FabSwingers.com forum: verifying meets

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

we have been trying to meet with a few girls even got as far as arranging dates and the like but when we ask for a verification picture the conversation dies. we always send ours out as we feel its better to be safe then sorry would you take the accounts as fake or do you think its offensive to be asked to verify yourself?

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By *andomfodCouple
over a year ago

walsall

I assume the account disappears too? We get plenty of "women" message who all of a sudden disappear after a day, hence now having blocked unverified profiles.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

no the profiles are still there just stop replying. one "girl" took real offence to it last night so looked at her profile and she had a verification 3 years ago but nothing since which i found strange

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they are real they won't be offended.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

I wouldn't be offended at someone asking me to verify myself, but considering I've got full pics viable and recent meets verifications, I wouldn't quite understand why they'd want me to. I don't give out my phone number (due to previous bad stalker type experiences) but if someone wants a phone chat I will say give me your number and then I ring them with 141 on the front of the phone number so My number can remain anonymous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all know about fake profiles so any one should be happy to show that there verification are real and shouldn't take offence

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By *eal Deal PartiesWoman
over a year ago

Unfortunately there are plenty of fake account on fab... We all have to be careful and do the right thing when u think u have found one.. Just simple report to admin.. Let them deal with it.. And the block!! It's very frustrating I kno

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

thats what i thought just seems to be that if you show only verified accounts that the selection of accounts is minimal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to a club meet real people not need for photos

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

we are planning to go to clubs soon but just so busy we haven't had the time to go yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

U can change yr account settings to verified accounts only

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

Clubs will solve this one, but the verified person is usually a known safe pair of hands. We arranged something with someone non-verified for today and as soon as the arrangements were made, the person went very quiet and now UNLOS which can be a frustration. Good luck anyway

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

that sucks had that happen 5 or 6 times. i know that clubs are the best way to meet just frustrating with the lack of time available to us

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

"that sucks had that happen 5 or 6 times. i know that clubs are the best way to meet just frustrating with the lack of time available to us "
well you're relatively new on here so will all come good in the end, have fun x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

True hope your right looking for a meet next saturday but if not we will got to abfabs i think

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

"True hope your right looking for a meet next saturday but if not we will got to abfabs i think"

We have 2 meets arranged end of month, 1 club and 1 private party but people known to us

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sounds good have fun hope all goes well

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

luton

Just use site to make contact and plan meets at a club .so if they are fake and a no show I'm sure you will bump into people you like at club

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thats an idea for sure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Clubs will solve this one, but the verified person is usually a known safe pair of hands. We arranged something with someone non-verified for today and as soon as the arrangements were made, the person went very quiet and now UNLOS which can be a frustration. Good luck anyway"

Bloody fool turning you down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we have been trying to meet with a few girls even got as far as arranging dates and the like but when we ask for a verification picture the conversation dies. we always send ours out as we feel its better to be safe then sorry would you take the accounts as fake or do you think its offensive to be asked to verify yourself?"

What's a verification picture? I'm meet verified and picture verified but that's for the site owners to see only. If someone asked to see it I'd say no.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thats fine as you have been verified by the site but "women" that have no verifications we would expect to see a verification in the same way the site does or at least a view on webcam dont want to turn up to meet a woman and its actually a man

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Normally no-one is going to send out their face veri picture. The recipient could use it to set up a fake account.

You might actually be scaring people off with your pics. Some people show face pics in public but it is unusual. They are often on profiles that quickly disappear.

Remember you aren't meet verified yourself. Demanding others to jump through hoops might not be appreciated

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

True that is a fair point. We would never ask for something that we wouldnt do our selves but thats not to say that its not for every1 maybe seeing some1 on cam via skype is a better option?

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Go to a club, get verified, things will quickly change.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

thats the plan for the 17th just gotta decide which club is the best for our needs

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

What exactly is this veri pic you ask them to send?

The pic an account sends to admin to get a flag? Or a can you send me a pic of you holding a fork kinda thing?

I personally would do neither, but I have loads of veris and I don't jump hoops for anyone.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

again you are verified BY THE SITE this is relating to non verified members. anything to verify that the person is who they say they are and not imitating someone else.

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By *axandbooCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

as a small bit of advice if i may?

going to single women will seriously reduce your chances on here.

have you thought about couples with a bi woman on a ladies play basis then play with their own partners or soft swap?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

but thats not what we want atm so yeah we know our pool of people is small but we want what we want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure what you mean by asking for a verification picture, do you mean you are asking them to become photo verified or are you asking them to send you a picture holding today's paper? XXX

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

are you asking for their veris to be on show?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We are asking for non veris to either verify themselves with the site or us either one will do even it is just a 20 sec skype call

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By *oderndaylivesCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

"as a small bit of advice if i may?

going to single women will seriously reduce your chances on here.

have you thought about couples with a bi woman on a ladies play basis then play with their own partners or soft swap? "

Good advice here. Remember, single fems are in massive demand, and often it only takes a small thing to put them off, ie if they feel like they are auditioning to meet you. I wouldn't waste time on anyone who hasn't been green ticked, or at least send them a holding message until they are. What's your reason for not meeting couples? Is it that you are here only for the mff fantasy, or is it because you aren't happy with the idea of her being with another man?

Clubs wise, try Our Place For Fun, which wont break the bank and seems friendly for first timers.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The reason we are looking for single females is the fact that emma(f) likes playing with women but ashley(m) doesnt play with men and we both want to play had a threesome last week which was great now want more

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By *oderndaylivesCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

"The reason we are looking for single females is the fact that emma(f) likes playing with women but ashley(m) doesnt play with men and we both want to play had a threesome last week which was great now want more"

Most swinging couples are straight male/ bi female, and those who are bi male usually play straight unless with another bi male and mutual attraction (as we do). It can be a bit difficult for men to get used to performing in front of other men, but this doesn't mean the blokes interact sexually, just not get freaked out if you accidentally bump nasties

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are asking for non veris to either verify themselves with the site or us either one will do even it is just a 20 sec skype call"

Sounds good - I replied privately to your post, pressed the wrong button and couldn't be bothered to re-type it. I hope that was ok; at least it gave me an opportunity to introduce myself.

I think those elusive 'genuine' single females are pretty hard for all of us to find. Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

As we get more envolved in swinging we plan to move in too couples but our preference is single females for now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are asking for non veris to either verify themselves with the site or us either one will do even it is just a 20 sec skype call"

Probably better to stick to one's who are already verified in some way, you are going to come up against a lot of fakes otherwise. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah think ive messaged every single verified member thats active or at least it feels like it.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Well, that tells its own story yes?

Get verified asap. Only the fakes will redpond otherwise.

I'd also put on some other pics on too, those could look like stolen / ex gf pics.

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

"that sucks had that happen 5 or 6 times. i know that clubs are the best way to meet just frustrating with the lack of time available to us "

Maybe I have missed something.

If the profile doesn't have public photos ask for it sooner. ... that way you are not investing so much time in the dynamics of date and place

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well, that tells its own story yes?

Get verified asap. Only the fakes will redpond otherwise.

I'd also put on some other pics on too, those could look like stolen / ex gf pics."

we are pic verified so people should know we are real but we are going clubs soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No pictures no meets simples x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"that sucks had that happen 5 or 6 times. i know that clubs are the best way to meet just frustrating with the lack of time available to us

Maybe I have missed something.

If the profile doesn't have public photos ask for it sooner. ... that way you are not investing so much time in the dynamics of date and place

we are talking about verifcation not pictures anyone can put pictures on a profile but to verify pictures with the site you need to fulfil certain criteria

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

"that sucks had that happen 5 or 6 times. i know that clubs are the best way to meet just frustrating with the lack of time available to us

Maybe I have missed something.

If the profile doesn't have public photos ask for it sooner. ... that way you are not investing so much time in the dynamics of date and place

we are talking about verifcation not pictures anyone can put pictures on a profile but to verify pictures with the site you need to fulfil certain criteria "

Then why not just message those profiles that have a flag and ignore those that don't.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"that sucks had that happen 5 or 6 times. i know that clubs are the best way to meet just frustrating with the lack of time available to us

Maybe I have missed something.

If the profile doesn't have public photos ask for it sooner. ... that way you are not investing so much time in the dynamics of date and place

we are talking about verifcation not pictures anyone can put pictures on a profile but to verify pictures with the site you need to fulfil certain criteria "

Tbh I know someone that faked photo verification he was male and got verified as a female. I'd called bull shot so he did it on our meet to prove it and hi met all the criteria to be approved but was still a man so it means frig all to me now

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"If they are real they won't be offended."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do what we do

Insist on FaceTime or Skype. When people don't follow it up they are likely to be a fella

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are more likely to meet genuine females after you have got a meet verification. You could do that by going to a social or meeting in a club. Just a suggestion but if you put yourself in the shoes of a single female she will also want to know you are genuine and have met people before. We insist on a phone call to verify and this s out fakes very quickly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You are more likely to meet genuine females after you have got a meet verification. You could do that by going to a social or meeting in a club. Just a suggestion but if you put yourself in the shoes of a single female she will also want to know you are genuine and have met people before. We insist on a phone call to verify and this s out fakes very quickly."

the amount of messages and arranged meets I've had from talking to couples that were only photo verified for the meet to then change to "female no longer available will you meet me solo" has been huge. So now I only meet if a recent meet verification with the couple is displayed and at least a FaceTime or chat room video verification is done with the couple to confirm the meet is with all

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

thanks for the feedback guys we will have to be more selective then we already are and will get a visual verification asap

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago

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By *bsolute LibertinesCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Some people are completely genuine but prefer to have a higher degree of privacy...the fact that there is a lot of discussion about fake people on here should show one of the reasons why...these things work in more than one way and there is no simple answer or right way to do anything, other than that which feels right for you.

Good luck I am sure all will work out

Ray

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

wish every 1 was genuine but unfortunately not

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago

it's usually 1 of 2 - fakers who simply cannot clear the hurdles that genuine's can OR people expect to see you then refuse to show themselves for some 'our discretion is more important than yours' reason.

Either way its a hmmm moment. Hmmm's from are always good for gut feel and turn offs. After all if it's like that behind the keyboard it doesn't say much for what it would be like in person

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

The one simple rule I live my is "if it seems too good to be true it probably is" it's never steered me wrong yet as I've never encountered a time waster/no show yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm meet verified via fab but not photo verified via fab as I just don't see the point of it and feel it could easily be faked.

If you were to have messaged me when I was single I wouldn't have replied let alone met you as youre not meet verified so could in essence be fake yourselves. I certainly wouldn't have fulfilled your request for visual verification as my several meet verifications (when on show) should prove I'm real and it's unlikely I could obtain that many fake meet verifications and since I could have had my pick of couples too meet then I'd have just moved on to a less complicated couple.

I hope you take this as constructive and not a slight on you personally x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm meet verified via fab but not photo verified via fab as I just don't see the point of it and feel it could easily be faked.

I hope you take this as constructive and not a slight on you personally x

not at all the whole reason i started the thread was because i wanted to see what peoples thoughts where. we would happily skype with anyone to verify who we are just wondered why girls find it offensive to expect the same. i no that as we have no meets we are at a disadvantage but hopefully we can fix that soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm meet verified via fab but not photo verified via fab as I just don't see the point of it and feel it could easily be faked.

I hope you take this as constructive and not a slight on you personally x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find that people ask for your pic after u exchange a good few messages so u send yours ask if they can do same they don't then go quiet u look at their profile only to find u r blocked u then think God am I hideous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unfortunately there are plenty of fake account on fab... We all have to be careful and do the right thing when u think u have found one.. Just simple report to admin.. Let them deal with it.. And the block!! It's very frustrating I kno

Good luck"

You would report someone for not sending you a photo?

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By *icpl81Couple
over a year ago

hednesford

"Yeah think ive messaged every single verified member thats active or at least it feels like it."

Not choosy then? Maybe this is the problem? Single female, any female is going to come across in a message like you want them for a play thing for your pleasure- thou I'm sure some will love the idea

Hope you find what your looking for.

Good luck xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You look like a very nice couple but I have to be honest with you, there are not that many Bi females that want to meet couples on here. The problem is a, lot of couples are only interested in what they want the female to do for them, a bit like a free sex toy. They give genuine couples like yourselves who are interested in mutual fun, a bad name I am afraid. You are looking for what the site describes as "a unicorn" Definitely get meet verified, could you do Cam? Tweak your profile a little to spell out a bit more what you are looking for in FFM meet. Good luck to you, I hope you have lots of fun XXX

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yeah think ive messaged every single verified member thats active or at least it feels like it.

Not choosy then? Maybe this is the problem? Single female, any female is going to come across in a message like you want them for a play thing for your pleasure- thou I'm sure some will love the idea

Hope you find what your looking for.

Good luck xx"

was more of a throw away jokey comment but being a couple we have defiantly lowered our expectations. we know finding the perfect girl is not going to be easy but it will be worth it in the end.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You look like a very nice couple but I have to be honest with you, there are not that many Bi females that want to meet couples on here. The problem is a, lot of couples are only interested in what they want the female to do for them, a bit like a free sex toy. They give genuine couples like yourselves who are interested in mutual fun, a bad name I am afraid. You are looking for what the site describes as "a unicorn" Definitely get meet verified, could you do Cam? Tweak your profile a little to spell out a bit more what you are looking for in FFM meet. Good luck to you, I hope you have lots of fun XXX"

we are constantly tweaking our profile hoping to get it right. we can do cam. still deciding which club to go to got it down to 3, eureka abfabs and la boudoir. gonna go 17th of september hopefully some 1 can verify us there

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Yeah think ive messaged every single verified member thats active or at least it feels like it.

Not choosy then? Maybe this is the problem? Single female, any female is going to come across in a message like you want them for a play thing for your pleasure- thou I'm sure some will love the idea

Hope you find what your looking for.

Good luck xx

was more of a throw away jokey comment but being a couple we have defiantly lowered our expectations. we know finding the perfect girl is not going to be easy but it will be worth it in the end. "

The "perfect" girl doesn't exist as none of us are perfect

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"Yeah think ive messaged every single verified member thats active or at least it feels like it.

Not choosy then? Maybe this is the problem? Single female, any female is going to come across in a message like you want them for a play thing for your pleasure- thou I'm sure some will love the idea

Hope you find what your looking for.

Good luck xx

was more of a throw away jokey comment but being a couple we have defiantly lowered our expectations. we know finding the perfect girl is not going to be easy but it will be worth it in the end.

The "perfect" girl doesn't exist as none of us are perfect "

does anyone feel like they are being 'hunted'?

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By *emplarWarriorMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

If your that hung up about getting a veri then send me a time youll be in the chat rooms on cam together and ill say hi and veri you both, and im sure many others will to.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

not hung up about getting verified this has all got a bit out of hand. it was more about what people do with unverified people they talk to on here but we defiantly have some food for thought about our approach in what we are looking for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Íts hard to get a true meet on here .all chats then the block follows . To many fakes on here. I.am a true person for meets.thinking of leaving here.

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By *emplarWarriorMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Íts hard to get a true meet on here .all chats then the block follows . To many fakes on here. I.am a true person for meets.thinking of leaving here."

No its not, its actually quite easy.

You just need to put the effort in, do as 100000 woman have stated on numourous "why cant I get a meet" threads, and thats stand out, go to socials, visit clubs, sort your profile out and quit sounding like a bitch on threads.

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

"that sucks had that happen 5 or 6 times. i know that clubs are the best way to meet just frustrating with the lack of time available to us

Maybe I have missed something.

If the profile doesn't have public photos ask for it sooner. ... that way you are not investing so much time in the dynamics of date and place

we are talking about verifcation not pictures anyone can put pictures on a profile but to verify pictures with the site you need to fulfil certain criteria "

There was a big push on it I remember when I did it but tbh I think you just have to go about things a different way. .

There must be people verified with pics who aren't photo verified. ... are you going to pass them by on that one criteria?

Obviously we all set our own selection "rules" but are you being harsh and losing out maybe?

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

"Íts hard to get a true meet on here .all chats then the block follows . To many fakes on here. I.am a true person for meets.thinking of leaving here."

As your profile is hidden atm I would assume that you weren't looking and move on to the next profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both Bev and I both hate having pics taken, well of face anyway as we dont consider ourselves photogenic, we are not mutants by any means lol but just hate face pics, however we are genuine as our veris show, problem is we find people who are anal about having face pics usually want demi god look alikes and normal people are not good enough, only our opinion

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By *iverpool 2Couple
over a year ago

Liverpool

A lot of people don't like to send their face pictures if you yourself are not verified. As you're newbies it can be difficult at first to get verified which we totally understand.

We don't tend to send our face pictures straight away to people incase they're fake. Theirs so many fakes on this site

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