FabSwingers.com forum: Male half of a couple

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why is it so hard for the male half of a couple to find a fuck buddy?

I have full permission from the female as she plays on her own with my blessing.

Not looking for an endless string of women to bed, just a regular fuck buddy to have fun with.

Any advice or constructive comments appreciated.

M x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're playing on your own (without your partner) you're effectively playing as a single male, and competeing against them.

I would be assuming if I was playing with one half of the couple that they would really want NSA sex and not regular contact, although we are all different, and I have had married fuck buddies in the past.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

whether you see it that way or not , if you're looking for someone relatively regular, you're going to be inviting someone into the dynamics of your relationship and for a lot of people that's just too much hassle and way too complex for swinging. no matter how clear you are about "permission", how are you going to convey that? is the woman you want to meet going to meet your partner to prove it, discuss it, set boundaries? are you going to be asking for permission each time you meet? whose diary will take priority? if I was a single female, it'd just be way too complex and just not worth the effort when there are single guys aplenty to choose from.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"whether you see it that way or not , if you're looking for someone relatively regular, you're going to be inviting someone into the dynamics of your relationship and for a lot of people that's just too much hassle and way too complex for swinging. no matter how clear you are about "permission", how are you going to convey that? is the woman you want to meet going to meet your partner to prove it, discuss it, set boundaries? are you going to be asking for permission each time you meet? whose diary will take priority? if I was a single female, it'd just be way too complex and just not worth the effort when there are single guys aplenty to choose from."

This is the same for me. I'm not about to be getting involved in such a complicated situation where 'permissions' etc are involved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I have the same permission and know of two ladies I could play with alone but I don't. Mrs m plays alone and it's a massive turn on to me, but I just can't do it myself even though Mrs m wants me too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you're playing on your own (without your partner) you're effectively playing as a single male, and competeing against them.

This....if you play as a couple with OH....then you already have a FB. I found that a good FB for a single guy is a married woman who hubby doesn't play......had this twice in past before I moved!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well we experimented with the open relationship thing and are doing so again. I wish I could give better advice but just try and be patient. Good things can happen when you're not looking for them.

As others have said the site has many single guys so people don't want 'complex' so will move on to others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is it so hard for the male half of a couple to find a fuck buddy?

Three words: supply and demand

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

"Why is it so hard for the male half of a couple to find a fuck buddy?

Three words: supply and demand "

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By *ink magnolia s yorksWoman
over a year ago

south yorkshire

Quite simple for me I can't be arsed being the third person and having to fit around someone else... Your wife! Been there, done that, the jealousy issues are a pain that I just can't be bothered with. Too often the old playing with permission means got to keep it quiet because she swings as a couple but doesn't know I'm playing alone. I like to go to clubs with my fbs, doesn't work if it's someone else's husband etc.

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By *ink magnolia s yorksWoman
over a year ago

south yorkshire

"Why is it so hard for the male half of a couple to find a fuck buddy?

Three words: supply and demand "

, exactly you're competing with the single men, except you have extra hassle of a wife... Is it worth the extra hassle for a single woman? Plenty single men without that x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a previous poster said. Becoming regular with somebody, leads to some form of relationship developing. A personally have no desire, to be a 'third' person in a relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't be interested in a married man playing with permission, for one thing he's already getting sex. It would get messy, where would we play, wife might get jealous, nothing in it for me. I would rather play with a man who is not getting any sex. XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a previous poster said. Becoming regular with somebody, leads to some form of relationship developing. A personally have no desire, to be a 'third' person in a relationship

This

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By *rotiquexxxMan
over a year ago

Unquenchable Desires

You're lucky to have a woman (wife/girlfriend) in the first place and are ranting that you cannot get another one to fuck. Some men are single and have no women to have sex with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're lucky to have a woman (wife/girlfriend) in the first place and are ranting that you cannot get another one to fuck. Some men are single and have no women to have sex with. "

ummm...you do realise that this is a swinging site, don't you?

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By *rotiquexxxMan
over a year ago

Unquenchable Desires

"You're lucky to have a woman (wife/girlfriend) in the first place and are ranting that you cannot get another one to fuck. Some men are single and have no women to have sex with.

ummm...you do realise that this is a swinging site, don't you?

Yes but greedy guys moaning they can't get a fuck seem smug to single guys who can't get any.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a playing alone male half of a couple you would be up against all other single guys that have no one else to consider or have needs of others to contend with ,and as well you know the good ladies on here can pick and choose at there leisure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're lucky to have a woman (wife/girlfriend) in the first place and are ranting that you cannot get another one to fuck. Some men are single and have no women to have sex with.

ummm...you do realise that this is a swinging site, don't you?

Yes but greedy guys moaning they can't get a fuck seem smug to single guys who can't get any."

Fair point.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have the same issues, she plays alone and wants me to play alone too, I just find it difficult to even start message due to the fact im probably going to look like a single lad pretending to be in a couple or a cheating hubby.

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By *iPeopleMan
over a year ago

London

I find married guys who have women who are open minded the best.

The ethical slut dynamic really helps for good sex.

And I offer what the girl friend or wife cant

And it's really clear that's for a bit of fun. Not the main course

It's rare but it's worked well twice

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

I have permission from Miss to meet women and couples on my own. I have met a few couples but not a single woman and I dont know if I would want to and I definitely dont want a FWB as the sex we have together is great. Its each to their own but like others have said you'd be competing with a lot of single guys who dont have the complications of having a partner. Hope it works out for you though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're lucky to have a woman (wife/girlfriend) in the first place and are ranting that you cannot get another one to fuck. Some men are single and have no women to have sex with.

ummm...you do realise that this is a swinging site, don't you?

Yes but greedy guys moaning they can't get a fuck seem smug to single guys who can't get any."

How is their issue with their inability to get laid the other mans problem?

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