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By *ent73 OP   Man
over a year ago

kent

My wife has just had a sexual awakening thanks to a family friend and enjoyed it very much . Our friend more experienced in the scene than us and while my wife wants to keep expanding her sexual boundary's is somewhat shy . A club has been discussed buy hervfreibd and she seems keen I just have a few questions . Should I let just her and our friend go on their own first , as a girls night out , so she can relax more ? How are newbies treated ? She is worried what to wear and what the etiquette is ? All advice great fully reviewed as this is a door I don't want closing again

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Get her to join fab and ask herself. She might get a lot more answers than a guy.

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

Get a couples profile set up

Go to the club together with your friend ( I go as a single female with couples )

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By *ent73 OP   Man
over a year ago

kent

If she was moe confident there would be no need for me enquiring on her behalf .

Why would she get more answers than a guy ? I bet if she was was asking on behalf of me she would be inundated with answers and not told " we won't talk to yo , get your husband on instead "

Just seemed an odd reply for a fairly simple question .

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Er......because in 3 days you've only had a reply from me and a lady who suggested a couples profile. QED.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"If she was moe confident there would be no need for me enquiring on her behalf .

Why would she get more answers than a guy ? I bet if she was was asking on behalf of me she would be inundated with answers and not told " we won't talk to yo , get your husband on instead "

Just seemed an odd reply for a fairly simple question ."

Your profile is for a single guy but you're asking about your wife. A lot of guys do this and it looks suspicious.

If you become a couple it looks 'kosher', simple

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By *ent73 OP   Man
over a year ago

kent

Flippant replies do that do nothing to further a conversation and just stating a couple of facts to try and prove a point , without providing any real answers makes no sense . Just comment for comments sake .

QNED

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"If she was moe confident there would be no need for me enquiring on her behalf .

Why would she get more answers than a guy ? I bet if she was was asking on behalf of me she would be inundated with answers and not told " we won't talk to yo , get your husband on instead "

Just seemed an odd reply for a fairly simple question .

Your profile is for a single guy but you're asking about your wife. A lot of guys do this and it looks suspicious.

If you become a couple it looks 'kosher', simple "

"All advice gratefully received"

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By *ent73 OP   Man
over a year ago

kent

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I appreciate you don't like the advice you've been given, but all three of us are saying similar things. Doesn't that suggest anything?

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By *ent73 OP   Man
over a year ago

kent

Thanks for your advice Kinky-Minx , more constructive

As I said we are new to the scene and she is initially wary of fun outside the home with her friend but wants to explore this side of herself more .

So I thought I might get some advice here and maybe when she is more comfortable she will join in .

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By *ent73 OP   Man
over a year ago

kent

The advice is fine but the the way it's said obviously varies . No need for the snooty , look down your nose , I'm better than you and here's a bit of Latin attitude .

Constructive criticism and advice more than welcome thanks .

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"The advice is fine but the the way it's said obviously varies . No need for the snooty , look down your nose , I'm better than you and here's a bit of Latin attitude."

I didn't see any of that and Brightonsteve os one of the last people on here to think like that

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I'm not convinces you're not on here without her knowledge meeting men and wondering how to get her into swinging.

Seen a lot of guys with this MO before

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By *ent73 OP   Man
over a year ago

kent

All I say is I know I'm not , her female friend and playmate is in this site also and was who recommended it .

I know the truth so ultimately that's all that matters , I only came on here for some friendly and non judgemental advice as the lifestyle is supposed to be .

Thanks anyway , lesson learned .

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Hope it all sorts out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your secure in your relationship and her friend is experienced than surely you let her go as a girly night out however it would very likely be better to accommodate her and go with her to gain some experience yourself the advice of others is valid tho a joint account would be a good way forward

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By *ent73 OP   Man
over a year ago

kent

Thanks Kinky-Minx .

We are secure Gaz , that's why I'm more than happy for her to attend with a friend and enjoy herself . Like to get her confidence up then she can show me the ropes

I'm imagining I will feel very different her being with a guy than her debate friend so that's why I suggested the girls night out , if it happened she wouldn't have to worry about what I might think .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get her to go with a friend. Have a few drinks but not d*unk. Wear something she'd wear on a night out with some underwear she feels sexy in.

Tell her to go with ' no expectations' and treat it as a night out with a friend. Be open minded and just do what she feels comfortable doing. And if that means nothing then so be it!!.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

If your partner is not confident then you certainly should be with her. Paul introduced me to the scene after months of us talking it through. Take things slowly and check in with each other that all is ok as you go along. Good communication is vital otherwise misunderstandings & upsets could easily occur. She needs to do this because it's what she wants & not do it to please you or anyone else.

Flik

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By *ent73 OP   Man
over a year ago

kent

Thanks for the feedback , I'm sure her going out stuff would work fine , she loves her skirts and holdups

Don't get me wrong when I talk about confidence it's only about finding her feet in the new situation not herself . She was the one who started playing with her friend with no printing from me after a night out , and after another night out brought up the clubs .

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