FabSwingers.com forum: anal training - after a tear.. not for the squeamish

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

okay used to be able to enjoy this with no problem's.. long story short many years ago a guy was stupidly vigorous and i ended up having stitches...

However still managed with prep and even sometimes spur of the moment with little or no issue. Then one night a little carried away with my partner i tore again.. no stiches but had to wait and it hurt worse..

anyway... Still have managed since then but i am struggling. I am convinced 99% of it is psychological as sometimes im fine.. other times i just nearly cry..

I love how it feels and i only do it with someone i know very well... So having never needed to do any training.. how do people recomend...

I have many different sized toys and buttplugs.. and have heard that a syringe to get lube inside ia a good idea..

thanks in advance..

hoping to make my arse a little less shy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The syringe is a good way to get the lube inside. But remember if you think you have used enough lube, double it!! Anal-eze is good as it has a local anesthetic component to it. Plus (may get abuse for this!) Poppers can help. They not only relax smooth muscles (inc the Anal sphichter) but also increase sexual appetite x

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By *eedsbig9inMan
over a year ago

leeds

I love using big dildo

It took me a while till I got to the stage I can not feel it going in at all i love it

I used to use lube

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't do it either. Tried every trick in the book but my body just won't allow it. I think it's psychological. Possibly the case with you too?

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By *eedsbig9inMan
over a year ago

leeds

"I can't do it either. Tried every trick in the book but my body just won't allow it. I think it's psychological. Possibly the case with you too?"

Its So easy when u relax

I used to tense up too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I can't do it either. Tried every trick in the book but my body just won't allow it. I think it's psychological. Possibly the case with you too?"
i really do think its fear of tearing again.. as even after ive taken some good times there but now can sometimes not even manage a gentle finger and i know my body tenses as i can feel it every where else.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The syringe is a good way to get the lube inside. But remember if you think you have used enough lube, double it!! Anal-eze is good as it has a local anesthetic component to it. Plus (may get abuse for this!) Poppers can help. They not only relax smooth muscles (inc the Anal sphichter) but also increase sexual appetite x "
thanks but problem with analeze is i need to feel any issues.. and i wouldnt ever use poppers.. as even used close to me i get quite ill

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By *3xymamaWoman
over a year ago

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It's best not to use a local anaesthetic. You need to feel the pain to know that things aren't going well. If something is painful it's your bodies warning signal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was bleeding for age from Ass after dp week before last, it's frightening at the time. Am apprehensive to try again.

Your experience sounds horrendous OP.

XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's the trouble with scar tissue it doesn't stretch so you'll always be prone to either tearing again or at the very least irritating it. This is why I really struggle.

I've found the best way is when you are having sleepy sex/spooning with intent! Lol. You're ultra relaxed and not over thinking it and then, for me at least, it can just slowly ease in while you're blissed out

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no anal here for all the reasons you say - pain discomfort and it just feels wrong for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All this panic about lube. I went to a room with a couple of guys and realised my lube was actually hairspray!!!!

Spit and the lube on a condom was enough for a fabulous spit roasting.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"All this panic about lube. I went to a room with a couple of guys and realised my lube was actually hairspray!!!!

Spit and the lube on a condom was enough for a fabulous spit roasting.

I have a fairly logical theory that Men have bigger arseholes than women.

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By *dsindyTV/TS
over a year ago

East Lancashire

Lube, lube, more lube and lube until you are as slippery as a snake with a criminal record.....then to be sure, lube up again.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I think the best training is with a partner.

When we're horny then we can be receptive in ways that are enabled by just that. Solo prep can lack that vital element. And with a partner we cam have foreplay first, which prepares the body.

It's a bit like running a long race without warning up or stretching. Foreplay will get your circulation flowing, you'll relax more etc. Hormones may change too.

If you're in the hands of your partner you can also relax more. Try different positions, breathing, as if doing yoga.

Just do little and often, whilst your skill and trust improves.

Otherwise some great advice here.

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By *aughtyinguMan
over a year ago

swindon

Do u know where the tears are inside? U could try position that avoids that area when thrusting?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you not ever think for one moment it's your body's way of saying ~ this ain't for me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Do you not ever think for one moment it's your body's way of saying ~ this ain't for me"
no as happily enjoyed it many many times.. and it feels amazing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you not ever think for one moment it's your body's way of saying ~ this ain't for me no as happily enjoyed it many many times.. and it feels amazing "

maybe get your anus checked out, make sure all is okay with the scar tissue & nothing else is going on up there. peace of mind may help you relax

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Do you not ever think for one moment it's your body's way of saying ~ this ain't for me no as happily enjoyed it many many times.. and it feels amazing

maybe get your anus checked out, make sure all is okay with the scar tissue & nothing else is going on up there. peace of mind may help you relax

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its been checked but they tell you not to do anal anyway x

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