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By *hor Thumb OP   Man
over a year ago

bristol

Greetings all,

I'm very British and don't wear my heart on my sleeve, so I struggle to confidently and assertively talk filthy and tell Charlie (my little cuck) what to do. Any advise? I think it might be good to go to the 'extreme' of dominating so that telling him to make our bull a cup of tea doesn't seem so strange. Or perhaps it would be good to find another dom female to show me the ropes ? What do you think?

W x

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By *hocolateRodMan
over a year ago

London and over UK


"Greetings all,

I'm very British and don't wear my heart on my sleeve, so I struggle to confidently and assertively talk filthy and tell Charlie (my little cuck) what to do. Any advise? I think it might be good to go to the 'extreme' of dominating so that telling him to make our bull a cup of tea doesn't seem so strange. Or perhaps it would be good to find another dom female to show me the ropes ? What do you think?

W x "

Interesting - you mention that - Perhaps I can give you a different perspective. Like you I was a bit reserved and being a single guy playing with couples, didn't say much. But played with one couple who were very vocal. So really got into it. Just depends on the vibe - telling cuck how much I enjoy fucking his wife - or telling him to open her legs - while I service her. Or tell him to watch my cock pound his good lady. Often its easy to tell whether someone is into this - and then push things a little further.

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By *hor Thumb OP   Man
over a year ago

bristol

Charlie tends to be quite vocal, I have been on occasion when I'm in the right mood. We've not had any meets with vocal people.

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By *r Stagger LeeMan
over a year ago

torquay

try and assert yourself over the week before playing, start by demanding little things that push cucks limits. gradually you may find your voice.

if not try a fetish night at a club

with cuck on a lead

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By *hor Thumb OP   Man
over a year ago

bristol

We've been to a get night with my cuck all dressed up, but we'll have to buy a lead I'll defiantly try being more assertive through the week. Thank you W x

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By *hor Thumb OP   Man
over a year ago

bristol

Any cuck couples or dom women have any insight to this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Although single now I have been a cuck in a previous relationship and she was definitely into putting me in my place and humiliating me. Could share from my point of view if you wish?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Any cuck couples or dom women have any insight to this?"

You may feel uncomfortable or "artificial" to begin with. The more you do it, the better you will feel about it. Give it a try.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just start with simple things and the rest will follow as you build up your confidence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Amazon has a book on how to talk dirty. Got to love the Americans!

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By *ikerjohn123Man
over a year ago

Malton


"Greetings all,

I'm very British and don't wear my heart on my sleeve, so I struggle to confidently and assertively talk filthy and tell Charlie (my little cuck) what to do. Any advise? I think it might be good to go to the 'extreme' of dominating so that telling him to make our bull a cup of tea doesn't seem so strange. Or perhaps it would be good to find another dom female to show me the ropes ? What do you think?

W x "

If you are not naturally dominant it can be difficult. The best way to go about it is have an open & frank discussion with cuck boy when you are not 'in character' as queen & cuck and ask him what he likes. Try it then have another discussion after to see if you were too much or not enough. This is how I tend to do it when ascertaining how far a couple wants me to be a Dom (most don't go in much for humiliation but do like to be told how great their wife is & how much their wife is enjoying me so he should be grateful to me if that gives you an idea of what to say)

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By *hor Thumb OP   Man
over a year ago

bristol

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By *hor Thumb OP   Man
over a year ago

bristol


"Although single now I have been a cuck in a previous relationship and she was definitely into putting me in my place and humiliating me. Could share from my point of view if you wish? "

Yes I think that would be helpful

W x

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By *hor Thumb OP   Man
over a year ago

bristol


"Any cuck couples or dom women have any insight to this?

You may feel uncomfortable or "artificial" to begin with. The more you do it, the better you will feel about it. Give it a try."

Practice makes perfect I suppose

W x

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By *hor Thumb OP   Man
over a year ago

bristol


"Amazon has a book on how to talk dirty. Got to love the Americans! "

Is it a good helpful read then?

W x

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By *hor Thumb OP   Man
over a year ago

bristol


"Greetings all,

I'm very British and don't wear my heart on my sleeve, so I struggle to confidently and assertively talk filthy and tell Charlie (my little cuck) what to do. Any advise? I think it might be good to go to the 'extreme' of dominating so that telling him to make our bull a cup of tea doesn't seem so strange. Or perhaps it would be good to find another dom female to show me the ropes ? What do you think?

W x

If you are not naturally dominant it can be difficult. The best way to go about it is have an open & frank discussion with cuck boy when you are not 'in character' as queen & cuck and ask him what he likes. Try it then have another discussion after to see if you were too much or not enough. This is how I tend to do it when ascertaining how far a couple wants me to be a Dom (most don't go in much for humiliation but do like to be told how great their wife is & how much their wife is enjoying me so he should be grateful to me if that gives you an idea of what to say)"

We're very good at discussing before and after, I think it's more about putting it into practice for me. In theory and in my head I'm this great dominatrix however, the practical is proving to be tricky

W x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Amazon has a book on how to talk dirty. Got to love the Americans!

Is it a good helpful read then?

W x"

It provides some reasonable strategies if you feel uncomfortable about talking dirty and does not throw you in the deep end.

131 Dirty Talk Examples by Elizabeth Cramer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, my Mrs has the same problem. We were fortunate to have met a couple with a dom woman who gave us some tips and gave my wife some confidence about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can dom quietly too! Eg - A click of the fingers means kneel, a tap on the shoulder means bend over etc.....delay in obeying or getting a signal wrong earns 5xstrikes with cane!

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By *hor Thumb OP   Man
over a year ago

bristol


"Amazon has a book on how to talk dirty. Got to love the Americans!

Is it a good helpful read then?

W x

It provides some reasonable strategies if you feel uncomfortable about talking dirty and does not throw you in the deep end.

131 Dirty Talk Examples by Elizabeth Cramer."

Thank you, I'll look into it!

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By *hor Thumb OP   Man
over a year ago

bristol


"You can dom quietly too! Eg - A click of the fingers means kneel, a tap on the shoulder means bend over etc.....delay in obeying or getting a signal wrong earns 5xstrikes with cane! "

After talking to Charlie we both very much like the sound of that! We'll give it a go, thank you. W x

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By *hor Thumb OP   Man
over a year ago

bristol


"OP, my Mrs has the same problem. We were fortunate to have met a couple with a dom woman who gave us some tips and gave my wife some confidence about it. "

I'll have to fine me a dom then W x

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