FabSwingers.com forum: What next?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok been in here 7 weeks......

I have sent considered,thoughtful emails based on the individual profiles, attached a photo if asked for and set a search radius of 50miles.

99% get deleted with no reply and the ones that get answered are thanks but no thanks.

So what next?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just keep plugging away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to a club or attend an organised social and get to know people

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have emailed all women within 50 miles who have been online recently......who can I plug away at?

Really am not a club person to be honest!

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By *av big oneMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I have emailed all women within 50 miles who have been online recently......who can I plug away at?

Really am not a club person to be honest!"

Clubs is the way forward for a number of guys, it's actually quite good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have emailed all women within 50 miles who have been online recently......who can I plug away at?

Really am not a club person to be honest!"

Two choices, 1. Have patience and I'm sure you will eventually receive an offer for a meet.

2. Masturbate!

Well in fact you could do 2 whilst doing 1!

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By *over me with CumCouple
over a year ago

Near Spalding.

"Ok been in here 7 weeks......

I have sent considered,thoughtful emails based on the individual profiles, attached a photo if asked for and set a search radius of 50miles.

99% get deleted with no reply and the ones that get answered are thanks but no thanks.

So what next?"

Try a face pic in your profile?

Attach a face pic without being asked?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have emailed all women within 50 miles who have been online recently......who can I plug away at?

Really am not a club person to be honest!

Two choices, 1. Have patience and I'm sure you will eventually receive an offer for a meet.

2. Masturbate!

Well in fact you could do 2 whilst doing 1!

I do 2 whilst being 1. The idea of being here is that I can share the experience of 2 with someone else from 1........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have emailed all women within 50 miles who have been online recently......who can I plug away at?

Really am not a club person to be honest!

Two choices, 1. Have patience and I'm sure you will eventually receive an offer for a meet.

2. Masturbate!

Well in fact you could do 2 whilst doing 1!

I do 2 whilst being 1. The idea of being here is that I can share the experience of 2 with someone else from 1........

Maybe throw a few more pics into the equation?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

There are a lot of women who have no face pics on their profiles and also a lot of women who make it clear no face pic no reply. These profiles still don't have a face pic and then just delete or not reply.

It is getting frustrating and annoying....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But how many women do you see starting 'what next' threads?

So the advice is pretty sound for your situation. You're trying to attract them in, not the other way round.

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By *inzi LTV/TS
over a year ago

The Garden of Eden in Beautiful North Wales

"There are a lot of women who have no face pics on their profiles and also a lot of women who make it clear no face pic no reply. These profiles still don't have a face pic and then just delete or not reply.

It is getting frustrating and annoying...."

Just thank your luck stars you didn't waste a £5'er on membership!

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is getting frustrating and annoying...."

Don't let a sex site annoy you....put up with the negatives and take advise or delete profile and get on with your life x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"But how many women do you see starting 'what next' threads?

So the advice is pretty sound for your situation. You're trying to attract them in, not the other way round. "

The reason that no women start threads like this is that they are too busy blindly deleting emails. There are so many more men in here then women.

But once I have emailed all the profiles I possibly can and get nowhere .....what next?

Apart form more of 2 from above!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have emailed all women within 50 miles who have been online recently......who can I plug away at?

Really am not a club person to be honest!

Two choices, 1. Have patience and I'm sure you will eventually receive an offer for a meet.

2. Masturbate!

Well in fact you could do 2 whilst doing 1!

I do 2 whilst being 1. The idea of being here is that I can share the experience of 2 with someone else from 1........

Maybe throw a few more pics into the equation?

Added a couple more pics

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"I have emailed all women within 50 miles who have been online recently......who can I plug away at?

Really am not a club person to be honest!"

All and any woman? Well, I doubt you have made each message individual .... sounds like the scatter gun approach. I think you should maybe try a social then, they aren't in clubs ..... often down here at least. You may have an idea about what clubs are like, as I did before I went with Mr, but they are often very vanilla places and loads are like pubs or vanilla clubs

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By *ylonSlutTV/TS
over a year ago

Durham

7 weeks is no time at all on here for a single guy. Loads of threads similar to this in the forums with good advice.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Individual emails after reading profiles. Not lying no point. Really am not interested in a club otherwise if go and not join this site.

But thank you anyway

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes 7 weeks is not that long but run out of women to email......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have emailed all women within 50 miles who have been online recently......who can I plug away at?

Really am not a club person to be honest!

Two choices, 1. Have patience and I'm sure you will eventually receive an offer for a meet.

2. Masturbate!

Well in fact you could do 2 whilst doing 1!

I do 2 whilst being 1. The idea of being here is that I can share the experience of 2 with someone else from 1........

Maybe throw a few more pics into the equation?

Added a couple more pics"

Ahh the good ole German Soldier standing firmly to attention! The single fellas "must have"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have emailed all women within 50 miles who have been online recently......who can I plug away at?

Really am not a club person to be honest!

Two choices, 1. Have patience and I'm sure you will eventually receive an offer for a meet.

2. Masturbate!

Well in fact you could do 2 whilst doing 1!

I do 2 whilst being 1. The idea of being here is that I can share the experience of 2 with someone else from 1........

Maybe throw a few more pics into the equation?

Added a couple more pics

Ahh the good ole German Soldier standing firmly to attention! The single fellas "must have"

Should I not put that on there?

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

It is getting frustrating and annoying...."

Frustrating .. you have to be patient based on the ratio of guys!

Annoyed ... well if that's what happens after a few weeks and you aren't prepared to try clubs or social events maybe this isn't the place for you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It is getting frustrating and annoying....

Frustrating .. you have to be patient based on the ratio of guys!

Annoyed ... well if that's what happens after a few weeks and you aren't prepared to try clubs or social events maybe this isn't the place for you "

Forgort to mention women who hide their profiles.....why do that? Post a comment and then hide?

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

The cock shot isn't the main interest to most women.

You have one..the next guy has one.. the guy before had one... do you want a medal! ?

The can't accommodate can be a red flag without an explanation in the narrative. .. and ghetto narrative well..it doesn't really say much about you or anything. ..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The cock shot isn't the main interest to most women.

You have one..the next guy has one.. the guy before had one... do you want a medal! ?

The can't accommodate can be a red flag without an explanation in the narrative. .. and ghetto narrative well..it doesn't really say much about you or anything. ..

Ok thank you...will have a re-write.

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth

Take a good look at your profile. If you were a single lady receiving hundreds of messages would your profile stand out from the rest? Would you want to meet the man behind it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have emailed all women within 50 miles who have been online recently......who can I plug away at?

Really am not a club person to be honest!"

If you have emailed literally every woman within a distance, you are not being discerning, and that comes across as desperate, as is possibly showing in your messages. Women will have more respect for you if they feel you have chosen them as opposed to messaged them because they are there.

But if you really can't make it work, then you have no choice in the matter but to try a club or a social. Or give up. But bare in mind the swing scene doesn't work for everybody.

Mrs

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"Ok been in here 7 weeks......

I have sent considered,thoughtful emails based on the individual profiles, attached a photo if asked for and set a search radius of 50miles.

99% get deleted with no reply and the ones that get answered are thanks but no thanks.

Have you asked for a profile critique, OP?

So what next?"

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By *inda shyWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Lots of women won't meet married men, myself included

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lots of women won't meet married men, myself included

Wedding ring!!!

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By *inda shyWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Lots of women won't meet married men, myself included

Wedding ring!!! "

Us gals don't miss a trick

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By *rMrs-Luv-ItCouple
over a year ago

cwmbranish

Op on the second pic Did you take your ring off and put it on the corner of the bed behind you ?

(Jo)

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By *rMrs-Luv-ItCouple
over a year ago

cwmbranish

" Op on the second pic Did you take your ring off and put it on the corner of the bed behind you ?

(Jo)"

Sorry 1st pic

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By *he WickedsCouple
over a year ago

Swingtown

It is getting frustrating and annoying....

Frustrating .. you have to be patient based on the ratio of guys!

Annoyed ... well if that's what happens after a few weeks and you aren't prepared to try clubs or social events maybe this isn't the place for you

Forgort to mention women who hide their profiles.....why do that? Post a comment and then hide? "

A woman on here can receive lots of messages a day. If guys can't read her profile (because it's hidden) then it cuts down on the messages she receives.

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By *ome on downMan
over a year ago

Teesside

"2. Masturbate!

Well in fact you could do 2 whilst doing 1!

LMAO

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"2. Masturbate!

Well in fact you could do 2 whilst doing 1!

LMAO"

Me too!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok honest profile written.

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By *inkySlinkyCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I automatically delete any message with the black shadow avatar.

Sally.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I automatically delete any message with the black shadow avatar.

Sally.

Changed that lol

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By *lwaysup4it69Couple
over a year ago

Kirkby in Ashfield

Possible reason you aren't getting anywhere.

1 married - yes good to be honest but will put a lot of ladies off.

2 wife does not know - regardless of your reason for no sex at home, a lot of women who will play with a married man, will only do so if wife is aware and happy with it.

3 as said by others lack of photos, as a single guy, you will get better results with a face pics on your profile.

4 if you have messaged every lady in your area in 7 weeks, either you have a hell of a lot of time on your hands, or, the messaged must be short, or, a copy and paste job, with a minor change on each one.

5 stop sounding so bloody desperate on here, it's a huge turn off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes 7 weeks is not that long but run out of women to email......

If you have emailed every woman in a 50 mile area then it shows you'll fuck anyone with a pulse!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Possible reason you aren't getting anywhere.

1 married - yes good to be honest but will put a lot of ladies off.

2 wife does not know - regardless of your reason for no sex at home, a lot of women who will play with a married man, will only do so if wife is aware and happy with it.

3 as said by others lack of photos, as a single guy, you will get better results with a face pics on your profile.

5 stop sounding so bloody desperate on here, it's a huge turn off."

It not desperation is frustration. A sex site where no one meets for sex....my opinion.

As for the rest of what you said I may as well not bother. I haven't copied and pasted. I havewritten emails.based on profiles....it is not difficult or that time consuming.

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By *lwaysup4it69Couple
over a year ago

Kirkby in Ashfield

"Possible reason you aren't getting anywhere.

1 married - yes good to be honest but will put a lot of ladies off.

2 wife does not know - regardless of your reason for no sex at home, a lot of women who will play with a married man, will only do so if wife is aware and happy with it.

3 as said by others lack of photos, as a single guy, you will get better results with a face pics on your profile.

5 stop sounding so bloody desperate on here, it's a huge turn off.

It not desperation is frustration. A sex site where no one meets for sex....my opinion.

As for the rest of what you said I may as well not bother. I haven't copied and pasted. I havewritten emails.based on profiles....it is not difficult or that time consuming. "

Also from some of the posts you have put on this thread there seems a degree of arrogance, seems like you are saying you have a right to a reply to all the messages you send.

You started the thread and now you clearly do bot like the advice you have been given. Just so it's clear by the way, this is the male of the couple who has been trying to help with advice, not the lady. Thought another guys input may help, but clearly not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok been in here 7 weeks......

I have sent considered,thoughtful emails based on the individual profiles, attached a photo if asked for and set a search radius of 50miles.

99% get deleted with no reply and the ones that get answered are thanks but no thanks.

So what next?"

This site is swamped with males, you're up against a lot of competition. Just keep on trying.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It is just frustrating not being arrogant...well not.meaning to.

I think this is another issue. When I am adding I am heading the word in my head as I would say them. If course the way you read them will be different and have a different lensing to them. I am not an arrogant person. I am easy going humourous and enjoy conversation.

Anyway had enough so I am going to delete.my profile. Clearly.it is not.meant to be.

Thank you for all your advice but I cannot take anymore.rejection. I have had a tough couple of years and have tried to be positive but no after no after no just doesn't help.

Take care all.

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By *lwaysup4it69Couple
over a year ago

Kirkby in Ashfield

"It is just frustrating not being arrogant...well not.meaning to.

Anyway had enough so I am going to delete.my profile. Clearly.it is not.meant to be.

Thank you for all your advice but I cannot take anymore.rejection. I have had a tough couple of years and have tried to be positive but no after no after no just doesn't help.

Take care all. "

So after 7 weeks of not getting a shag you are chucking your toys out of your pram and leaving. Did you expect women to fall at your feet and beg to be fucked then? If that's the case then maybe best you do go mate. Don't let the door hit you on the way out now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The patience was not strong in this young Padawan.

The defeatist attitude was very strong.

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By *lwaysup4it69Couple
over a year ago

Kirkby in Ashfield

"The patience was not strong in this young Padawan.

The defeatist attitude was very strong.

Maybe he will reinvent himself on a new profile and try again. Or maybe he will go and have a serious talk with his poor wife, who probably knows sod all about him even thinking of playing away

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"I have emailed all women within 50 miles who have been online recently......who can I plug away at?

Really am not a club person to be honest!

Two choices, 1. Have patience and I'm sure you will eventually receive an offer for a meet.

2. Masturbate!

Well in fact you could do 2 whilst doing 1!

I do 2 whilst being 1. The idea of being here is that I can share the experience of 2 with someone else from 1........

Maybe throw a few more pics into the equation?

Added a couple more pics

Ahh the good ole German Soldier standing firmly to attention! The single fellas "must have"

Hey, nothing wrong with German soldiers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd just give up and leave..., oh you have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have emailed all women within 50 miles who have been online recently......who can I plug away at?

Really am not a club person to be honest!

Two choices, 1. Have patience and I'm sure you will eventually receive an offer for a meet.

2. Masturbate!

Well in fact you could do 2 whilst doing 1!

I do 2 whilst being 1. The idea of being here is that I can share the experience of 2 with someone else from 1........

Maybe throw a few more pics into the equation?

Added a couple more pics

Ahh the good ole German Soldier standing firmly to attention! The single fellas "must have"

Hey, nothing wrong with German soldiers"

Not at all, unless they go AWOL which seems to be the case

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By *ome on downMan
over a year ago

Teesside

looks like the OP spat out his dummy and left .. 1 less ...lol

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"I have emailed all women within 50 miles who have been online recently......who can I plug away at?

Really am not a club person to be honest!

Two choices, 1. Have patience and I'm sure you will eventually receive an offer for a meet.

2. Masturbate!

Well in fact you could do 2 whilst doing 1!

I do 2 whilst being 1. The idea of being here is that I can share the experience of 2 with someone else from 1........

Maybe throw a few more pics into the equation?

Added a couple more pics

Ahh the good ole German Soldier standing firmly to attention! The single fellas "must have"

Hey, nothing wrong with German soldiers

Not at all, unless they go AWOL which seems to be the case

He was a 'Jerry'?

He will be back; less of UNLOS and more of AWOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He's gone. My odds just improved by 0.0003%!

Who wants to celebrate with me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He's gone. My odds just improved by 0.0003%!

Who wants to celebrate with me?

Slightly more than that, I'd say

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"He's gone. My odds just improved by 0.0003%!

Who wants to celebrate with me?

He'll be back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He's gone. My odds just improved by 0.0003%!

Who wants to celebrate with me?

Slightly more than that, I'd say

Oooh you're a naughty one.

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