FabSwingers.com forum: on avrage how long b4 a 1st meet ?

By *eeside OP Man
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

I've been on hear for over 2 weeks now and had 0 meet offors. Dus it take ages for a 1st meet cos I'm new ? Or is it just me ?

No piss taking plees I'm allredey depresed for other resouns and piss taking won't help it on this ever.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"I've been on hear for over 2 weeks now and had 0 meet offors. Dus it take ages for a 1st meet cos I'm new ? Or is it just me ?

No piss taking plees I'm allredey depresed for other resouns and piss taking won't help it on this ever."

There is no 'average'. A meet happens when it happens, the women here are not for your use.

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By *eeside OP Man
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

I never sed thay war.

If u see my profile I make it clear il happy to just meet up for a chat over a drink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been on hear for over 2 weeks now and had 0 meet offors. Dus it take ages for a 1st meet cos I'm new ? Or is it just me ?

No piss taking plees I'm allredey depresed for other resouns and piss taking won't help it on this ever."

This is one of those 'how long is a piece of string' situations. You can be on here for two days and get a meet, yet you could be on here for two years and not get anywhere near a meet. It's just down to luck OP, but above all you will need to be patient.

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By *eeside OP Man
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

Thanks well I got lots of that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It hurt my brain reading your profile. If i were you id put it on something to check the spelling before using it as it is quite difficult to read

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also the fact you're not willing to really travel very far or get a hotel is a bit off putting for most.

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By *eeside OP Man
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

Thanks for the advice il treek that bit about travall. As for spelling im dislesik and at times not even a spell check works but il give it a shot latter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It hurt my brain reading your profile. If i were you id put it on something to check the spelling before using it as it is quite difficult to read "

He may have dyslexia or be foreign. Don't read it if it hurts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 weeks isnt a long time in fab time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It hurt my brain reading your profile. If i were you id put it on something to check the spelling before using it as it is quite difficult to read

He may have dyslexia or be foreign. Don't read it if it hurts

Yes I know this it states on his profile. I suggest a spellchecker as it's hard to read. Is that a crime? Surely its better to have a readable profile...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It hurt my brain reading your profile. If i were you id put it on something to check the spelling before using it as it is quite difficult to read

He may have dyslexia or be foreign. Don't read it if it hurts

Yes I know this it states on his profile. I suggest a spellchecker as it's hard to read. Is that a crime? Surely its better to have a readable profile..."

Yes true, x

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

I've read your profile OP and suggesting that people who think looks are important are shallow is an insult.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a man in a womens world dont be surprised if it takes months i seen guys on here who have profiles over 2yrs old without a single veri the odds are not in your favour my freind you will be better going to clubs, socials or jjst going to the pub you have a much higher chance of scoring

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd loose the tash (moustache) so 70s or tidy it up atleast or grow a beard. It makes you look older than your years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

having read your profile OP, I wonder what you would do if you did get a meet..

as you say you have aspergers and new things terrify you?

as for your profile, id scrap it all and start again just listing your positive aspects...

and maybe just 1 face pic would suffice?

finally, you have only been here 2 weeks...some men have been here 2 years and haven't had a meet yet..

patience is the key

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By *ustfortonightMan
over a year ago

Kent

OP. I've just sent you a message with a spell checked version of your profile text.

Just copy and paste the whole thing. I didn't changed the text as a whole, but I did slightly re phrase or change punctuation in places.

Hope it helps mate. And I hope you don't feel patronised.

(Even though I changed the spelling, I left the note about your dyslexia so when you do send messages it's not too much of a shock to people and they don't think you're being lazy)

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By *xx1Man
over a year ago

"I never sed thay war.

If u see my profile I make it clear il happy to just meet up for a chat over a drink."

You say you're one of the nice guys.

You sure showed your temperament within the first few replies. You seemed to jump down the poor woman's gullet.

Piece of fab advice op... When asking for advice, be prepared for the truth ( like it or not)

Always be polite, ask for what you want and always be patient.

Remember, you are a small fish in a very large pond, so sell yourself and focus on the positives.

Good luck in your quest

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By *eeside OP Man
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

Thanks for the advice and airport. and thanks to larst post wen I get time il have a look at the messige and re rite my profile. Thanks agen.

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By *xx1Man
over a year ago

"OP. I've just sent you a message with a spell checked version of your profile text.

Just copy and paste the whole thing. I didn't changed the text as a whole, but I did slightly re phrase or change punctuation in places.

Hope it helps mate. And I hope you don't feel patronised.

(Even though I changed the spelling, I left the note about your dyslexia so when you do send messages it's not too much of a shock to people and they don't think you're being lazy)"

A true nice guy with a kind heart

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By *ustfortonightMan
over a year ago

Kent

"OP. I've just sent you a message with a spell checked version of your profile text.

Just copy and paste the whole thing. I didn't changed the text as a whole, but I did slightly re phrase or change punctuation in places.

Hope it helps mate. And I hope you don't feel patronised.

(Even though I changed the spelling, I left the note about your dyslexia so when you do send messages it's not too much of a shock to people and they don't think you're being lazy)

A true nice guy with a kind heart

Thanks mate.

'Be excellent to each other' - Bill and Ted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The woman on top bit .is a put off. Shows ull just lie there .and after 10 at night . and u arnt willing to put any effort in .u want a woman who will drive to u and do u in her car. Or pay for a hotel ...not much too offer a woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP. I've just sent you a message with a spell checked version of your profile text.

Just copy and paste the whole thing. I didn't changed the text as a whole, but I did slightly re phrase or change punctuation in places.

Hope it helps mate. And I hope you don't feel patronised.

(Even though I changed the spelling, I left the note about your dyslexia so when you do send messages it's not too much of a shock to people and they don't think you're being lazy)"

What a guy, nice one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a man in a womens world dont be surprised if it takes months i seen guys on here who have profiles over 2yrs old without a single veri the odds are not in your favour my freind you will be better going to clubs, socials or jjst going to the pub you have a much higher chance of scoring

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP. I've just sent you a message with a spell checked version of your profile text.

Just copy and paste the whole thing. I didn't changed the text as a whole, but I did slightly re phrase or change punctuation in places.

Hope it helps mate. And I hope you don't feel patronised.

(Even though I changed the spelling, I left the note about your dyslexia so when you do send messages it's not too much of a shock to people and they don't think you're being lazy)"

Nice of you mate

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France

Frankly, if you have depression, then this site won't do you any good;

Many men on here take ages to get a meet and get huge amounts of knock backs; ignored messages, blocks , etc.

and take it really to heart.

To answer your initial question; there is no "average";

It can be anything from 45 minutes to 2 years!

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By *eeside OP Man
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

Jaz13 you have miss understood wot I ment Thar.

I am willing to travall just not long disdounce eg to the other side of the cuntrey.

And I wood not expect eney 1 to pay for a hotell for me it just meens I can't do it on a reglour bassies.

And as for the lady on top bit.....im not explaining y I put That cos of the risk of a mega piss take. Just reed that part of my profile cerfarley and it shod Mack sence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got the impression from reading your profile that you are looking for a female companion. If I've understood you correctly, what you are looking for may be easier to find on a dating site. However if I'm wrong, and you are looking to join the swing scene, or looking for NSA sex, then you will need to sell yourself sexually. Women here are looking for excitement. When you ask how long it takes, some men get a meet within weeks, some within months, and some never. A man's chances of success on this site are partly luck, but also a mixture of what you have to offer sexually and socially, and how you sell yourself. This site does not work for everybody though. I would really urge you to get your written text checked both on your profile and messages. Use a spelling and grammar check and maybe ask your friend to check what you've written.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meets happen when it does. Sometimes i have 2/4 meets a month or 0. Fab to me is a past time only its not my life. Best thing is go to swingers clubs. You can meet great people.

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By *eeside OP Man
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

Thanks for understanding your rite in both cases. I am looking for a partnear but till I find them I'm going to try the NSA in the meen time. As my work Frend rekemened.

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By *eeside OP Man
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

Larst post to clarsey swingers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Larst post to clarsey swingers."

if you want to reply personally to someone just click reply and quote under their message

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By *eeside OP Man
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

"Larst post to clarsey swingers.

if you want to reply personally to someone just click reply and quote under their message

Thanks that's mutch Easyer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for understanding your rite in both cases. I am looking for a partnear but till I find them I'm going to try the NSA in the meen time. As my work Frend rekemened."

Ok try a selection of options then. By all means use Fab. But a casual dating site can also facilitate finding a friend with benefits, but will be less intense in women's expectations and not such a high male-female ratio.

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By *eeside OP Man
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

"Thanks for understanding your rite in both cases. I am looking for a partnear but till I find them I'm going to try the NSA in the meen time. As my work Frend rekemened.

I did try match.com but you cant reed eney messages if your not a pade member and for surquitery resouns I'm not putting eney bank details on line

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"2 weeks isnt a long time in fab time"
this xx

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over a year ago

"Thanks for understanding your rite in both cases. I am looking for a partnear but till I find them I'm going to try the NSA in the meen time. As my work Frend rekemened.

I did try match.com but you cant reed eney messages if your not a pade member and for surquitery resouns I'm not putting eney bank details on line"

PayPal is secure

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"I've been on hear for over 2 weeks now and had 0 meet offors. Dus it take ages for a 1st meet cos I'm new ? Or is it just me ?

No piss taking plees I'm allredey depresed for other resouns and piss taking won't help it on this ever."

To be honest, I believe that there is a woman out there for you mate. You already had a nice bloke help you out with your profile and I believe that he's not the only kind and understanding person in this world.

Try not to let Fab get you down. The number one plan is whatever happens, HAVE FUN!

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By *eeside OP Man
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

"Thanks for understanding your rite in both cases. I am looking for a partnear but till I find them I'm going to try the NSA in the meen time. As my work Frend rekemened.

I did try match.com but you cant reed eney messages if your not a pade member and for surquitery resouns I'm not putting eney bank details on line

PayPal is secure"

Iis still on line thow and I no sum 1 ho did have problems with it. So I just don't take the risk.

I apradhate the thort thoe.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"Thanks for understanding your rite in both cases. I am looking for a partnear but till I find them I'm going to try the NSA in the meen time. As my work Frend rekemened.

I did try match.com but you cant reed eney messages if your not a pade member and for surquitery resouns I'm not putting eney bank details on line

PayPal is secure

Iis still on line thow and I no sum 1 ho did have problems with it. So I just don't take the risk.

I apradhate the thort thoe."

I've been paying for stuff online since it was invented and never had a problem.

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France

I have just re-read this whole thread.

I know a lot about dyslexia.

This is a great wind- up.

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By *eeside OP Man
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

"I have just re-read this whole thread.

I know a lot about dyslexia.

This is a great wind- up.

It's no wind up I don't tell lies!

I like to be onist un like sum

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By *eeside OP Man
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

Thanks to almost all for your help and support its mutch aprisheated !

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

You mention a friend recommended the site. Maybe ask that friend to help you make your profile more legible.

Leave any of the negative stuff out - mention it when you start chatting to someone if you feel you want to.

Also try going to a social - it might be great for you if you're not so good at the written word.

And don't listen to those who just want insult you sticking the knife in where they can - online.

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By *eeside OP Man
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

New profile dun. Thanks to all hoo did help. And thanks to those hoo helped arnsar my quesjon

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By *ettyboop61Woman
over a year ago

St Neots

"I never sed thay war.

If u see my profile I make it clear il happy to just meet up for a chat over a drink."

Shite spelling does not help!

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

OP you should go on this thread https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/549855 and put Super Mario

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been on hear for over 2 weeks now and had 0 meet offors. Dus it take ages for a 1st meet cos I'm new ? Or is it just me ?

No piss taking plees I'm allredey depresed for other resouns and piss taking won't help it on this ever."

Maximum 1 hour between first email and knock at the door.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Maximum 1 hour between first email and knock at the door."

You made it with 5 minutes to spare

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By *illy big bolloxMan
over a year ago

Newark

I'd give it a year just to be sure, don't want to rush it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP you should go on this thread https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/549855 and put Super Mario

I couldn't decide between that and magnum PI..... But supermario definitely wins!

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By *orgeouslyyoursWoman
over a year ago

essex just looking around

"I've been on hear for over 2 weeks now and had 0 meet offors. Dus it take ages for a 1st meet cos I'm new ? Or is it just me ?

No piss taking plees I'm allredey depresed for other resouns and piss taking won't help it on this ever."

2 years .. for me . Don't bother anymore l c

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maximum 1 hour between first email and knock at the door.

You made it with 5 minutes to spare

Dreams can come true ay Kinky

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

"I've been on hear for over 2 weeks now and had 0 meet offors. Dus it take ages for a 1st meet cos I'm new ? Or is it just me ?

No piss taking plees I'm allredey depresed for other resouns and piss taking won't help it on this ever.

A meet us down to luck..I must be very lucky..ignore all the messages I send and all the conversations I have. Just plain old luck ay..that's cute that is

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

But if I was on here for 2 years with no meet then I'd seriously call it a day..something isn't working for you and of you can't find out what the problem is and fix it then I don't see any luck coming your way soon.

Go to some social nights maybe?

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