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By *rs and Mr Bond OP   Couple
over a year ago

Sussex

We've had a couple of FFM plays but have lately discussed trying MFM. My only real issue is finding a guy that would happily submit to me. I don't like pushy and demanding men and I like to be in charge....ask Mr Bond! So this is a question for you single guys I suppose. Would that put you off?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me personally no it wouldn't. I quite enjoy the woman being in control. Find it a huge turn on a woman with authority!

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By *rs and Mr Bond OP   Couple
over a year ago

Sussex

That's good to know. Also is it taboo to ask for a guy to wear a condom? I'm genuinely clueless and need to know the right way to go about it so the first time isn't a complete failure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's good to know. Also is it taboo to ask for a guy to wear a condom? I'm genuinely clueless and need to know the right way to go about it so the first time isn't a complete failure. "

Most certainly not! Indeed most swingers would insist on it. You should make this clear from the outset.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just have them ready by the bedside cabinet or whatever. If he is a gentleman he will take the hint. If he doesn't then more fool him

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By *rs and Mr Bond OP   Couple
over a year ago

Sussex

Thanks guys. I think I'd be more comfortable with making sure it's clear from the outset.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As with all "swinging" decide what you want, be clear about what you're after and then the people who you meet know what to expect. If they don't like what you are after, don't meet them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We only meet with guys of her choosing who are chilled non pushy as they are the third party not for them to take charge as we aren't a cuckold couple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give him the ground rules before you agree to meet. Make it plain if he don't obey then you show him the door.

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By *ony2013Couple
over a year ago

Ashbourne

We are booking a holiday in August and would love to go somewhere sunny where we can easily find swing clubs and if possible some dogging areas can anyone advise us of genuine places

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By *hocolateRodMan
over a year ago

London and over UK

As single guy - I have realised the the best way to do it is for some build up - ie I chat to the husband on the phone - so he can get sense of me and also lay the ground rules. Likewise I like to chat to the lady (to make sure she is real). I always tell them on the phone - I won't be upset if we meet and they decide no on the day - it means everyone feels they can back out

Likewise I think it really important to meet for drink in bar/pub the first time. That way they can get to know me - and get a sense of me. And check out the vibe. If people don't want to have a drink - for me - that is red flag

Likewise, during the drink, I always make sure I make an excuse and go to the toilet and that way the couple can chat in private - and the lady can say yeah or no without me being there....

you have to let everyone feel comfortable and not pressured.

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By *rotiquexxxMan
over a year ago

Unquenchable Desires


"We've had a couple of FFM plays but have lately discussed trying MFM. My only real issue is finding a guy that would happily submit to me. I don't like pushy and demanding men and I like to be in charge....ask Mr Bond! So this is a question for you single guys I suppose. Would that put you off?

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What turned me off was the submit to me line. If it were an equal thing would be fine but not into power plays..... Maybe bondage but not with a stranger.

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By *not69Man
over a year ago

Lancashire


"We've had a couple of FFM plays but have lately discussed trying MFM. My only real issue is finding a guy that would happily submit to me. I don't like pushy and demanding men and I like to be in charge....ask Mr Bond! So this is a question for you single guys I suppose. Would that put you off?

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As long as your ordering me to lick your pussy i wouldn't have a problem with it.

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By *not69Man
over a year ago

Lancashire


"That's good to know. Also is it taboo to ask for a guy to wear a condom? I'm genuinely clueless and need to know the right way to go about it so the first time isn't a complete failure. "

Not taboo at all. It's your body, your in charge of what goes in it so if it has to have a condom on then it has to have one on.

Some guys will try to go bareback so always make sure you reach round and line it up yourself so you can feel it he has a condom on.

Within this lifestyle you should always play safe

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By *ackett1962Man
over a year ago

harrow

I'm quite happy to follow the lead whether it be by the female or male. But do agree about the ground rules condoms.

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