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By *hopper001 OP   Man
over a year ago

wolverhampton

Hi all

Relatively new to the site, I'm hoping some of the More, dare I say, experienced out there can give me a few pointers

I've contacted a few local ladies and couples without success, I'm always respectful and never pushy but don't seem to getting much joy

I don't have a profile pic on my page as discretion is very important too me, but always send a face pic with my message, I'm no David Becham but not ugly either,

The only messages I seem to get are from gay guys trying to convert me,

I'd appreciate your constructive criticism on my page and how I could improve my chances

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

Even if you keep your face pic for private sending you should consider photos. Also the narrative doesn't really spark... what makes you stand out over all the other single guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Welcome.

You can add photos of yourself to your profile without them being face (don't have to be cock either) and you say very little about yourself.

There are loads of single guys on here and your profile needs to stand out, I know I look at profiles before reading the message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No pics, not even available in friends only, will make limit your audience who may choose to message back very quickly, most people look at profiles before messages so you have to stand out, it's your selling page

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No pictures and a bland profile will not garner any interest. Work on it.

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By *hopper001 OP   Man
over a year ago

wolverhampton

Thanks for the comments so far

Will start working on things

Xx

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

It goes like this...

Message - open profile - no profile - delete message unread.

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By *hopper001 OP   Man
over a year ago

wolverhampton

Hi all

Made a few changes let's see if this helps

Thanks again for the comments

Xx

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

OP are you married?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

No pics = no meets

Generally speaking.

I'd spell check and grammar check your profile too.

It takes time and patience, so garner your mental health and go for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You mean you can't put any picture at all on your profile? No picture of your back, or bum or chest, or maybe clothed picture without your face on view? Body with face cropped out maybe? Nobody's asking you to show your face, but you ought to be able to show something!

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By *ackett1962Man
over a year ago

harrow

Not being funny op... but the can't accommodate thing will probably make a lot of people suspicious. Your profile looks like you are either married or living with someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

6" tongue?

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By *hopper001 OP   Man
over a year ago

wolverhampton

Thanks for all the feedback again, much appreciated

To answer some of the questions

Not Married, separated but do live with my 2 young children, babysitters are easier to organise at my house, hence not accommodating, should I make reference to that on my profile

I will try do a a few discrete face or body shots

The 6" tongue comment was a joke in that I love giving oral and would gladly do it for hours

Thanks again

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By *ifuwMan
over a year ago

Hull

I've been through this and still going through this problem. Even having a perfect message doesn't help because I know lady's who get hundreds of messages a day. So they can't physically answer them all. So there is always a chance that your messages float on by without being noticed.

Also having no pictures like everyone else has said will not be helping. Honestly take a look at my pics for ideas if you wish. The gay guys block them on message filters you will never hear from them again. Lastly what has worked for me is getting yourself out there to a friendly social and letting people meet the real you. Show them that your not a profile.

I know it's hard I too have children and I can't accommodate. Also yes I am married and everyone who knows me knows it and have meet the wife. We play as a couple and we both play solo as well. I hope this helps you out

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire


"Hi all

Made a few changes let's see if this helps

Thanks again for the comments

Xx

"

Not unless you deal with the photos issue

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