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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Any advice on my first meet at a club ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Any advice on my first meet at a club ??"

You have a meet arranged or you are going to a club to meet people ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Any advice on my first meet at a club ??

You have a meet arranged or you are going to a club to meet people ? "

Going to a club. X

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!


"Any advice on my first meet at a club ??"

How would you act the first time you go into a new pub. Or your first day in a new job?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Any advice on my first meet at a club ??

How would you act the first time you go into a new pub. Or your first day in a new job?"

Think this is slightly different. No comparison really

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!


"Any advice on my first meet at a club ??

How would you act the first time you go into a new pub. Or your first day in a new job?

Think this is slightly different. No comparison really "

Really? How?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Any advice on my first meet at a club ??

How would you act the first time you go into a new pub. Or your first day in a new job?

Think this is slightly different. No comparison really

Really? How?"

My work collegues aint after fun lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

And they are all straight men

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Any advice on my first meet at a club ??

How would you act the first time you go into a new pub. Or your first day in a new job?

Think this is slightly different. No comparison really

Really? How?

My work collegues aint after fun lol"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for advice and help

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Not !!!!!

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!


"Thanks for advice and help"

Ok, someone will come along and say "Be cool", "Just be yourself", "Don't be a dick". Pretty much the rule for any new situation. (Like going into a new pub or your first day in a new job for example.)

Sometimes we look for the grandest of solutions to the simplest problems (Occam's razor, anyone?). Sometimes we have even thought of an answer before we ask the question.

Sometimes we keep our mouths shut and our eyes, ears and minds open and try to learn something. That's not a throwaway soundbite, that was literally my plan for the first time I went to a club. In fact, it's been my swinging "strategy" for a little over a year now.

Ask me in a few years how I'm getting on with that!

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

It's just like being down your local pub so socialise as you normally would.

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By *ason_silverMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

Don't get too d*unk

Don't expect sex on the first night

Don't be scared

Don't hide in a corner rubbing yourself

basically - chat to the people (smoking rooms can be less intimidating than the bar) have fun and wander about a bit - its fun to watch

(and that's after one night at a club )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Any advice on my first meet at a club ??

How would you act the first time you go into a new pub. Or your first day in a new job?

Think this is slightly different. No comparison really "

I think it most certainly does compare!

If you are going with the attitude that because it is a club you are entitled to some fun you might well be dissapointed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't assume just coz people are there that they're looking for fun.

Be polite.

Always ask before touching.

Couples have two halves! Not just the lady.

Dont get too d*unk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Any advice on my first meet at a club ??

How would you act the first time you go into a new pub. Or your first day in a new job?

Think this is slightly different. No comparison really "

Not really...I thought that was really good advise x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The guy is simply seeking advice... Why the horrid comments? Mate, just be real.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok. Well like i said i havent been before and new to it so was after advice. I didnt and dont expect to get laid the first meet tbf i have more respect not only for the other people but also for myself. Taken on board all your comments which boil.down to the same thing. Its like a pub. Lol thanks for the advice.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The guy is simply seeking advice... Why the horrid comments? Mate, just be real."

Cheers matey. Best advice ive read so far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am planning my first visit soon. Any tips how to get noticed. Not going to lie it makes me but nervous ha!

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By *axandbooCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Be yourself

First times can be daunting but sit back and observe unti you feel confident to talk to someone.

Dont get d*unk!

Respectful and polite wil always win.

If your talking to a couple, speak to both not just her!

Relax and enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Any advice on my first meet at a club ??

How would you act the first time you go into a new pub. Or your first day in a new job?"

I'd whip my penis out and start waving it around for attention then get depressed when people run away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Any advice on my first meet at a club ??

How would you act the first time you go into a new pub. Or your first day in a new job?

Think this is slightly different. No comparison really "

No. It's not. Be yourself (unless you are a dick)

Don't have any expectations of playing. Talking to people and arranging something else is a win. Depending on the club there is a high possibility you (as a single male) will be paying money.to watch other people have sex.

Don't be that guy who just walks around wanking and expect to be invited to play.

Make conversation. Don't be weird.

Take any refusal as final. Don't throw a shitty over it.

Respect personal/club boundaries..couples area means that unless you are invited.

Relax and try and enjoy it..your behaviour will be noted by many people. Have that rep (if you are going to frequent a club) that you are a nice guy...

Remember to play safe...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Any advice on my first meet at a club ??

How would you act the first time you go into a new pub. Or your first day in a new job?

Think this is slightly different. No comparison really

No. It's not. Be yourself (unless you are a dick)

Don't have any expectations of playing. Talking to people and arranging something else is a win. Depending on the club there is a high possibility you (as a single male) will be paying money.to watch other people have sex.

Don't be that guy who just walks around wanking and expect to be invited to play.

Make conversation. Don't be weird.

Take any refusal as final. Don't throw a shitty over it.

Respect personal/club boundaries..couples area means that unless you are invited.

Relax and try and enjoy it..your behaviour will be noted by many people. Have that rep (if you are going to frequent a club) that you are a nice guy...

Remember to play safe..."

Just re read that..

Wasn't trying to be off. No bloody inflection on the plain written word..

This is just my observations having been to clubs as part of a couple. Other points are also valid.. have a drink if you want but avoid being d*unk.

If you find you have a raging horn leading up to it...sort yourself out (maybe not just before though) frustration and desperation are not attractive traits. You might as well have it stamped on your head..

Hope you can take this in the good natured manner it is meant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Email the club in advance to both introduce yourself and let them know it's your first time. They will likely recommend you get there a bit early so that they can show you round and give you a few handy hints on behaviour and etiquette etc. Listen to their advice and guidance.

Chat and be friendly to people, don't get d*unk and don't always expect action.

Above all, enjoy yourself and have fun meeting new people.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am planning my first visit soon. Any tips how to get noticed. Not going to lie it makes me but nervous ha! "

I'm sure you will be noticed!! everyone gets nervous before their first club visit? It's walking into the unknown. Getting through the door is the hardest part in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well, there are some very rude, unhelpful people that comment on here.

Ok to OP,

As others have said.

Be patient,

Don't be pushy,

Don't get overly d*unk,

Ask before you do anything,

Chat to people in a non crude/overtly sexual way....

If they chat back, slowly start to engage in "it's my first time here, any advice" type chat. If they decent people they will be nice.

Don't EXPECT or feel ENTITLED to anything.

Have a good attitude.

Don't take NO personally.

We look for nice, polite, chatty and engaging single guys.

Have fun

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By *andomfodCouple
over a year ago

walsall

It really is like a night in the pub. Just go, grab a few drinks (don't get d*unk!!!) And relax. Talk to people. Just to add though, as a straight guy, if you approach a couple, talk to both of them. We get people ignoring B as they are interested in N. Not all dp, we just find it a little off putting. Call us prude

Other than that, no means no and you're all set

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like everyone has said just socialise and be nice and polite when chatting to single women just treat it like you were in a pub if you chat to couples remember to chat to the couple not just the women nothing makes me veto faster than a man obsessing over the wife without the decency to even say hi to me

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By *axandbooCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

If you take on board what everyone has said you will do fine OP.

Even if nothing happens make sure you are polite and offer your profile name to get verified as people do take notice of what's been said by others.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok. Ive read and taken note. Thankyou all

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