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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok so please don't get me wrong this is not me trying to grab attention but me honestly asking for some advice.

I've been on this site on and off for a few years and on the whole had a great time but recently I've found it harder and harder to arrange meets or even drum up any interest. I like to think I'm an intelligent and engaging gentleman who enjoys spoiling my guests, I own my own house and can accom and travel. Now to be honest yes there are not loads of pics publicly on my profile due to the nature of my work and sometimes said work can get in the way of playing.

What I guess I'm asking is there anything I can change to improve my profile/chances?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try some better pics, women are after more than a cock, maybe show a better variety of body pics?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the advice, I'll add some over the weekend. One problem I have is to get decent bod pics you kind of need to have someone to help, unfortunately I don't have anyone like that in my life at the moment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the advice, I'll add some over the weekend. One problem I have is to get decent bod pics you kind of need to have someone to help, unfortunately I don't have anyone like that in my life at the moment."

No you don't, most of my pics were taken on my lap top camera.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Now I feel stupid, I hadn't thought of that. Again thanks for the advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Erm...

There's two pictures of your cock & five of a random woman.

People want to see you, not who you've slept with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes action pictures or photos of you hanging out the back end of another woman aren't what new contacts want to see ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Erm...

There's two pictures of your cock & five of a random woman.

People want to see you, not who you've slept with."

Oh why did I look?!! OP, why are there pics of a woman's pussy on your profile? Biggest way to put women off is to put pics of past meets on your profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why have you got 5 pics up when your not actually in them at all? That would be a massive turn off to most women on here to begin with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Erm...

There's two pictures of your cock & five of a random woman.

People want to see you, not who you've slept with.

Oh why did I look?!! OP, why are there pics of a woman's pussy on your profile? Biggest way to put women off is to put pics of past meets on your profile. "

And whether the woman knows they're there or not...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why have you got 5 pics up when your not actually in them at all? That would be a massive turn off to most women on here to begin with."

Plus your profile text says you don't send cock pics unless requested, but they are there on your profile. I just find that a bit contradictory. I'm afriad after that I kind of stopped reading it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope you thoroughly cleaned your truncheon before you went back on duty!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Basically OP, its a bit of a clusterfuck. You say you don't send cock shots unless asked but have one as your profile pic and others in your public gallery. You say you don't have many pics due to the nature of your work but have put pics of some poor random woman up instead. Needs a bit of work my lovely. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yea sorry in my defence I don't normally have all those pics up but put them up today to register feed back. They have been put back in the box lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yea sorry in my defence I don't normally have all those pics up but put them up today to register feed back. They have been put back in the box lol"

Why do you even have them, you're not in them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yea sorry in my defence I don't normally have all those pics up but put them up today to register feed back. They have been put back in the box lol"

Why do you even have them on here full stop? Does the woman know you have them in here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yea sorry in my defence I don't normally have all those pics up but put them up today to register feed back. They have been put back in the box lol

Why do you even have them on here full stop? Does the woman know you have them in here? "

It is his profile , his choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yea sorry in my defence I don't normally have all those pics up but put them up today to register feed back. They have been put back in the box lol

Why do you even have them on here full stop? Does the woman know you have them in here?

It is his profile , his choice "

Having pictures of other people when the person who's profile is not in them is against site rules so not his choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yea sorry in my defence I don't normally have all those pics up but put them up today to register feed back. They have been put back in the box lol

Why do you even have them on here full stop? Does the woman know you have them in here?

It is his profile , his choice "

It is, but he's also looking for advice on how to get meets. Note - him. Not the woman in the random photos.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yea sorry in my defence I don't normally have all those pics up but put them up today to register feed back. They have been put back in the box lol

Why do you even have them on here full stop? Does the woman know you have them in here?

It is his profile , his choice

Having pictures of other people when the person who's profile is not in them is against site rules so not his choice "

Then why were they approved and allowed by admin

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

I get so fed up with 'no photos because of my job' thing. Put pictures up or don't but don't expect much interest without them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My advice (and I have given the same advice a number of times) Keep your profile short and sweet and then copy and paste a decent opening message and send it to as many suitable people as possible. Don't bother reading their profiles , it wastes time , just get blitzing

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By *emplarWarriorMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

love these threads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yea sorry in my defence I don't normally have all those pics up but put them up today to register feed back. They have been put back in the box lol

Why do you even have them on here full stop? Does the woman know you have them in here?

It is his profile , his choice

Having pictures of other people when the person who's profile is not in them is against site rules so not his choice

Then why were they approved and allowed by admin "

Mistakes happen and the pictures can be taken off again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yea sorry in my defence I don't normally have all those pics up but put them up today to register feed back. They have been put back in the box lol

Why do you even have them on here full stop? Does the woman know you have them in here?

It is his profile , his choice

Having pictures of other people when the person who's profile is not in them is against site rules so not his choice

Then why were they approved and allowed by admin

Mistakes happen and the pictures can be taken off again"

What is your point then??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yea sorry in my defence I don't normally have all those pics up but put them up today to register feed back. They have been put back in the box lol

Why do you even have them on here full stop? Does the woman know you have them in here?

It is his profile , his choice

Having pictures of other people when the person who's profile is not in them is against site rules so not his choice

Then why were they approved and allowed by admin

Mistakes happen and the pictures can be taken off again"

I reported them anyway... and looking at the OP he's either put them in private or admin's removed them

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By *horehouseCouple
over a year ago

dissatisfied


"Ok so please don't get me wrong this is not me trying to grab attention but me honestly asking for some advice.

I've been on this site on and off for a few years and on the whole had a great time but recently I've found it harder and harder to arrange meets or even drum up any interest. I like to think I'm an intelligent and engaging gentleman who enjoys spoiling my guests, I own my own house and can accom and travel. Now to be honest yes there are not loads of pics publicly on my profile due to the nature of my work and sometimes said work can get in the way of playing.

What I guess I'm asking is there anything I can change to improve my profile/chances?"

Don't think you are going wrong just a changing sign of the times fab has become more of a social media platform than a dedicated swinger site ..just enjoy socialising on here and whatever comes from it is a bonus .clubs and party events are more promising way of meeting..

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"I get so fed up with 'no photos because of my job' thing. Put pictures up or don't but don't expect much interest without them."

It's a pathetic excuse. You can take pics that include your face and use an app of your choice to obscure your features, or tattoos, and make them unrecognisable.

As for not having anyone to take body pics, a half decent phone will have a timer. Better still, prop your phone up and take a high quality video of yourself in various poses and simply take screenshots.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yea sorry in my defence I don't normally have all those pics up but put them up today to register feed back. They have been put back in the box lol

Why do you even have them on here full stop? Does the woman know you have them in here?

It is his profile , his choice

Having pictures of other people when the person who's profile is not in them is against site rules so not his choice

Then why were they approved and allowed by admin

Mistakes happen and the pictures can be taken off again

I reported them anyway... and looking at the OP he's either put them in private or admin's removed them "

So did I and yes I think admin may have removed them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Might be an idea to proof read your profile text too

The profile pic doesn't make me want to click to see more but if I did I would be turned off by the text. Sorry! You asked for critique

Mrs G

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown


"Yea sorry in my defence I don't normally have all those pics up but put them up today to register feed back. They have been put back in the box lol

Why do you even have them on here full stop? Does the woman know you have them in here?

It is his profile , his choice

Having pictures of other people when the person who's profile is not in them is against site rules so not his choice "

So it is against rules then? Cos I've seen many other like this tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yea sorry in my defence I don't normally have all those pics up but put them up today to register feed back. They have been put back in the box lol

Why do you even have them on here full stop? Does the woman know you have them in here?

It is his profile , his choice

Having pictures of other people when the person who's profile is not in them is against site rules so not his choice

So it is against rules then? Cos I've seen many other like this tbh "

Yes, photo rules state that the person who's profile it is just be in the picture, however to what extent is debatable. I have seen pics with just a hand etc in, they are apparently acceptable. The pics in question here were purely of a female without the presence of a male at all, no finger even.

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown


"Yea sorry in my defence I don't normally have all those pics up but put them up today to register feed back. They have been put back in the box lol

Why do you even have them on here full stop? Does the woman know you have them in here?

It is his profile , his choice

Having pictures of other people when the person who's profile is not in them is against site rules so not his choice

So it is against rules then? Cos I've seen many other like this tbh

Yes, photo rules state that the person who's profile it is just be in the picture, however to what extent is debatable. I have seen pics with just a hand etc in, they are apparently acceptable. The pics in question here were purely of a female without the presence of a male at all, no finger even."

Good to know, thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the advice, I'll add some over the weekend. One problem I have is to get decent bod pics you kind of need to have someone to help, unfortunately I don't have anyone like that in my life at the moment."

Most of mine were taken with my phone, balanced on some books.

As a point you have down same and separate room swapping. As a single guy who are you swapping with?

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

You might also want to reconsider the wording of your meets. It's nice you accom and inviting ladies round for dinner etc but as a single woman the last thing I'd do is go to a strangers house! You might want to offer a choice of meet location or look at where any ladies you're interested in playing with would prefer to meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Firstly thank you to those of you have actually offered constructive advice on here and via private message. I'll be making some changes to my account over the weekend.

As for those who seem to have wanted to turn a honest question into a witch hunt I hope it's made your mediocre evening a little bit more interesting.

For those who actually care and don't want to just have a dig those pictures have been on my account for quite some time. Originally my account was a couples account with a ex girlfriend, when we split I had the account turned into a single male's account (unlike a lot of people on here). When admin changed my account they had access to my pictures but didn't take them down, while that may have been an oversite it was equally a oversight on my part not removing them (they are now), I apologize for this. Again this thread was only to ask for advice and I appreciate those who have honestly offered it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Firstly thank you to those of you have actually offered constructive advice on here and via private message. I'll be making some changes to my account over the weekend.

As for those who seem to have wanted to turn a honest question into a witch hunt I hope it's made your mediocre evening a little bit more interesting.

For those who actually care and don't want to just have a dig those pictures have been on my account for quite some time. Originally my account was a couples account with a ex girlfriend, when we split I had the account turned into a single male's account (unlike a lot of people on here). When admin changed my account they had access to my pictures but didn't take them down, while that may have been an oversite it was equally a oversight on my part not removing them (they are now), I apologize for this. Again this thread was only to ask for advice and I appreciate those who have honestly offered it"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, glad to hear you got some good advice, I'll look forward to seeing your revamped profile and new pics

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By *pal2Man
over a year ago

cumbria

Nothing wrong with photos of the member' with other females. Ive got quite a few on my profile maily because i ilke the photos and the photos i take are of women and are a thing of beauty to me.

I have had comments to say that females dont wnt to see who ive had sex with, however thats their view and fab is not a dating site.

Im sure the advice members have given the OP regarding photos is good advice however I have found that I have been most successful on here when least expecting it and in my opinion if you try too hard on here thats when you start not to enjoy the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nothing wrong with photos of the member' with other females. Ive got quite a few on my profile maily because i ilke the photos and the photos i take are of women and are a thing of beauty to me.

I have had comments to say that females dont wnt to see who ive had sex with, however thats their view and fab is not a dating site.

Im sure the advice members have given the OP regarding photos is good advice however I have found that I have been most successful on here when least expecting it and in my opinion if you try too hard on here thats when you start not to enjoy the site."

I don't see anything wrong with people having pictures with other people in them, as long as they consent to it and your happy with it. However when pictures clearly do not have the profile holder in them at all then I feel it an issue.

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich


"Ok so please don't get me wrong this is not me trying to grab attention but me honestly asking for some advice.

I've been on this site on and off for a few years and on the whole had a great time but recently I've found it harder and harder to arrange meets or even drum up any interest. I like to think I'm an intelligent and engaging gentleman who enjoys spoiling my guests, I own my own house and can accom and travel. Now to be honest yes there are not loads of pics publicly on my profile due to the nature of my work and sometimes said work can get in the way of playing.

What I guess I'm asking is there anything I can change to improve my profile/chances?"

You can have an interesting selection of photos I your gallery and remain anonymous in general (unless you have some really distinctive features).if that's the case - find a way of hiding/disguising them. IMHO - women dislike 'faceless' profiles

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