FabSwingers.com forum: A bit more?????

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hello guys and girls, can you wise and wonderful people give me a bit of advice (please don’t be horrible tho lol)

The thing is i have known i am Bi-Sexual for over 15 years and have had relationships with men as well as women. I am very happily married now to my hubby and while being on the site we have enjoyed 3some meets with single bi fems.

A little while ago me and a good friend of mine started to get closer and ended up seeing each other. This was not behind my husband’s back at all he knew everything that was going on and he knows her well so he trusted us both completely. We all got on really well and she would stay with us about 3 days a week, now this was not a threesome kinda thing she was my Girlfriend (and a lesbian) and he was my hubby they were great mates but not intimate. I loved every moment of it cause it wasn’t just about the “fun” you got all the nice extras that you have in a relationship and it really worked for us. It was bloody gorgeous while it lasted and I was gutted when it had to end but that couldn’t be helped.

Since then we have played with bi fems like we used to but because its just "sex" its good but I still really miss those “extras” eg all 3 of us snuggled up on the sofa my head on her lap while shes stroaking my hair and him snuggled up behind my legs etc etc

Has anyone else felt like this or got any good advice for me? I know this site is prob not the place to try and find what im looking for lol Oh and sorry for the essay i think i got carried away lol xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sounds a wondeful scenario.

and i may not be so sure this is not the place to find such a set up. some great friendships and relationships have been formed from here so you never know.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I live in hope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think this is exactly the place you could find it, but it will take time, as many women may not like the idea of entering into a relationship with you (cos thats what it is) when you're already directing love elsewhere, i.e. your husband

maybe just try to look for a 'fuck buddy' and hope that something will develope?

either way, good luck, it sounds like a lovely set up if you can get it

bloke

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By *-and-KCouple
over a year ago

Back of Beyond

Sorry but this sounds like you want the best of both worlds but don't want to commit to either.

As an adult you have to realise that a relationship is a commitment to one person. Yes we all have fuck buddies/couples, but that is all it is, a sexual relationship.

What you are looking for is the complete opposite, you want to give the 'love' part of a committed relationship to two people.

It can work for a time but be aware that one or the other partners may decide that its not for them. Could it be that is what happened with your lesbian partner?

Also be aware that it could also happen with your husband at a point in the future!

I'm not critisizing you here, you are chasing your dreams, what you want. But you do have to be aware of the consequences. Good luck in finding your dream.

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

I'm in a similar kind of relationship, but more from your girlfriends side of things.

I live with a married couple, as in I rent a room from them. I met them a few years ago, when we got chatting in a chat room, met at a social, had a 3sum, and the relationship developed from there.

I wouldn't say we have a poly relationship, just a very good, deep friendship, but some aspects of the relationship are poly in the way things work.

The sex side of the relationship could end tomorrow, and it would make no difference to the friendship, I would still live here, and we would pretty much carry on as normal.

Its not a case of wanting more, and not willing to commit, I fully accept and understand that our friendship comes second to their marriage, and at no time would I ever take one side over the other.

If I started to develop feelings for one over the other I would leave straight away.

A lot of people couldn't do what we do, and I fully understand that. But we make it work by being open and truthful with each other.

It makes for interesting questions when we go to socials together anyway!!!

I've just realised I've totally rambled on, and not actually answered the question, so I'm going to be quiet now!!!

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