FabSwingers.com forum: Do women go to clubs alone

By *auren001 OP Woman
over a year ago

birmingham

Sorry if that seems like a daft question but was reading a thread about a single guy going alone but don't think I've ever seen one about women. I would love to go to a club but I'm on my own and don't have friends who would. I've never even considered going alone as a female. Does this happen? And would it be OK to go and just get a feel, have a drink, chat without feeling like I'd have to join in the fun on my first time? Would appreciate any advice especially from ladies who have x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have single ladies in clubs before yes as well as guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a great time, let the bar staff know I was alone, they kinda keep an eye out for you where possible. Every one was respectful, no pressure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go by myself and absolutely love it

As a single girl you get lots of attention but that's not a bad thing

There chilled out and I just like to sit and have a drink and chat at first then see how I feel depending on who I get on with

Most places are so friendly and always make you feel welcome

I'm going tomorrow daytime and I can't wait

Defo put it on your asap to do list xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I did, but made friends so never go on my own now

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By *auren001 OP Woman
over a year ago

birmingham

"I go by myself and absolutely love it

As a single girl you get lots of attention but that's not a bad thing

There chilled out and I just like to sit and have a drink and chat at first then see how I feel depending on who I get on with

Most places are so friendly and always make you feel welcome

I'm going tomorrow daytime and I can't wait

Defo put it on your asap to do list xxx"

You and I have a lot in common we could be swinging gfs if you weren't all the way up there lol thanks x

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By *auren001 OP Woman
over a year ago

birmingham

Actually surprised a few women have. Opened my eyes thanks ladies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First time at a club I went with a couple but now I enjoy going alone as I can do my own thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I go by myself and absolutely love it

As a single girl you get lots of attention but that's not a bad thing

There chilled out and I just like to sit and have a drink and chat at first then see how I feel depending on who I get on with

Most places are so friendly and always make you feel welcome

I'm going tomorrow daytime and I can't wait

Defo put it on your asap to do list xxx

You and I have a lot in common we could be swinging gfs if you weren't all the way up there lol thanks x"

Well if your ever in Manchester give me a shout I'd be more than happy to show you around a few places I like to swing by

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go on my own too ... There is never prwssure to play and there will be plenty of people looking to chat ... Good luck OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv been clubs on my own. Always had a great time

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By *auren001 OP Woman
over a year ago

birmingham

I think it's the nerves not really knowing what to expect etc but like you say you prefer alone now as you can do your own thing which I am sure I would be like after one or two times x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We went to a club a few weeks ago and got chatting to a couple.

Turns out they weren't actually a couple.

They had met previously for fun through this site, and decided to attend together to avoid feeling self conscious.

That might be worth a try before progressing onto going yourself x

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By *auren001 OP Woman
over a year ago

birmingham

"I go by myself and absolutely love it

As a single girl you get lots of attention but that's not a bad thing

There chilled out and I just like to sit and have a drink and chat at first then see how I feel depending on who I get on with

Most places are so friendly and always make you feel welcome

I'm going tomorrow daytime and I can't wait

Defo put it on your asap to do list xxx

You and I have a lot in common we could be swinging gfs if you weren't all the way up there lol thanks x

Well if your ever in Manchester give me a shout I'd be more than happy to show you around a few places I like to swing by

Haha if I'm ever up your way you will be first on my hit up list

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By *auren001 OP Woman
over a year ago

birmingham

OK next stupid question, when you say have a drink and chat I am assuming you don't walk in and it's a sex dungeon lol so there is a bar area where you can sit and talk and take it from there? And move to the sex dungeon of one wants to

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By *auren001 OP Woman
over a year ago

birmingham

"We went to a club a few weeks ago and got chatting to a couple.

Turns out they weren't actually a couple.

They had met previously for fun through this site, and decided to attend together to avoid feeling self conscious.

That might be worth a try before progressing onto going yourself x"

Yeh that was my thought originally to go down that route just got me thinking reading about a guy going alone. Thought if the boys can do it do the girls

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ha yeah lol there's a normal bar with stools and normal seating areas

They don't throw you straight in at the deep end you can just walk around and have a look at different areas or just sit and have a social if you prefer x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OK next stupid question, when you say have a drink and chat I am assuming you don't walk in and it's a sex dungeon lol so there is a bar area where you can sit and talk and take it from there? And move to the sex dungeon of one wants to

I suppose itvwould depend which club but most if the established ones have a bar area ans playrooms are separate ... Most have a private room too if its too intimidating to play in the open

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've not been in my own yet, I almost did last week got to the car park and chickened out

. So I met up with fab friends instead.

My friend and I are going to chams on the afternoon of 16/10 if you want some girls to go with to try it out. There is a bar area but you do need to get changed first

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By *auren001 OP Woman
over a year ago

birmingham

Well ladies I am sold. Really glad I read that thread and thought to ask. It seems a lot less intimidating now. Anyone have any recommendations for me in Birmingham throw them up I'm free sat night. In for a penny in for a pound. I'm doing it x

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By *auren001 OP Woman
over a year ago

birmingham

"I've not been in my own yet, I almost did last week got to the car park and chickened out

. So I met up with fab friends instead.

My friend and I are going to chams on the afternoon of 16/10 if you want some girls to go with to try it out. There is a bar area but you do need to get changed first "

What day does that fall on? When you say get changed? Sorry not done a club before so excuse my ignorance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I always did when I had my single profile and still do occasionally now. I was in Chams just last week on my own. Its great fun. Xx

Doll. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We went to a club a few weeks ago and got chatting to a couple.

Turns out they weren't actually a couple.

They had met previously for fun through this site, and decided to attend together to avoid feeling self conscious.

That might be worth a try before progressing onto going yourself x

Yeh that was my thought originally to go down that route just got me thinking reading about a guy going alone. Thought if the boys can do it do the girls "

Just go for it then.

Most Bar areas are just that, and purely social. Playrooms are in a seperate area.

Worst case scenario, you hate it. Best case, you love it and can't wait to go again.

What have you got to lose?

Good luck?

Mrsb x

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

I used to either go alone or with a girlfriend

Now I go with my boyfriend but we won't mind a girlfriend too to come with us

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

I'm single and if I didn't go to clubs on my own, I'd not be able to go at all.

You choose to do whatever you want to do at a club, just because I you're there doesn't mean you have to play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well ladies I am sold. Really glad I read that thread and thought to ask. It seems a lot less intimidating now. Anyone have any recommendations for me in Birmingham throw them up I'm free sat night. In for a penny in for a pound. I'm doing it x"

Saturdays are normally single ladies and couples only nights, so if you prefer playing with single males as well, Friday is probably best. Good clubs close to brum are Xtasia in West Brom and Chameleons in Darlaston. Both Clubs are brill at looking after single ladies and friendly.

Doll x

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By *auren001 OP Woman
over a year ago

birmingham

Doll x"

Thanks for the recommendations x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doll x

Thanks for the recommendations x"

Your welcome check the websites for more info. Xtasia is more nightclub style and no need to dress down. Chameleons is more of a wetclub where you dress down once inside, lingerie etc

Doll x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've not been in my own yet, I almost did last week got to the car park and chickened out

. So I met up with fab friends instead.

My friend and I are going to chams on the afternoon of 16/10 if you want some girls to go with to try it out. There is a bar area but you do need to get changed first

What day does that fall on? When you say get changed? Sorry not done a club before so excuse my ignorance "

It's a Sunday afternoon. Chams is a wet club so you get changed into either lingerie/towel or they do let ladies wear revealing dresses. The first time I went I was self conscious but everyone is in the same boat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of women go to clubs alone OP, myself included. Men tend to come on the forums saying how scared they are about going to clubs alone, need someone to go with blah blah. It's all a ruse to either get in cheap or think they will get a fuck if with a female.

Women who tend to go alone just do it. No fuss. Bite the bullet OP it's not as scary as you think.

Enjoy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often go alone. My local is townhouse and the staff are really great and put me at ease when I first get there until I find someone to chat to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women going alone to clubs always receive the warmest of welcomes, the greatest of leeway in terms of behaviour and ease of entry over all others, being the draw for both couples and single males generally it's easy for single ladies to have a great time in a safe environment, so just go...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have recently started going on my own to chams after always going as a couple. I really enjoy it that much in fact I'm going again tomorrow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to go to clubs alone. once I had been introduced to a club with a male friend and then felt confident, I would go on my own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I used to go to clubs alone. once I had been introduced to a club with a male friend and then felt confident, I would go on my own."

I still go on my own and my partner knows I am 'safe' when I go.

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By *auren001 OP Woman
over a year ago

birmingham

"I have recently started going on my own to chams after always going as a couple. I really enjoy it that much in fact I'm going again tomorrow

Your not far from me where u going haha. I only have 3 Saturdays a month free time so anywhere with a Saturday or anyone going and will adopt me for the night I'm in

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville

My first club visit last summer was by myself. I had a great time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always a few single ladies at Eureka parties.

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

I went to Aberdeen with C a couple of times then started going alone when he couldn't make it. I went to CJs in Glasgow by myself the first time. I've always been made to feel welcome and looked after

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Hi OP. I have only been to a club once so far, a couple of weeks ago, on my own.

I had put it off for a few months because i was scared and i nearly chickened out again. Once i got there i got out of my car straight away, if i had sat in the car park i would have turned around and gone home.

I had a great time. I went with the intention of just having a look around and getting a feel for it and didn't want to play. I was given a tour of the club first and introduced to a few people. I ended up spending most of the evening chatting to a lovely t-girl who had never been to a club before either and had travelled quite a long distance. It was a case of two nervous newbies hanging out together lol

Everyone was very respectful of the fact i didn't want to play and nobody made me feel uncomfortable or was pushy.

Give it a go, you will probably have a great time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single women attending clubs is a common occurrence, no reason why it wouldn't be The club staff, whichever club you choose are always happy to lend a bit of friendly chat and support to ease you through the nerves and make sure there are no unwanted advances from the very few over eager guys. Once in its a bit like any other social event where you know no-one. It takes a bit of nerve to start interacting with others and getting into the "swing" of things but once you do then you can relax and just take things at your own pace, just socialise, watch, or experiment as you feel fit. Bear in mind even the relatively regulars, be they singles or couples also face nerves every time they attend. Its what makes it exciting. Once it becomes just like going to your local it loses its sparkle.

Enjoy

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By *r an Mrs xMan
over a year ago

liverpool

Loads. They come here following the men about in there towels

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By *ettyboop61Woman
over a year ago

St Neots

Always go on my own .....be brave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been on my own a few times, have let the club owners now in advance as I was feeling a bit nervous about going on my own but it was fine, I had a great time.

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville

"Loads. They come here following the men about in there towels

This made me chuckle

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