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By *rimo4u OP   Man
over a year ago

north kensington w10

Hiya guys

Is it to much to ask for the average guy on the street to expect to have any fun on here? It just seems like you have to be something extra special with a perfectly writen profile to be able to join in the fun. What you lot out there think pls?..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Welcome to the world of single guys. You are in a tough old world buddies!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It os is for everyone. You have to find people who are compatible with you. Swinging isn't indiscriminately fucking everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It os is for everyone. You have to find people who are compatible with you. Swinging isn't indiscriminately fucking everyone."

Bugger, I knew we were doing something wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Narrow those single women down who cannot 'sort you out' or offer you something different', and there are not a lot left I suspect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On a more serious note... being negative won't get you anywhere. Neither will feeling sorry for yourself. You are in a very tough sea full of sharks. You either suck it up and get on with it or get out. If its the latter then get out now as this place will eat you Alice and make you feel like crap. Sorry if that sounds tough but it is unfortunately true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On a more serious note... being negative won't get you anywhere. Neither will feeling sorry for yourself. You are in a very tough sea full of sharks. You either suck it up and get on with it or get out. If its the latter then get out now as this place will eat you Alice and make you feel like crap. Sorry if that sounds tough but it is unfortunately true."

Alive... not Alice lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can swing anywhere, be it in the vanilla world (I've encountered 3somes etc in the real world) this is just a place for like minded people to chat etc, hardly met anyone directly from here, I just attend the parties and clubs, that's your best bet op, 121 meets are quite rare on here.....get yourself out and about.

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By *ason_silverMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

never had a sympathy fuck myself...

Maybe if I cried while wanking in a club?

Listen mate - stay positive and positive things will come to you

Turn negative - and even Darth Vader would turn you down

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"It just seems like you have to be something extra special with a perfectly writen profile to be able to join in the fun."

You are correct. There's 1000s of you so you do need something extra special to catch a woman't eye.

And we're not talking big cocks or 6 packs, just something that makes you stand out from the dullness of everyone else

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By *rimo4u OP   Man
over a year ago

north kensington w10


"On a more serious note... being negative won't get you anywhere. Neither will feeling sorry for yourself. You are in a very tough sea full of sharks. You either suck it up and get on with it or get out. If its the latter then get out now as this place will eat you Alice and make you feel like crap. Sorry if that sounds tough but it is unfortunately true."

Yep i agree but i suppose it's why we are on here, kind of addicted to the hunt! And yes i ment hunt lol..

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

OP this site is for everyone, most of the single men on here are the "average man on the street".

There are currently over 28 thousand users online and you can almost guarantee at least 80-90% of them are single men just like you. That's why you need to try and stand out from the crowd.

When you are in the pub and see a lady you like the look of do you just sit at the bar nursing your pint or do you make an effort to get her attention?

The same principle applies here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hiya guys

Is it to much to ask for the average guy on the street to expect to have any fun on here? It just seems like you have to be something extra special with a perfectly writen profile to be able to join in the fun. What you lot out there think pls?.."

Good point mate .

We have decide we prefer to go for the average guy on the street , literally .

He appreciates the fun way more , and we get to enjoy random and spontaneous fun any night of the week .

Fab has been fun , but no longer holds any appeal for us .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP this site is for everyone, most of the single men on here are the "average man on the street".

There are currently over 28 thousand users online and you can almost guarantee at least 80-90% of them are single men just like you. That's why you need to try and stand out from the crowd.

When you are in the pub and see a lady you like the look of do you just sit at the bar nursing your pint or do you make an effort to get her attention?

The same principle applies here."

Well said..charm without crass sexual comments and persistence got me a diamond of a man...humour works too!! Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The swinging world is all about finding your niche. For single guys it takes one hell of a lot of rejection, but I beleive if you persist there's something for everyone.

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By *rimo4u OP   Man
over a year ago

north kensington w10


"OP this site is for everyone, most of the single men on here are the "average man on the street".

There are currently over 28 thousand users online and you can almost guarantee at least 80-90% of them are single men just like you. That's why you need to try and stand out from the crowd.

When you are in the pub and see a lady you like the look of do you just sit at the bar nursing your pint or do you make an effort to get her attention?

The same principle applies here."

True enough but that's one of the problems we try all kinds of different approaches with messages but it's never right.

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By *ason_silverMan
over a year ago

Newcastle


"...humour works too!! Good luck"

Well I'm funny as Fuck

(Lets hope it works both ways)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hiya guys

Is it to much to ask for the average guy on the street to expect to have any fun on here? It just seems like you have to be something extra special with a perfectly writen profile to be able to join in the fun. What you lot out there think pls?.."

There are plenty of average people on here that get meets...

join the queue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On a more serious note... being negative won't get you anywhere. Neither will feeling sorry for yourself. You are in a very tough sea full of sharks. You either suck it up and get on with it or get out. If its the latter then get out now as this place will eat you Alice and make you feel like crap. Sorry if that sounds tough but it is unfortunately true.

Yep i agree but i suppose it's why we are on here, kind of addicted to the hunt! And yes i ment hunt lol.. "

Using words like hunt really won't help your cause. Not with a large majority of people anyway. You have to be broad enough to appeal to many but also stand out from the crowd. As has been said before, get out and meet people and don't rely on this place.

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By *rimo4u OP   Man
over a year ago

north kensington w10


"On a more serious note... being negative won't get you anywhere. Neither will feeling sorry for yourself. You are in a very tough sea full of sharks. You either suck it up and get on with it or get out. If its the latter then get out now as this place will eat you Alice and make you feel like crap. Sorry if that sounds tough but it is unfortunately true.

Yep i agree but i suppose it's why we are on here, kind of addicted to the hunt! And yes i ment hunt lol..

Using words like hunt really won't help your cause. Not with a large majority of people anyway. You have to be broad enough to appeal to many but also stand out from the crowd. As has been said before, get out and meet people and don't rely on this place."

My point again every word has to be correct?

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!


"On a more serious note... being negative won't get you anywhere. Neither will feeling sorry for yourself. You are in a very tough sea full of sharks. You either suck it up and get on with it or get out. If its the latter then get out now as this place will eat you Alice and make you feel like crap. Sorry if that sounds tough but it is unfortunately true.

Yep i agree but i suppose it's why we are on here, kind of addicted to the hunt! And yes i ment hunt lol..

Using words like hunt really won't help your cause. Not with a large majority of people anyway. You have to be broad enough to appeal to many but also stand out from the crowd. As has been said before, get out and meet people and don't rely on this place.

My point again every word has to be correct?"

How do you get on in clubs?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On a more serious note... being negative won't get you anywhere. Neither will feeling sorry for yourself. You are in a very tough sea full of sharks. You either suck it up and get on with it or get out. If its the latter then get out now as this place will eat you Alice and make you feel like crap. Sorry if that sounds tough but it is unfortunately true.

Yep i agree but i suppose it's why we are on here, kind of addicted to the hunt! And yes i ment hunt lol..

Using words like hunt really won't help your cause. Not with a large majority of people anyway. You have to be broad enough to appeal to many but also stand out from the crowd. As has been said before, get out and meet people and don't rely on this place.

My point again every word has to be correct?"

You are looking at it all wrong. Its not about correct it's about appealing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP this site is for everyone, most of the single men on here are the "average man on the street".

There are currently over 28 thousand users online and you can almost guarantee at least 80-90% of them are single men just like you. That's why you need to try and stand out from the crowd.

When you are in the pub and see a lady you like the look of do you just sit at the bar nursing your pint or do you make an effort to get her attention?

The same principle applies here."
well said,Op if you click on the"whose near you" button you can bet your last pound that 95% will be single men all trying to get a meet or messaging cpls or ladies.You seem a decent enough fella but you could have the best profile ever and still have no luck just because of the huge amount of single men.

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

As someone said above. Get yourself out and about.

FAB isn't a magic wand that you can wave and the meets come flooding in. Use it to find socials or good club nights.

Go there and talk to people, yes TALK. We are regular clubbers (although not often in the UK) and Mrs likes to play with single guys but she much prefers it when she is chatted up at the bar or in the lounge first.

The vast majority just stand there staring and giving their cock an occasional tweak, hoping for something to happen as if by magic. Or hang around the play rooms waiting for something to start then pounce. George Clooney could be stood there with a hard on, but he would be miles behind an OK looking Mr average who actually says hello and makes a bit of effort.

On FAB you are a very small fish in the middle of an ocean. At a social or club, with a bit of personality, you can become a much bigger fish in a much smaller pond.

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France


"

...We have decide we prefer to go for the average guy on the street , literally .

He appreciates the fun way more , and we get to enjoy random and spontaneous fun any night of the week .....

"

I have this mental image of you ambushing random blokes on the high street, kidnapping them and whisking them away in a van, and dumping them back where you found then, dazed and confused a couple of hours later .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

...We have decide we prefer to go for the average guy on the street , literally .

He appreciates the fun way more , and we get to enjoy random and spontaneous fun any night of the week .....

I have this mental image of you ambushing random blokes on the high street, kidnapping them and whisking them away in a van, and dumping them back where you found then, dazed and confused a couple of hours later .

"

Ha ha !!!

No , it's not really quite so overt and exciting .

My wife will come on to a guy , I will be about but not too obvious . She will tell him she is married and I am watching out for her . The guy knows she has permission to play . They flirt and have fun . All consensual and there are plenty of willing ' victims ' .

It works out well for all parties

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is for everyone. A large number of single people I meet "off site" behave in exactly the same way (perhaps without clubs etc) . They think nothing of having multiple sexual partners and even occasional group fun.

I used to do this decades ago before I'd even thought about the word "swinging"..... It's just what people do before they "settle down".

The only real difference I see between swingers and "ordinary" people as the OP puts it....is swingers don't let marriage get in the way....so more couples playing.

Maybe that's why some on here don't class singles as swingers....though the site would collapse without us.

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