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By *ickeyandmouse OP   Couple
over a year ago

nr Alicante

How come my hubby is the only one I have read about or met that doesn't like to see me with or share me with another man! He only likes to swing if he can be with another lady!

He's happy if I am enjoying myself but he has to be too!

So no mmf or anything of the kind!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That is strange, usually it is the man who likes seeing the woman having the fun.

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By *ickeyandmouse OP   Couple
over a year ago

nr Alicante

That's what I thought!

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By *ereforgigglesMan
over a year ago

Scotland


"That's what I thought!"
for what it's worth I'd absolutely love to watch you being fucked by 2 guys!

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By *ickeyandmouse OP   Couple
over a year ago

nr Alicante

Thank you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds normal to me. Lots of couples only play with other couples for this very reason.

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By *ickeyandmouse OP   Couple
over a year ago

nr Alicante

Ok! It's just that nearly every guy I chat with says the opposite!

That makes me feel better!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Ok! It's just that nearly every guy I chat with says the opposite!

That makes me feel better!"

play the way you two want to, it doesn't matter what everyone else does.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you!"

Nothing unusual about your preferences. It's human nature to look at others doing things differently and not feel normal.

Our preferences are kind of the opposite of you guys, and we feel like the minority lol.

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)


"How come my hubby is the only one I have read about or met that doesn't like to see me with or share me with another man! He only likes to swing if he can be with another lady!

He's happy if I am enjoying myself but he has to be too!

So no mmf or anything of the kind!"

Because he's selfish...What about what you want?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whatever works for you

Don't let other people make you think it's "wrong"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would you like to try mmf? Or play with another man? lf so, talk to him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How come my hubby is the only one I have read about or met that doesn't like to see me with or share me with another man! He only likes to swing if he can be with another lady!

He's happy if I am enjoying myself but he has to be too!

So no mmf or anything of the kind!"

Your hubby is not the only one!

OP.. I can't work out if you are happy with this or not

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By *uessWhosBackAgainMan
over a year ago

London


"How come my hubby is the only one I have read about or met that doesn't like to see me with or share me with another man! He only likes to swing if he can be with another lady!

He's happy if I am enjoying myself but he has to be too!

So no mmf or anything of the kind!"

To be honest I'd probably be the same if i was in a couple but I would want us to both to be with the other lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What ever works for you both works. But if your a bit pissed off with this I'd say talk to him not us, obviously talk on here for support etc but he's the one you should be asking not us. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met couples who this applies to and for them it seems perfect. Have always felt like its a little unfair and one sided but thats because I wouldnt want to not be allowed to play with other guys. Thats me though. If youre happy thats great but if not you need to have a chat with the mister x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When me and my ex husband had a couples profile, he was very strict that no man could touch me. I couldn't even message them back. But he could play with who he wanted. I guess I was more secure in the relationship... Or maybe I just didn't care because I left him a couple of months later

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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago

Southampton


"How come my hubby is the only one I have read about or met that doesn't like to see me with or share me with another man! He only likes to swing if he can be with another lady!

He's happy if I am enjoying myself but he has to be too!

So no mmf or anything of the kind!"

Does he run the profile or do you do it together? Anyway, he's being selfish and if this is what you want, tell him as imho you sound quite unhappy with things as they are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP - Your husband has "normal" feelings, and you have "normal" feelings. In a relationship they have to be recognised by both parties.

What action you both decide to take is not something anyone else but both of you can decide on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's selfish and a double standard. Unless it is you that is choosing to skip the MFM. True swingers are comfortable and secure enough in their relationship to enjoy seeing their partner experience sexual bliss and not be threatened by it.

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By *o-jCouple
over a year ago

Outskirts of Notts

We have boundaries set and to be honest we're only on here for me to expand my bi experiences and I'm allowed to do exactly that , but he's told me no men allowed .

Jo x

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By *o-jCouple
over a year ago

Outskirts of Notts

Meant to add I am perfectly happy with this set up .

Jo x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How come my hubby is the only one I have read about or met that doesn't like to see me with or share me with another man! He only likes to swing if he can be with another lady!

He's happy if I am enjoying myself but he has to be too!

So no mmf or anything of the kind!"

He may really love you and maybe scared of sharing you with another male he may be ok with you and he with another couple because the other man has a women he may think you will run away with another man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't enjoy watching Mrs A with another bloke so no hes not alone

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

You two are not alone. My boyfriend feels the same and we prefer same-room swaps

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

Not odd, It's the same here only it's H that made the decision. She's just not interested & only wants a lady to play fully with us.

S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've come across quite a few couples who won't meet single guys and only do partner swaps with other couples. It's not for us, as I prefer to choose my own sex partners. However after 3 years we have come a long way in our comfort levels. My husband gives me a lot more freedom than he originally did. He needed to build to that. He had always had more freedom from me as I don't get jealous. Ironically he rarely takes the freedom I give him, as he gets more pleasure out of my sex life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's selfish and a double standard. Unless it is you that is choosing to skip the MFM. True swingers are comfortable and secure enough in their relationship to enjoy seeing their partner experience sexual bliss and not be threatened by it."

Do not agree with this at all in fact I would say the opposite! It would be selfish if either party did something the other was not comfortable with. As a couple we take this journey together, there are lots of things we fantasise about and discuss but we wouldn't do everything unless we were both ok with it. Although we have done MMF the build up especially can be difficult forfornthe man ,it is nothing about trust it is more about finding someone who will treat the woman you love with respect and not just as a piece of meat . Letting anyone into your most intimate moment shouldn't be done lightly .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its a bit presumptuous to say he is selfish. Lots of people swing like this. We allow each other the freedom to play with singles if the opportunity is there but only same room. As a couple the only thing that bugs me is when the man is allowed to touch my Mrs but I'm forbidden to touch his Mrs. We'd be the same the other way around.

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

Whatever works for the 2 of you, but you need to discuss with him. I (him) rarely play with other women but that's my choice, we started swinging as Slim has a thing for older guys/groups and I absolutely adore seeing her in these scenarios. Hope you manage to work this out OP

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Sounds like my kids. If my girls has some crisps then her little brother suddenly wants some too and vise versa.

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