FabSwingers.com forum: "User no longer on site"

By *ravus OP Couple
over a year ago

Shipley

Has anyone else spent a day chatting with a new site user (female, unverified, no pics) to the point where you'd arranged a social then for them to disappear? Part of me feels sorry, that maybe they'd got cold feet or thought better of it, but the other, less charitable, part of me thinks "bloody time waster"... or is it my fault for being naive?

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"Has anyone else spent a day chatting with a new site user (female, unverified, no pics) to the point where you'd arranged a social then for them to disappear? Part of me feels sorry, that maybe they'd got cold feet or thought better of it, but the other, less charitable, part of me thinks "bloody time waster"... or is it my fault for being naive?"
ill be honest it was probably a guy, pretending to be female xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They probs just got cold feet or bottled it.

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By *ravus OP Couple
over a year ago

Shipley

I'd considered that early on but 'she' was so convincing that I ruled it out... but yes you're probably right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I first joined up I arranged to meet a couple quite quickly because the novelty of it was exciting, but I got cold feet in the few hours leading up to the meet (same day) but I was too scared of being called a timewaster that I deleted my account and hid for a few weeks until I plucked up the courage to try again and it wasn't so bad the second time around.

Don't get me wrong it must be extremely frustrating to be let down, but also both parties have the right to change their mind at any time before and even during the meet and that should be respected.

I've carried on with a meet even though I didn't really want to be there before out of guilt and fear of being called a 'timewaster' and it's not a nice feeling.

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By *ravus OP Couple
over a year ago

Shipley

"They probs just got cold feet or bottled it."
I don't have a problem with anyone changing their mind, just wish they could say so... but the human psyche is complicated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

New user, unverified, no pics? I wouldn't even have spoken to them. Screams of "I'll be unlos in 24 hours".

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By *ravus OP Couple
over a year ago

Shipley

"When I first joined up I arranged to meet a couple quite quickly because the novelty of it was exciting, but I got cold feet in the few hours leading up to the meet (same day) but I was too scared of being called a timewaster that I deleted my account and hid for a few weeks until I plucked up the courage to try again and it wasn't so bad the second time around.

Hence my original post... I can understand the mindset that, in the cold light of day, just wants to run away from all the things we'd been discussing... some of it quite rude!

Don't get me wrong it must be extremely frustrating to be let down, but also both parties have the right to change their mind at any time before and even during the meet and that should be respected.

I've carried on with a meet even though I didn't really want to be there before out of guilt and fear of being called a 'timewaster' and it's not a nice feeling.

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By *ravus OP Couple
over a year ago

Shipley

"New user, unverified, no pics? I wouldn't even have spoken to them. Screams of "I'll be unlos in 24 hours"."

I know, I should have known better..

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

all the things we'd been discussing... some of it quite rude!

this is your answer..its what they wanted..guy..defo.

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By *ravus OP Couple
over a year ago

Shipley

You mean women never talk 'dirty'?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"New user, unverified, no pics? I wouldn't even have spoken to them. Screams of "I'll be unlos in 24 hours".

I know, I should have known better.."

I reckon there are very few of us on here who haven't fallen for some kind of nonsense at some point. We live and we learn!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"all the things we'd been discussing... some of it quite rude!

this is your answer..its what they wanted..guy..defo.

This has happened to me too. Would that be a guy too? Fleed after a pic exchange.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"You mean women never talk 'dirty'?

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look im a cautious one i dont do that, before a social meet, but its not one of my things..defo not to a no pic, no veri silhouette..but thats me..i have right at the beginning fallen for 'couples' who have turned out to be men..im just saying xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it's usually a male user, who has signed up less than a week ago, unverified who sends a one line message like "want to suck my cock tonight at mine?"

I find within 24 hours the user has left the site.

I've put it down to a d*unken guy with bi fantasies?

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By *ravus OP Couple
over a year ago

Shipley

Thanks all for your posts... reassuring to know its all part of Fab's rich tapestry...

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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago

Southampton

I had this on my single profile from a man I'd been seeing regularly. After our last meet, he messaged me to say that basically it was over, that he was moving abroad to work. I got no chance to reply as he blocked me, cowardly man. Ive no idea if he went unlos but he may as well have done

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By *rmarcus971Man
over a year ago

biggleswade

There are a lot of ladies on here that do that u swop pics all seems good you even exchange Kik profile or Skype and then they get deleted time waisters are really bad for the genuine people on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had it where u spend hrs chatting you arrange a meet ask to exchange pics you send yours they don't reciprocate and when u go to ask they have dissapeared off site even had one lady arrange a meet after chatting for a week let me get to our meeting place only not to show up wouldn't answer phone and deleted profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And then theres the ones who come on site to ask for outdoors fun slag the site off as full of dreamers and how they meet real people outdoors then leave site only to return at a later date under a different to do it all again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its all part of Fabs fake programs they are trying to sex up the site I call them 20 minute memebers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't get me wrong it must be extremely frustrating to be let down, but also both parties have the right to change their mind at any time before and even during the meet and that should be respected.

I've carried on with a meet even though I didn't really want to be there before out of guilt and fear of being called a 'timewaster' and it's not a nice feeling.

You have hit the nail right on the head. I too have carried on with a meet although I didn't really want to do it.

If you chat for a while and change mind it does not make you a timewaster..Consent can be withdrawn at any time. XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honesty is the key here Manners don't cost a penny !

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

"You mean women never talk 'dirty'?

I don't. And pretty much every woman I know on here doesn't.

It is easy to tell if the profile holder is actually a woman, they 'talk' very differently compared to how men think women talk to each other.

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By *xploringThisWorldMan
over a year ago

collier row

"For me it's usually a male user, who has signed up less than a week ago, unverified who sends a one line message like "want to suck my cock tonight at mine?"

I find within 24 hours the user has left the site.

I've put it down to a d*unken guy with bi fantasies?"

After 1am i get floods of those messages from guys . "Come suck me now?"

Haha what ever happened to romance eh? Lol j/k

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Has anyone else spent a day chatting with a new site user (female, unverified, no pics) to the point where you'd arranged a social then for them to disappear? Part of me feels sorry, that maybe they'd got cold feet or thought better of it, but the other, less charitable, part of me thinks "bloody time waster"... or is it my fault for being naive?ill be honest it was probably a guy, pretending to be female xx"

So. Is everything the fault of single men?

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"Has anyone else spent a day chatting with a new site user (female, unverified, no pics) to the point where you'd arranged a social then for them to disappear? Part of me feels sorry, that maybe they'd got cold feet or thought better of it, but the other, less charitable, part of me thinks "bloody time waster"... or is it my fault for being naive?ill be honest it was probably a guy, pretending to be female xx"

Go straight for the jugular OP "You sound nice, but what do you look like?" Type of message & be wary of non selfie pics at first, If they didn't take them who did? You may well be talking to the person that took the photo rather than the person in it.

I don't mind wasting a message or two on them gen or not, but I've no time for someone that talks to people as public as us who then don't want to send a face pic tbh..Quite understand peeps not wanting them on here but not wanting to send one full stop is fishy..Most just try to ignore the question with another. More than once we've just outright said "We think your a fella, until you prove otherwise go away..

Oh and Google reverse image search is your friend too sometimes do use it!!

Have fun

S&H

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You mean women never talk 'dirty'?

I don't. And pretty much every woman I know on here doesn't.

It is easy to tell if the profile holder is actually a woman, they 'talk' very differently compared to how men think women talk to each other."

I do! I write smut as a sideline and very much enjoy talking dirty...online. Get me in person and I go scarlet to my hair roots at the thought of stuttering out something naughty.

Still, no matter how nervous I am before a meet, I couldn't let them down, never mind UNLOS - but now I understand why I get so many messages in the lead up checking whether I was still going through with it!

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"Has anyone else spent a day chatting with a new site user (female, unverified, no pics) to the point where you'd arranged a social then for them to disappear? Part of me feels sorry, that maybe they'd got cold feet or thought better of it, but the other, less charitable, part of me thinks "bloody time waster"... or is it my fault for being naive?ill be honest it was probably a guy, pretending to be female xx

So. Is everything the fault of single men?"

As a man I'd say no not single but men in general account for probs 90% of the pushiness, abuse & shit that go on here..

Sorry Bro

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"Has anyone else spent a day chatting with a new site user (female, unverified, no pics) to the point where you'd arranged a social then for them to disappear? Part of me feels sorry, that maybe they'd got cold feet or thought better of it, but the other, less charitable, part of me thinks "bloody time waster"... or is it my fault for being naive?ill be honest it was probably a guy, pretending to be female xx

So. Is everything the fault of single men?

As a man I'd say no not single but men in general account for probs 90% of the pushiness, abuse & shit that go on here..

Sorry Bro

The other 10% is Teabag

I'll be in my bomb shelter if you want me...;)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Has anyone else spent a day chatting with a new site user (female, unverified, no pics) to the point where you'd arranged a social then for them to disappear? Part of me feels sorry, that maybe they'd got cold feet or thought better of it, but the other, less charitable, part of me thinks "bloody time waster"... or is it my fault for being naive?ill be honest it was probably a guy, pretending to be female xx

So. Is everything the fault of single men?

As a man I'd say no not single but men in general account for probs 90% of the pushiness, abuse & shit that go on here..

Sorry Bro

The other 10% is Teabag

I'll be in my bomb shelter if you want me...;)

Bwahahahaha - a mere bomb shelter ain't gonna save ya

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"Has anyone else spent a day chatting with a new site user (female, unverified, no pics) to the point where you'd arranged a social then for them to disappear? Part of me feels sorry, that maybe they'd got cold feet or thought better of it, but the other, less charitable, part of me thinks "bloody time waster"... or is it my fault for being naive?ill be honest it was probably a guy, pretending to be female xx

So. Is everything the fault of single men?

As a man I'd say no not single but men in general account for probs 90% of the pushiness, abuse & shit that go on here..

Sorry Bro

The other 10% is Teabag

I'll be in my bomb shelter if you want me...;)

Bwahahahaha - a mere bomb shelter ain't gonna save ya

I'll take her on next time I go walking in the Black Hills..

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

"You mean women never talk 'dirty'?

I don't. And pretty much every woman I know on here doesn't.

It is easy to tell if the profile holder is actually a woman, they 'talk' very differently compared to how men think women talk to each other."

I think this is about right. Any woman asking quickly for pics is someone to be wary of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why would any 1 have a name like this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes....every female we chat to x

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"You mean women never talk 'dirty'?

I don't. And pretty much every woman I know on here doesn't.

It is easy to tell if the profile holder is actually a woman, they 'talk' very differently compared to how men think women talk to each other.

I think this is about right. Any woman asking quickly for pics is someone to be wary of. "

Really?! I ask quickly for pics, (when I'm meeting), because I need to know what someone looks like to decide if it's worth chatting.

I'd expect most women to want to see pics fairly soon because it's easier to say no thanks early rather than after you've been chatting for days.

The point that men pretending to be women don't talk like women do is usually very true though.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"Has anyone else spent a day chatting with a new site user (female, unverified, no pics) to the point where you'd arranged a social then for them to disappear? Part of me feels sorry, that maybe they'd got cold feet or thought better of it, but the other, less charitable, part of me thinks "bloody time waster"... or is it my fault for being naive?ill be honest it was probably a guy, pretending to be female xx

So. Is everything the fault of single men?"
no its my fault, for being on here..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Has anyone else spent a day chatting with a new site user (female, unverified, no pics) to the point where you'd arranged a social then for them to disappear? Part of me feels sorry, that maybe they'd got cold feet or thought better of it, but the other, less charitable, part of me thinks "bloody time waster"... or is it my fault for being naive?ill be honest it was probably a guy, pretending to be female xx

So. Is everything the fault of single men?

As a man I'd say no not single but men in general account for probs 90% of the pushiness, abuse & shit that go on here..

Sorry Bro

The other 10% is Teabag

I'll be in my bomb shelter if you want me...;)

Who is this other teabag person you're on about?

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Has anyone else spent a day chatting with a new site user (female, unverified, no pics) to the point where you'd arranged a social then for them to disappear? Part of me feels sorry, that maybe they'd got cold feet or thought better of it, but the other, less charitable, part of me thinks "bloody time waster"... or is it my fault for being naive?ill be honest it was probably a guy, pretending to be female xx

So. Is everything the fault of single men?

As a man I'd say no not single but men in general account for probs 90% of the pushiness, abuse & shit that go on here..

Sorry Bro

The other 10% is Teabag

I'll be in my bomb shelter if you want me...;)

Who is this other teabag person you're on about?"

There's an imposter about!

Or two of you

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Yes a couple of times. I always wonder why they have waisted both our times but I guess there are multiple reasons why. I guess that's why some chose to block newbies

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