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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Met my now ex at a swingers party a little over a year ago. She ended the relationship a couple of weeks ago and I'm still very raw and upset about it. Found out today that she is heading to the same club I was going to go to tomorrow and she's warned me she is in the mood to play and doesn't intend to hold back. When we split I asked her if when/if we inevettiably were at the club at the same time we wouldn't blatantly play in front of the other - at least for a while so wounds would heal. Now Im not so sure that agreement stands.

I'm torn between going to the club tomorrow and at least knowing what happens - or staying at home and no doubt letting my imagination run riot. I've got a good support network at the club who will look after me but I'm worried seeing her will be too much - especially if she ends up blatantly playing in front of me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

don't headfuck yourself.

i'd say sort your head out. think about why you even care what she gets up to. i know it's hard when you split with someone but you need to try to not care about them any more and leave them to get on with their life.

maybe going and seeing what happens is best for you, even if it upsets you it will help you to make it clear in your mind how she is and how she feels about you now. which is probably nothing much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Met my now ex at a swingers party a little over a year ago. She ended the relationship a couple of weeks ago and I'm still very raw and upset about it. Found out today that she is heading to the same club I was going to go to tomorrow and she's warned me she is in the mood to play and doesn't intend to hold back. When we split I asked her if when/if we inevettiably were at the club at the same time we wouldn't blatantly play in front of the other - at least for a while so wounds would heal. Now Im not so sure that agreement stands.

I'm torn between going to the club tomorrow and at least knowing what happens - or staying at home and no doubt letting my imagination run riot. I've got a good support network at the club who will look after me but I'm worried seeing her will be too much - especially if she ends up blatantly playing in front of me. "

Sounds like a head fuck.

Put her in your rear-view and count your lucky stars

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By *entleman JackMan
over a year ago

Loughborough

One very strong piece of advice.........

if you DO decide to go,

For fucks sake stay sober!

and have a quick exit strategy..........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One very strong piece of advice.........

if you DO decide to go,

For fucks sake stay sober!

and have a quick exit strategy.......... "

Very sound

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it seems more than obvious that she has got over it so if you haven't then its best you either stay away, or stay out of her way if you do go

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"One very strong piece of advice.........

if you DO decide to go,

For fucks sake stay sober!

and have a quick exit strategy.......... "

good advice

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

It sounds to me like you should give it a miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You met at a swingers party, which means she was a swinger prior to your getting together?

And did you stay swinging when together?

If the answer is yes then why are you surprised that she wants to go back to swinging?

And what if she wasn't going, we're you prepared to play with someone if it was on offer?

Perhaps you are not ready to see her yet?

Playing devil's advocate.

It's ok for you but not her?

As for the agreement, well unfortunately you are both single now and can't dictate what each other do or don't do.

Sounds complicated, maybe a pizza and a few beers are the best option.

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By *lovisMan
over a year ago

Twickenham

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