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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have a first date later tonight. I met the lady in a club. Didn't play or even kiss spent about an hour or so just chatting. OK so I did give her a foot massage as well. Just nervous about it as been a while since going on a date. I am not sure what to wear as in suit or my new jeans. Can't sleep worrying about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Where is the date taking place?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

At an Indian restaurant. Then back to hers for a foot rub that's what she wants. We have agreed to take it slow so no sex. For me this is fine as it's a date no sex on the first date rule.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gotta love the word "date"...... Made me smile....but good luck fella. I'm sure it will be fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Smart/casual. Jeans, shoes and a nice shirt I'd say xx

Just relax and enjoy. She will be nervous as heck too.

She WANTS to go remember. You've crossed the first hurdle.

And PLEASE promise me you won't try have sex.

Enjoy!!!! Xxx

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By *iya2015Man
over a year ago

Hythe

Yea just smart casual my friend, just relax and take the night as it comes, you've already met this lady, she's agreed to go out, the hard part is done, now just relax and be yourself,

Good luck, all the best, X

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

If this was me, I would much prefer you in jeans and a good top, nice shoes/boots. I wouldn't feel comfortable with you in a suit.

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By *anchester_gentMan
over a year ago

Cheshire / Manchester border

Agree.... Suits are not for Indian restaurants. Nice jeans and a nice shirt.

Most important thing you need to be wearing.... A nice relaxed smile!

Hope it goes well. Let us know, maybe?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lovely to see someone use the word 'date', which I sometimes think has become a dirty word on Fab. Shows that it is possible to combine NSA with having a nice time. And hope you have a lovely time

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By *P1964Woman
over a year ago

gillingham

Or you could go in mankini if it's a hot date

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wearing a suit makes it too formal...

Especially for an Indian restaurant

Jeans and a nice shirt will work better

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

Sounds good dude, you put in the miles and its paid off, now enjoy yourself, but most importantly, be YOU, don't try too hard, she obviously likes you, so relax and have fun.

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By *loppsyWoman
over a year ago

marlow

Jeans and nice shirt is the way to go.

Enjoy and have fun x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lovely to see someone use the word 'date', which I sometimes think has become a dirty word on Fab. Shows that it is possible to combine NSA with having a nice time. And hope you have a lovely time "
shouldn't combine the two it's not a dating site it plays with peoples emotions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As much as I agree. I suppose it's only a social media platform and if they are both single and looking for a commited relationship then go for it!

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By *exycouplemmmmCouple
over a year ago

Surrey

That's trally nice to hear, and I'm excited for you

Okay, nice clean jeans, and shirt plus polished shoes for me! Splash of aftershave too

And someone has already said it... No sex! Try and build on getting to know each other first, if you click there will be plenty of time for sex. Just keep it romantic and both of you wanting more at this stage. Good luck x

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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire


"Lovely to see someone use the word 'date', which I sometimes think has become a dirty word on Fab. Shows that it is possible to combine NSA with having a nice time. And hope you have a lovely time shouldn't combine the two it's not a dating site it plays with peoples emotions "

Why are emotions a bad thing? I use this site as a dating site anyway. As long as everyone is honest and upfront, it's a good a place as any to meet someone for more than a quick emotionless fuck. People want different things and use this site in different ways.

Enjoy your date!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lovely to see someone use the word 'date', which I sometimes think has become a dirty word on Fab. Shows that it is possible to combine NSA with having a nice time. And hope you have a lovely time

shouldn't combine the two it's not a dating site it plays with peoples emotions "

That's a matter of choice. Certainly hasn't done me any harm combining the two and enjoying the emotions that for me makes sex so much more intoxicating. Anyway, can't use a dating site for what I'm after - hotwife with multiple lovers, husband joining in, attending sex clubs as a trio.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lovely to see someone use the word 'date', which I sometimes think has become a dirty word on Fab. Shows that it is possible to combine NSA with having a nice time. And hope you have a lovely time

shouldn't combine the two it's not a dating site it plays with peoples emotions

That's a matter of choice. Certainly hasn't done me any harm combining the two and enjoying the emotions that for me makes sex so much more intoxicating. Anyway, can't use a dating site for what I'm after - hotwife with multiple lovers, husband joining in, attending sex clubs as a trio. "
ffs the core foundations it's a swinging site and yes it can be manipulated to suit needs ovviosly but it is a swinging site FACT

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Lovely to see someone use the word 'date', which I sometimes think has become a dirty word on Fab. Shows that it is possible to combine NSA with having a nice time. And hope you have a lovely time

shouldn't combine the two it's not a dating site it plays with the peoples emotions

That's a matter of choice. Certainly hasn't done me any harm combining the two and enjoying the emotions that for me makes sex so much more intoxicating. Anyway, can't use a dating site for what I'm after - hotwife with multiple lovers, husband joining in, attending sex clubs as a trio. ffs the core foundations it's a swinging site and yes it can be manipulated to suit needs ovviosly but it is a swinging site FACT"

I must stress that she is on this sight but didn't meet her on here. I used the word daye as that what it is. I met her at a club and we hit it off. No I have no plans sleeping with this lady as, I want something more than a fbw or one off fuck. I know I am on here and met some lovely ladies in a club and by other means. It's what I want and I have no plans of anything else. I know this is not a dating site. I didn't know I would bump into a girl that I hit it off with in a club.

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By *ubbykittenWoman
over a year ago

Kent

I think it's rather sweet. Have a lovely time x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it's rather sweet. Have a lovely time x"
bucket out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lovely to see someone use the word 'date', which I sometimes think has become a dirty word on Fab. Shows that it is possible to combine NSA with having a nice time. And hope you have a lovely time

shouldn't combine the two it's not a dating site it plays with peoples emotions

That's a matter of choice. Certainly hasn't done me any harm combining the two and enjoying the emotions that for me makes sex so much more intoxicating. Anyway, can't use a dating site for what I'm after - hotwife with multiple lovers, husband joining in, attending sex clubs as a trio. ffs the core foundations it's a swinging site and yes it can be manipulated to suit needs ovviosly but it is a swinging site FACT"

But we are swinging! We meet guys for threesomes, we go to sex clubs with guys, and I am a married woman with a number of lovers. Is that not swinging?

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire


"shouldn't combine the two it's not a dating site it plays with peoples emotions "

As long as both parties are happy and they communicate why not let them use the site in a way that works for them.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Smart/casual. Jeans, shoes and a nice shirt I'd say xx

Just relax and enjoy. She will be nervous as heck too.

She WANTS to go remember. You've crossed the first hurdle.

And PLEASE promise me you won't try have sex.

Enjoy!!!! Xxx"

This

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"I must stress that she is on this sight but didn't meet her on here. I used the word daye as that what it is. I met her at a club and we hit it off. No I have no plans sleeping with this lady as, I want something more than a fbw or one off fuck. I know I am on here and met some lovely ladies in a club and by other means. It's what I want and I have no plans of anything else. I know this is not a dating site. I didn't know I would bump into a girl that I hit it off with in a club. "

Does it matter where you meet someone you like? Don't worry about that and enjoy your date

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I must stress that she is on this sight but didn't meet her on here. I used the word daye as that what it is. I met her at a club and we hit it off. No I have no plans sleeping with this lady as, I want something more than a fbw or one off fuck. I know I am on here and met some lovely ladies in a club and by other means. It's what I want and I have no plans of anything else. I know this is not a dating site. I didn't know I would bump into a girl that I hit it off with in a club.

Does it matter where you meet someone you like? Don't worry about that and enjoy your date "

It's actually ideal to find a long term partner who has been on the scene. At least you don't have to explain your lifestyle to someone who doesn't understand. And who knows maybe you can continue swininging but as a couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lovely to see someone use the word 'date', which I sometimes think has become a dirty word on Fab. Shows that it is possible to combine NSA with having a nice time. And hope you have a lovely time shouldn't combine the two it's not a dating site it plays with peoples emotions "

The site is whatever you want it to be, as is the lifestyle. I've had many FWBs (men, women and couples) on the scene, and for me there's always some level of emotion. I like to play with people I like....

OP I hope you have a really lovely date.xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

like everybody's saying my friend, you're worrying over nothing! in fact you met her in a swingers club, you spent an hour just talking.

You were intimate (massaging her feet)

But it went no further? This sounds like the start of an actual, real world relationship

You'll be off the site in a month..you've not met a fb, you've met a keeper by the sounds

You should be beaming not stressing mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lovely to see someone use the word 'date', which I sometimes think has become a dirty word on Fab. Shows that it is possible to combine NSA with having a nice time. And hope you have a lovely time

shouldn't combine the two it's not a dating site it plays with peoples emotions

That's a matter of choice. Certainly hasn't done me any harm combining the two and enjoying the emotions that for me makes sex so much more intoxicating. Anyway, can't use a dating site for what I'm after - hotwife with multiple lovers, husband joining in, attending sex clubs as a trio. "

Sounds the same as us x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How did it go OP?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How did it go OP?"
went really well, food was good company even better. I am going to be seeing her again. Hopefully next week.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How did it go OP? went really well, food was good company even better. I am going to be seeing her again. Hopefully next week. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How did it go OP? went really well, food was good company even better. I am going to be seeing her again. Hopefully next week. "

Thats really great

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great news, Matt is one of the good guys x

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By *anchester_gentMan
over a year ago

Cheshire / Manchester border


"How did it go OP? went really well, food was good company even better. I am going to be seeing her again. Hopefully next week. "

Yay... That's good!

Did it feel odd to have 20-odd Fabbers along with you??

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By *exytwosome4moreCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

I read this all the way down just to see how the date went

Really glad it went well for you both.

Xx

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By *inkySlinkyCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

So pleased all went well. Hope next time is just as good. Sally

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By * PillowsWoman
over a year ago

stevenage


"How did it go OP? went really well, food was good company even better. I am going to be seeing her again. Hopefully next week. "

Hope it works out for you both. Best of luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How did it go OP? went really well, food was good company even better. I am going to be seeing her again. Hopefully next week. "

Awww brilliant!xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How did it go OP? went really well, food was good company even better. I am going to be seeing her again. Hopefully next week.

Yay... That's good!

Did it feel odd to have 20-odd Fabbers along with you?? "

It was just like you where all there with me haha

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire


"How did it go OP? went really well, food was good company even better. I am going to be seeing her again. Hopefully next week. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How did it go OP? went really well, food was good company even better. I am going to be seeing her again. Hopefully next week.

"
I do never fund people's others social needs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is this a bloody dating site or a swinging /sex site!!

A little more action, please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is this a bloody dating site or a swinging /sex site!!

A little more action, please."

The OP didn't meet her off this site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a bloody chat site at this rate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a bloody chat site at this rate"
not sure if it's facebook xrated

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By *aughtymale1Man
over a year ago

Sandbach

Glad it went so well. All the best for next week.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a bloody chat site at this rate"

Well the forums are for chatting. But those who don't like chatting don't gave to join in.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aww bless nearly had lump in my throat then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But we'll done lad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope went all great! Enjoy it ! Well done! Keep us posted! We love to listen to you! X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just been told now. She dose not want a second date. Oh well she was honest with me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aww man. I'm sorry. How disheartening.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just been told now. She dose not want a second date. Oh well she was honest with me. "

Sorry buddy, chin up though yeah?

Don't get too disheartened

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just been told now. She dose not want a second date. Oh well she was honest with me.

Sorry buddy, chin up though yeah?

Don't get too disheartened "

I am a little but oh well as the POF site goes plenty more fish in the see. Hummmm wonder what fabs would be?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

*sea*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear that!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sorry to hear that!"
it was not ment to be. She is out there hoping in the fab world haha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry to hear that! it was not ment to be. She is out there hoping in the fab world haha. "

Well you can start again! Chin up! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just been told now. She dose not want a second date. Oh well she was honest with me.

Sorry buddy, chin up though yeah?

Don't get too disheartened

I am a little but oh well as the POF site goes plenty more fish in the see. Hummmm wonder what fabs would be? "

Understandable mate, I know you liked her. However, no major time invested so, pull up your big boy boxers and try, try again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just been told now. She dose not want a second date. Oh well she was honest with me.

Sorry buddy, chin up though yeah?

Don't get too disheartened

I am a little but oh well as the POF site goes plenty more fish in the see. Hummmm wonder what fabs would be?

Understandable mate, I know you liked her. However, no major time invested so, pull up your big boy boxers and try, try again "
and it was going so well !rejection stinks but hey there is fab still Try the sex clubs for inspiration take your mind of the disapointment and get back in the saddle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Awww I'm sorry xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Awww I'm sorry xx"
we can't have everthing..hmmm

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