FabSwingers.com forum: Is my profile to 'Nice guy-ish'?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

To ask bluntly, does my profile make me seem like a 'nice guy' that girls would like to cuddle up with, or a 'bad boy' they would want fucking their brains out? I'm guessing the latter would be preferable on a site like this.

I'm short for a guy, have an average penis, and don't appear to be very good at taking photos (I'm working on it).

Therefore it would be good to get some feedback on the things I can actually change.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

your pics aren't too bad tbf.

your profile is pretty short but seems ok. i'd guess it depends on your first message whether people might be interested or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think your profile is fine, we feel it's best to try and put the real you across. If you try to put across a false image to attract people, it's probably not going to end well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The pics are good but I hate the second sentence, so negative and makes you sound a bit cold for want of a better word, definitely not the nice guy! I'm not sure any guys on here are looking for that so why not turn it around and state it in terms of the positives you are looking for?

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By *umpleteazerWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

Agree. Pics are good. Could do with some more.

The 2nd sentence really really puts me off. Does it really need saying on your profile? Can you not just avoid those people?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

The second sentence gives a indication of your personality and what you think so I think you should leave it in.

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By *appyplastererMan
over a year ago

birmingham

My friend. I'd have to say. It is a bit blunt. But direct

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The second sentence gives a indication of your personality and what you think so I think you should leave it in. "

Mmm, hadn't thought of it like that!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the advice!

Not quite sure how the second sentence is negative, but I guess you all know best

What could I change it too?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

It's a common misconception that women don't like "nice guys" implying that the person saying it feels they're a nice guy, all the men who get women are bastards and women are too stupid to know it.

The truth is that a lot of women go for "personality", a guy who has a bit of something about him, is interesting and interested, can hold a conversation and has good levels of self confidence.

Your profile doesn't come across as "nice guyish" but it is a little on the negative side.

Good luck

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Thanks for the advice!

Not quite sure how the second sentence is negative, but I guess you all know best

What could I change it too?

In describing all the things you don't want you're being negative, a positive way of writing would be to describe the qualities you are looking for.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thanks for the advice!

Not quite sure how the second sentence is negative, but I guess you all know best

What could I change it too?

In describing all the things you don't want you're being negative, a positive way of writing would be to describe the qualities you are looking for."

To be honest, that sentence was meant more as a joke. Clearly isn't coming off like that

I'll try changing it to something different

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

You can't be someone you're not, if it reflects you it's fine if it doesn't change it.

There are countless threads offering generic profile advice in the archives, happy reading

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You can't be someone you're not, if it reflects you it's fine if it doesn't change it.

There are countless threads offering generic profile advice in the archives, happy reading

I'm not a cold person though, so I am hoping to come off as such lol

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"You can't be someone you're not, if it reflects you it's fine if it doesn't change it.

There are countless threads offering generic profile advice in the archives, happy reading

I'm not a cold person though, so I am hoping to come off as such lol"

You may be overthinking the reactions to each and every word of your profile.

The nice/bad boy choice is not really anywhere near as important as giving a good clear honest account of what kind of person you are and what you feel you have to offer

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You can't be someone you're not, if it reflects you it's fine if it doesn't change it.

There are countless threads offering generic profile advice in the archives, happy reading

I'm not a cold person though, so I am hoping to come off as such lol

You may be overthinking the reactions to each and every word of your profile.

The nice/bad boy choice is not really anywhere near as important as giving a good clear honest account of what kind of person you are and what you feel you have to offer "

Hmm true. I've made a few changes, but I think I'll just keep my profile as it is for now

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"You can't be someone you're not, if it reflects you it's fine if it doesn't change it.

There are countless threads offering generic profile advice in the archives, happy reading

I'm not a cold person though, so I am hoping to come off as such lol

You may be overthinking the reactions to each and every word of your profile.

The nice/bad boy choice is not really anywhere near as important as giving a good clear honest account of what kind of person you are and what you feel you have to offer

Hmm true. I've made a few changes, but I think I'll just keep my profile as it is for now

It is early days yet as you've only been on the site for two weeks so give it time.

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Just be yourself and those attracted to you will trickle along..

As a tester you could create a so called 'bit of rough'on another profile and monitor the response.

Being patient is the key..

good luck,for what it's worth you seem genuine.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just be yourself and those attracted to you will trickle along..

As a tester you could create a so called 'bit of rough'on another profile and monitor the response.

Being patient is the key..

good luck,for what it's worth you seem genuine."

Thanks

What do you mean by 'bit of rogue' though?

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol

"Just be yourself and those attracted to you will trickle along..

As a tester you could create a so called 'bit of rough'on another profile and monitor the response.

Being patient is the key..

good luck,for what it's worth you seem genuine.

Thanks

What do you mean by 'bit of rogue' though? "

A profile that shows you as a 'mean'geezer or whatever it is you think women want..

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Just be yourself and those attracted to you will trickle along..

As a tester you could create a so called 'bit of rough'on another profile and monitor the response.

Being patient is the key..

good luck,for what it's worth you seem genuine.

Thanks

What do you mean by 'bit of rogue' though? "

Don't try and present yourself as someone you're not, women aren't daft and will suss you out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To ask bluntly, does my profile make me seem like a 'nice guy' that girls would like to cuddle up with, or a 'bad boy' they would want fucking their brains out? I'm guessing the latter would be preferable on a site like this.

I'm short for a guy, have an average penis, and don't appear to be very good at taking photos (I'm working on it).

Therefore it would be good to get some feedback on the things I can actually change.

It is neither "nice guy" or "bad boy."

To be honest, it doesn't leave much of an impression at all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm short for a guy, have an average penis, and don't appear to be very good at taking photos (I'm working on it).

Therefore it would be good to get some feedback on the things I can actually change.

It is neither "nice guy" or "bad boy."

To be honest, it doesn't leave much of an impression at all."

How do I leave an impression?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm short for a guy, have an average penis, and don't appear to be very good at taking photos (I'm working on it).

Therefore it would be good to get some feedback on the things I can actually change.

It is neither "nice guy" or "bad boy."

To be honest, it doesn't leave much of an impression at all.

How do I leave an impression? "

By writing a profile which says more than that you are looking for sex. Personality and what you offer are important.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I'm short for a guy, have an average penis, and don't appear to be very good at taking photos (I'm working on it).

Therefore it would be good to get some feedback on the things I can actually change.

It is neither "nice guy" or "bad boy."

To be honest, it doesn't leave much of an impression at all.

How do I leave an impression? "

We can't write your profile for you. Put yourself in the shoes of the people you hope to meet and write what you think they would like to read. Bear in mind that this site isn't a place where you list your requirements and a queue of women who fit your criteria submit an application, it's difficult for young single men they're in a large majority and women can afford to pass the ordinary profiles by in favour of the stand out ones.

Join in the forums for a few weeks, you'll get an idea of personalities and what people look for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing wrong with a nice guy. Not everyone is into bad boys.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I probably shouldn't have written that I want to come off as a 'bad boy' in my original message.

I think what I meant was that I'd like to come off as someone most people would be excited to meet. I was just a bit worried my profile might make me seem a bit dull and boring - or 'nice guy-ish' as I've been calling it.

However, I suppose this site attracts a wide range of people, all with different interests, so I guess I'll never be able to please everyone.

I'll work on my profile over the coming weeks anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I probably shouldn't have written that I want to come off as a 'bad boy' in my original message.

However, I suppose this site attracts a wide range of people, all with different interests, so I guess I'll never be able to please everyone.

I'll work on my profile over the coming weeks anyway

As I said, your current profile says very little about you. Whether you are a "nice guy" or a "bad boy" is not possible to tell.

When you rewrite your profile, try being you. You are quite right that you will never appeal to everyone - but it is better to appeal to someone.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I probably shouldn't have written that I want to come off as a 'bad boy' in my original message.

However, I suppose this site attracts a wide range of people, all with different interests, so I guess I'll never be able to please everyone.

I'll work on my profile over the coming weeks anyway

As I said, your current profile says very little about you. Whether you are a "nice guy" or a "bad boy" is not possible to tell.

When you rewrite your profile, try being you. You are quite right that you will never appeal to everyone - but it is better to appeal to someone."

To be honest, that is me. I'm not really sure what else I can add.

What kind of sex do I like? What am I doing with my life in regards to career/education? What are my hobbies?

I am usually quite a good writer, but pretty bad when it comes to dating profiles or writing about myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I probably shouldn't have written that I want to come off as a 'bad boy' in my original message.

However, I suppose this site attracts a wide range of people, all with different interests, so I guess I'll never be able to please everyone.

I'll work on my profile over the coming weeks anyway

As I said, your current profile says very little about you. Whether you are a "nice guy" or a "bad boy" is not possible to tell.

When you rewrite your profile, try being you. You are quite right that you will never appeal to everyone - but it is better to appeal to someone.

To be honest, that is me. I'm not really sure what else I can add.

What kind of sex do I like? What am I doing with my life in regards to career/education? What are my hobbies?

I am usually quite a good writer, but pretty bad when it comes to dating profiles or writing about myself."

There is nothing in your text to attract anyone. "As long as you are ..." = "I will fuck almost any hole."

Where is the bit about why you should be the choice? Where is the personality? Where is the attraction?

You may be able to put sentences together but where is the meaning?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I probably shouldn't have written that I want to come off as a 'bad boy' in my original message.

However, I suppose this site attracts a wide range of people, all with different interests, so I guess I'll never be able to please everyone.

I'll work on my profile over the coming weeks anyway

As I said, your current profile says very little about you. Whether you are a "nice guy" or a "bad boy" is not possible to tell.

When you rewrite your profile, try being you. You are quite right that you will never appeal to everyone - but it is better to appeal to someone.

To be honest, that is me. I'm not really sure what else I can add.

What kind of sex do I like? What am I doing with my life in regards to career/education? What are my hobbies?

I am usually quite a good writer, but pretty bad when it comes to dating profiles or writing about myself.

There is nothing in your text to attract anyone. "As long as you are ..." = "I will fuck almost any hole."

Where is the bit about why you should be the choice? Where is the personality? Where is the attraction?

You may be able to put sentences together but where is the meaning?"

That's what I'm having trouble with. I don't know how to elicit attraction through words, and I can't find any decent profiles to borrow ideas from.