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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey guys, I have been trying to get a meet on here since I joined I usually get a blank reply at most or just my message deleted I try different approaches even when I match a profile no one seems interested? People want others who are verified but I can't get that far

HELP!?

J x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most will look at a profile first. You have no public pics and 5 lines on your description.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I try to be discreet in regards to pics that's all, any ideas on what else to add in description?? Thanks x

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Most will look at a profile first. You have no public pics and 5 lines on your description. "

He does have a profile photo. He can't help it if that is what he looks like

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I wouldn't be interested in a guy with a black rectangle for a profile pic.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It's just really dark that's all, should I post one lighter but blanked out?

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"I wouldn't be interested in a guy with a black rectangle for a profile pic."

That is a very anti-cubist statement; rectangles have feelings too

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By *r H and Good PetCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Yeah, if I saw your profile, with no pictures to look at, I'd have no incentive to even continue talking to you, let alone meet you.

Have some public photos up, man.

Torso, back, bum, if you don't want to show your face.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Lol hahah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't know what you say in your messages or what photos you send, but on the whole you can just stick a profile up on a swingers site and hope it lead to sex.

Mrs

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Your a young guy that wants fun and has no public pics sorry but that's instantly forgettable, you can still be discreet with pics just have to make sure your face, and any tell tale tattooes, piercings and possible scars are covered.

When I'm meeting and therefore my profile isn't hidden (I broke my foot a few weeks ago) I have a wide variety of pics to try and give people a good reflection of what they will be getting when they meet me, a also have a profile that tells people a bit about me (so insight into my personality) what I enjoy and what I can offer the people that I'm meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I try to be discreet in regards to pics that's all, any ideas on what else to add in description?? Thanks x"

You dont need face pics most people dont have them. Nice pic of your bum, torso or even in a suit will do. Most of us like to have a perv at the pics before we get onto the text.

As for the text it doesnt really say anything to be honest. You are a single guy your outnumbered and your profile needs to stand out. Sell yourself more

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have done a torso one now guys, I think I have a decent bum so that pic will have to go up

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

OP you need pics that people can see, your profile pic is very dark and looks like a black rectangle on some screens. You mentioned a torso pic, that's a better start.

Your profile needs to be expanded, what are you offering the ladies and couples you hope to meet? Why should they meet you and not the other 50 guys who messaged them today? Try to stand out from the crowd.

And its not difficult to get verified. Go to a club or an arranged swingers social meeting. Or get in the forums and get cam verified...there are always people willing to do that. The whole "I am not verified" thing leads some people to assume a person is not willing to put in a little effort to get themselves verified.

Good luck...I've seen worse profiles from young guys so you're part way there.

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By *rs Mia WallaceWoman
over a year ago

Bathwyche

any one with a statement 'looking to get verified' gets completely overlooked. hot or not

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP you need pics that people can see, your profile pic is very dark and looks like a black rectangle on some screens. You mentioned a torso pic, that's a better start.

Your profile needs to be expanded, what are you offering the ladies and couples you hope to meet? Why should they meet you and not the other 50 guys who messaged them today? Try to stand out from the crowd.

Thanks man really helpful! I'll be sure to tidy up my profile make it more appealing!

And its not difficult to get verified. Go to a club or an arranged swingers social meeting. Or get in the forums and get cam verified...there are always people willing to do that. The whole "I am not verified" thing leads some people to assume a person is not willing to put in a little effort to get themselves verified.

Good luck...I've seen worse profiles from young guys so you're part way there."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"any one with a statement 'looking to get verified' gets completely overlooked. hot or not"

I'll take it off haha!

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By *inkySlinkyCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Your photo is certainly discreet. It is just a black rectangle.

Sally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Top tip . Turn you light on when taking pics . Thankyou

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I try to be discreet in regards to pics that's all, any ideas on what else to add in description?? Thanks x"
if you wanna keep pics discreet but still get meets compromise, either pics from the shoulder down or disguise your face

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Top tip . Turn you light on when taking pics . Thankyou "

Better Tip: Don't bother taking them in the first place as it is not gonna make a blind bit of difference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Top tip . Turn you light on when taking pics . Thankyou

Better Tip: Don't bother taking them in the first place as it is not gonna make a blind bit of difference "

Even better tip, ignore the above reply.

You need to take some decent clear photos buddy, the ones you have are well, to put it bluntly? Shit!

Also, you're going to have to write a little more than you have done.

As for not going to clubs because of a lack of confidence, well I can tell you now, clubs are going to help you get meets far quicker than relying on fab alone

You'll easily get fucked off with this place if your just hoping for regular fun off here.

It's time to pull up your big boy boxers and get out there. Also, keep an eye out for socials in your area too, they're a good ice breaker

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

WILTSHIRE

On the main forum page just enter profile help in the

"Search forum subjects box"

read and take note also take a look at the people who asked for help to see any improvement in finding a meet ..enjoy fab

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"It's just really dark that's all, should I post one lighter but blanked out? "

do you wqant to meet and get veried or not..you are so discreet, noone meets you..so you have to change something.

my suggestion is to go out to a social/club and get veried my someone there socially, you may even have a nice time..

are you so discreet you wear a hood on 121 meets, some people have a fetish for that..you could use it to your advantage xx

good luck sweet, make the effort x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Top tip . Turn you light on when taking pics . Thankyou

Better Tip: Don't bother taking them in the first place as it is not gonna make a blind bit of difference

Even better tip, ignore the above reply.

You need to take some decent clear photos buddy, the ones you have are well, to put it bluntly? Shit!

Also, you're going to have to write a little more than you have done.

As for not going to clubs because of a lack of confidence, well I can tell you now, clubs are going to help you get meets far quicker than relying on fab alone

You'll easily get fucked off with this place if your just hoping for regular fun off here.

It's time to pull up your big boy boxers and get out there. Also, keep an eye out for socials in your area too, they're a good ice breaker "

Cheers mate I'll do some more pics in the light haha torso down!

Confidence wise on the clubs just a companion would be nice first few times who knows the ropes! I'll keep adding to my blurb on my profile too

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Suzy 444 thanks for your help maybe stick with the discreet fetish then ey haha! At the moment in leaving a little too much to the imagination on the pics hahah

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

She said it before in the post, I ignored her once. Second time I reacted. I'm asking for help not a comedy show

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Cheers mate I'll do some more pics in the light haha torso down!

Confidence wise on the clubs just a companion would be nice first few times who knows the ropes! I'll keep adding to my blurb on my profile too "

Try getting to socials then, no pressure, just an opportunity to meet new people. You might even find someone to go with, a couple, or single fem.

Networking, it's all about networking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"She said it before in the post, I ignored her once. Second time I reacted. I'm asking for help not a comedy show "

That's fair enough. Just try and reign in the anger a little. Some will jump all over it on here, and as you said, you are looking for help. It's really not worth the drama.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But to give you some helpful advice, socials are a good point to meet people ( as Lord Scar said). Also getting a cam veri may be helpful as a starting point.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Cheers scar I'll grab my balls and head down to one haha

Dark angel thanks for advice I'm not going to bite to people who want reactions.. I'm definetly gonna head down to a social maybe show my face on cam x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Where's Prescott then?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Liverpool my man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op keep trying hat to people build a rapport and when all parties are comfortable ask if they would be interested in a drink don't jump in both feet first and ask for a meet there and then also so ials and parties or clubs can be a good way to meet ladies near you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Liverpool my man "

There's normally plenty of socials up north, it's a shame you just missed the Manchester Social on Saturday.

Keep an eye out in the forums buddy

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

Yep OP clubs are where to go for a veri, on a lighter note did you go to public school? That pic with your pants round your knees says maybe you did

S

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