FabSwingers.com forum: Safety text Buddy

By *oxy_minx OP Woman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Ok, off the back of a recent thread in site feedback, it reminded me of a thread we did a few years ago. I thought I would resurrect it, to see if there was still interest or not:

Those who need or would like a text buddy to let them know who/when they were meeting someone or even if things didn't go to plan, could arrange someone to check in with them to see if all was good?

Would this be of interest to anyone and would there be people willing to be a safety text buddy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes that sounds like a excellent idea, I'd use a agreed safe word aswell so you know the answer was genuine

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

It's a great idea, I have one or two

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By *oxy_minx OP Woman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"It's a great idea, I have one or two

I used to have, so thought it might be good to see if others would like this safety net or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im a 6ft 18st bear so the chances of me being dragged off down a dark alley are slim to none and frankly wishfull thinking on my part lol

But id be happy to help out anyone who wanted a final safety net

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By *oxy_minx OP Woman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"Im a 6ft 18st bear so the chances of me being dragged off down a dark alley are slim to none and frankly wishfull thinking on my part lol

But id be happy to help out anyone who wanted a final safety net "

Lol this is just so people know who they are meeting and when, not a 'thug for hire'

All I am wondering is if people would be willing to volunteer in their area and I could collate a list and post it on the thread so others know who to contact before hand (no other personal information will be given)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im a 6ft 18st bear so the chances of me being dragged off down a dark alley are slim to none and frankly wishfull thinking on my part lol

But id be happy to help out anyone who wanted a final safety net

Lol this is just so people know who they are meeting and when, not a 'thug for hire'

I look like a thug but in reality im the softest guy going cant even spank the mrs cos im scared ill hurt her lol id be happy to volunteer anything that makes someone feel a little more at ease has got to be a good thing do you want me to pm you my number and name or something

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By *oxy_minx OP Woman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"Im a 6ft 18st bear so the chances of me being dragged off down a dark alley are slim to none and frankly wishfull thinking on my part lol

But id be happy to help out anyone who wanted a final safety net

Lol this is just so people know who they are meeting and when, not a 'thug for hire'

All we used the last time, was user name (also male/female) and area best suited to you.

Then if someone needed prior to a meet they can contact you via here then you can decide whether you were happy to disclose your number or not and also if you would be available at the time they were meeting.

Once I have a few I will collate a list and post here for easy access (no personal information will be collated or posted!)

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By *ownhouseTwosomeCouple
over a year ago

Birkenhead/Liverpool

Yep I have been a text buddy for a few of my female swinging friends. I will usually text them 10 mins into a meet to make sure they are ok and they are getting good vibe as often they go into hotels, apartments, parties alone. They don't need it all the time, just when it's a first meet and there hasn't been much chat beforehand.

She would usually text me back and say 'I'm Staying' or 'he's weird I need a get out', at which point I call her with an 'emergency' that needs her attention! lol

Sounds extreme I suppose but women on their own can definitely be a target and they often meet a stranger in that persons home or a hotel etc... which can be potentially dangerous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im a 6ft 18st bear so the chances of me being dragged off down a dark alley are slim to none and frankly wishfull thinking on my part lol

But id be happy to help out anyone who wanted a final safety net

Lol this is just so people know who they are meeting and when, not a 'thug for hire'

All we used the last time, was user name (also male/female) and area best suited to you.

Once I have a few I will collate a list and post here for easy access (no personal information will be collated or posted!)

Cool jot me down im the mr as a stay at home dad im free pretty much 24/7 and live in derbyshire so anywhere around there i do a similar thing for a post op ts freind of mine its amazing how many messed up people there are in the world and how nice they can seem when they want i think its a great thing your doing there is always an element of risk to this game especially for the single ladies

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By *oxy_minx OP Woman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"Yep I have been a text buddy for a few of my female swinging friends. I will usually text them 10 mins into a meet to make sure they are ok and they are getting good vibe as often they go into hotels, apartments, parties alone. They don't need it all the time, just when it's a first meet and there hasn't been much chat beforehand.

She would usually text me back and say 'I'm Staying' or 'he's weird I need a get out', at which point I call her with an 'emergency' that needs her attention! lol

Sounds extreme I suppose but women on their own can definitely be a target and they often meet a stranger in that persons home or a hotel etc... which can be potentially dangerous.

xx"

Exactly! And why I thought I would see if people still needed or wanted this, not just for single females though, men are more than equal to request this as well, so male, female and couple volunteers needed xx

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

Happy to help...if needed..

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By *oxy_minx OP Woman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"Im a 6ft 18st bear so the chances of me being dragged off down a dark alley are slim to none and frankly wishfull thinking on my part lol

But id be happy to help out anyone who wanted a final safety net

Lol this is just so people know who they are meeting and when, not a 'thug for hire'

All we used the last time, was user name (also male/female) and area best suited to you.

Once I have a few I will collate a list and post here for easy access (no personal information will be collated or posted!)

Thank you so much, much appreciated and added x

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By *oxy_minx OP Woman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

So maybe not needed just now?

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I recently me a lady from Fab for a social drink. Later in the evening she showed me the "bail" text that she had someone send her which gave her the excuse to leave early if things were not going well. Fortunately she didn't need to use it and we are enjoying getting to know each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always let a girlfriend know where I'm going and the name of whom I'm meeting. Then when I'm home I'll text her to say I'm safe and sound. It's better than just going to a meet and no one knowing where your going.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok, off the back of a recent thread in site feedback, it reminded me of a thread we did a few years ago. I thought I would resurrect it, to see if there was still interest or not:

Those who need or would like a text buddy to let them know who/when they were meeting someone or even if things didn't go to plan, could arrange someone to check in with them to see if all was good?

Would this be of interest to anyone and would there be people willing to be a safety text buddy? "

I like the sound of this too especially since theres a lot of nice ppl on here who live too far away. Although i do have a few locals ones its nice to spread the love.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm happy to be included in this. Be nice to have an extra security.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interestingly a few years back a well known lad off here told me of the need for guys, yes even big ones, to be vigilant as at the time there was a scam where a girl would invite a guy to a house and when things were heating up a load of lads would pile in and mug them.

Not meny would report it and after a few days the profile would vanish to a new area.

It can be a risky business this swinging lark.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im a 6ft 18st bear so the chances of me being dragged off down a dark alley are slim to none and frankly wishfull thinking on my part lol

But id be happy to help out anyone who wanted a final safety net

Lol this is just so people know who they are meeting and when, not a 'thug for hire'

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I would be in for this safety and discretion in all things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a bloke get a bit crappy on me when I said I'd have a friend know where I was.

We didn't meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had a bloke get a bit crappy on me when I said I'd have a friend know where I was.

We didn't meet."
his loss and you were safe x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had a bloke get a bit crappy on me when I said I'd have a friend know where I was.

We didn't meet. his loss and you were safe x "

Agreed sounds dodgy

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By *aeganaWoman
over a year ago

birmingham

Sounds a good idea ive been left stranded once and its not nice spec as a single woman be nice to have someone to message if u dont feel safe on a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have 2 people who I let know . I always check on them too when they have a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've done this for a couple of ladies (friends) on here in the past. Happy to do it again [am I offering....? Dunno].

Happens in vanilla life too.

One trick I taught my daughters as they hit there teens and going out on their own. ..... If getting in a taxi, take a picture of the back of the cab (number plate and licence etc). Let the driver know you did it and send to a friend..... Guaranteed a safe ride home!

There's a tip for all you ladies!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Though I find the idea a nice gesture I really can't see how it would work

I'm assuming it's so if your in trouble on a meet you have somebody to come rescue you?

Not being on a downer I'm just being realistic but if I was on a meet and the guy got pushy with me is a guy off the internet really going to drop everything and come and jump infront of a guy to help me?

I really can't see it myself

And there is no point having a female text buddy as I would never expect another woman to handle a situation I couldn't and out her at danger

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By *oxy_minx OP Woman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

No, this thread was really about people who don't have a friend to say who they are meeting and when, not a come and help me now scenario as the police is there for that, obviously it not a required need as it was a few years ago, but thank you to all who did volunteer to be text buddies x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Though I find the idea a nice gesture I really can't see how it would work

I'm assuming it's so if your in trouble on a meet you have somebody to come rescue you?

I really can't see it myself

And there is no point having a female text buddy as I would never expect another woman to handle a situation I couldn't and out her at danger "

Personally yes i would my mum is my best mate my wife is the love of my life and i have 2 daughters i firmly believe every women should feel safe and any man who doesnt aid someone in trouble when they can is not a man but a coward

Mr x

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By *ojos party boyMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

"No, this thread was really about people who don't have a friend to say who they are meeting and when, not a come and help me now scenario as the police is there for that, obviously it not a required need as it was a few years ago, but thank you to all who did volunteer to be text buddies x"

I text my cousin and let him know whats happening, half for safety / half to rub it in his face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

stick my name down Iif someone needs an out am always happy to help . X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have this in place but great idea to promote it...well done OP...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok, off the back of a recent thread in site feedback, it reminded me of a thread we did a few years ago. I thought I would resurrect it, to see if there was still interest or not:

Those who need or would like a text buddy to let them know who/when they were meeting someone or even if things didn't go to plan, could arrange someone to check in with them to see if all was good?

Would this be of interest to anyone and would there be people willing to be a safety text buddy? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm happy to have my name added to a list, I've also heard of the scam where guys were being mugged by a group of guys just as things were hotting up, it's not just ladies who are vulnerable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rules I try to follow

Don't take valuables to a meet that way can't leave them behind or worst case get nicked

Meet at spot with cctv so you can be seen traced if you disappear lol

Park your car in busy place meet on foot car keys may be only thing I take but safer if they don't see car harder to find Nick etc

Tell friend who your meeting on here Ask around here about person your meeting on here

Trust your instincts chat etc if you feel uncomfortable walk away

Get to meet early so you can view meet before they see you that way you can access if you feel safe or they look dodgy

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By *ubbsWoman
over a year ago

southend

brilliant idea...im in xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

great idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have my safety buddy in place, plus side of knowing a lot of police

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By *idsfriendlyfunguyMan
over a year ago

Smethwick

Great idea

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By *oxy_minx OP Woman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I will compile a list later on this evening, so if you are interested, please add your name here.

Thanks in advance

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