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By *alleyGirl7569 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Aberdare

Hi been reading lots on the Forum but first time for me to post.

We have arranged our first meet this week (at last) with a single guy in Hotel. A has been chatting to him for a while and we have met him socially.

My dilemma is do I stay in room, leave them to it or leave and come back in sometime later. We have spoke about it and neither of us can decide

Naturally I am nervous but so excited for her.

Any thoughts from others on their first time?

Thanks Hubby

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

I don't know,but fingers crossed he turns up for you!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

The only people who can decide this is you two, nobody else's experiences will be the same as yours.

People do it but I would never go alone to a hotel room with a man I barely knew.

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By *alleyGirl7569 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Aberdare


"The only people who can decide this is you two, nobody else's experiences will be the same as yours.

People do it but I would never go alone to a hotel room with a man I barely knew."

No we will both be there, besides he is definitely trustworthy.

But cant decide if I stay or leave for a bit.

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By *urpurseCouple
over a year ago

North West

Welcome to forum and good on you for giving this some thought.

Think about what both of your fantasies are in this area? Are you more of a voyeur or want to join in or is the idea of your partner being with another man without you a turn on?

If it is the latter, the problem is the hotel part as opposed to being in a house.......how about sitting in the bathroom and listening? That way the safety angle is still there as you can hear everything (and maybe watch through a mirror maybe).

A lot of swinging is assessing the situation at the time, you will both need to chat and see how each of you all feel about how it could unfold

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would want to be at least within earshot i know he seems trustworthy but how well do you really know him after 1 meet and a few messages personally my wifes safety is my no1 priority

What happens if he wants to do something she doesnt do you know 100% that he is going to respect her boundaries

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By *alleyGirl7569 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Aberdare

Thanks for the concern... They have spoke about boundaries etc (in fact he raised the issue).. From his veri's etc he is very respectful and courteous, hence why we choose him.

I think I have decided to stick around tho, at least within earshot and join them little later Just need to lose the nerves now lol

Thanks for the advice tho

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

If I were a couple expecting a man, I'd want us both to be there for an mmf not to leave a stranger on his own with me wife. Safety is paramount.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

Go with how you feel at the time but be clear about what you want/don't want to happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd stay and join in, I certainly wouldn't leave my wife alone with him....plus there is no fun in leaving

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I were a couple expecting a man, I'd want us both to be there for an mmf not to leave a stranger on his own with me wife. Safety is paramount. "

Unlike the guy the other day basically saying his missus will be in this hotel at this time, she looks like this, go fancy your chances with her!! Idiot!

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By *offee and Cream 2Couple (MM)
over a year ago

Loughborough

Why not be the camera man!

Film the occasion for you and your wife to enjoy watching together afterwards.

This way you will have something useful to do rather than standing there just watching.......

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By *alleyGirl7569 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Aberdare


"Why not be the camera man!

Film the occasion for you and your wife to enjoy watching together afterwards.

This way you will have something useful to do rather than standing there just watching....... "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like 'going to get a drink' and listening before returning to join in.

I find it really hlrby but that's me.

I'm sure you'll do the right thing for both of you, most importantly enjoy it which ever you choose to do

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"I like 'going to get a drink' and listening before returning to join in.

I find it really hlrby but that's me.

I'm sure you'll do the right thing for both of you, most importantly enjoy it which ever you choose to do"

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