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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi all,

I want to spice things up with my fiance and get a little naughty..we have hit plateau recently and was looking for tip on.how to maybe venture into something a little more riskay tips on maybe light bdsm and how to introduce her into it slowly.

Thanks fabbers x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Hi all,

I want to spice things up with my fiance and get a little naughty..we have hit plateau recently and was looking for tip on.how to maybe venture into something a little more riskay tips on maybe light bdsm and how to introduce her into it slowly.

Thanks fabbers x "

You're at the start of what I hope is a long and successful life together, the basis of that will be good communication. I suggest that you sit down with her, tell her you love her and that you want every aspect of your life to be as good as possible including your sex life. Start on it together, include her, read books, watch porn, talk about fantasies and be prepared to take it slowly.

Best of luck to you both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Introducing her to BDSM or swinging? Because if it's BDSM you are after I would recommend Fetlife they are more dedicated to that side of things and are full of good knowledge usually.

If it's swinging just show her your profile I'm sure she will be well up for it!

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By *izzabelle and well hungCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh.

Doomed

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Oh and in mum mode completely please don't start your life together with deceit, be honest and if you don't feel you can consider your position very carefully. I'm not criticising just offering mum type advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh and in mum mode completely please don't start your life together with deceit, be honest and if you don't feel you can consider your position very carefully. I'm not criticising just offering mum type advice."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honesty, tell her your on here. Then see how if goes from there.

But agree with previous comments on BDSM, other site can better suit those needs.

Good luck OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Getting her on here would spice things up...show her your profile? Or is that why you like to be discreet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Show her your fab profile.. im sure it will spice things up

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well i was on here really just to get advice i did have intwntions of being discreet but now ive found the forum i just wanted advice...its not necesarily bdsm its just new things to try..probably not swinging xx

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales


"Hi all,

I want to spice things up with my fiance and get a little naughty..we have hit plateau recently and was looking for tip on.how to maybe venture into something a little more riskay tips on maybe light bdsm and how to introduce her into it slowly.

Thanks fabbers x "

Try asking if there is anything she'd like to try or a "different" type of club she'd like to go to.

"Well I fancy trying this, what about you?" Is not the way to ask usually.

Good luck

S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are some good bondage tips for beginners on Lovehoney, think there's tips on spicing up your sex life on there too.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Well i was on here really just to get advice i did have intwntions of being discreet but now ive found the forum i just wanted advice...its not necesarily bdsm its just new things to try..probably not swinging xx"

Again I'm not being critical but change things round imagine your fiancee is on here asking how to spice things up with you, how would you feel? Do you think that a bunch of strangers on the internet will know what you would like sexually better than yourself?

Trust me, once you establish that communication with her you won't need outside opinion. There is no other way to discover what will work than by talking to her, it might take time but you have that.

Oh and ps do you know how many men say they are just here to get advice?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

You make a good point and appreciate the comments, i genuinely am looking for tips though. I will approach her when i get back and talk her through some ideas, just hope she agrees lol...hoping rhis 6 weeka brings us closer together xx

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"You make a good point and appreciate the comments, i genuinely am looking for tips though. I will approach her when i get back and talk her through some ideas, just hope she agrees lol...hoping rhis 6 weeka brings us closer together xx"

You don't need to talk her through ideas, that's my point you need to sit down and have an open exchange of ideas. She might want things you've never even considered.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You make a good point and appreciate the comments, i genuinely am looking for tips though. I will approach her when i get back and talk her through some ideas, just hope she agrees lol...hoping rhis 6 weeka brings us closer together xx

You don't need to talk her through ideas, that's my point you need to sit down and have an open exchange of ideas. She might want things you've never even considered."

Yea hopefully ok ill do that...we do have lots of sex just wanted to try new thjngs you know

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"You make a good point and appreciate the comments, i genuinely am looking for tips though. I will approach her when i get back and talk her through some ideas, just hope she agrees lol...hoping rhis 6 weeka brings us closer together xx

You don't need to talk her through ideas, that's my point you need to sit down and have an open exchange of ideas. She might want things you've never even considered.

Yea hopefully ok ill do that...we do have lots of sex just wanted to try new thjngs you know "

Nothing to be embarrassed about trying new things is what its all about. We've been together 35 years and still try new stuff.

Nobody is born knowing how to be successful in a long term relationship, I wish you both happiness

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales


"You make a good point and appreciate the comments, i genuinely am looking for tips though. I will approach her when i get back and talk her through some ideas, just hope she agrees lol...hoping rhis 6 weeka brings us closer together xx"

Exactly what not to do IMO, You have several ideas that you'd like to try, keep them as ideas for now, Try & ask if she has any during an open exchange, The ones that are the same, do them & hopefully once you both start talking you may move on to others..

S

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you all for your advice x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Communication is key to any relationship both inside and outside of the bedroom talk to ber about your wants, desires, fantasys and kinks tell her the things you want to try but tell her that you want it to be an adventure you take and experience together. If your open and honest and just talk to her you will probably find out that she wants to be filthier than you can imagine she just needs to trust you with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh and in mum mode completely please don't start your life together with deceit, be honest and if you don't feel you can consider your position very carefully. I'm not criticising just offering mum type advice."
open and honest best way always

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi, we can suggest an online questionnaire called mojo upgrade. You take it separately and at the end it shows you the activities that you both want to try and does not display the things that you don't.

Worth a look imo

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hi, we can suggest an online questionnaire called mojo upgrade. You take it separately and at the end it shows you the activities that you both want to try and does not display the things that you don't.

Worth a look imo"

Wow this is brilliant! Thank you i will be using it

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