FabSwingers.com forum: Fake Profiles..

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I know we ain't verified as yet and are hoping to soon,we are new and curious, however its really amazing how many fake profiles are actually on here. Spoken to a few women here who we thought were genuine until the profile disappears??? We have also spoken with verified people and arrange meets at ours and then they behave as though we never spoke..? What are we doing wrong and is there any advise away from the usual that can help spot these fakes?? Thanks!

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

You will get a feel for timewasters eventually, perhaps meet for a social or meet in a public place rather than straight to yours

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well it was a hotel bar.. We were happy to host but they got our hopes high and never heard back :S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately you'll get used to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens all the time. Even the verified ones, they think they can mess you about just because you might be new. Arrange a social early in the conversation. You'll soon find out where they stand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why is someone not genuine if their profile disappears? They may think the site was not for them and delete it. People may change their mind about meeting for whatever reason and not feel able to say why, doesn't make them fake. Try to stick to well verifed members and go with your gut instinct about someone. If you have any doubt about them then give them a wide berth.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

When we first made our profile we were happy to exchange face pics and be open however its sad that we feel like we can only seem to attract fake profiles.. As newbies we are awakening to a hole darker side to this whole experience which is making us feel we cant express ourselves on a platform that was created for the whole reason we are here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why is someone not genuine if their profile disappears? They may think the site was not for them and delete it. People may change their mind about meeting for whatever reason and not feel able to say why, doesn't make them fake. Try to stick to well verifed members and go with your gut instinct about someone. If you have any doubt about them then give them a wide berth. "

It could be but i dont understand why arrange a meet and not say..? It sounds like its a very common thing, its scary. Most Well verified members only want to hear from well verified members unfortunately in our experience .. We are being patient as we understand that its something you have to put in to to get out of but its just an off put knowing that there is an overwhelming number of fakes... But thank you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like everything online Fab has its fair share of wannbes, keyboard lurkers and people who present completely different to their profiles.

If you want to just meet through here then put your rules into place and do not compromise, something basic with other couples is just a fem/fem phone chat for example, that will out some

Alternatively get yourself out to socials and clubs, there are plenty around London. At least in clubs people are there to 'do' and are very real

Good luck !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately many will just go quiet and not say why they've changed their mind. Often its because they don't want to risk abuse back as this can happen or that they just don't want to upset the people/person concerned although being a no show is more upsetting/annoying than actually saying sorry, changed my mind. It happens alot on here. I arrange a social in a localish place agreeable to both parties. If I feel there is the slightest doubt, I leave the ball in their court saying I'm free on x/y/z dates, let me know which is best for you. If you hear nowt back then leave them to it.

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By *urpurseCouple
over a year ago

North West

Have just put a longish reply in the other thread that may be of use........but in addition if you want veri's probably one of the best ways is to go to socials/ clubs and chat and ask for username and ask if they wouldn't mind giving you a veri..........you don't need to play just have had a chat and got along relatively ok, they then let people know you are real people!

A lot of people get off on stringing people along for some reason and also regarding meets let downs are big in this world, not all the time but just part of this anonymous swinging world we are in. People just get the heeby jeebies at last minute sometimes. One thing we always do is have a plan B, ie go to club/ party/ meet doesn't work out we will go to plan B, hubbies idea and do you know we haven't felt disappointment as much because of that!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have just put a longish reply in the other thread that may be of use........but in addition if you want veri's probably one of the best ways is to go to socials/ clubs and chat and ask for username and ask if they wouldn't mind giving you a veri..........you don't need to play just have had a chat and got along relatively ok, they then let people know you are real people!

Thank you for your post its very helpful.

We are hoping to go to V/A Club soon and have enquired about it so hopefully we can meet some nice genuine people and build our own little circle of safe naughty friends.. Plan B might be a great idea x thanks

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By *urpurseCouple
over a year ago

North West

Good luck and don't be put off, this world is full of the most unbelievable amazing highs but sometimes there are lows...........I think Summer may be be like the slow news silly month maybe same in swinging lots of people on holiday..........wait till summer over then you might get serious meets to come!

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By *ackStrakerMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Fakes crack me up. Think I just found one, but that's why I organise a social asap

Muppets leading sad lives, poor people

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By *qua vitaeWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire/Midlands

I find if people go 'off radar' several days before an arranged meet, even though they've been on here and then don't answer a confirmation text on the day, then I assume the meet is off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would meet if i got a meet .its so hard here for meets

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By *he Hobbit And MeCouple
over a year ago

southampton

Fake profiles? well you just don`t know! ours could be fake so you have to take it at face value and after a while you will get to know the fakers, it just comes with time.. have fun

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By *ilvercharmCouple
over a year ago

Our gate

We are a very true couple who just like to

lol, we always do the face pics first then at least everyone knows where they stand, if peeps are not our time when we will just say. I hate getting someone with a fake profile it's so frustrating

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Fakes timewasters and dreamers part and parcel of this site. My advice ask for an early quick phone chat. Normally sorts things out for me.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"You will get a feel for timewasters eventually, perhaps meet for a social or meet in a public place rather than straight to yours"

What this guy said. Even if he was wearing a hat which I find extremely suspicious in itself. An almost certain sign, I'd say!

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By *umpPumpyMan
over a year ago

London

"Well it was a hotel bar.. We were happy to host but they got our hopes high and never heard back :S

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well if you need somebody reliable and willing in London. I'm your man.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

"I find if people go 'off radar' several days before an arranged meet, even though they've been on here and then don't answer a confirmation text on the day, then I assume the meet is off.

Yes I call this "bailing". Happens a lot as soon as you get to mentioning places and times.

I now like to get an early phone chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fakes timewasters and dreamers part and parcel of this site. My advice ask for an early quick phone chat. Normally sorts things out for me. "

I,m not fake but I don't do phone calls, I don't give my phone number out to anyone anymore, have had problems with that in past. I give my Kik address for chatting. I would not recommend giving out your phone numbers newbie couple.

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago

Not sure someone disappearing is a faker. These sites attract many people who aint cut out to being a swinger, aint cut out for meeting others etc etc. They come here for a bit of a perv, have a mess about then delete their profile once they've had their perv or pisstake fix.

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By *urpurseCouple
over a year ago

North West

Brilliant advice indeed, but for most people a call is a must and so our way round that was we have a 'swinging phone', which when it bleeps with a text and we look at it children are confused because we (mostly) smile when look at the 'work phone'

Cheap phone and can only accept incoming calls

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By *urpurseCouple
over a year ago

North West

"Fakes timewasters and dreamers part and parcel of this site. My advice ask for an early quick phone chat. Normally sorts things out for me.

XXX"

Sorry was referring to your brilliant advice here as above just didnt click right button!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Weed out the fakers, timewasters quickly by being straight to the point after just a few messages

Meet? Where? Confirm.

Chances are if they string you along for more then 3 days it's a timewaster or fake, sex talk in messages is also a sign x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Brilliant advice indeed, but for most people a call is a must and so our way round that was we have a 'swinging phone', which when it bleeps with a text and we look at it children are confused because we (mostly) smile when look at the 'work phone'

Cheap phone and can only accept incoming calls"

I think we might have to look in to this.. Sounds like a great idea x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the other side We have been called fakes, becasue we dont want to meet every weekend, And the female half is very picky. But we dont mind there loss is how we think of it,

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