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By *helonewolf OP   Man
over a year ago

Teesside

So there's a woman I've started chatting to and she told me that she has NEVER given a blow job because her gag reflex is so bad. She says she struggles at the dentist because as soon as something is in her mouth she gags all the time.

Has anyone ever experienced this? Or know of a way to overcome it? It's not a selfish post or anything - she genuinely wants to be able to give them but doesn't know how to get past this issue

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

all I can suggest is start slow and gentle in a relaxed way with someone she trusts who is willing to be patient.

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By *helonewolf OP   Man
over a year ago

Teesside

What like start with the tip and go from there?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"What like start with the tip and go from there?"

yes and remind her to breathe through her nose. I imagine that if she's able to eat normally she can tolerate things in her mouth when she's in control so it would seem logical to ensure that she always feels in control of things.

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area


"What like start with the tip and go from there?"

Also suggest she tries kissing and linking too. Let her mouth get used to being in contact with your cock. It's not all about shoving as much as you can in your mouth.

Let her know where it is very sensitive and she can concentrate there.

Suggest she uses her hand to pleasure you at the same time. Then she can pull her head away and carry on pleasuring you and then try taking you in her mouth for a matter of a few seconds at a time.

Really just needs to be steady and relaxed for her.

Crumbs I sound like a sex therapist. Should start charging for all this wondrous advise

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

* kissing and licking

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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Does she gag when she is eating? Tell her to think of it as sucking on an ice lolly and take it from there.

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By *helonewolf OP   Man
over a year ago

Teesside

Thanks for all the advice guys. She's okay with eating and kissing with tongues and things like that so I don't think it's the sensation of something in her mouth. Maybe it's the idea of something that shouldn't be there? I dunno. We'll probs have another chat about and see if we can figure out a reason.

But yeah I definitely think we'all start slowly. It's just hard to mention it. She really wants to get over it, but at the same time I think she's quite and a bit defensive about the topic.

Will see what we can do.

Thanks again!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My friend had this. She learned to take the cock in sort of sideways into her mouth. The cock would bulge her cheek out and she could get a got 5 inches more or less in so not bad at all and no danger of puking because the gag trigger is further back. Try it might work for her too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll add this was not my cock so I'm only going on what she said.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So there's a woman I've started chatting to and she told me that she has NEVER given a blow job because her gag reflex is so bad. She says she struggles at the dentist because as soon as something is in her mouth she gags all the time.

Has anyone ever experienced this? Or know of a way to overcome it? It's not a selfish post or anything - she genuinely wants to be able to give them but doesn't know how to get past this issue"

I can understand how she feels to some extent. My gag reflex at the dentist is very poor especially when they X-ray! However i can give blowjobs but I have to be in control.

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By *axandbooCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

You can get sprays to desensitize the gag reflax.

Or another thing is to get a toy that is gel based then she uses it to get her reflex use to having something there...put it in, push it as close as she can and hold it there

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By *helonewolf OP   Man
over a year ago

Teesside


"My friend had this. She learned to take the cock in sort of sideways into her mouth. The cock would bulge her cheek out and she could get a got 5 inches more or less in so not bad at all and no danger of puking because the gag trigger is further back. Try it might work for her too"

Yeah we could try that way. Don't think she's ever considered that. I'll ask her next time I see her

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By *helonewolf OP   Man
over a year ago

Teesside


"You can get sprays to desensitize the gag reflax.

Or another thing is to get a toy that is gel based then she uses it to get her reflex use to having something there...put it in, push it as close as she can and hold it there"

Ah we'll have to look into that. Never heard of sprays before. Thanks

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Personally I would never use a spray to desensitise my gag reflex, it's there for a good reason.

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By *helonewolf OP   Man
over a year ago

Teesside

Didn't even know it existed

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By *ebbiexxxTV/TS
over a year ago

Brynmawr

I have never had this problem.

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By *sym45Man
over a year ago

JE2

Best bet start slowly.Take few deep breaths.Get relaxed.Otherwise see Doc for advice/spray etc.

As silly as it may sound.Practice on banana,cucumber or vib etc...

Good luck !!

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By *helonewolf OP   Man
over a year ago

Teesside


"Best bet start slowly.Take few deep breaths.Get relaxed.Otherwise see Doc for advice/spray etc.

As silly as it may sound.Practice on banana,cucumber or vib etc...

Good luck !!"

I reckon she'd just laugh if I told her to go to the docs because she can't suck cock ha ha

But might suggest she practices on a dildo or something in her own time with no pressure

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By *est Wales WifeCouple
over a year ago

Near Carmarthen


"So there's a woman I've started chatting to................"

Just a thought; but aren't you getting ahead of yourself here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So there's a woman I've started chatting to................

Just a thought; but aren't you getting ahead of yourself here? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Speaking as someone who has a bad gag reflex & a bit of a complex about performing oral sex on a man -

Let her take it at her own pace & don't pressure her. I tend to kiss & lick the cock all over first, gets it nice and sloppy, then I just suck the head and I use both hands to stimulate the shaft so I can control how much I take into my mouth

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By *helonewolf OP   Man
over a year ago

Teesside


"So there's a woman I've started chatting to................

Just a thought; but aren't you getting ahead of yourself here? "

I didn't wanna start with - there's this lass I'm shagging. Didn't wanna give the wrong impression

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By *helonewolf OP   Man
over a year ago

Teesside


"Speaking as someone who has a bad gag reflex & a bit of a complex about performing oral sex on a man -

Let her take it at her own pace & don't pressure her. I tend to kiss & lick the cock all over first, gets it nice and sloppy, then I just suck the head and I use both hands to stimulate the shaft so I can control how much I take into my mouth "

Great advice. I'm seeing her again on Sunday so will see how we get on.

Thanks

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Since you've only been chatting, you should let things develop further first? If you then have a sexual relationship, then start dealing with this. Seems a bit previous otherwise, and also something she needs to discuss as the detail us with her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does she sleep with her mouth open? I'm not suggesting anything just asking

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By *helonewolf OP   Man
over a year ago

Teesside


"Does she sleep with her mouth open? I'm not suggesting anything just asking "

Ha ha as a matter of fact she does

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