FabSwingers.com forum: spanking-dom advice

By *ndymorecambe OP Man
over a year ago

morecambe

I hope to get some advice from the kind girls and boys of fab.in the past ive had limited but enjoyable experiences of spanking girls.from another website ive been contacted by a man and his partner who want to visit me and have me spank and humiliate the young lady while her partner watches.hes very detailed about what hed like to happen .im writing a schedule of what punishment il dish out but I want to make it as enjoyable,if that's the right word,as possible ,id like any advice from spankers and spankees ,especialy from a female sub-spankee point of view.thanks in advance

andy x

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By *ndymorecambe OP Man
over a year ago

morecambe

any advice from anybody ?

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"I hope to get some advice from the kind girls and boys of fab.in the past ive had limited but enjoyable experiences of spanking girls.from another website ive been contacted by a man and his partner who want to visit me and have me spank and humiliate the young lady while her partner watches.hes very detailed about what hed like to happen .im writing a schedule of what punishment il dish out but I want to make it as enjoyable,if that's the right word,as possible ,id like any advice from spankers and spankees ,especialy from a female sub-spankee point of view.thanks in advance

andy x"

OP you will need to talk to the fern in question about her limits as everyone is different .

I personally can be very teasing as well as sadistic.

in the fact I can and do hit the same spot over and over again plus stop spanking in favour of creasing especially if I know the fern in question is craving the harsh touch.

as for word play during again you will need to speak to the fern in question and tailor word play to her tastes .

yes its about your fun but equally its about turning her on to .

for that to happen communication is the key and tailoring of the experience based off of the communication .

after all anyone can spank a bottom its the role play and tailoring of the spanking that makes the dynamic more than a spank in my opinion .

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Speak to the woman involved, I heard a warning bell when I read that "he" had written a detailed scenario. Make sure she is on board with this before you two guys get carried away.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

Echoing the two posts above, what does the lady want? A scene will be very personal to her and while pleasing you and her male partner could be a part of that, you need to find out what she is getting out of the proposed scene....her likes, dislikes and limits.

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By *oi_LucyCouple
over a year ago

Barbados

Yes, communication is key as already said above. And remember that bodies can take more when warmed up. ie. starting slow and working up and she will likely be able to take a lot more than if you just go straight in full-tilt from cold.

A great book on the subject is 'The Compleat Spanker' published by Greenery Press. Actually most of their books are good... the flogging one as well.

-Matt

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

for my opinion i dont know you..i wouldnt let you spank me..end of..

you sound like a novice, go to some fet events for spanking and learn the different techniques and how to deliver them in a sane safe and consensual manner..by watching, talking to people and listening first..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was concerned with the term "dishing out". I'd suggest, as others have, that you speak to the people concerned before you dish out anything!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fyi spanking doesn't make a person Dominant and being spanked doesn't make a submissive.

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By *ouble_The_DelightCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was concerned with the term "dishing out". I'd suggest, as others have, that you speak to the people concerned before you dish out anything!"

Yes sounds like a disaster in the making!

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

"I was concerned with the term "dishing out". I'd suggest, as others have, that you speak to the people concerned before you dish out anything!"

I've heard the term 'dish out' used on the specific spanking scene the same way a more general bdsm player might use session or play. It's just wording used to fuel their fantasy.

I always feel better talking with the person i am actually playing with, however this could be a situation where both him and her want her to be punished by a stranger. You mention humiliation, how has he said she's to be humiliated?

If the situation is that it's meant to be an anonymous stranger doing the punishment then it would be best for you to gently step away from the situation explaining you don't have enough experience to adequately fulfil their fantasy.

Playing with someone 'blind' so to speak can be a lot of fun but it is also hard work and needs a fair amount of experience to work out some sort responses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was concerned with the term "dishing out". I'd suggest, as others have, that you speak to the people concerned before you dish out anything!

I've heard the term 'dish out' used on the specific spanking scene the same way a more general bdsm player might use session or play. It's just wording used to fuel their fantasy.

Playing with someone 'blind' so to speak can be a lot of fun but it is also hard work and needs a fair amount of experience to work out some sort responses. "
take good heed of this reply it's totally sound advice

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