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Best way to let a couple know you are interested

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What's the best way to let another couple know you are interested, without going a grabbing them.? . Who makes the first move?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's the best way to let another couple know you are interested, without going a grabbing them.? . Who makes the first move? "

Talk to them? Tell them you are interested?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is this on here, at a club? It depends on the scenario.

Either way just striking up a conversation seems best. It works for me....so should for you guys as a couple.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We don't have a problem chatting but it's just that.. 'Wanna go a play'? Simple as that or am I over thinking things?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We don't have a problem chatting but it's just that.. 'Wanna go a play'? Simple as that or am I over thinking things? "

We normally say "We're going to the hot tub now, feel free to join us". If they follow, 99% chance they are interested, if they don't then they aren't.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I like that.. Straight to the point but subtle.. Thanks x

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By *ifferent69Man
over a year ago

BRIGHTON, UK

Thats I good question, often think should I or should,nt I send a message or a tastfull wink.

What is the suitable etiquette ??

Though do feel, on the rare occasions a couple is interested in a single fabber the first move should come from them...

Or am I wrong....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We don't have a problem chatting but it's just that.. 'Wanna go a play'? Simple as that or am I over thinking things? "

I think after chatting for a while you get the vibe about whether someone is interested or not. Bite the bullet politely ask them if they are interested in some fun. If not wish them a good night and me on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have the same problem, have no trouble talking just not sure how to start playing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry I replied from my single profile then!

We chat to lots of great people in clubs etc but when it comes down to that 'wanna come and play' bit, my lips seal. My other half has been swinging 18 yrs and still doesn't like to ask. I need to put my confident hat on and hope for the best!

Do you think not being bi can hinder? Is it easier if you are? Not that I can change myself and preference but when 2 ladies want to chat then play, do the guys go along for the ride?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My method is

If somebody don't make a move on me they aren't interested so I don't bother approaching them

I have no idea how affective that method is to be honest

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

Fancy a slag?

Lol.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Fancy a slag?

Lol."

Is that a typo?? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fancy a slag?

Lol.

Is that a typo?? Lol"

How funny!

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

Oops yes typo!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Message them and show them you are interested

Kinky

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By *ifferent69Man
over a year ago

BRIGHTON, UK


"My method is

If somebody don't make a move on me they aren't interested so I don't bother approaching them

I have no idea how affective that method is to be honest "
. Hmmm yes , but surely if everyone adopted the same method .

No would msg anyone ?? No point of this site ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My method is

If somebody don't make a move on me they aren't interested so I don't bother approaching them

I have no idea how affective that method is to be honest "

Lol that's exactly what we do in clubs , but on here we like to send a wink and fab their pics

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I was meaning in clubs. When you're playing on a big bed say, to reach over is rude, to ask can put people off, how do you do it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Message them and show them you are interested

Kinky "

Was meaning while you are in a club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Message them and show them you are interested

Kinky

Was meaning while you are in a club"

Just go over for a chat, nothing ventured, nothing gained.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed


"Message them and show them you are interested

Kinky

Was meaning while you are in a club

Just go over for a chat, nothing ventured, nothing gained. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just ask us - we will say c'mon then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My method is

If somebody don't make a move on me they aren't interested so I don't bother approaching them

I have no idea how affective that method is to be honest .

Hmmm yes , but surely if everyone adopted the same method .

No would msg anyone ?? No point of this site ...."

I more ment at clubs and parties etc I assumed that's what the OP mentioned because you can't 'grab' somebody on the internet

On here you have to make an effort or nobody will see you but in the flesh when people are looking at you if somebody does not show any interest in me I assume it's because they have none so I wouldn't make a move on them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just ask

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haven't been to a club so chances are limited for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to message them and say Hi, and try and say somthing about their profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At a club or party, ignore the couple all night, even when they smile at you, avoid their gaze. Then when they start playing just join in! kidding of course, but it's not unusual to witness this behaviour! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"At a club or party, ignore the couple all night, even when they smile at you, avoid their gaze. Then when they start playing just join in! kidding of course, but it's not unusual to witness this behaviour! X"

Lol this usually happens to us with single guys !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP I've had the pleasure of seeing you in action. You definitely aren't shy.

From a singles perspective, I prefer messages that are straight to the point. I find 'Hi, how are you' is less effective than 'You look like fun, fancy a fuck?' Either as sender or recipient.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dur. Just read the club not message bit. Mac needs her glasses on

Actually same answer applies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"just ask us - we will say c'mon then "

That goes without saying xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I definitely think asking is the way to go, can be scary but it means you won't make mistakes. I love chatting to people in clubs, I'll sit and chat to anyone and everyone, doesn't mean I'm interested in them all, and recently had a scenario where it was assumed by another couple I was and me feeling cornered before quickly exiting lol

Her

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Yes, if you're still in the socialising area, just chat, nobody is going to stand up and shout at you

You can talk about how they like to play and it will quickly become clear if you are right for each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"just ask us - we will say c'mon then

That goes without saying xx"

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By *he horny kinkstersCouple
over a year ago

North West

Just have a sign handy that says "Come and have a go when we've got you hard enough"

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By *ed wineMan
over a year ago

Where the streets have no name


"What's the best way to let another couple know you are interested, without going a grabbing them.? . Who makes the first move? "

Welcome to the men's hell, sinners

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's the best way to let another couple know you are interested, without going a grabbing them.? . Who makes the first move? "
send them a well ment cock pic

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"OP I've had the pleasure of seeing you in action. You definitely aren't shy.

From a singles perspective, I prefer messages that are straight to the point. I find 'Hi, how are you' is less effective than 'You look like fun, fancy a fuck?' Either as sender or recipient.

interesting you see I would struggle to send a massage saying ^hi you look like fun fancy a fuck ^ because that's not how I would approach some one in the flesh .

I am certainly assertive enough to say it in a message or in the flesh .

in a club I'd have no trouble saying during the coarse of a flirty chat " I'd love to retire with you to a private room where I can put you over my knee for a well earned spank and more "

just not as a opening line but a open invitation based on how the chat was going .

maybe I should modify your line for a opening message into something like " well hi there you look like fun I'd love to spank your sexy bum "

I wonder how many times such a message accompanied with a face picture would get me a response or a blocking .

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By *ightDiversionMan
over a year ago

Sevenoaks

From my experience as a single and when playing as a couple there are generally 2 scenarios.

If socially chatting but wanting to move things on a simple so are you guys playing tonight or just socialising ? (Gives them an easy opt out if you've misread it) - alternately you can say - right were going for a wander to see what's happening - want to join us ?

If your in jacuzzi / playroom a gentle brushing of 'safe' parts ( arms shins etc) usually works -especially with eye contact.

Just some thoughts - probably wrong...

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By *laskan lovers 1984Couple
over a year ago

West midlands

Jump in

And message then

Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From my experience as a single and when playing as a couple there are generally 2 scenarios.

If socially chatting but wanting to move things on a simple so are you guys playing tonight or just socialising ? (Gives them an easy opt out if you've misread it) - alternately you can say - right were going for a wander to see what's happening - want to join us ?

If your in jacuzzi / playroom a gentle brushing of 'safe' parts ( arms shins etc) usually works -especially with eye contact.

Just some thoughts - probably wrong... "

No, you are more or less spot on.

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