FabSwingers.com forum: Class over scumbags?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I know women have their own personal tastes, but I am a reasonably decent looking guy..experienced, professional business man with a few quid, who want to treat a lady like a lady. However it seems this is not what the girls want..Am I approaching this all wrong?

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

Just where is the class in describing other's as scumbags..?

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By *rKinkedKuntMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

There's no class in mentioning money.

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By *oo hotCouple
over a year ago

North West

"I know women have their own personal tastes, but I am a reasonably decent looking guy..experienced, professional business man with a few quid, who want to treat a lady like a lady. However it seems this is not what the girls want..Am I approaching this all wrong?"

Most people we know don't bother trying to arrange a meet "cold" off here when they have been here for a couple of years and realised just how many fakes, time wasters and idiots there are around. Personally I think that for guys to have any success at all they have to really stand out and that is a hard thing to do on a website.

Go to Clubs and social and get yourself known as that will help with further introductions.

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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago

Southampton

Not a very nice title for your thread. Your profile reads ok, the roll in the hay sounds outdated but each to their own I say. You say why you can't accommodate. I'd say add some more public pics, you have three veris so you are doing alright I'd say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

want..Am I approaching this all wrong?"

Good for you. Yes, you are approaching it all wrong. You have a few quid? Yippee. If you haven't realised that is not "what the girls want" then you should take a long hard look at the world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

as the OP didn't actually ask for profile advice its against site rules to give it...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Scumbags love the smell of money. I don't know why it's not working.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

I would be put off by the mention of money.

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains

"There's no class in mentioning money. "

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By *uv2bseenCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

In our humble opinion, with the view you have that money makes you class, then we are sorry but we think it makes you more like the type you are criticising.

We learned a very long time ago money does not make you any better.

In fact, classy wealthy people don't even mention money.

Good luck, we hope your method works for you.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

I don't care what a potential meet does for a living, how much money he has in the bank or what car he drives. I'm not looking for a relationship with him, it is just meeting up for mutually satisfactory (I hope) sex.

As long as they are clean, not a total knob, there is an attraction, he lasts longer than 5 minutes and isn't just meeting me to empty his balls, then all good.

If a bloke thinks I should meet him because he has a professional job and a few quid it is a tacky turn off, like my head can be turned by his bank balance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have a lot of criteria when choosing our fun partners but never used "Class or Scumbag" as a measure of suitability.

How does that work? Whats the yard stick?

Might change our names to

"Class & scumbag"

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Yes you are approaching it incorrectly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is nothing in this post or the way you worded the subject that makes you seem atttactive. QuIt the opposite in dact

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By *P1964Woman
over a year ago

gillingham

Can't beat a bit of class. I'm only attracted to professionals (the clean ones of course)

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By *rs DCouple
over a year ago

far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First two replies hit the nail on the head.

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

OP I agree, class over scumbags any day but alas if that's the case we're on the wrong site then pal. hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"First two replies hit the nail on the head.

This

The fact that you come across as thinking you are superior and looking down on others is very unattractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And don't forget to mention that you love tea as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And lets not forhet class in no way equates to wealth or social standing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't Matter to Me I'm Engaged and I Ain't meeting with anyone especially guys.

If I was meeting guys I wouldn't care if they are Unemployed and Skint as long as we're Compatible,Ain't all about money!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

You could try looking at your profile and reading it out loud

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Scumbags love the smell of money. I don't know why it's not working. "

Ain't Working for Me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Scumbags love the smell of money. I don't know why it's not working.

Ain't Working for Me!"

Are You Saying You're A Scumbag?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP I agree, class over scumbags any day but alas if that's the case we're on the wrong site then pal. hahaha"

Very True lols.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mabey they just don't fancy you !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Scumbags love the smell of money. I don't know why it's not working.

Ain't Working for Me!

Are You Saying You're A Scumbag?

Yeah Admittedly I'm Engaged and My Fiancé knows,Nothing Better than Unconditional Love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd choose class over scumbags any day. The trick is knowing what it means to have class.

Class to me means finding someone who is is caring, giving, respectful and who listens to other people, as well as being their own person. Whether or not you actually like the person or get their sense of humour is another thing though.

Class has nothing to do with money, or buying a lady a meal etc, but if you do have to buy a lady a meal buy it as a thank you for meeting me, rather than an agreement that she owes you some affection.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

When we meet people naked at the club we can't tell what they do, how much money they have, how they dress etc....nakedness is a great leveller

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Class is determined by your attitude not what's in your bank account.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i do seem to go for dickheads tbh, for relationships. i try to find genuine and nice guys but they usually are not physically attractive or have talked a load of shit to me to get me to be with them.

if you're talking about NSA sex then i'm not a prostitute so don't care about money.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

classy..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have met men with money, the last one I met was an arrogant prick

I,m here for sex and fun, you're bank balance does not interest me. I don't allow men to buy me things either.

I,'ll stick with the scumbags thanks x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im a classy scumbag

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

Get a prostitute?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im a classy scumbag

I'm a Scumbag with a Classy Fiancé.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just spent the best part of half an hour typing a bit of an essay of a rant about folks up their own arses and people from all walks being fecking dicks and up their own arses and completely lacking "class"!

I read it back a few times and on the second read through, I realised the futility of my rant!

Meh!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How much money are we talking here

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

No class in having a status that says 'still in Spain' but Fab says 'on mobile 40 miles away'.

Could be wrong of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No class in having a status that says 'still in Spain' but Fab says 'on mobile 40 miles away'.

Could be wrong of course

That location thing fails a lot!

Don't read too much in to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We only meet men who will treat me like a lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Scumbags love the smell of money. I don't know why it's not working.

Ain't Working for Me!"

why would it...you are engaged, don't forget

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's no class in mentioning money. "

Very vulgar indeed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women aren't looking for guys 5'9 in height. Trust me I have the same problem. Also change your body type to average, no man should ever describe themselves as curvy!

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By *rs DCouple
over a year ago

far

"Im a classy scumbag

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lol xx

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Having a few quid, doesn't mean someone has class. Far from it.

The size of someone's bank balance, car they drive etc, doesn't impress or interest us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow so you've got a few quid big deal, I go to work most days make sure my kids are well looked after, fed, clothed, loved unconditional and get luxuries every now and then so to me that makes me the richest man so sorry to say but hands down I'm winning in life right now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The melancholic mood seems ripe for some Pink Floyd.

In this case, Money seems appropriate.

https://youtu.be/-0kcet4aPpQ

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wow so you've got a few quid big deal, I go to work most days make sure my kids are well looked after, fed, clothed, loved unconditional and get luxuries every now and then so to me that makes me the richest man so sorry to say but hands down I'm winning in life right now

Nail and head come to mind

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

It was a post and run

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone who uses the term "scumbags" is not classy,to me. I don't care how much a man earns,I meet men I'm attracted to,not their bank balance.

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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago

Southampton

I apologise for the unwarranted advice I gave

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By *illyjohnyCouple
over a year ago

brighton

Money is the root of all evil . We all need roots

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just remember, for every person who you regard as a scumbag because they have less class and money than you, there is someone with more money and class than you who in turn regards you as a scumbag.

Big fleas have little fleas upon their backs to bite them, and little fleas have smaller fleas and so ad infinitum

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well, my post has stirred plenty of discussion. There seems to be a focus on money and that was never intended to be a reason for attraction. Badly wrtten I guess. Anyway, I genuinely would like to thank everyone for their advice and contributions to this forum. Cheers Al.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP. You asked a question at the end, and yes. I think you approached it all wrong.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I think this one classes as 'epic fail'!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get a prostitute? "

Whilst advocating money and class, of course...

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Having class is a bit like "being cool", if you have to tell people, then you're not there.

Cal

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By *uv2bseenCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

"Having class is a bit like "being cool", if you have to tell people, then you're not there.

Cal"

That simple statement says it all.

Very well put.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well, my post has stirred plenty of discussion. There seems to be a focus on money and that was never intended to be a reason for attraction. Badly wrtten I guess. Anyway, I genuinely would like to thank everyone for their advice and contributions to this forum. Cheers Al."

You expressed it badly. However, there is nothing wrong with old fashioned chivalry and being a gentleman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I honestly think you have worded this all wrong. From first inception of your post it implies that your credibility is above all and sundry. Now I'm a man of experience, down to earth but not everyone is going to find me physically attractive. So in effect - take it on the chin.

But in essence of any notion of class and money, might I suggest an escort or POF? I know a few girls at either end who accept gifts and want to be treated like ladies before they put out (or a few who do bulk bookings for the right price). Not my thing but whatever floats your boat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im a classy scumbag

I'm a Scumbag with a Classy Fiancé."

You're engaged?

I'd never have guessed. Congratulations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's no class in mentioning money. "

That's modern society...confuses money and ostentatiousness with class.

Always remember ....you can't buy class!

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By *rotiquexxxMan
over a year ago

Unquenchable Desires

Isn't professional scumbag an oxymoron?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a great thread.

Do more. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The OP is obviously from the 'nouveau riche'. I wonder what other stereotypes from that socio-economic group he can tick the box for...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's no class in mentioning money.

That's modern society...confuses money and ostentatiousness with class.

Always remember ....you can't buy class!"

Well put. So few people understand this and I blame reality television. People should just look at Wayne Rooney if they are confused by the difference between wealth and class.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have a lot of money. But I can point out my little finger whilst holding a cock.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone who comments on or treats different people with varying degrees of respect with no experience of them as individuals, is scum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't have a lot of money. But I can point out my little finger whilst holding a cock.

Did a very unattractive snort laugh at that

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Having class is a bit like "being cool", if you have to tell people, then you're not there.

Cal

That simple statement says it all.

Very well put."

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

How do you know?

Do women reply to your messages to say you are too classy and not scummy enough?

Is this thread an attempt to appear more scummy?

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

Why do you assume women want to be treated like a lady? Maybe they have their own money or are even, dare I say, professionals or business women themselves and tired of meeting men like that in their everyday lives ... maybe they want to meet someone who they have more in common with as a. person? Money isn't everything, nor is your career, not to someone you meet on here. We have totally different jobs but it's not an issue, we met on here and clicked straight away, socially and sexually ... funnily enough when I was waiting for him in the coffee shop, I was working on some reports, but I stuffed them away as soon as I saw him come in the door ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's no class in mentioning money.

That's modern society...confuses money and ostentatiousness with class.

Always remember ....you can't buy class!

Well put. So few people understand this and I blame reality television. People should just look at Wayne Rooney if they are confused by the difference between wealth and class. "

He has both.

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop

Yeah. Really classy post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's no class in mentioning money.

That's modern society...confuses money and ostentatiousness with class.

Always remember ....you can't buy class!

Well put. So few people understand this and I blame reality television. People should just look at Wayne Rooney if they are confused by the difference between wealth and class.

He has both.

Yeah he looked really classy signing autographs outside a £60-a-pop brothel!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's no class in mentioning money.

That's modern society...confuses money and ostentatiousness with class.

Always remember ....you can't buy class!

Well put. So few people understand this and I blame reality television. People should just look at Wayne Rooney if they are confused by the difference between wealth and class.

He has both.

Yeah he looked really classy signing autographs outside a £60-a-pop brothel!!! "

We're agreeing again...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We only meet men who will treat me like a lady

That's exactly our attitude too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there are some ladies who are not averse to a fella spending a few quid on them - read a profile whose veris read like she was taken out for dinner and hotel meet most nights of the week - personally im not a taker that way but if you want to give and someone will take go for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not looking for a boyfriend but I expect to be treated with respect on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

people find it annoying when men put average when in fact they are curvy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"people find it annoying when men put average when in fact they are curvy! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is this one of those threads when the OP hit the post button agonised over his two minute retraction time and has now gone to lie down in a darkened room until it all blows over?

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"Is this one of those threads when the OP hit the post button agonised over his two minute retraction time and has now gone to lie down in a darkened room until it all blows over?"

If so, he's been in there for quite a while....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP: First impressions ( and all that stuff ) and you've scored a home goal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because women here don't want to be treated with respect?

Either way, I suspect the op wouldn't know how to treat any woman with respect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because women here don't want to be treated with respect?

Either way, I suspect the op wouldn't know how to treat any woman with respect. "
Good point well made.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I may have one or two ideas why it's not working out for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rookie mistake saying something that could be taken for snobbery. In fab land you might have well said you had leprosy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This to my people in the front row explains it all........

https://youtu.be/eJW--Fv-Jzo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand there are sites where women interested in money would be very happy to hear from the OP. I do however think he will have learnt from this post.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This to my people in the front row explains it all........

https://youtu.be/eJW--Fv-Jzo

This is far classier given the subject matter!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Kjgwjh4H7wg

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah. Really classy post

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

"I know women have their own personal tastes, but I am a reasonably decent looking guy..with a few quid

In our humble opinion, with the view you have that money makes you class, then we are sorry but we think it makes you more like the type you are criticising.

We learned a very long time ago money does not make you any better.

Good luck, we hope your method works for you."

Exactly my thoughts.

Best of luck to you OP

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By *ex mad ladMan
over a year ago

Sussex

Just fucking go brassing

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