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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So... As a GENUINE single female on here, I do get quite a few messages ... There seems to be loads from men/couples who have pics and send nice chat messages but no verifications and been on over a year .... advice please .... Are these likely to be fakers/time wasters? Some give seemingly genuine reasons but I can't understand after 12 months not meeting? Even social meets or club veries? XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only meet a handful of men a year for social meets. If I am lucky, I find one man to play with for months. When I first joined here, the first couple of men I met were not verified, so couldn't verify me. So for months, I was a single woman, not verified.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Sometimes they set up the account and then don't use it for ages, but in my experience it tends to mean they want your pics and wank chat but with no chance of meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can take a single male more then 12months to get a meet lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Noone would know how many they have met as with some, you dont need a verification.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I only meet a handful of men a year for social meets. If I am lucky, I find one man to play with for months. When I first joined here, the first couple of men I met were not verified, so couldn't verify me. So for months, I was a single woman, not verified."

So can men not verify until

Verified themselves??

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France

You should be able to work out fairly easily from the messages ( style, what they do and don't say) if they are fake or not

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Noone would know how many they have met as with some, you dont need a verification."

I don't understand? Sorry xx

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By *emplarWarriorMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

On my first single male profile i went well over 7 months before i got a veri, admittedly i spent most of that time overseas so couldn't do a club or a social, but i did have 2 meets, both didn't veri me, in fact even now id say at least 1 out of 3 meets don't veri even when asked. its funny how the veri you left goes straight up on their show list though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Noone would know how many they have met as with some, you dont need a verification.

I don't understand? Sorry xx"
That just cos they have been here over a year, they still could of met without having a verification.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I only meet a handful of men a year for social meets. If I am lucky, I find one man to play with for months. When I first joined here, the first couple of men I met were not verified, so couldn't verify me. So for months, I was a single woman, not verified.

So can men not verify until

Verified themselves?? "

Nobody can verify, until they have been verified. So the first 2 men I met, hadn't been verified. I couldn't verify them, nor them me. People felt I was dodgy, because as a single female, I should have lots of offers and therefore meets/verifications.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On my first single male profile i went well over 7 months before i got a veri, admittedly i spent most of that time overseas so couldn't do a club or a social, but i did have 2 meets, both didn't veri me, in fact even now id say at least 1 out of 3 meets don't veri even when asked. its funny how the veri you left goes straight up on their show list though "

If you block them, your veri vanishes from their profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I only meet a handful of men a year for social meets. If I am lucky, I find one man to play with for months. When I first joined here, the first couple of men I met were not verified, so couldn't verify me. So for months, I was a single woman, not verified.

So can men not verify until

Verified themselves??

Oh, right, I didn't realise, thank you xx

Nobody can verify, until they have been verified. So the first 2 men I met, hadn't been verified. I couldn't verify them, nor them me. People felt I was dodgy, because as a single female, I should have lots of offers and therefore meets/verifications."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Noone would know how many they have met as with some, you dont need a verification.

I don't understand? Sorry xxThat just cos they have been here over a year, they still could of met without having a verification."

I see what you mean xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"On my first single male profile i went well over 7 months before i got a veri, admittedly i spent most of that time overseas so couldn't do a club or a social, but i did have 2 meets, both didn't veri me, in fact even now id say at least 1 out of 3 meets don't veri even when asked. its funny how the veri you left goes straight up on their show list though "

Thanks for this, some people do sound really genuine but no veries and I don't want to exclude them just because of this as some people have said don't meet without seeing a verie ... Lol it's hard work.... You're fit though!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Noone would know how many they have met as with some, you dont need a verification.

I don't understand? Sorry xxThat just cos they have been here over a year, they still could of met without having a verification.

I see what you mean xx"
Welcome to the forum x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Noone would know how many they have met as with some, you dont need a verification.

I don't understand? Sorry xxThat just cos they have been here over a year, they still could of met without having a verification.

I see what you mean xxWelcome to the

forum x"

Fankoo x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I'd avoid them. Doesn't take much to get a veri via cam or a social event.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had two other profiles on here and I have no verifications on here I can't find the people I met so maybe they've left bust I must admit I'm finding it more difficult to even get a reply from what I did when I was verified

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Somebody who has been on a year might be genuine and you might offer different circumstances to actually meet.

Someone with good recent veris is genuine and does meet.

Excluding non-veried people, you may well miss out on a nice person. But just on a balance of probabilities, veried would be safest.

I really find it hard to understand how someone who is genuine and wants to meet can't turn up at a club or an organised social, just for a chat and a beer, and be verified for a year.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I practically got accused of being a fake today after swapping what's app numbers. After going to great lengths to prove I was real I was mega pissed off after when I thought about it more. Is there really thy many ( men pretending to be woman) fake profile here?

For the record I'm very real.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

A cam veri takes seconds.

A phonecall takes a few minutes.

Go to a social and you could end up with 10 veries in one go.

A year with no veries is a BIG red flag to us.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


"I practically got accused of being a fake today after swapping what's app numbers. After going to great lengths to prove I was real I was mega pissed off after when I thought about it more. Is there really thy many ( men pretending to be woman) fake profile here?

For the record I'm very real. "

"Is there really thy many ( men pretending to be woman) fake profile here?"

Hell yes, loads of them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had two other profiles on here and I have no verifications on here I can't find the people I met so maybe they've left bust I must admit I'm finding it more difficult to even get a reply from what I did when I was verified "

Why did you have two other profiles?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had two other profiles on here and I have no verifications on here I can't find the people I met so maybe they've left bust I must admit I'm finding it more difficult to even get a reply from what I did when I was verified

Why did you have two other profiles? "

Well I made one a few years ago got into a relationship so deleted it,

Relationship ended joined back up then I deleted it because I started seeing someone else again that didn't work out and now I'm back!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a guy message randomly out of the blue offering a night in a local hotel.

He had verifications.

Last one was 7 year's ago!!

So it's not just about being verified but also the age of said verification.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It can take a single male more then 12months to get a meet lol"

That's because they bottle it and don't turn up

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By *emplarWarriorMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"It can take a single male more then 12months to get a meet lol

That's because they bottle it and don't turn up "

Another generalisation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It can take a single male more then 12months to get a meet lol

That's because they bottle it and don't turn up

Another generalisation"

No it was a dig at the person who posted the message and personal experiences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It can take a single male more then 12months to get a meet lol

That's because they bottle it and don't turn up "

Well it was my loss

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By *igboicarlMan
over a year ago

london

It's very hard to get meets and not always does the person verify

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

They could be genuine. If in doubt see if they are open to a phone call or quick skype before anything else.

It is not difficult to get a cam veri, but absence of one does not always mean a faker.

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By *ustfortonightMan
over a year ago

Kent

It's not hard to get a veri... It's just hard if you expect to have sex on your first meet.

On the first day I joined I got photo verified, wrote a decent profile and added pictures. Then I sent a message to a friendly looking local lady with a few veris asking if she'd meet for coffee and a chat to verify me.

She said yes and here I am now. Anyone can do that. I've now offered to do the same for others to pass it on.

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

I used to frown on people who aren't verified..but after meeting a few over the past 6 months,I'm a bit more lenient. I still quiz them no end and if I think it's not for me then just move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes they set up the account and then don't use it for ages, but in my experience it tends to mean they want your pics and wank chat but with no chance of meeting."

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for all the advice and comments guys. I'm new to the forums so not sure if I should respond to each individually? Apologies if so .... but I've read all your comments and will take them on board with messages ..... Thank you sooooo much! Xx

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