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By *indmill and weetabix OP   Couple
over a year ago

Kettering

As you can see from our pics I'm not well endowed and I'm also overweight (but loosing it slowly)

Well we attended a small party Friday night and the other two males there well and truly put me to shame.

It really got to me,I started to remember the chants of maggot cock from the school changing rooms and made me feel really bitter that some guys have length some only have girth but I have fuck all to bring to the party so to speak.

I enjoyed the party and the hosts and guests were wonderful. I enjoyed watching louise take the big cocks and really enjoy herself. It's just made me question my self and if I am mentally strong enough to keep swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont sweat it your partner enjoys and loves you and your cock we cant all have big ones but im sure your partner wouldn't swap you for a bigger cock size means fk all its the person I can understand how past experiences can effect your thoughts on this but if you have both enjoyed this lifestyle in the past would your partner miss it talk to her im sure she will reassure you that its you who she wants others is just fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I maybe a rarity, but I don't like big cocks... Or thick ones.... If a profile says VWE and thick, and that is all it is, then I'm not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There will always be somebody bigger and there will always be somebody smaller. Don't sweat it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I maybe a rarity, but I don't like big cocks... Or thick ones.... If a profile says VWE and thick, and that is all it is, then I'm not interested. "

Agree. Not everyone likes VWE, I too am put off by profiles that emphasise this, and I'm sure it's not uncommon.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

You can't do anything about the size of your cock so work hard on your weight if your unhappy about that,hopefully you will then gain some confidence overall.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It really doesn't matter. It's person it's attached to who gets me all hot and bothered. Cock size isn't really a factor.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have lots of great verifications so the people you have met obviously have no complaints.

I personally much prefer meeting a lovely guy who is fun and we can have a laugh with than big cock, you don't need size to be able to give a lot of pleasure to women. Size isn't even on my list when we're looking for people to meet.

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By *indmill and weetabix OP   Couple
over a year ago

Kettering

Thank you all for the support I feel much happier reading these xxx

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By *oughnut and radoxWoman
over a year ago

Ashingdon

I was bullied in school for my weight and was called Debbie doughnut, you are so fat you will die never being loved, no man will want you. About 5 years ago we did a party and one guy loved my curves and told me I was the best fuck ever only to see him downstairs with his wife which was one the girls from school who bullied me. I went up to her and said 'your husband was a great fuck hope he won't be disappointed with you now'. My x husband had a smallish Willie, 5 inches fully hard but he still is my most favourite lover

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By *andomfodCouple
over a year ago

walsall

Ok cock size, our profile actually says no huge cocks please. Not all women can take it and not all women are interested in it. As guys it's one of the areas we might feel inadequate with as we can't change it. Learn to love yourself, that's the key to being happy.

B

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

Hard to tell from your photos, where's the sky remote?

You enjoyed watching your partner having fun with others.

But she went home with you.

Don't focus on your size, you can always go to lovehoney and get a hollow prosthetic if your partners want.

Focus on other things such as oral skills, and just enjoy.

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By *eryCuriousCouple2012Couple
over a year ago

Funville

Can you change its size? Then no point worrying! Besides, it's all relative; to put it in context, would you be happy with it on your face or would it suddenly be massive and noticeable?

The key thing for many people is confidence in WHO you are and not WHAT you have.

There are some things you can change if you're not happy with them and some things you can't. Know the difference and be happy in your own skin.

You have someone who wants you for you so you must be doing something right

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"I was bullied in school for my weight and was called Debbie doughnut, you are so fat you will die never being loved, no man will want you. About 5 years ago we did a party and one guy loved my curves and told me I was the best fuck ever only to see him downstairs with his wife which was one the girls from school who bullied me. I went up to her and said 'your husband was a great fuck hope he won't be disappointed with you now'. My x husband had a smallish Willie, 5 inches fully hard but he still is my most favourite lover"

I bet that felt great didn't it

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village


"As you can see from our pics I'm not well endowed and I'm also overweight (but loosing it slowly)

Well we attended a small party Friday night and the other two males there well and truly put me to shame.

It really got to me,I started to remember the chants of maggot cock from the school changing rooms and made me feel really bitter that some guys have length some only have girth but I have fuck all to bring to the party so to speak.

I enjoyed the party and the hosts and guests were wonderful. I enjoyed watching louise take the big cocks and really enjoy herself. It's just made me question my self and if I am mentally strong enough to keep swinging.

"

Sorry bud but you have nowt to feel embarassed about or question. Size matters to some but not to all. All guys are different down there and personally i wouldn't give a monkeys about another guys size

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By *oughnut and radoxWoman
over a year ago

Ashingdon


"I was bullied in school for my weight and was called Debbie doughnut, you are so fat you will die never being loved, no man will want you. About 5 years ago we did a party and one guy loved my curves and told me I was the best fuck ever only to see him downstairs with his wife which was one the girls from school who bullied me. I went up to her and said 'your husband was a great fuck hope he won't be disappointed with you now'. My x husband had a smallish Willie, 5 inches fully hard but he still is my most favourite lover

I bet that felt great didn't it "
it did actually he even gave me his phone number if want to meet again with out susan knowledge lol

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By *inzi LTV/TS
over a year ago

The Garden of Eden in Beautiful North Wales

This is from a totally different angle to this but.... As a crossdresser I shudder at the size of some willys and I will inform the owner's of such willys that there's no way that's going in there! I'm quite happy to play with them and satisfy them but I just know what I can and can't take.

I have been told on occasions that I have a nice willy but to me it's just a willy, for the first 40 odd years I thought it was small but apparently it's not. Don't get me wrong, it's no whopper... it's just an average willy. I DO believe that what you do with it and how you do it is more important to the length or girth.

Porn has a lot to answer for...

Not everyone is hung like a donkey, if they were it would be boring.

Just chill and enjoy the moment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok cock size, our profile actually says no huge cocks please. Not all women can take it and not all women are interested in it. As guys it's one of the areas we might feel inadequate with as we can't change it. Learn to love yourself, that's the key to being happy.

B"

This, bigger isn't always better!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As you can see from our pics I'm not well endowed and I'm also overweight (but loosing it slowly)

Well we attended a small party Friday night and the other two males there well and truly put me to shame.

It really got to me,I started to remember the chants of maggot cock from the school changing rooms and made me feel really bitter that some guys have length some only have girth but I have fuck all to bring to the party so to speak.

I enjoyed the party and the hosts and guests were wonderful. I enjoyed watching louise take the big cocks and really enjoy herself. It's just made me question my self and if I am mentally strong enough to keep swinging.

"

We all get given different bodies - it's in our genetics. You can't really change the size of your cock (even though internet spam tells you otherwise) so you have a decision to make. 1 - Learn to accept your body, or 2 - compare yourself with everyone who has a bigger cock than you, and feel down and depressed all your life! It's not hard to see what you "should" be doing.

The hard part is learning how to be happy with your body. I know I turn some people off, but I also turn some people on. Just spot concentrate on the people who like you for who you are - you will forever going to get people who reject you, they are just not for you. There's some people out there who like smaller cocks. As an example, lots of ladies are quite shy about anal sex and find deep throating hard/impossible - in these situations being small might be a distinct advantage?

So - You can't really do much about your size and you won't be a size queens cup of tea, but to write yourself off when aurguably you have so much to offer other people would be a big mistake.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone is different and look for all sorts to satisfy their desires .

You won't be everyone's cup of tea , but then again no one is .

You seem to be enjoying the site so carry on having fun and stop worrying

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"I was bullied in school for my weight and was called Debbie doughnut, you are so fat you will die never being loved, no man will want you. About 5 years ago we did a party and one guy loved my curves and told me I was the best fuck ever only to see him downstairs with his wife which was one the girls from school who bullied me. I went up to her and said 'your husband was a great fuck hope he won't be disappointed with you now'. My x husband had a smallish Willie, 5 inches fully hard but he still is my most favourite lover

I bet that felt great didn't it it did actually he even gave me his phone number if want to meet again with out susan knowledge lol"

Revenge is sweet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As you can see from our pics I'm not well endowed and I'm also overweight (but loosing it slowly)

Well we attended a small party Friday night and the other two males there well and truly put me to shame.

It really got to me,I started to remember the chants of maggot cock from the school changing rooms and made me feel really bitter that some guys have length some only have girth but I have fuck all to bring to the party so to speak.

I enjoyed the party and the hosts and guests were wonderful. I enjoyed watching louise take the big cocks and really enjoy herself. It's just made me question my self and if I am mentally strong enough to keep swinging.

"

You look fine to us. Don't worry about size

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Size isn't everything! Most of the bigger guys on here have photo shopped their pics anyway

Amazing to see the 10 inchers that are really only average!

Be greatful for what you have, it's the person inside that counts... not everyone likes a person just for his cock.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well Said !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a great podcast from the Guardian called Close Encounters, with Alix Fox. She did an episode with a chap who was less endowed than average, and it's a really good listen. In fact, all the episodes are brilliant, and she's just done one on polygamy and touches swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

mildred doesn't actually like big cocks as she is very small, my average cock fills her nicely,

you only have one cock don't waste time worrying about it, just spend time using it

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


"I enjoyed the party and the hosts and guests were wonderful. I enjoyed watching louise take the big cocks and really enjoy herself "

That's the only important part of your post, OP. Right there


" and made me feel really bitter that some guys have length some only have girth... "
...whereas you're the one with the amazing wife.

Enjoy OP

Mr ddc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your wife left with you at the end of the night then you are doing something right. Dont sweat it, you made it this far through life and are happily married. Its not the size that matters, its how you use it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Awe

Tbh I'm not a fan of big cocks. I think there is plenty of hours of fun to be had with men who aren't very endowed. I wouldn't worry about it

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My wife is another lady who will not entertain those who claim to have a monster so it's not a problem it's more the personality she goes for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A giant cock scares me! I know it will be painful and therefore I don't meet guys who make a big thing of how enormous they are. The person it's attached to is much more important to me

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By *nMCouple
over a year ago

Solihull


"If your wife left with you at the end of the night then you are doing something right. Dont sweat it, you made it this far through life and are happily married. Its not the size that matters, its how you use it."

To.us that said it all.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Cock size doesn't matter to me either, it's the man it's attached to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as you're both having fun. Who gives a fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was bullied in school for my weight and was called Debbie doughnut, you are so fat you will die never being loved, no man will want you. About 5 years ago we did a party and one guy loved my curves and told me I was the best fuck ever only to see him downstairs with his wife which was one the girls from school who bullied me. I went up to her and said 'your husband was a great fuck hope he won't be disappointed with you now'. My x husband had a smallish Willie, 5 inches fully hard but he still is my most favourite lover"

Revenge can be so deliciously sweet x

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By *mallteaserWoman
over a year ago

Central

Looks just fine to me xxxxx

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

A man is so much more than his cock. People can be so rude and it says much more about them than you. You can lose weight but they'll always be nasty inside.

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By *tuartb1970Man
over a year ago

tunbridge wells


"A man is so much more than his cock. People can be so rude and it says much more about them than you. You can lose weight but they'll always be nasty inside. "

I totally agree it's what's on the inside that counts,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel men kick themselves in the teeth by showing pictures of their cock when it's anything less than perfect. Women won't deviate towards a man who shows pictures of a smaller cock, so there's no point in showing it. However, when it gets as far as playing with a man, many women, including myself, won't really care what their cock is like,as long as the man is a good lover. And it's so many factors than contribute to good sex - skilful fingers, clever talking etc. Focus on what you are good at sexually, and perhaps focus your photos on what your redeeming features are. We all have are better features and less good features, and the cock is just one part of the body. Sadly with the Internet, it's become the be all and end all.

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By *orders2forUCouple
over a year ago

Hawick

PM sent but two things.

A man sees his cock from the shorter perspective and guys in porn are there because they are bigger than average. The norm for a Caucasian male is I believe 5.8"

L2

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cock size doesn't matter to me either, it's the man it's attached to "

Same. I'm not interested in seeing cock pics before meeting. Although, it's a rare guy that doesn't insist on sending them anyway.

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By *ou want itWoman
over a year ago

a town near you

Of course you are ..women love foreplay and teasing and a big build up if you can master that alone belive me your doing better than alot of men it's not about the size of your dick trust me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well it is

A bit disappointing the size thingy I am not blessed too thanx for sharing your story...godbless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not the size of the nail

it's the energy that's put into the hammer that nails in !!!

With your weight .... Try sprinting 100m slow jog (walk) back and repeat

You will have to stick with it but it's by far the cheapest way to lose weight !! Also you could try going to the gym but everything you need is free ... Expect the footwear !

Good luck you big stud!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not the size of the nail

it's the energy that's put into the hammer that nails in !!!

With your weight .... Try sprinting 100m slow jog (walk) back and repeat

You will have to stick with it but it's by far the cheapest way to lose weight !! Also you could try going to the gym but everything you need is free ... Expect the footwear !

Good luck you big stud!"
well it could be worse and have edf too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most stupidest thing I know

Measuring your penis !!!

You've got what you've got and that's all your getting

There's an happy ending !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not the size of the nail

it's the energy that's put into the hammer that nails in !!!

With your weight .... Try sprinting 100m slow jog (walk) back and repeat

You will have to stick with it but it's by far the cheapest way to lose weight !! Also you could try going to the gym but everything you need is free ... Expect the footwear !

Good luck you big stud!well it could be worse and have edf too"

Edf????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not the size of the nail

it's the energy that's put into the hammer that nails in !!!

With your weight .... Try sprinting 100m slow jog (walk) back and repeat

You will have to stick with it but it's by far the cheapest way to lose weight !! Also you could try going to the gym but everything you need is free ... Expect the footwear !

Good luck you big stud!well it could be worse and have edf too

Edf???? "
not the bad makers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not the size of the nail

it's the energy that's put into the hammer that nails in !!!

With your weight .... Try sprinting 100m slow jog (walk) back and repeat

You will have to stick with it but it's by far the cheapest way to lose weight !! Also you could try going to the gym but everything you need is free ... Expect the footwear !

Good luck you big stud!well it could be worse and have edf too

Edf???? "
not the bed makers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't worry loads of guys who are average ? Will think that to have the big size would be better but I wouldn't have my partner if I was much bigger !

And I'd like to think that when we meet we are doing so for us all to have a good time in everything we do with them ? Not just the fact that they are there because of the size of the males cock ? ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having just had a quick look at your profile I see you have verification's (plenty of), going back near 2 years on here

From a quick read through I cannot see where any of them even mentioned your size (weight) or cock size either

All I read were great reviews from great people who you and your wife have shared fun times with

Your wife being the lady who is blatantly happy with you, irrespective of your perceived opinion of your size

Imo...which truly does not count as your wife is obviously blissfully happy with you, your both lucky people to have found each other to share your lives with, doing what you do..enjoy that and try, hard as it may be, to put the negative thoughts where they belong..in the bin bud

Wish you both well and continue the happy fabbing!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having just had a quick look at your profile I see you have verification's (plenty of), going back near 2 years on here

From a quick read through I cannot see where any of them even mentioned your size (weight) or cock size either

All I read were great reviews from great people who you and your wife have shared fun times with

Your wife being the lady who is blatantly happy with you, irrespective of your perceived opinion of your size

Imo...which truly does not count as your wife is obviously blissfully happy with you, your both lucky people to have found each other to share your lives with, doing what you do..enjoy that and try, hard as it may be, to put the negative thoughts where they belong..in the bin bud

Wish you both well and continue the happy fabbing!! "
a big up for the less than 6 club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't stress over size. It seems like massive boobs are the fave on here and I am tiny but I have the view that 'we've got what we've got' so make the most of it and if others don't like it then tough .

You seem like a genuinely nice guy so don't worry about what anyone else may think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being on fab aint gonna make you feel any better. How many profiles,ladies asking etc for a small cock? Exactly.

Why stress about nowt you can change.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I maybe a rarity, but I don't like big cocks... Or thick ones.... If a profile says VWE and thick, and that is all it is, then I'm not interested.

Agree. Not everyone likes VWE, I too am put off by profiles that emphasise this, and I'm sure it's not uncommon."

Add me tp that list. Those monster tallywhackers do nothing for me but hurt xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was bullied in school for my weight and was called Debbie doughnut, you are so fat you will die never being loved, no man will want you. About 5 years ago we did a party and one guy loved my curves and told me I was the best fuck ever only to see him downstairs with his wife which was one the girls from school who bullied me. I went up to her and said 'your husband was a great fuck hope he won't be disappointed with you now'. My x husband had a smallish Willie, 5 inches fully hard but he still is my most favourite lover"

Ooh karma! Love hearing stories like this - good on you!!!

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By *rotiquexxxMan
over a year ago

Unquenchable Desires

You have a wife. Someone to make love to. You're doing better than single guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not big by any stretch of the imagination, and yes after visiting quest over the weekend I too was left feeling a little inadequate but then like several people on here have already said, you have a wife who loves you and your cock, size isn't everything you don't need to be vwe to be an excellent lover, I find its more about being attentive than bull in a China shop

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By *erry bull1Man
over a year ago

doncaster

I wouldn't worry about it to much ,I think its more about the person and not their manhood

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow... Ok where to start.

First, brave. I've got to give you props where it's due, it takes some serious balls to engage in this lifestyle to the level you do, with these insecurities. Always had a lot of respect for the guys who can because I sure as shit can't.

Encountered a guy in a club a number of years ago where we did some same room stuff but he was massively against any swaps. Then I saw why. A literal micro penis. Approximately 1.5" hard. I wish I had half his balls.

That being said, bravery is not always bright. If you have these feelings to the extent you do is giving your wife access to infinitely better equipment really the smartest thing you could be doing? If it's preying on your mind this much maybe you really should be discussing whether it's something you really want. Though good luck with that since the genie is very much out of the lamp now.

I have the same worries you do, maybe the posts in here are convincing to you, if so then great, but personally I know placation when I see it. Every single woman ive ever been with has placated, it's just their normal response. Unfortunately I was cursed with enough perception to see through it. So there's no way in hell I'd let L play fully with some guy who dwarfed me. Not a chance in hell.

I'm average, so on some levels I have less to worry about than you. But ultimately average is small. So it's all the same shit. It's like a wage, being on an average wage might sound alright but in London you are going to be living on smart price beans for that. And in the 21st century, with sexual politics as they are, that's exactly what being average is.

I'd give your choices some serious thought. If you are comfortable with them after long reflection, then go forth and multiply brother. But don't dismiss your gut. It's there to tell you when something is wrong

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Falkirk


"Wow... Ok where to start.

First, brave. I've got to give you props where it's due, it takes some serious balls to engage in this lifestyle to the level you do, with these insecurities. Always had a lot of respect for the guys who can because I sure as shit can't.

Encountered a guy in a club a number of years ago where we did some same room stuff but he was massively against any swaps. Then I saw why. A literal micro penis. Approximately 1.5" hard. I wish I had half his balls.

That being said, bravery is not always bright. If you have these feelings to the extent you do is giving your wife access to infinitely better equipment really the smartest thing you could be doing? If it's preying on your mind this much maybe you really should be discussing whether it's something you really want. Though good luck with that since the genie is very much out of the lamp now.

I have the same worries you do, maybe the posts in here are convincing to you, if so then great, but personally I know placation when I see it. Every single woman ive ever been with has placated, it's just their normal response. Unfortunately I was cursed with enough perception to see through it. So there's no way in hell I'd let L play fully with some guy who dwarfed me. Not a chance in hell.

I'm average, so on some levels I have less to worry about than you. But ultimately average is small. So it's all the same shit. It's like a wage, being on an average wage might sound alright but in London you are going to be living on smart price beans for that. And in the 21st century, with sexual politics as they are, that's exactly what being average is.

I'd give your choices some serious thought. If you are comfortable with them after long reflection, then go forth and multiply brother. But don't dismiss your gut. It's there to tell you when something is wrong "
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I don't think it's up to you to say everyone who's expressed their opinions on here are just trying to make the OP feel better!

Just because someone is bigger it certainly doesn't mean it's better. And the replies on here show that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It shows that that is what they think it's right to say.

Whether it's true or false, well I find behaviour more illuminating than testimony

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By *he Milf ClubCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

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By *oxy502Man
over a year ago

doncaster

I have a very small cock and im very shy because of it

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"Wow... Ok where to start.

So there's no way in hell I'd let L play fully with some guy who dwarfed me. Not a chance in hell.

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over a year ago


"I have a very small cock and im very shy because of it5"
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over a year ago


"Wow... Ok where to start.

First, brave. I've got to give you props where it's due, it takes some serious balls to engage in this lifestyle to the level you do, with these insecurities. Always had a lot of respect for the guys who can because I sure as shit can't.

Encountered a guy in a club a number of years ago where we did some same room stuff but he was massively against any swaps. Then I saw why. A literal micro penis. Approximately 1.5" hard. I wish I had half his balls.

That being said, bravery is not always bright. If you have these feelings to the extent you do is giving your wife access to infinitely better equipment really the smartest thing you could be doing? If it's preying on your mind this much maybe you really should be discussing whether it's something you really want. Though good luck with that since the genie is very much out of the lamp now.

I have the same worries you do, maybe the posts in here are convincing to you, if so then great, but personally I know placation when I see it. Every single woman ive ever been with has placated, it's just their normal response. Unfortunately I was cursed with enough perception to see through it. So there's no way in hell I'd let L play fully with some guy who dwarfed me. Not a chance in hell.

I'm average, so on some levels I have less to worry about than you. But ultimately average is small. So it's all the same shit. It's like a wage, being on an average wage might sound alright but in London you are going to be living on smart price beans for that. And in the 21st century, with sexual politics as they are, that's exactly what being average is.

I'd give your choices some serious thought. If you are comfortable with them after long reflection, then go forth and multiply brother. But don't dismiss your gut. It's there to tell you when something is wrong "

I have never liked big cocks.

My partner looks on here for big cocks for me, he LOVES seeing a huge cock fuck me, and finds it a massive turn on. He gets disappointed when I say no, too big for me.

The fact you won't let your partner have anything bigger than you says more about your insecurities than anything else, and shows a lack of trust in your relationship if you think she'll find you less attractive because someone else is bigger. I'm sure she's well aware bigger ones exist out there

Of course a lot of women like big ones too, but not all, and to say we are all lying to placate someone is insulting.

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I have never liked big cocks.

My partner looks on here for big cocks for me, he LOVES seeing a huge cock fuck me, and finds it a massive turn on. He gets disappointed when I say no, too big for me.

The fact you won't let your partner have anything bigger than you says more about your insecurities than anything else, and shows a lack of trust in your relationship if you think she'll find you less attractive because someone else is bigger. I'm sure she's well aware bigger ones exist out there

Of course a lot of women like big ones too, but not all, and to say we are all lying to placate someone is insulting.

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Some men are into that sort of thing, thats fair enough if they are. But this guy sounds very much like he's not. Not here to condemn anyone who likes to play that way. If it turns you on then go for it. But from the way OP has described it this is doing his mood a whole lot of harm and he needs to consider that fact carefully.

As for our restrictions on larger units, yes, it absolutely says a lot about my insecurities, did you actually read the post? Where i made it plain that it relates to my insecurities. Just because something is an insecurity doesnt mean its inaccurate.

A lack of trust? Not exactly. I have no particular doubts about her leaving me if she had access to a larger unit. I dont for a second think she would leave and as you say its not like she hasnt had bigger in the past.

But whether she leaves or stays is a moot point. We have a D/S element to our sexual play which would be completely negated by a larger unit being brought into play. It would detract from our own experiences and fundamentally change the nature of it in a way that neither of us would want.

Its also further moot since she has never expressed any desire to have a larger unit and consequently i have never needed to actively deny her this; her internal thought processes on this are her own. Whether this is because she genuinely doesnt want them or because she knows expressing that desire would be detrimental only she will know. But ultimately that goes to the same point being discussed here. Truth or placation. She takes much the same position on the matter as many posters have in this thread. We agree to disagree on the matter.

Im sorry if you find it insulting that someone doesnt chose words over actions when assessing truth. But it will remain my primary method of investigation.

It is an unfortunate necessity if you are to understand human nature as people in general are rarely fully honest. Especially in cases where they feel that dishonesty is for the greater good. Which perhaps it is, overall, if it works.

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