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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi all, up to recently I was part of a swinging couple, sadly this has come to an end so have created a new single account.

Whilst part of a couple I would chat many nights to couples and single women. The single women would chat for hours knowing that it was the man chatting.

So started the single and contacted the same people (just to carry on chatting) and finding it so strange that the single women who chatted to me the day before are now giving me the cold shoulder.

Whilst we all know the single guys on here have a hard time, these are women I've chatted to for months.

I really do not get it?

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

The dynamics have changed. They were previously interested in you as part of a couple but are probably seeking something different in single guys.

Nita

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all, up to recently I was part of a swinging couple, sadly this has come to an end so have created a new single account.

Whilst part of a couple I would chat many nights to couples and single women. The single women would chat for hours knowing that it was the man chatting.

So started the single and contacted the same people (just to carry on chatting) and finding it so strange that the single women who chatted to me the day before are now giving me the cold shoulder.

Whilst we all know the single guys on here have a hard time, these are women I've chatted to for months.

I really do not get it?"

What's not to get?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The dynamics have changed. They were previously interested in you as part of a couple but are probably seeking something different in single guys.

Nita"

This when I was on here as a single lady a long time ago I looked for different things than as a couple, i think it's no different the other way around. You aren't what they are looking for and unfortunately single men are plentiful on here so it is more difficult in general.

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By *ohnaronMan
over a year ago

london

Take a good looking woman to a bar and the other women will descreetly give you their number. Go on your own and nothing but cold shoulders. Above all women love to do other women down especially if the other woman is better looking.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I understand the single guy thing, but we never met these people only ever just chatted to them.

Bit like I chat to the lady who works next door, yet the next day because I'm single she ignores me.

Not looking to be any different with them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Take a good looking woman to a bar and the other women will descreetly give you their number. Go on your own and nothing but cold shoulders. Above all women love to do other women down especially if the other woman is better looking."

Think you are on to something

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I understand the single guy thing, but we never met these people only ever just chatted to them.

Bit like I chat to the lady who works next door, yet the next day because I'm single she ignores me.

Not looking to be any different with them."

But when they chatted to you as a couple they were most likely looking for that threesome experience not the single man one. You may not be looking to be different with them but they are probably looking for something different to what you can offer now. Simple as that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That is weird because I found exactly the opposite.

Ryan

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all, up to recently I was part of a swinging couple, sadly this has come to an end so have created a new single account.

Whilst part of a couple I would chat many nights to couples and single women. The single women would chat for hours knowing that it was the man chatting.

So started the single and contacted the same people (just to carry on chatting) and finding it so strange that the single women who chatted to me the day before are now giving me the cold shoulder.

Whilst we all know the single guys on here have a hard time, these are women I've chatted to for months.

I really do not get it?"

Yep...welcome to our world.

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By *all and ChainWoman
over a year ago

Truro

You appear to be suggesting that *they* have changed in how they treat *you*, while neglecting to give sufficient weight to the fact that *you* have changed your status too.

Off the top of my head;

1/ A woman seeking an NSA may feel happier screwing an already attached man.

2/ A woman my feel happier chatting to a man who as part of a couple has to deal with things like time of the month, skin creams, nail varnish, taking 12 hours to get dressed to go out...

3/ A woman may feel turned on by the thought of screwing a man who is with another woman

4/ A woman may feel turned on by a threesome with a couple

5/ A woman may have been very bi and basically fancied your ertwhile partner more than she fancied you

6/ etc

At the end of they day they are just people, fab in particular and socialising in general isn't about surrounding youself exclusively with people who you like and who like you back, it's about putting numbers through the filters and see what comes out the other side.

Move on, forget it, they have...

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown


"Hi all, up to recently I was part of a swinging couple, sadly this has come to an end so have created a new single account.

Whilst part of a couple I would chat many nights to couples and single women. The single women would chat for hours knowing that it was the man chatting.

So started the single and contacted the same people (just to carry on chatting) and finding it so strange that the single women who chatted to me the day before are now giving me the cold shoulder.

Whilst we all know the single guys on here have a hard time, these are women I've chatted to for months.

I really do not get it?"

If you've been chatting for months, did you not ask them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Take a good looking woman to a bar and the other women will descreetly give you their number. Go on your own and nothing but cold shoulders. Above all women love to do other women down especially if the other woman is better looking."
Absolute nonsense!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Take a good looking woman to a bar and the other women will descreetly give you their number. Go on your own and nothing but cold shoulders. Above all women love to do other women down especially if the other woman is better looking."

?? what a load of nonsence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Take a good looking woman to a bar and the other women will descreetly give you their number. Go on your own and nothing but cold shoulders. Above all women love to do other women down especially if the other woman is better looking.

?? what a load of nonsence "

Whilst I don't agree with the example given, it is generally true that men and women are attracted to people when they see other people are attracted to the same person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Take a good looking woman to a bar and the other women will descreetly give you their number. Go on your own and nothing but cold shoulders. Above all women love to do other women down especially if the other woman is better looking."

If the other woman was better looking than me - I'd be giving HER my phone number!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hi all, up to recently I was part of a swinging couple, sadly this has come to an end so have created a new single account.

Whilst part of a couple I would chat many nights to couples and single women. The single women would chat for hours knowing that it was the man chatting.

So started the single and contacted the same people (just to carry on chatting) and finding it so strange that the single women who chatted to me the day before are now giving me the cold shoulder.

Whilst we all know the single guys on here have a hard time, these are women I've chatted to for months.

I really do not get it?

If you've been chatting for months, did you not ask them?

"

Yes asked and they did not reply

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"Hi all, up to recently I was part of a swinging couple, sadly this has come to an end so have created a new single account.

Whilst part of a couple I would chat many nights to couples and single women. The single women would chat for hours knowing that it was the man chatting.

So started the single and contacted the same people (just to carry on chatting) and finding it so strange that the single women who chatted to me the day before are now giving me the cold shoulder.

Whilst we all know the single guys on here have a hard time, these are women I've chatted to for months.

I really do not get it?"

What I'm about to say isn't going to make me popular but the facts in my opinion are this you no longer have what so many on here are looking for a attractive fern for them to possible play with .

The dynamic was never about you it was about getting there hands and other parts of their body on your attractive female partner .

That is more often the truth behind the chats when your in a couple you often see forum posts saying why is no one attracted to my male partner which again proves my point .

Sorry OP you have just learn one of the lessons of the swinging world if your the male half of a couple its not you their really after in lot of cases there just after a bunk up with your female partner .

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Hi all, up to recently I was part of a swinging couple, sadly this has come to an end so have created a new single account.

Whilst part of a couple I would chat many nights to couples and single women. The single women would chat for hours knowing that it was the man chatting.

So started the single and contacted the same people (just to carry on chatting) and finding it so strange that the single women who chatted to me the day before are now giving me the cold shoulder.

Whilst we all know the single guys on here have a hard time, these are women I've chatted to for months.

I really do not get it?"

They wanted to meet a couple, not a single bloke. You are a single bloke

[ particle physics? ]

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Take a good looking woman to a bar and the other women will descreetly give you their number. Go on your own and nothing but cold shoulders. Above all women love to do other women down especially if the other woman is better looking.

If the other woman was better looking than me - I'd be giving HER my phone number! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all, up to recently I was part of a swinging couple, sadly this has come to an end so have created a new single account.

Whilst part of a couple I would chat many nights to couples and single women. The single women would chat for hours knowing that it was the man chatting.

So started the single and contacted the same people (just to carry on chatting) and finding it so strange that the single women who chatted to me the day before are now giving me the cold shoulder.

Whilst we all know the single guys on here have a hard time, these are women I've chatted to for months.

I really do not get it?

What I'm about to say isn't going to make me popular but the facts in my opinion are this you no longer have what so many on here are looking for a attractive fern for them to possible play with .

The dynamic was never about you it was about getting there hands and other parts of their body on your attractive female partner .

That is more often the truth behind the chats when your in a couple you often see forum posts saying why is no one attracted to my male partner which again proves my point .

Sorry OP you have just learn one of the lessons of the swinging world if your the male half of a couple its not you their really after in lot of cases there just after a bunk up with your female partner ."

I agree with this. It's why i wouldn't even consider becoming a swinging couple myself every time a guy has asked me because having a guy tagging along would hold me back.

Also i can get a fuck without needing the hassle of having to arrange one for him.

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