meet up ?

How do keep up or recreate the great connection you had at the first meet ? Especially if you don't want a clinical wham bam meet up.

We're new and interested in the practicalities of taking things forward so any input would be appreciated."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So you've met socially at a pub for a first meet, had a great time, all got on well and all participants want to take it further...

So what then ?

What do you do for a next meet ? Especially if neither of you can accommodate ? How and where do you meet up ?

How do keep up or recreate the great connection you had at the first meet ? Especially if you don't want a clinical wham bam meet up.

We're new and interested in the practicalities of taking things forward so any input would be appreciated."

Anal & Condoms?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And the answer to the question is... use your imagination This is where you get to create something that appeals to you. Perhaps the thought of chatting in the hotel bar before retiring to your room and bed sounds good... perhaps it sounds too obvious? Maybe you'd prefer to meet briefly before splitting into new couples and going to a deliberately gloomy bar or night club and pretending to be the other partners lover in public then catch a taxi back to the hotel whilst still making out before piling into your room super hot and horny. Maybe you want to shower together in a public swimming pool, sidle up to each other on a train, go on a kinky woodland walk or pretend to help each other chose clothing in a shop changing room. This world of delights is for you and your playmates to conjure up. It'll be as fun or relaxed or silly or kinky or romantic or erotic or dull as you make it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And the answer to the question is... use your imagination This is where you get to create something that appeals to you. Perhaps the thought of chatting in the hotel bar before retiring to your room and bed sounds good... perhaps it sounds too obvious? Maybe you'd prefer to meet briefly before splitting into new couples and going to a deliberately gloomy bar or night club and pretending to be the other partners lover in public then catch a taxi back to the hotel whilst still making out before piling into your room super hot and horny. Maybe you want to shower together in a public swimming pool, sidle up to each other on a train, go on a kinky woodland walk or pretend to help each other chose clothing in a shop changing room. This world of delights is for you and your playmates to conjure up. It'll be as fun or relaxed or silly or kinky or romantic or erotic or dull as you make it. "

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