FabSwingers.com forum: Getting worried and depressed

By *ojo1964 OP Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

I've been on FAB over 6 years. I've even got verifications published. I've not meet anyone in the last 2 and a half years.

My profile is witty and funny and when I write to someone I make it light, funny and honest. I tell people that I suffer from Cerebral Palsy, explain that everything works.

I've been round the block a few times and I know how this game works. I also worked in full time employment for 27 years, until recently.

But when I do write I'm finding that I just get deleted, which is fine, I can handle that but what hurts the most I get blocked, I'm not a stalker or a weirdo.

Can I ask are people on here that prejudiced on FAB, or should I take no notice and just carry on? Or should just give up and leave the site? Any advice please. Thank you.

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

Dont let fab depress you mate.. this is not the be all of life.. life is better out of fab and more real..

Chin up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people just block cause there not interested, don't take it to heart. If your not enjoying fab maybe take a step back from it.

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By *umpleteazerWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

Most just block to stop you coming up in searches if they are not interested. Just look at it as it saves you the bother of contacting them again. Don't let a stranger blocking you get you down

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown

Maybe a wee break is in order if you are feeling like this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many ladies I know block when they are not interested, it doesn't mean they think you are a stalker or a weirdo. Just stops you coming up on each others searches again and saves time and effort on both sides. While the block button probably was invented as a way to stop stalkers and weirdos, please don't forget people use it in different ways x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try putting up more pics. One photobooth pic is slim pickings.

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By *itzhallMan
over a year ago

birchington

It's not you mate.... it happens to most guys here at some point.... you've met people in the past and you'll meet people in the future.... don't let the present get you down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been on FAB over 6 years. I've even got verifications published. I've not meet anyone in the last 2 and a half years.

My profile is witty and funny and when I write to someone I make it light, funny and honest. I tell people that I suffer from Cerebral Palsy, explain that everything works.

I've been round the block a few times and I know how this game works. I also worked in full time employment for 27 years, until recently.

But when I do write I'm finding that I just get deleted, which is fine, I can handle that but what hurts the most I get blocked, I'm not a stalker or a weirdo.

Can I ask are people on here that prejudiced on FAB, or should I take no notice and just carry on? Or should just give up and leave the site? Any advice please. Thank you.

Dont let it get you down mate. I regularly block people im not interested in so they dont come up in my searches.

I will agree your profiles quite funny try putting some more pics up. Although being absent minded you may have to return to this post to remind yourself what you were doing while absentlt staring at your camera

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happens all the time , leave it few weeks go down pub forget about it try agin later half meets are just being in right place at right time

Try wider search locals tend to ignore you after a while

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been on FAB over 6 years. I've even got verifications published. I've not meet anyone in the last 2 and a half years.

My profile is witty and funny and when I write to someone I make it light, funny and honest. I tell people that I suffer from Cerebral Palsy, explain that everything works.

I've been round the block a few times and I know how this game works. I also worked in full time employment for 27 years, until recently.

But when I do write I'm finding that I just get deleted, which is fine, I can handle that but what hurts the most I get blocked, I'm not a stalker or a weirdo.

Can I ask are people on here that prejudiced on FAB, or should I take no notice and just carry on? Or should just give up and leave the site? Any advice please. Thank you.

Please don't take fab personally, it's not real life and definitely not worth getting depressed over. Take it with a pinch of salt. People block people so they don't message again. Try plenty of fish or another site, this site is male top heavy too. Please don't take it too seriously xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been on FAB over 6 years. I've even got verifications published. I've not meet anyone in the last 2 and a half years.

My profile is witty and funny and when I write to someone I make it light, funny and honest. I tell people that I suffer from Cerebral Palsy, explain that everything works.

I've been round the block a few times and I know how this game works. I also worked in full time employment for 27 years, until recently.

But when I do write I'm finding that I just get deleted, which is fine, I can handle that but what hurts the most I get blocked, I'm not a stalker or a weirdo.

Can I ask are people on here that prejudiced on FAB, or should I take no notice and just carry on? Or should just give up and leave the site? Any advice please. Thank you.

Funny thing is, l have more women blocked. Haha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

wish i had a quid for everybody who posts on here they get deleted and blocked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its a great profile! Get more pics, but preferably not cock out ones! Look at other profiles for ideas then ignore the cock out ones

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

The second it starts to impact your health, step away

Get yourself better and determine why it impacted you and decide then if it is for you

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't take fab too serious. Try the real world, you have a better chance to meet someone who will understand you in the real world than here. I guess some of the people blocking you are people you wouldn't even look at or want to know in the real world.

Before you get too depressed look at the man to women ratio on fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

prejudice against disabled people? no, i doubt that at all, never heard anyone say disabled people shouldn't be on here.

this place isn't somewhere that you can gain self esteem, for females or males (especially not males probably).

it's a place where people wanna have the least problems possible, the easiest good sex they can get. it's where people come to escape.

if that means blocking people they have no interest in then they will do that.

never presume you've done anything wrong because this place is a place where people are self centred and make the site work for themselves, they aren't here to pity others or please them, they're here for their own selfish reasons and everyone interacting with them (or trying to) need to realise this.

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By *ncutgemMan
over a year ago

Bath ish

welcome to life after 50

if you can call it life

for some reason 50 is seen as the age where men die or become useless at best

think of uncle pete he had his seventyth birthday at chams Some of us still have it and still have along way to go but its not easy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People might be afraid and ignorant about what cerebral palsy is and what it's effects on you are......go to a swingers gets club ...socialuse and let people see you have got a personality .....m x

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By *aGaGagging for itCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Don't try and rationalise others people's thoughts and actions. Only rationalise your own. Trying to rationalise the thoughts and actions of others suggests an inability to cope with life.

Rejection is a part of being on here (especially for single men). If you can't handle rejection swinging is probably not for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone who I have no interest in writes to me...I too often block. It saves us both time and avoids other wasted messages in future.

It's nothing personal. It's just tidy! I've even had a few folks do this to me. Don't worry or over analyse it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The swing scene is supposed to be fun. Fab is sop posed to be fun. If it no longer provides that fun, then don't use it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been on FAB over 6 years. I've even got verifications published. I've not meet anyone in the last 2 and a half years.

My profile is witty and funny and when I write to someone I make it light, funny and honest. I tell people that I suffer from Cerebral Palsy, explain that everything works.

I've been round the block a few times and I know how this game works. I also worked in full time employment for 27 years, until recently.

But when I do write I'm finding that I just get deleted, which is fine, I can handle that but what hurts the most I get blocked, I'm not a stalker or a weirdo.

Can I ask are people on here that prejudiced on FAB, or should I take no notice and just carry on? Or should just give up and leave the site? Any advice please. Thank you.

In our _iew we are on here for fun with people we are attracted to and would presume that to be true for most, dont want to hear about peoples life story not via a message anyway, maybe if we become friends then you become interested in them, but to but all that in a message before a meet would be a delete from us.

If we are not interested in playing with someone we also then block just to avoid seeing same profiles nothing more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do the club thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also having negative status is a massive nope....just saying x

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Hi op,

Your pic is 6 years old,that may put some off.

Maybe take some recent pics,face or body .

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been on FAB over 6 years. I've even got verifications published. I've not meet anyone in the last 2 and a half years.

My profile is witty and funny and when I write to someone I make it light, funny and honest. I tell people that I suffer from Cerebral Palsy, explain that everything works.

I've been round the block a few times and I know how this game works. I also worked in full time employment for 27 years, until recently.

But when I do write I'm finding that I just get deleted, which is fine, I can handle that but what hurts the most I get blocked, I'm not a stalker or a weirdo.

Can I ask are people on here that prejudiced on FAB, or should I take no notice and just carry on? Or should just give up and leave the site? Any advice please. Thank you.

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We remember you from when we were last here may be time for a makeover new pics etc good luck op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I block. If I get mail from folk I'm not interested in, I block. Not because I think they're stalkers or weirdos, but because it saves getting another message in a week/fortnight, off the same guy again. It''s not personal it''s just using the site tools.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

Pop some more up-to-date pics up that may help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pop some more up-to-date pics up that may help"

This. 6 yr old profile photo!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I block when people message me everytime I change my avatar, not noticing that I'm the same person they messaged before and got a no from. It saves them the time and me the aggro.

It's got nothing to do with whether I think they are weird or a stalker.....now the weird stalkers I just shoot

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depression is a horrific debilitating mental illness so if you're suffering from that because of Fab I'd remove yourself from the site ASAP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Also having negative status is a massive nope....just saying x"

I block local folk with whiny or annoying status' so they don't appear in my updates page

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get off social media, and get some real life in your life for a while. Might help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would take a little break. Come off al together. Things happen when you're not looking xx

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Women are just choosing who they want fun with. Personally if I found someone attractive the disability would not stop me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's been lots in the press recently about how social media affects self esteem. We get into a cycle of judging ourselves against others outwardly shiny lives. Add to that the blunting affect that porn can have and it's easy to see how blokes on here get disillusioned with things.

It's a tough environment for blokes, but if you can accept that then carry on. Lots of guys bail out and moan about it. Everyone gets different things out of Fab. If it's not giving you what you want then it's not worth it.

Woah, I almost got deep there!!

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

Why do guys/gals think it's nice to publish they've "been around the block a few times"?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do guys/gals think it's nice to publish they've "been around the block a few times"?"

Surely they can say what they want about themselves? Some might find it crass, others wouldn't care.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

It's fab, it's not exactly primal instinct, but it is the rejection factory.

For single guys I guess this is far more exaggerated.

If it's making you worry I'd think about having a time out and so you not putting yourself through the mill.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm blind and I get the same sometimes even been accused of making it up to get blokes to feel sorry for me I don't want sympathy just want to be treated normal fed up of being told I'm disabled and shouldn't be on here

Tbh I have more on my block list than my friends it's that bad

Why should I put up with the abuse after all its only my eyes that don't work and it's took me this long to adapt so stop the abuse if you don't like me dont message me simples

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"I've been on FAB over 6 years. I've even got verifications published. I've not meet anyone in the last 2 and a half years.

My profile is witty and funny and when I write to someone I make it light, funny and honest. I tell people that I suffer from Cerebral Palsy, explain that everything works.

I've been round the block a few times and I know how this game works. I also worked in full time employment for 27 years, until recently.

But when I do write I'm finding that I just get deleted, which is fine, I can handle that but what hurts the most I get blocked, I'm not a stalker or a weirdo.

Can I ask are people on here that prejudiced on FAB, or should I take no notice and just carry on? Or should just give up and leave the site? Any advice please. Thank you.

1) 9 and 10 are comedy gold!

2) I would probably delete "Looks and size are unimportant at all." It may be true for you but I wouldn't say it!

3) I had a hot fling with a woman with CP. We're just friends now but I live in hope...

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By *ishopstippleMan
over a year ago

Purley

"It's not you mate.... it happens to most guys here at some point.... you've met people in the past and you'll meet people in the future.... don't let the present get you down "

Wot he said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm blind and I get the same sometimes even been accused of making it up to get blokes to feel sorry for me I don't want sympathy just want to be treated normal fed up of being told I'm disabled and shouldn't be on here

Tbh I have more on my block list than my friends it's that bad

Why should I put up with the abuse after all its only my eyes that don't work and it's took me this long to adapt so stop the abuse if you don't like me dont message me simples "
you are who you are and ied be happy to meet you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP - if Fab is making you depressed then you probably need a break from it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we get a thanks but no thanks from someone we politely say a thank you for replying, happy fabbing and that we're going to block them so we don't approach them again. I have a head like a sieve for forgetting who we've chatted to for a single/two messages back and forth. Just saves us feeling like we're mistakenly badgering people.

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

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"I've been on FAB over 6 years. I've even got verifications published. I've not meet anyone in the last 2 and a half years.

My profile is witty and funny and when I write to someone I make it light, funny and honest. I tell people that I suffer from Cerebral Palsy, explain that everything works.

I've been round the block a few times and I know how this game works. I also worked in full time employment for 27 years, until recently.

But when I do write I'm finding that I just get deleted, which is fine, I can handle that but what hurts the most I get blocked, I'm not a stalker or a weirdo.

Can I ask are people on here that prejudiced on FAB, or should I take no notice and just carry on? Or should just give up and leave the site? Any advice please. Thank you.

1) 9 and 10 are comedy gold!

2) I would probably delete "Looks and size are unimportant at all." It may be true for you but I wouldn't say it!

3) I had a hot fling with a woman with CP. We're just friends now but I live in hope...

Yeah, I'd agree with (2). It just comes across as though you'll fuck anything. It may put some ladies off.

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By *ojo1964 OP Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

Tbh I have more on my block list than my friends it's that bad

Why should I put up with the abuse after all its only my eyes that don't work and it's took me this long to adapt so stop the abuse if you don't like me dont message me simples "

About 12 months we were going to meet, and still would like to, but something happened and we never did meet.

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By *ojo1964 OP Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

I want to thank every one whose has contributed. Some things I agree and others I may not.

I've edited part of my profile as suggested and new profile will be uploaded by Tuesday night, I may even take a month off too.

Thank You

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck sake fella, if you're taking this place that seriously you need to get off it for a while.

Sorry to be blunt but there's a big wide world out there. Enjoy it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck in whatever you do but to reiterate what others have said here I agree that Fab shouls only an enhancement or an add on to real life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If something that's meant to be fun is making you worried & depressed then stop doing it.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

As everyone else said don't take it seriously.

And as for blocking don't take that personally. I block guys that I say no to as too many of them come back.

It's a habit not a reflection on the men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a sex site....it's not real life....if your not getting what you want from it move on or just enjoy the forums x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a sex site....it's not real life....if your not getting what you want from it move on or just enjoy the forums x"

It's certainly not a site to take seriously.

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By *ojo1964 OP Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

Not going to "Name and Shame", but got up this morning with a message, "Just give and leave". This is some of the responses I've had. Even though I'm having a bad time, I know what to do next.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not going to "Name and Shame", but got up this morning with a message, "Just give and leave". This is some of the responses I've had. Even though I'm having a bad time, I know what to do next. "

Do whatever you want to do.. .it's your life....don't take words of a random that means fuck all....your a grown man... make your own decisions and take this site with a pinch of salt x

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"I want to thank every one whose has contributed. Some things I agree and others I may not.

I've edited part of my profile as suggested and new profile will be uploaded by Tuesday night, I may even take a month off too.

Thank You "

Oh I can DEFINITELY recommend taking breaks. I've already had a few over my short swinging "career". Recharge, rethink, return. Happy swinging, mate!

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Take a break if it's too much as the "woe is me" approach is a massive turn off for many

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most just block to stop you coming up in searches if they are not interested. Just look at it as it saves you the bother of contacting them again. Don't let a stranger blocking you get you down"

Yes, exactly this. Don't take it personally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We block if we aren't interested and have had more than one email from one guy. Mrs tends to attempt to reply to all messages but sometimes it's easier just delete and blocking if it's the 2nd, 3rd or 4th time we've heard first messages from men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Taking a break is very good advice. I've done it twice and my profile is currently hidden.

Another option you could consider.

Saying harsh things isn't going to help at all people. You'd be better off not commenting.

Implying he should grow up isn't helpful to someone who's struggling.

He needs positivity not further criticism.

Try and ignore the unhelpful replies. Take more photos and have a break.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have same disability as you. I have met some great guys and then some that block you at the very mention that I have a disability.

It hard... knock backs to not damage you confidence. You just have to be resilient. There are people here in the same boat

Good luck with FAB

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By *ojo1964 OP Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

As promised a new profile picture is now LIVE.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been on FAB over 6 years. I've even got verifications published. I've not meet anyone in the last 2 and a half years.

My profile is witty and funny and when I write to someone I make it light, funny and honest. I tell people that I suffer from Cerebral Palsy, explain that everything works.

I've been round the block a few times and I know how this game works. I also worked in full time employment for 27 years, until recently.

But when I do write I'm finding that I just get deleted, which is fine, I can handle that but what hurts the most I get blocked, I'm not a stalker or a weirdo.

Can I ask are people on here that prejudiced on FAB, or should I take no notice and just carry on? Or should just give up and leave the site? Any advice please. Thank you.

My advice would be that.

1. There's a lot of people on FAB who won't like you, but some who will.

2. Being persistant and the ability to carry on despite rejection is one of the keys to being sucessful on this site.

3. I would take notice when you're being rejected, what are your intial messages and profile like? Is there anything you could change to become more sucessful?

4. You could leave this site, does being on this site enhance your life, or are you just chasing a dream? Personally I like a busy site, and would like more people to sign up, and stay members - However if this site does not work for them they are better off forgetting it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been on FAB over 6 years. I've even got verifications published. I've not meet anyone in the last 2 and a half years.

My profile is witty and funny and when I write to someone I make it light, funny and honest. I tell people that I suffer from Cerebral Palsy, explain that everything works.

I've been round the block a few times and I know how this game works. I also worked in full time employment for 27 years, until recently.

But when I do write I'm finding that I just get deleted, which is fine, I can handle that but what hurts the most I get blocked, I'm not a stalker or a weirdo.

Can I ask are people on here that prejudiced on FAB, or should I take no notice and just carry on? Or should just give up and leave the site? Any advice please. Thank you.

If it's upsetting you that much id leave.

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