FabSwingers.com forum: Verifications yet hidden? my reason but yours?

By *WLondonMix OP Man
over a year ago

Willsden/DollisHill

I have hidden many of my verifications due to how old they are and believe we all change over the years. What's written on mine are still valid, however I would rather show latest ones as they verify who I am now. Also not a fan of having my whole history of swinging up lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We only show our recent ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have hidden many of my verifications due to how old they are and believe we all change over the years. What's written on mine are still valid, however I would rather show latest ones as they verify who I am now. Also not a fan of having my whole history of swinging up lol"

But you include two from 2010 within your profile text?

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By *aveandkate35Couple
over a year ago

telford

I leave ours up mainly because they are more character statements, which I like to think are just as valid now.

I never trust a profile with 1 verification that's hidden.

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By *uessWhosBackAgainMan
over a year ago

London

I Don't even bother asking for them anymore don't feel it's that important to keep on getting and putting them up myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a man messaging saying I met his mate, would I do a threesome. I have also had problems on a previous profile, with a man telling a couple to contact me regarding a meet where she just wanted her partner pleasured and 2 men I had met messaging each other hostile fashion. XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So hide verifications now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I leave ours up mainly because they are more character statements, which I like to think are just as valid now.

I never trust a profile with 1 verification that's hidden.

I have 1 hidden verification, I am trustworthy, my reasons are stated above. I am not worried if members don't like it, I get plenty of offers. I am not looking to fill a verification sheet, I am fussy who I meet, time limited and also have an FWB. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only show a few recent ones and I change them around every so often..a bit like showing current photos.

Guys who join..get a veri within a day or two but never show it are a bit suss to me.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

I don't ever ask for verifications but all the ones I've currently got are on display, they don't coincide with my verification summary, that's say I have more but it will because of course when a user leaves the site the veri goes with them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I leave ours up mainly because they are more character statements, which I like to think are just as valid now.

I never trust a profile with 1 verification that's hidden.

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I have one hidden as I had a a few problems with the guy after meeting

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

We don't show ours because we have none left, once the profile goes, the veri goes with it. All our previous meets have either left or removed their profile and started a couples one, or a new one (mostly due to single men, jealousy,cat fighting and general bitchyness.....ah single women doth amuse so).

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By *reakShow90Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

I do under stand why some have them hidden but as a single guy I need as meny as I can get so people know iam a real guy and that I am who I say I am

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By *oandjohnCouple
over a year ago

South Wales, will travel to Hereford, Worcestershire and Shropshire

We just show them all

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By *ustinCredible.Man
over a year ago

whitecross/sankey valley

I display all mine except where the users have left Fab

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We hide ours because we want to.

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By *ransGuyTV/TS
over a year ago

Cardiff

I have one hidden because the guy shut down his account so I lost the verification. I'm sorry if something out of my control bothers people

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

Hide all of mine and the summary. What I do or don't do is no one's business but mine.

Also if people need other peoples opinions of me in order to decide if they want to get to know me then I'd rather not bother with them

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

WILTSHIRE

"We only show our recent ones

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By *oBananas78Couple
over a year ago

London

Never understood the reasons for this, can understand hiding a few but not all so there if nothing to go on and then you actually ask to meet someone or the funny one being the person with no veris asks you for face pictures!

we generally avoid profiles that hide veris as not all but some could be fake as veris are a good indication to find out if a profile is genuine as it is after all free to set up a profile on here.

The swinging scene per area is generally quite small so we find we end up knowing someone who has met someone via veris a bit like a friend of a friend in Facebook

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown

People leave the site so that's why mine looks the way it does. Sucks but what can you do.

Some people will always judge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The two you show are from 2011 and 2012 so maybe there's another reason why you don't show them??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a few police friends so it's total discretion all round. Less said best said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I won't show my verifications - I show that I have them and that's it. It all smacks a bit of narcissism. I appreciate them when I get them, but they're for me and me alone. You want to find out what I'm like? Message me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hide all of mine and the summary. What I do or don't do is no one's business but mine.

Also if people need other peoples opinions of me in order to decide if they want to get to know me then I'd rather not bother with them"

Yes.

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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago

Southampton

We like to see who people have met, so we can look at the profiles, regardless of how old they are

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Never understood the reasons for this, can understand hiding a few but not all so there if nothing to go on and then you actually ask to meet someone or the funny one being the person with no veris asks you for face pictures!

we generally avoid profiles that hide veris as not all but some could be fake as veris are a good indication to find out if a profile is genuine as it is after all free to set up a profile on here.

The swinging scene per area is generally quite small so we find we end up knowing someone who has met someone via veris a bit like a friend of a friend in Facebook "

Out of interest what could a verification say that would distinguish a fake profile from a genuine one?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hide mine because I can

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Out of interest what could a verification say that would distinguish a fake profile from a genuine one?"

You sometimes see profiles with verification 'chains' where they are clearly written by the same people using different accounts, because the writing style and grammatical/spelling mistakes are the same.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

If I've met someone either socially or for frolic s if they verify me I'll display it , hopefully it gives folk a bit more if an insight to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got a few cam ones when I joined because I was sick of being told I was a fake

Hid them now I have meet ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I won't show my verifications - I show that I have them and that's it. It all smacks a bit of narcissism. I appreciate them when I get them, but they're for me and me alone. You want to find out what I'm like? Message me

As mentioned already....we wouldn't engage and message to find out if all veri's were hidden. We like them as it shows that people are actually genuine and not been varified by one male account one year ago. When we joined the site and didn't have any veri's we had several messages by men offering to veri us in return to a veri for them. Clearly this goes on meaning people can get several verification without ever actually meeting anyone

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By *immerframes R usCouple
over a year ago

Chichester

Good morning, I would just like to add my two pennies worth, that the gentleman that we are planning to meet next week, was chosen through a combination of his chatting with us and his verification's. They to us are a tremendous help and as you have said, they are genuine statements on how that person / people felt with him, and as we are all different in our expectations and outlook, they make interesting reading.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We display our verifications as additional profile information about ourselves. When meeting a complete stranger we look to get as much information as possible before deciding if they are for us, so we will make judgements from their profile, their messages and their verifications. We therefore provide the same information ourselves in order to help others get a picture of what we're about. We don't have all displayed. Some are not really relevant, so just clutter up our profile. Also some people have left the site so veris have gone.

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By *isalashes888400Couple
over a year ago

ennis

well we live ina small town and hide ours.cuz u get people dat verfied us bein asked personal questions about us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hide mine as I don't need to come with references. Plus in the past had other woman having issues with me meeting someone she thinks is hers exclusively and got a bit stalkerish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm only showing the most recent one,so people can see I'm genooween.

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

All verifications from current members are showing.

Unlos verifications have disappeared.

I always look at verifications on people I plan to meet, see them from other peoples perspective.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

"I hide mine as I don't need to come with references. Plus in the past had other woman having issues with me meeting someone she thinks is hers exclusively and got a bit stalkerish. "

Women are on such demand that they don't need verifications (or pictures, or anything written in their profile) and will still receive messages. Mostly cut and pasted messages, by those who believe quantity is better than quality. So not forumites obviously

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are loads I don't show for many reasons

Mainly because they are to graphic, I really dislike verifications where the guys giving a blow by blow account of the sex we had so I don't show them

Ones that have my real name in I don't show

Ones where people I have barely spoken to at a club or social I don't show, I really don't see how someone I have had a brief chat to at a club can verify me as being genuine

I don't show verifications from couples because when I do I get loads of couples mailing me and when I reply I don't meet couples they start going in about how I have verifications from couples so it's easier just not to show them

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By *oBananas78Couple
over a year ago

London

we generally avoid profiles that hide veris as not all but some could be fake as veris are a good indication to find out if a profile is genuine as it is after all free to set up a profile on here.

The swinging scene per area is generally quite small so we find we end up knowing someone who has met someone via veris a bit like a friend of a friend in Facebook

Out of interest what could a verification say that would distinguish a fake profile from a genuine one?"

As mentioned before if they are verified by someone you have met before or you know are on the scene then you can be sure they are genuine.

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By *hristine and MarieCouple (FF)
over a year ago

Somewhere north of Spalding

One hidden due to the writer saying one of us was a nice man

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

There's nothing attractive about reading how someone has got fucked this way and that and by how many hundreds of people and their mates. Actually puts me off. And when you read verifications that sell the person like a pimp is actually disrespectful, you know the "if I was you I would meet them" verifications haha.

I close mine verifications as people don't need to see who I meet and the people have left veri's to prove I am genuine and real so would be a boring read for you lot anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hide mine because of people making my verifications their business in the past

Another reason why they're hidden at the minute is because I'm not currently meeting, so no one has to see them.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Mine are hidden at the moment due to women messaging me, inappropriately, about people I had met. Can't be doing with that sort of drama!!

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Many of ours are from socials we have attended,so we leave them on display .

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By *tickyfingers60Couple
over a year ago

rochdale

Verification's are a bit like references........you are not allowed to write a bad one !!! if you can, I've not seen one ?

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By *uessWhosBackAgainMan
over a year ago

London

"Verification's are a bit like references........you are not allowed to write a bad one !!! if you can, I've not seen one ?

Reason is because if they get a bad one they just don't show it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mine are hidden at the moment due to women messaging me, inappropriately, about people I had met. Can't be doing with that sort of drama!!

This I never understand.

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By *WLondonMix OP Man
over a year ago

Willsden/DollisHill

But you include two from 2010 within your profile text?"

They are from first few meets and as i have only just come back to swinging due to relationship, i only have one recent.

They are there to mainly show consistency and will happily screenshot and send potential meets all of them if needed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've hidden the graphic ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't display mine at all as there is to many people more interested In what others do then there own profiles

If I'm chatting to someone and looks like we might be meeting I'll show them

No one's business who I play with except mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Havent read all the posts so people have already probably said it ... But I tend notvto display play veris ... Particularly if graphic x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like to show a fairly broad cross section of our verifications .

Why ?

Because we want potential meets to have some idea of what we are into , and our veris also indicate the type of people we meet .

In all seriousness , we have a bit of a reputation to uphold on fab , and we will happily challenge anyone to go through our veris and suggest we will shag anything . Far from it , our standards are as high as anyone else's and our verifications show this .

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"I don't display mine at all as there is to many people more interested In what others do then there own profiles

If I'm chatting to someone and looks like we might be meeting I'll show them

No one's business who I play with except mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is really no need for veris, one is plenty

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"Hide all of mine and the summary. What I do or don't do is no one's business but mine.

Also if people need other peoples opinions of me in order to decide if they want to get to know me then I'd rather not bother with them"

I agree with this whole heartily .I only have one on my profile from over a year ago .I met other women in that time before I took a break for about 10 months due to not being able to meet .

I also tell any woman I've had a social with or more with not to bother verifying me although I will verify them if they ask but after hearing my reason for not wanting to be verified myself they decide the same .

What I do with any woman or couple and who with is my business and has nothing to do with those who may want to meet me in the future .if they think I'm fake or have miss giving about me I'd rather not meet then anyway .

I think the very system is fake anyway no one going to say in one you know what he wasn't as good as I thought or she was not as great in bed as I thought so I view them for this reason as fake compliments designed to boost egos of those receiving them and giving them out .

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By *WLondonMix OP Man
over a year ago

Willsden/DollisHill

As a couple or female you have the prerogative not to display, but as a gent it is very difficult. I myself and looking around for a M or couple to join myself and fb (from this site verified) to fulfil fantasys. For the gents I pass by with no consideration if hidden as we all have discovered, there's many that timewaste. Rather be safe than sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hide all of mine and the summary. What I do or don't do is no one's business but mine.

Also if people need other peoples opinions of me in order to decide if they want to get to know me then I'd rather not bother with them

I agree with this whole heartily .I only have one on my profile from over a year ago .I met other women in that time before I took a break for about 10 months due to not being able to meet .

I feel it's a bit unfair to say you'd rather not meet someone who has misgivings about you for not displaying verifications. The misgivings would not be personal against you, more because many people have had bad experiences from arranging to meet someone who hide their verifications. More of a case of fakes and timewasters spoiling it for others. Fair enough if you wish to stick to your guns and keep you sex life private. But it doesn't mean that someone who feels they cannot risk meeting someone without displayed verifications, is not worthy of meeting you. Their reasons for feeling the need for verifications are unfortunately very legitimate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I leave ours up mainly because they are more character statements, which I like to think are just as valid now.

I never trust a profile with 1 verification that's hidden.

This......

I don't mind if verifications are shown or not. The summary is a good thing to give an idea if genuine. One or two more recent also helps. After all, they only confirm that you do exist/meet.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

We don't see verifications as a way of finding anything out other than us being real.

It probably indicates the frequency of our swinging too.

I'm sure if we had issues like stalking or a person who verified us going nuts we'd also hide them. But thankfully everyone we've met so far seems pretty sane.

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By *ulfilthmentMan
over a year ago

Just around the corner

I've had several, but all the people I've met have left the site and therefore their verifications were deleted with their profiles. I don't meet often and therefore haven't any new ones to show.

There's nothing I can do about it (apart from getting some fresh ones).

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol

I don't display verifications from guys who identify as straight for discetionary reasons..

I have been told that some people get off on reading verifications,so a good reason to display old and new.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh good, another one of mine has gone UNLOS so I look like I'm hiding loads!

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By *easerxxWoman
over a year ago

merseyside

"I leave ours up mainly because they are more character statements, which I like to think are just as valid now.

I never trust a profile with 1 verification that's hidden.

I have one hidden as I had a a few problems with the guy after meeting "

this ^^^^^^ never again

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"Hide all of mine and the summary. What I do or don't do is no one's business but mine.

Also if people need other peoples opinions of me in order to decide if they want to get to know me then I'd rather not bother with them

I agree with this whole heartily .I only have one on my profile from over a year ago .I met other women in that time before I took a break for about 10 months due to not being able to meet .

All your points are good points and I see where your coming from and to be fair I was talking about first contact. by that I mean when someone checks out my profile after seeing a forum post of mine or a message I may have sent .

But all your worries could be ended by a simple message swap then I quick phone chat finished off with a social in a public place .

Yes if your organizing only sex meets no social before hand all your points are very spot on but as I would never agree to a sex meet with out having been on a social with that person or couple first I can afford to stick to my guns .

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