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By *celolli OP   Woman
over a year ago

fremington

Some do some don't but would you wanna know if they did before hand and what if you know someone does would you wanna inform others ????????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some do some don't but would you wanna know if they did before hand and what if you know someone does would you wanna inform others ????????"

Yes, no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another "yes; no" here too. Each to their own, but I'd want to know to make an informed decision for myself(either way), as to what they do with others that's for them to negotiate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Assume everyone does it.

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By *emplarWarriorMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

As long as the person wears protection with you what does it matter who they have or havent been bare with?

Surely the whole reason you insist on them wearing a condom in the first place is because you assume they are not clean and wont take a risk, so if they are wearing one with you it shouldnt matter if they have just had a reverse gangbang with the mens Sub-Saharan football team.

And as for telling others, WTF

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Better to assume everybody has had bare sex.

Inform others...hell no. None of my business. The other parties are capable of doing their own checks and balances before playtime.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Informing others....no. Name and shame will get you a ban!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just spin the wheel.

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By *lwaysup4it69Couple
over a year ago

Kirkby in Ashfield

We play bareback so wouldn't bother us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We couldnt care less what people do with others we always play safe so its not a problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some do some don't but would you wanna know if they did before hand and what if you know someone does would you wanna inform others ????????"

Silly question coz you won't know if they are telling the truth anyway.

Tell others WTF you on about....and how would you know unless you did bareback with them yourself. Bareback is not a crime, it's a personal choice, everyone to their own. XXX

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By *emplarWarriorMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Warn them about what exactly? barback sex is not a crime, although you would think it was with some peopes reactions.

Its a personal choice and people have the right to do as they please. Would you 'warn' other if someone liked having there nipples squeezed, or enjoys anal?

How about you just concern yourself with your own business and let others look after thiers?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Warn them about what exactly? barback sex is not a crime, although you would think it was with some peopes reactions.

Its a personal choice and people have the right to do as they please. Would you 'warn' other if someone liked having there nipples squeezed, or enjoys anal?

How about you just concern yourself with your own business and let others look after thiers? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Warn them about what exactly? barback sex is not a crime, although you would think it was with some peopes reactions.

Its a personal choice and people have the right to do as they please. Would you 'warn' other if someone liked having there nipples squeezed, or enjoys anal?

How about you just concern yourself with your own business and let others look after thiers? "

What would people use to mount their high horses with then though?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Warn them about what exactly? barback sex is not a crime, although you would think it was with some peopes reactions.

Its a personal choice and people have the right to do as they please. Would you 'warn' other if someone liked having there nipples squeezed, or enjoys anal?

How about you just concern yourself with your own business and let others look after thiers? "

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By *celolli OP   Woman
over a year ago

fremington

Woooooooooo up people if I knew they played bare back and someone I knew was going to play with them then I think I should warn them that's my option and posted on here for advise not to be bloody told to mind my own business and naming and shaming I am not in to

BUT thanks all for your ADVICE !!!!!!!!!

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By *celolli OP   Woman
over a year ago

fremington


"We couldnt care less what people do with others we always play safe so its not a problem "

Playing safe means more then wearing a condom on when cock goes to fuck take it your aware of that x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Assume everyone does it. "

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone up for bareback then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Woooooooooo up people if I knew they played bare back and someone I knew was going to play with them then I think I should warn them that's my option and posted on here for advise not to be bloody told to mind my own business and naming and shaming I am not in to

BUT thanks all for your ADVICE !!!!!!!!!"

Why bother posting on here in the first place if you already know what you are going to do? Make your own choice and don't ask others opinions if you don't want to hear the answers.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

I assume everyone barebacks until proven otherwise and it's of no consequence as I take responsibility for my own sexual health by using condoms and regularly going to the local GUM, it's all you can do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Warn them, oh dear. Tell them you mean.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some do some don't but would you wanna know if they did before hand and what if you know someone does would you wanna inform others ????????"

Like they will tell the truth!

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By *celolli OP   Woman
over a year ago

fremington


"Woooooooooo up people if I knew they played bare back and someone I knew was going to play with them then I think I should warn them that's my option and posted on here for advise not to be bloody told to mind my own business and naming and shaming I am not in to

BUT thanks all for your ADVICE !!!!!!!!!

Why bother posting on here in the first place if you already know what you are going to do? Make your own choice and don't ask others opinions if you don't want to hear the answers. "

Thank you soooooo much for opening my eyes to the safe sex on this site and opinions well everyone allowed one and I asked advice nothing wrong with that at all is there I mean REALY

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By *celolli OP   Woman
over a year ago

fremington


"Warn them, oh dear. Tell them you mean. "

If the person that person had played with you were there with and wanted to play with you after then yes TELL them as that would be why you wouldn't be playing with them

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Woooooooooo up people if I knew they played bare back and someone I knew was going to play with them then I think I should warn them that's my option and posted on here for advise not to be bloody told to mind my own business and naming and shaming I am not in to

BUT thanks all for your ADVICE !!!!!!!!!"

But minding your own business is advise so not sure why your getting arsey really.

As others have said, assume everyone you meet plays bare and make sure you look after your own sexual health by making sure you use condoms, question appropriately and get tested as often as is necessary regardless of what protection you use.

As for warning others off, I'm assuming they are adults and can think for themselves. If I wanted to fuck someone and a mate told me they played bare I would have to assess how much I wanted to fuck them i guess. At the end of the day I'm am adult and I make my own decisions based on my risk assessment of the situation. Perhaps a friend telling me would have a bearing on that, who knows.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

word of caution ! NEVER use condoms when barebacking !

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By *emplarWarriorMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Warn them, oh dear. Tell them you mean.

If the person that person had played with you were there with and wanted to play with you after then yes TELL them as that would be why you wouldn't be playing with them "

Is that welsh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is my take on bare back. If your wanting BB sex then does it really matter if they've previously had BB you're willing to take the risk anyway.

If you don't practise BB then does it matter you're making them wear protection anyway so protecting yourself.

Very few of us practice OW so we're putting ourselves at risk of an STI everyone we suck a cock

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By *celolli OP   Woman
over a year ago

fremington


"Woooooooooo up people if I knew they played bare back and someone I knew was going to play with them then I think I should warn them that's my option and posted on here for advise not to be bloody told to mind my own business and naming and shaming I am not in to

BUT thanks all for your ADVICE !!!!!!!!!

But minding your own business is advise so not sure why your getting arsey really.

As others have said, assume everyone you meet plays bare and make sure you look after your own sexual health by making sure you use condoms, question appropriately and get tested as often as is necessary regardless of what protection you use.

As for warning others off, I'm assuming they are adults and can think for themselves. If I wanted to fuck someone and a mate told me they played bare I would have to assess how much I wanted to fuck them i guess. At the end of the day I'm am adult and I make my own decisions based on my risk assessment of the situation. Perhaps a friend telling me would have a bearing on that, who knows. "

Arsey when arsey is given but thanks for the advice and the last comment answered my query thanks again x

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By *celolli OP   Woman
over a year ago

fremington


"This is my take on bare back. If your wanting BB sex then does it really matter if they've previously had BB you're willing to take the risk anyway.

If you don't practise BB then does it matter you're making them wear protection anyway so protecting yourself.

Very few of us practice OW so we're putting ourselves at risk of an STI everyone we suck a cock"

Thank you xxx

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

I would like to say though I wouldn't go out of my way to warn people and turn into some bareback vigilante. If it came up in conversation then I might say something.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We couldnt care less what people do with others we always play safe so its not a problem

Playing safe means more then wearing a condom on when cock goes to fuck take it your aware of that x"

Well aware that condoms arnt 100% effective also well aware that some sti's can be passed through pelvic contact and oral for us its finding a balance between limiting the risk but retaining the pleasure so condoms for penetration and regular checks are sufficient true the only sure way of staying safe is not to shag but where's the fun in that

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By *celolli OP   Woman
over a year ago

fremington


"We couldnt care less what people do with others we always play safe so its not a problem

Playing safe means more then wearing a condom on when cock goes to fuck take it your aware of that x

Well aware that condoms arnt 100% effective also well aware that some sti's can be passed through pelvic contact and oral for us its finding a balance between limiting the risk but retaining the pleasure so condoms for penetration and regular checks are sufficient true the only sure way of staying safe is not to shag but where's the fun in that "

No fun at all lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We couldnt care less what people do with others we always play safe so its not a problem

Playing safe means more then wearing a condom on when cock goes to fuck take it your aware of that x

Well aware that condoms arnt 100% effective also well aware that some sti's can be passed through pelvic contact and oral for us its finding a balance between limiting the risk but retaining the pleasure so condoms for penetration and regular checks are sufficient true the only sure way of staying safe is not to shag but where's the fun in that

No fun at all lol "

To be honest my (mr) biggest worry would be pregnancy sti's can on the most part be treated with antibiotics and very very rarely lead to lifelong problems even hiv is now manageable as a stay at home father of 3 kids i know how much work they are and have no wish to father any more with another women

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By *celolli OP   Woman
over a year ago

fremington


"We couldnt care less what people do with others we always play safe so its not a problem

Playing safe means more then wearing a condom on when cock goes to fuck take it your aware of that x

Well aware that condoms arnt 100% effective also well aware that some sti's can be passed through pelvic contact and oral for us its finding a balance between limiting the risk but retaining the pleasure so condoms for penetration and regular checks are sufficient true the only sure way of staying safe is not to shag but where's the fun in that

No fun at all lol

To be honest my (mr) biggest worry would be pregnancy sti's can on the most part be treated with antibiotics and very very rarely lead to lifelong problems even hiv is now manageable as a stay at home father of 3 kids i know how much work they are and have no wish to father any more with another women "

Yep that's there to lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a previous post said how would u know they had done bareback before unless u was in the room watching then it's no concern of yours if u insist on safe and as for warning others of it the only thing I would warn others of is if I risked bareback and caught something because I was stupid to go bareback then I would talk to them and if got no response within a certain time frame I would name and shame obviously I would probably end up a social pariah for a while but would be of my own doing but as I always play safe with new people it won't happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Warn them about what exactly? barback sex is not a crime, although you would think it was with some peopes reactions.

Its a personal choice and people have the right to do as they please. Would you 'warn' other if someone liked having there nipples squeezed, or enjoys anal?

How about you just concern yourself with your own business and let others look after thiers? "
well said!

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By *unnynbugsCouple
over a year ago

Neath


"Warn them, oh dear. Tell them you mean.

If the person that person had played with you were there with and wanted to play with you after then yes TELL them as that would be why you wouldn't be playing with them

Is that welsh?"

I'm welsh and I struggled with that... don't think it is...

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By *celolli OP   Woman
over a year ago

fremington


"Warn them about what exactly? barback sex is not a crime, although you would think it was with some peopes reactions.

Its a personal choice and people have the right to do as they please. Would you 'warn' other if someone liked having there nipples squeezed, or enjoys anal?

How about you just concern yourself with your own business and let others look after thiers? well said!"

This is my business as saw it in an OPEN room at a club and I was asked after this to play so hence asking for ADVICE

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By *emplarWarriorMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Warn them, oh dear. Tell them you mean.

If the person that person had played with you were there with and wanted to play with you after then yes TELL them as that would be why you wouldn't be playing with them

Is that welsh?

I'm welsh and I struggled with that... don't think it is... "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This would go easier if you told us what you wanted to hear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Warn them about what exactly? barback sex is not a crime, although you would think it was with some peopes reactions.

Its a personal choice and people have the right to do as they please. Would you 'warn' other if someone liked having there nipples squeezed, or enjoys anal?

How about you just concern yourself with your own business and let others look after thiers? well said!

This is my business as saw it in an OPEN room at a club and I was asked after this to play so hence asking for ADVICE "
play safe is best advice until such a time as you feel comfortable with the person u meeting if it becomes a regular thing and even then still go for health checks

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By *emplarWarriorMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Look after yourself, if you want some advice

"Dont eat yellow snow"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Look after yourself, if you want some advice

"Dont eat yellow snow""

Unless its an experimental slant on water sports

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Yes we would want to know and no we wouldn't tell others but it has caused us to say no to meets because we were aware that the couple had advertised bareback meets in the past.

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire

Don't ask or care because you should assume everyone has at some point in their life had bareback sex - if you work on that assumption firstly you'll be right and secondly you'll either use protection and concern yourself with yourself or you'll just stop swinging - problem solved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"word of caution ! NEVER use condoms when barebacking !"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would want to know if they played bareback so I could decide if I wanted to play with them.

I would tell my close friends so they could make an informed decision.

Only read again this morning how some sti's are passed on through skin contact only and the number of of people over 40 who are being treated is on the rise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well what exactly is the definition of 'playing bareback'? Are we talking about swingers who always have unprotected sex with everybody they play (of which I have never come across people who do this since I've been swinging). Or are we talking about someone who chooses one special partner within the scene, eg a hotwife who takes a lover, or someone who has a long term FWB?

If someone at some point in history has had a bareback relationship as part of this lifestyle, and got tested clear after the relationship, it seems a bit strange to 'warn others'. Perhaps we should be warning others if we find out that someone's condom split or fell off. Or maybe we should warn others about those who always use condoms but don't get regularly tested.

Besides, how many people have never ever had bareback sex their entire lives? Use condoms to protect yourself from people who may or may not have had put themselves at risk, and get regularly tested, is my view.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree you can never be fully safe and should get tested regularly.

My comment was about what I would do after my experiences since I became a swinger.

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By *illyjohnyCouple
over a year ago

brighton

We assume that all the guys we meet have done bareback but just won't be playing that way with us . No glove no love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All our parents barebacked

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By *rbane PlayerMan
over a year ago

London


"Well what exactly is the definition of 'playing bareback'? Are we talking about swingers who always have unprotected sex with everybody they play (of which I have never come across people who do this since I've been swinging). Or are we talking about someone who chooses one special partner within the scene, eg a hotwife who takes a lover, or someone who has a long term FWB?

If someone at some point in history has had a bareback relationship as part of this lifestyle, and got tested clear after the relationship, it seems a bit strange to 'warn others'. Perhaps we should be warning others if we find out that someone's condom split or fell off. Or maybe we should warn others about those who always use condoms but don't get regularly tested.

Besides, how many people have never ever had bareback sex their entire lives? Use condoms to protect yourself from people who may or may not have had put themselves at risk, and get regularly tested, is my view. "

I hope one day we can have a chat about why this topic gets our blood pumping!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd just send them an informative link to "antibiotic-resistant strain of gonorrhea has popped up in England, Japan, and Canada, worrying health officials in both the United States and abroad that the sexually transmitted infection is the world's newest “superbug.”

Who cares if you offend a few people criticising BB? You might save their life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All our parents barebacked "

Errr not all our parents were swingers!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've only ever had bareback sex once with someone I knew pretty well. I did ask how many partners they had been with in terms of bareback.

We had a frank discussion about it before doing the dirty so to speak.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All our parents barebacked

Errr not all our parents were swingers! "

You positive? Your mum might have loved kneeling in the middle of a circle jerk at some point in her life?

Mine too maybe....who knows.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a lot of us guys did when we were young and stupid, when your inexperienced I remember the condom fumble when d*unk could lead to an attack of mr floppy, now they slip on with ninja efficiency to the point where the lady doesn't even see you slip it out the jean pocket, unwrap it.. Get it the right way all without breaking the momentum.

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By *edRidingWolfCouple
over a year ago

Lydney


"Some do some don't but would you wanna know if they did before hand and what if you know someone does would you wanna inform others ????????"

We always ask

If the answer is yes then we don't meet. With the obvious exception of them barebacking their own partner.

I wouldn't dream of informing others, I'm not going to judge someone for their decisions in the lifestyle... But I will base my choice to play with them upon their decisions.

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield


"I'd just send them an informative link to "antibiotic-resistant strain of gonorrhea has popped up in England, Japan, and Canada, worrying health officials in both the United States and abroad that the sexually transmitted infection is the world's newest “superbug.”

Who cares if you offend a few people criticising BB? You might save their life "

Do you also explain it has been shown the most conventional (and effective) way to transmit gonorrhea is through fellatio, i.e. oral sex!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've only ever had bareback sex once with someone I knew pretty well. I did ask how many partners they had been with in terms of bareback.

We had a frank discussion about it before doing the dirty so to speak."

See used to be the opposite. From the age of 16 into my early thirties i very rarely engaged in safe sex...it was almost always bb, obviously with other people who were happy to not use protection and nothing ever happened, not a problem ever in what..16-18 years or so. I feel that bareback is presented as more dangerous than it actually is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some do some don't but would you wanna know if they did before hand and what if you know someone does would you wanna inform others ????????

We always ask

If the answer is yes then we don't meet. With the obvious exception of them barebacking their own partner.

I wouldn't dream of informing others, I'm not going to judge someone for their decisions in the lifestyle... But I will base my choice to play with them upon their decisions.

"

If someone had had a regular partner within the scene with whom they trusted and had bareback with, but after the relationship they got tested and were clear, would that be an unacceptable situation for you?

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.


"I assume everyone barebacks until proven otherwise and it's of no consequence as I take responsibility for my own sexual health by using condoms and regularly going to the local GUM, it's all you can do "

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By *isalashes888400Couple
over a year ago

ennis

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No and no as others have said we take care of our own sexual health, we play as safe as we are comfortable with (oral without) and get three monthly checks. All sex is a risk.

However in the swinging world there is this little thing called discression... That means you are discrete.... So what you see you keep in your own little head and don't tell others.... Whether that's someone playing bare or someone's husband or wife playing away.... What you see in clubs stays in clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Warn them, oh dear. Tell them you mean.

If the person that person had played with you were there with and wanted to play with you after then yes TELL them as that would be why you wouldn't be playing with them

Is that welsh?"

Hey dont push this one onto us! Clearly english

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By *isalashes888400Couple
over a year ago

ennis

who are we to judge barebackers90 per cent the fotos i see here wit so caled safe people ,there are no condoms on during oral.how manny the safe guys here use dental dams?lol.or women?there is no such ting as safe sex,even wit condoms@dental dams etc.visits to clinic have to be taken too.

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