FabSwingers.com forum: Stuck in a rut

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi all. Kind of feel I am stuck in a rut at the moment. I had a number of veris on an old profile but came back after a break to find I had to start over. Just not getting off the ground, getting frustrated and now I think everyone can see that and giving me an even wider berth! Any ideas?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm no expert but you might ask for comments on your profile...hint

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every guy on here is looking for the same thing as you it's not going to happen quickly mate keep reading pirfiles sending messages hopefully someone will say yes get to a few social meets get your face and more importantly your personality out there good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Profile's grr predicted text sucks

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

People respond better to positivity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm no expert but you might ask for comments on your profile...hint"

This! ^^^^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People respond better to positivity."

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By *picyminxWoman
over a year ago

Huntingdon

"Hi all. Kind of feel I am stuck in a rut at the moment. I had a number of veris on an old profile but came back after a break to find I had to start over. Just not getting off the ground, getting frustrated and now I think everyone can see that and giving me an even wider berth! Any ideas?"

Stick with it. I'm finding the site the hardest its been for a while at the moment in regard to actually meeting outside a club.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

You're right about everyone can see your frustrated. You only need to scan your profile to see that.

Try being positive, you catch more flies with honey. You say, you had meets before so you know the site can work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Stick with it. I'm finding the site the hardest its been for a while at the moment in regard to actually meeting outside a club."

Regrettably, I have to agree. I have little interest in the club scene, so meeting people via this site only is proving difficult. But not impossible

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks everybody. I am frustrated mainly because I paid for a hotel for 2 nights and my meets, both verified, have let me down and deleted thier accounts or blocked me. Seems to bethel trend. I tried the club scene, not for me and my kids live with me so unable to accommodate.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Here we go. That's 7 meets in 2 days never turned up. 3 people insulted me and blocked me. Am I really that bad? What am I doing wrong?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Here we go. That's 7 meets in 2 days never turned up. 3 people insulted me and blocked me. Am I really that bad? What am I doing wrong?"

We don't know what you're doing.

Are you after advice on your profile?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes please! I am obviously doing something wrong to attract the timewasters on here! I am sat here in the hotel I booked all alone!!

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Try to be more positive and stick with it, we all go through barren spells on here. Fab is not the most important thing in life it should just be a pleasant distraction

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi, it's just pretty pants when I spent 200quid on a hotel and they don't show up!!

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"Hi, it's just pretty pants when I spent 200quid on a hotel and they don't show up!!"

Agree and would suggest that you look at your selection process if it keeps happening.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi, it's just pretty pants when I spent 200quid on a hotel and they don't show up!!"

Do not do that in future! Did they have decent profiles, many veri's, talk on the phone etc before hand?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Yes please! I am obviously doing something wrong to attract the timewasters on here! I am sat here in the hotel I booked all alone!!"

Your profile is negative and slightly aggressive, I suggest removing all the moany bits and just leave the information about yourself and what you want.

It's risky booking a hotel but why not put a meet today up if you haven't already.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hi, it's just pretty pants when I spent 200quid on a hotel and they don't show up!!

Do not do that in future! Did they have decent profiles, many veri's, talk on the phone etc before hand? "

Yes the original meets had verifications and we spoke. Phones switched off and profiles deleted or I am blocked.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes please! I am obviously doing something wrong to attract the timewasters on here! I am sat here in the hotel I booked all alone!!

Your profile is negative and slightly aggressive, I suggest removing all the moany bits and just leave the information about yourself and what you want.

I have simplified it!!

It's risky booking a hotel but why not put a meet today up if you haven't already."

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Yes please! I am obviously doing something wrong to attract the timewasters on here! I am sat here in the hotel I booked all alone!!

Your profile is negative and slightly aggressive, I suggest removing all the moany bits and just leave the information about yourself and what you want.

I have simplified it!!

It's risky booking a hotel but why not put a meet today up if you haven't already."

Ok. Do you reckon people will ask?

The unfair truth is that men need to put in twice the effort that women and couples do and not many people are going to ask for information.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes please! I am obviously doing something wrong to attract the timewasters on here! I am sat here in the hotel I booked all alone!!

Your profile is negative and slightly aggressive, I suggest removing all the moany bits and just leave the information about yourself and what you want.

I have simplified it!!

It's risky booking a hotel but why not put a meet today up if you haven't already.

Ok. Do you reckon people will ask?

The unfair truth is that men need to put in twice the effort that women and couples do and not many people are going to ask for information."

Ok, I will have another look x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Here we go. That's 7 meets in 2 days never turned up. 3 people insulted me and blocked me. Am I really that bad? What am I doing wrong?"

Did the insults not give you a clue as to the problem?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Here we go. That's 7 meets in 2 days never turned up. 3 people insulted me and blocked me. Am I really that bad? What am I doing wrong?

Did the insults not give you a clue as to the problem?"

Well I can't do much about my age or looks!! Just made me question why they bothered arranging to meet or talk?!!

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By *punkyhelmet5Man
over a year ago

Weston-super-mare

I would never dream of paying for a hotel mate for best meet in the world

Few of my meets have started with just a coffee social and gone from there but socials are a different thing to clubs and there is no pressure except to have a laugh so maybe if club scene not your thing Socials could well be. Good luck anyway

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By *punkyhelmet5Man
over a year ago

Weston-super-mare

As your in Devon keep an eye for Exeter socials mate you will meet some of the nicest people on Fab there and very friendly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Here we go. That's 7 meets in 2 days never turned up. 3 people insulted me and blocked me. Am I really that bad? What am I doing wrong?

Did the insults not give you a clue as to the problem?

Well I can't do much about my age or looks!! Just made me question why they bothered arranging to meet or talk?!!"

I would need to be really confident in them before I paid our, maybe meet for a coffee / social first xx good luck x

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By *icplshropsCouple
over a year ago

Rock

If hotel meets are the only way you can accomondate, have a social with them first before booking a room. Otherwise, it's risky. Some hotels allow you to cancel up to a certain time.

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By *P1964Woman
over a year ago

gillingham

"Yes please! I am obviously doing something wrong to attract the timewasters on here! I am sat here in the hotel I booked all alone!!

Your profile is negative and slightly aggressive, I suggest removing all the moany bits and just leave the information about yourself and what you want.

I have simplified it!!

It's risky booking a hotel but why not put a meet today up if you haven't already.

Ok. Do you reckon people will ask?

The unfair truth is that men need to put in twice the effort that women and couples do and not many people are going to ask for information.

Ok, I will have another look x"

Why don't you have a social meet first? I personally, would not meet someone I didn't know and go to a room with them and maybe this has scared them off?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well I have now given up. Totally. Just going to say goodbye to some people before I delete my account. For good.

The fact is, this weekend I spent £200 on hotels after arranging meets with verified people who never showed up. Blocked me. Deleted accounts. Phones now dead.

I have been insulted by people saying I am fat, old, have a tiny cock. Then blocked.

I have arranged last minute meets and get halfway there to be told they decided to meet someone else.

I arranged another meet and was deliberately given the wrong address. That was late last night.

If this is generic, if this typifies what this site has become then I want no further part of it. I have met some amazing people in previous incarnations on here. They warned me this was why they left and I deeply regret not heeding thier advice.

It seems that in other parts of the country however, this site is thriving. Long may it continue. In the southwest however, there are far more timewasters, game players and fakes than genuine people. One glance at popular escorting sites tells a very sorry tale.

So goodbye everyone. Thanks for the good advice but I don't use a site like this to be made to feel like shit.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Sorry it didn't work out for you. All the best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say get your self to a club.

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