FabSwingers.com forum: This site is draining?!?x :-(

By *icknsuck2 OP Couple
over a year ago

Cornwall. St Ives Bay.

Anybody else find this site draining with all the timewasters and fakes, We used to find it fun but now it's getting a little boring. Xx

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *hat The CuckCouple
over a year ago

South London

"Anybody else find this site draining with all the timewasters and fakes, We used to find it fun but now it's getting a little boring. Xx"

We agree. But live in hope as every now and then someone pops up that takes our fancy and things go great and we have an amazing meet. But then soon back to filtering through messages for days/weeks again

Endless cycle. But I guess that's expected with this lifestyle.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It gets frustrating, but what can you do.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Group hug? Chin up people.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes people arrange meets and never turn up

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It may be an opportunity to review your selection criteria. I'm having a ball and no timewasters. Fab works well for me.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *woOfaKindCouple
over a year ago

Lancaster area

Truthfully, my wife and I just use this site for the forums.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been lucky as I've not encountered many time wasters

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

It seems to get like this at the beginning of the summer holidays and around Christmas time..then settles down.

And from the state of the forums with all the threads about cock pics, whores and sluts....I think the outpatients arein force...

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Less socials and months of talking to set up meets. I'm starting to think if people only log on when they can meet. It would get rid of all the time wasters.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We love this site. Don't always get fun exactly when we want it, and we going through a slightly drier spell at the moment. But on average we do something about once a month and have built up a good circle of friends from the scene, so can't complain. We sometimes chat to people and it doesn't go anywhere, but there isn't anyone we would describe as a true time-waster. I don't doubt that there are time-wasters out there, but we don't have anything to do with them. I agree with one of the other posters - maybe think about how you select.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Less socials and months of talking to set up meets. I'm starting to think if people only log on when they can meet. It would get rid of all the time wasters."

It's a good point, but what if I'm not sexually attracted to the person who is available at the last minute to on the night that we want to play?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am just using the forum, it is comedy gold

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Less socials and months of talking to set up meets. I'm starting to think if people only log on when they can meet. It would get rid of all the time wasters.

It's a good point, but what if I'm not sexually attracted to the person who is available at the last minute to on the night that we want to play?"

Then you have to take one for the team

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I've arranged a social and organising to go to a quiz night. It's not all about sitting waiting for the right people to message you.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Less socials and months of talking to set up meets. I'm starting to think if people only log on when they can meet. It would get rid of all the time wasters.

It's a good point, but what if I'm not sexually attracted to the person who is available at the last minute to on the night that we want to play?

Then you have to take one for the team

Where's the fun in that! I like to fuck men I fancy

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It seems to get like this at the beginning of the summer holidays and around Christmas time..then settles down.

And from the state of the forums with all the threads about cock pics, whores and sluts....I think the outpatients arein force...

I'm doing very well thanks

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Less socials and months of talking to set up meets. I'm starting to think if people only log on when they can meet. It would get rid of all the time wasters."

You can tell you're attracted to someone instantly? I'd be a very disappointed person if I did that.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"Anybody else find this site draining with all the timewasters and fakes, We used to find it fun but now it's getting a little boring. Xx"

Yep, been on here five weeks and already thinking of calling it a day tbh. We have just discovered that one who "will wait till we are free" on our friends is actually using images that are at least 6yrs old as we've just done a reverse image search on google. Others state various profile details "Single" when they are not "I have freedom to play" no they don't they are cheating (not bothered but just bloody say so!!) Ages - yeah right, "Can accommodate" no they can't! and that's just the people that are real on top of that you have all the kids, Ex's hiding behind Exgf photo profiles, why i'll never know as you can pretty much look at anything on here if you look for it as you can any type of porn on the web..

Just rapidly losing heart that there are no straight up & down honest people on here that have not told one single lie...Doesn't bode well tbh..The site could sort it out very easily but they choose to have numbers rather than genuine members..

Oh well, back to the nightclubs I guess at least you can touch them while they are lying to you

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anybody else find this site draining with all the timewasters and fakes, We used to find it fun but now it's getting a little boring. Xx

Oh well, back to the nightclubs I guess at least you can touch them while they are lying to you

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're looking for a meet a month , or less , there's no excuse not to find a suitable meet .

Imagine how difficult it gets when you are looking three times a week !

We have a great circle of friends who we often meet , but also like meeting new people .

Thank goodness for Pokemon go , which has overtaken fab now ,and we couldn't give a monkeys whether people turn up now .

Up until Pokemon we did get a pissed off when those who said they would come didn't show , but never lost any sleep over it . We have each other and that's always the best anyway

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We find it time consuming and so frustrating, we've had quite a few requests to meet but most couples want girl on girl which isn't an appeal to us...we've not yet played with anyone and all we want is to watch each other with someone else as we talk about it and it really turns us on.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you're looking for a meet a month , or less , there's no excuse not to find a suitable meet .

Imagine how difficult it gets when you are looking three times a week !

We have a great circle of friends who we often meet , but also like meeting new people .

Thank goodness for Pokemon go , which has overtaken fab now ,and we couldn't give a monkeys whether people turn up now .

Up until Pokemon we did get a pissed off when those who said they would come didn't show , but never lost any sleep over it . We have each other and that's always the best anyway

You guys are the gold standard of swinging. You're all about playing and less about talking. I salute you guys , and wish more people in this lifestyle were following your lead.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"Anybody else find this site draining with all the timewasters and fakes, We used to find it fun but now it's getting a little boring. Xx

Oh well, back to the nightclubs I guess at least you can touch them while they are lying to you

"
it takes a while to get to be known..5 weeks is nothing, most people who meet or go to clubs are booked up weeks or sometimes months in advance..most dont meet at drop of a hat or they are already booked into going to an event or club.. if you can, get out and about more,go to a club every now and then, you will become discerning of the ones on fab who are time wasters, most of all, try and see it as fun...xx

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, if anyone gets frustrated or annoyed at the site, or thinks it's a chore or ball ache to use it, the. They're approaching the site with the wrong attitude in my opinion.

Too much expectation is put on the site, lower your expectations, don't be disappointed.

It's like using jelly to turn a bolt, but now and again it actually works!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you're looking for a meet a month , or less , there's no excuse not to find a suitable meet .

Imagine how difficult it gets when you are looking three times a week !

We have a great circle of friends who we often meet , but also like meeting new people .

Thank goodness for Pokemon go , which has overtaken fab now ,and we couldn't give a monkeys whether people turn up now .

Up until Pokemon we did get a pissed off when those who said they would come didn't show , but never lost any sleep over it . We have each other and that's always the best anyway

You guys are the gold standard of swinging. You're all about playing and less about talking. I salute you guys , and wish more people in this lifestyle were following your lead.

"
They are the FAB Delta Force X

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anybody else find this site draining with all the timewasters and fakes, We used to find it fun but now it's getting a little boring. Xx

Oh well, back to the nightclubs I guess at least you can touch them while they are lying to you

it takes a while to get to be known..5 weeks is nothing, most people who meet or go to clubs are booked up weeks or sometimes months in advance..most dont meet at drop of a hat or they are already booked into going to an event or club.. if you can, get out and about more,go to a club every now and then, you will become discerning of the ones on fab who are time wasters, most of all, try and see it as fun...xx"

I agree with that. Most of our valued friends, as well as more memorable experiences, took place as a result of parties. Once you've built up a circle of friends you'll find you mainly use Fab to keep in contact, find out about parties, and maybe for the occasional select meet. We very rarely meet new people privately now.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"If you're looking for a meet a month , or less , there's no excuse not to find a suitable meet .

Imagine how difficult it gets when you are looking three times a week !

We have a great circle of friends who we often meet , but also like meeting new people .

Thank goodness for Pokemon go , which has overtaken fab now ,and we couldn't give a monkeys whether people turn up now .

Up until Pokemon we did get a pissed off when those who said they would come didn't show , but never lost any sleep over it . We have each other and that's always the best anyway

Depends what/who you are after, IF we were looking for couples we would be inundated and would have no trouble as we get several winks etc daily, but we are not..We've rapidly come to the conclusion that in general the couples are the least likely to mess you about but they are not what we want (sorry

) Even those we have kept on our friend list pretty much 50% are lying about something, just doesn't inspire us with confidence tbh. Love the we have each other because that's exactly how we feel, doesn't stop all the messing peeing you off mind..I posted happily last week about having a great threeway convo with a lady lasting a full on 14hrs it was terrific good humour banter etc..then she just disapeered for 4 days, then comes back and not a word? we were talking about a meet when what we drink etc. and now stone cold like your talking to your neighbour..Just odd to us we are Black & White - Yes/No there is no grey or maybe & this place is the Dulux factory of grey

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It takes time to meet people, meet them again and be trusted, be recommended and be introduced to others and invited to join in. Once a circle of 'friends' is made, then finding a meet isn't difficult as you get repeats meets from trusted people who'd rather meet someone they know than a potential time waster. Everyone's time is valuable.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"Anybody else find this site draining with all the timewasters and fakes, We used to find it fun but now it's getting a little boring. Xx

Oh well, back to the nightclubs I guess at least you can touch them while they are lying to you

Yep taken on board a few days ago in a similar thread, we have been sorting our sitter for a few visits, Mingles first as we left a litre bottle of Captain Morgans there on their first social weds (very quiet but fun) We are looking at VA mid August & have signed up for the Alton Towers trip in September staying on the fri/sat somewhere close by..I think part of our problem is we are here 24/7 almost I work for myself at home, a lot of the time online so can have fab open all day & night, H only works two days a week so she can do the same on her phone..I think we just need to take a step back, clear the chaff from our fl & pick & choose more carefully who we wish to talk to..First thing is no veri, no convo..but as newbies we didn't really realise the significance of that statement..

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you're looking for a meet a month , or less , there's no excuse not to find a suitable meet .

Imagine how difficult it gets when you are looking three times a week !

We have a great circle of friends who we often meet , but also like meeting new people .

Thank goodness for Pokemon go , which has overtaken fab now ,and we couldn't give a monkeys whether people turn up now .

Up until Pokemon we did get a pissed off when those who said they would come didn't show , but never lost any sleep over it . We have each other and that's always the best anyway

You guys are the gold standard of swinging. You're all about playing and less about talking. I salute you guys , and wish more people in this lifestyle were following your lead.

They are the FAB Delta Force X"

Swinging for us is a great lifestyle .

We've been doing it for over five years now , and have done everything possible in that time .

Clubs , parties , home meets , outdoor fun , car meets , spontaneous and planned .

Men , women , bi , straight , tv, ts , cd , gay , unsure .

Newbies , hardened , young and old ....

Yep , probably getting on for 1500 meets now and we still get a buzz from every meet .

But we also have the ability to spot a fake or a timewaster from a distance . Yet even we get caught out now and again !

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

Some people want a quick meet now....others prefer to get to know someone a bit first....some of us have busy lives and have to plan ahead.

The fact that some people want to get to know the person they're thinking of fucking, and cannot drop all their work/family/social commitments at the drop of a hat does not mean they are not genuine.

Non-monogamy is in my veins, most certainly a huge part of my lifestyle...I've been in the swinging/party scene since 2003 and am no timewaster...but you generally have to book me a few weeks in advance.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some people want a quick meet now....others prefer to get to know someone a bit first....some of us have busy lives and have to plan ahead.

The fact that some people want to get to know the person they're thinking of fucking, and cannot drop all their work/family/social commitments at the drop of a hat does not mean they are not genuine.

Totally agree

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some people want a quick meet now....others prefer to get to know someone a bit first....some of us have busy lives and have to plan ahead.

The fact that some people want to get to know the person they're thinking of fucking, and cannot drop all their work/family/social commitments at the drop of a hat does not mean they are not genuine.

Totally agree

Spot on Post... But my point is that most time wasters have time to chat , cam , text daily but can't find time for a meet. There are always exceptions to this rule

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

Yes and I am one. Just because I can text while at work, with my wife or with friends (they all know we are in "the lifestyle") does not mean I am available to drop that activity and meet.

I bet many others are the same.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

To me, a timewaster is someone who arranges meets and doesn't turn up

Or someone who chats but never sets a date. Want to meet me in September? I will pick a date and be there.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been here for year and starting to give up wish I know any new good sites

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *woOfaKindCouple
over a year ago

Lancaster area

Truth be told, I'm finding life as a whole to be quite draining and pointless lately. I dream of the day the mother ship returns to pick me up. A quick debrief about the current state of humanity, and then I'm free to float around on the alien world where I actually belong!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

My wife just reminded me she has been accused of being a time waster because she can't text much during work hours and because she does not meet at the drop of a hat. We aren't the type of swingers who do 200 meets a year. Nothing against those who do, it just isn't our style. But we ain't fakes....just busy and picky.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes and I am one. Just because I can text while at work, with my wife or with friends (they all know we are in "the lifestyle") does not mean I am available to drop that activity and meet.

I bet many others are the same."

I find that's very much the norm for anybody who has a partner or has kids. We've planned our play diary right up until September.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

We are still rapidly learning tbh, just jumped straight in there & learning the hard way I guess, we'll be having a friend clearout I think at the weekend when we are both here to discuss who & why and then start over, profiles been changed several times too..I'm starting to prefer being on the forums anyway tbh..Although I do wish all you couples would stop looking at us, makes me feel nervous

:D 68 out of the last 100 views, you trying to twist our arms lol

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

PS: We don't want a quick anything

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"Anybody else find this site draining with all the timewasters and fakes, We used to find it fun but now it's getting a little boring. Xx

Oh well, back to the nightclubs I guess at least you can touch them while they are lying to you

you will get there xx youll find your own way to use this site and you will enjoy it. just takes a bit of getting used to xx

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"you will get there xx youll find your own way to use this site and you will enjoy it. just takes a bit of getting used to xx"

Thank You xx

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not what it used to be but still ok.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *appytoadsCouple
over a year ago

West Dublin

We have to agree. The swing scene on this site

Is like treading through a mine field and when eventually you think your on a winner. The mine explodes and your off again. Draining Draining !!!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of talkers on here with no intention of playing, it's just how it is. To the OP a couple looking for only a single female is damn hard work on here, most single ladies are inundated with messages, best take a step back from the site and think about going to clubs, parties etc where you can get into real life conversations, build up a bit of a network and go from there, patience is the key, you are not in the driving seat.....

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *iclassyCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

A site which sadly seems to be dominated by the male of the species seeking out their own pleasures .Often posing as a couple but the ladies not seeming to be involved

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anybody else find this site draining with all the timewasters and fakes, We used to find it fun but now it's getting a little boring. Xx"

Sometimes yes x

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"A site which sadly seems to be dominated by the male of the species seeking out their own pleasures .Often posing as a couple but the ladies not seeming to be involved "

We have just had the exact opposite too for the first time, bifem lady friends us chats for a while then mentions her boyfriend wants in "Err no that makes you a couple & we ain't going down that track" bye then....Weird

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anybody else find this site draining with all the timewasters and fakes, We used to find it fun but now it's getting a little boring. Xx

Oh well, back to the nightclubs I guess at least you can touch them while they are lying to you

We got ducked in when we first joined didn't realise that verification's and how long they've been on the site is the key. Also check out the people who have verified them. Your going to struggle as genuine single females who are happy to meet a couple are like gold dust lol. We use the club scene a lot. But stick it out a few more weeks on here you will of worked out how to spot fakes. The good genuine meets soon out way the fakes.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not long joined and I wasn't sure what to expect from it.

Seems not great for a newbie

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a great time here i have no expectations take my time to get to know people lucky never to have my time wasted

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It seems to get like this at the beginning of the summer holidays and around Christmas time..then settles down.

And from the state of the forums with all the threads about cock pics, whores and sluts....I think the outpatients arein force...

I'm doing very well thanks

Show off

mee too

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

Going through a lean spell at the moment but only because it is the holiday season and a couple of my regular lady friends have got loved up and dropped out... I'm still optimistic and still prepared to host small parties as I'm never sure who may pop up and take my fancy

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

"It's not what it used to be but still ok.

I think you could say that of the swinging scene in general. It has evolved, and not necessarily for the better. There are certainly more fakes and cheaters about, plus more men expecting a meet at the snap of their fingers.

But there is still lots of fun to be had.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *abcouple11Couple
over a year ago

Truro

I'm finding my testicles are rather well drained - but that isn't quite what you were thinking of is it??!!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

"Anybody else find this site draining with all the timewasters and fakes, We used to find it fun but now it's getting a little boring. Xx"

Nope

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *reedy_for_funCouple
over a year ago

My House

"Anybody else find this site draining with all the timewasters and fakes, We used to find it fun but now it's getting a little boring. Xx"

If we lived closrr to Leicester we'd never waste your time

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

"We have to agree. The swing scene on this site

Is like treading through a mine field and when eventually you think your on a winner. The mine explodes and your off again. Draining Draining !!!

This!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

As a single man I have learnt to have little or no expectation of this site. That means everything becomes a bonus.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *inzi LTV/TS
over a year ago

The Garden of Eden in Beautiful North Wales

"Anybody else find this site draining with all the timewasters and fakes, We used to find it fun but now it's getting a little boring. Xx"

All depends on the context of 'draining!'

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah as a newbie it's not easy.

Wouldn't say draining. Some of the banter on here has had me in stitches.

However I'm not one of the all talk no show brigade.

If I arrange to meet you. You can guarantee I will be there.

After all isn't that the whole point of this site?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"Yeah as a newbie it's not easy. Wouldn't say draining. Some of the banter on here has had me in stitches. However I'm not one of the all talk no show brigade. If I arrange to meet you. You can guarantee I will be there. After all isn't that the whole point of this site?"
Only for some it would seem, a lot just get off on the fact that people want them, some get off on the chat with no intention of ever meeting you. It's a very steep learning curve for us & sometimes a bit wearing but we are starting to recognise a type much better than when we joined..Doesn't stop us being disheartened sometimes though as one persons kicks are another's waffle, We just want a regular fwb to meet occasionally/socialise and then FCK all ways till Sunday . Not too much to ask is it?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anybody else find this site draining with all the timewasters and fakes, We used to find it fun but now it's getting a little boring. Xx

Oh well, back to the nightclubs I guess at least you can touch them while they are lying to you

That's part of your problem right there, you're able to spend so much time on Fab.

The vast majority of Fabbers don't have that luxury, so of course it's hard to find people to meet.

That's why people can chat for a while then dissappear for a while. Their real lives get in the way.

If we had been chatting you'd probably class me as a time waster, I've barely logged on for the last three weeks, yesterday I was logged on virtually all day.

Today I'm on at 5am, but that will probably be it today.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *TJxComboMan
over a year ago

birmingham

I've been on fab for about 5 months now, and I've realised now that I'm verified alot of people seem to waste my time.

I don't understand why people talk to you, and as soon as you try to arrange a meet they fall off the face of the earth, then a couple days later they will wink or send you a msg as if you've never spoke before.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

After reading through this post I recognise all the negatives listed .I for one come and go by that I mean I spend a month or so looking if a find a naughty fwb who's up for meeting regular or semi regular .I concentrate the little spare time i have on making that friendship as much fun as possible and leave my account sitting here and rarely log on .

If over that month or so I don't catch anyone's eye I leave so as I don't become disillusioned with my search because I believe if that happens it begins to show in my interactions with others as well as my post on the forum which in turn makes me less attractive which in turn lowers my chances of catching someone's eye .

This world is what it is I think the trick is to hit on a formula for using the opportunities it can offer you that works for you in my case it is to interact with this world in the way I've listed .

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

Depends how often u expect a meet ....if u work full time ... not as often as u would like ....

But I like the forum folks ....they keep me company ... especially on nights

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It seems to get like this at the beginning of the summer holidays and around Christmas time..then settles down.

And from the state of the forums with all the threads about cock pics, whores and sluts....I think the outpatients arein force...

Lolz ??

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It seems to get like this at the beginning of the summer holidays and around Christmas time..then settles down.

And from the state of the forums with all the threads about cock pics, whores and sluts....I think the outpatients arein force...

Lolz

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

" That's part of your problem right there, you're able to spend so much time on Fab. The vast majority of Fabbers don't have that luxury, so of course it's hard to find people to meet. That's why people can chat for a while then dissappear for a while. Their real lives get in the way. If we had been chatting you'd probably class me as a time waster, I've barely logged on for the last three weeks, yesterday I was logged on virtually all day. Today I'm on at 5am, but that will probably be it today. "
No we wouldn't because I'd hazard s guess that possibly you are the same as us, If during a chat other things need to be done, kids, work etc. We say so & either say be back later or as we are available almost all the time give them option to shout up to continue..The people we chat to just disappear sort of mid conversation & make no attempt to restart it even though we see they are online, they stay on our friend list which for us at least is even more odd. It's the "Just disappearing " we find most troubling "Is it us?" "Can"t see we said anything to upset?" Etc...We are determined to get our heads round it though & we will..

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford

"Anybody else find this site draining with all the timewasters and fakes, We used to find it fun but now it's getting a little boring. Xx"
I just ignore the fakes so they do not bother me ..Fake members never bother writing good profiles .

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

I have a great time

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's part of your problem right there, you're able to spend so much time on Fab.

The vast majority of Fabbers don't have that luxury, so of course it's hard to find people to meet.

That's why people can chat for a while then dissappear for a while. Their real lives get in the way.

If we had been chatting you'd probably class me as a time waster, I've barely logged on for the last three weeks, yesterday I was logged on virtually all day.

Today I'm on at 5am, but that will probably be it today.

No we wouldn't because I'd hazard s guess that possibly you are the same as us, If during a chat other things need to be done, kids, work etc. We say so & either say be back later or as we are available almost all the time give them option to shout up to continue..The people we chat to just disappear sort of mid conversation & make no attempt to restart it even though we see they are online, they stay on our friend list which for us at least is even more odd. It's the "Just disappearing " we find most troubling "Is it us?" "Can"t see we said anything to upset?" Etc...We are determined to get our heads round it though & we will.."

Unfortunately sometimes I dissappear at a moments notice, without an opportunity to let the people I'm chatting to know.

On the flipside I do warn them it might happen early in the conversation.

My circumstances are pretty unique though.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"Yes people arrange meets and never turn up "

At least you've got to the arrange meet stage

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People expect fun to just fall into the laps

Yes it takes time - even more for us males

It's all about connection

Yes it's hard to get a meet where everyone clicks

But it does happen - and it's all amazing - hot - sensual - when the fun happens.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Last time I was on here took me two months for my first meet anyway, even then that was only a social meet, Was 4 months before I met someone local for a quick after work BJ heh.

Due to me working long days and nights I'm just hopeful if something turns up for a bit of fun, my aim is to get out to some adult clubs as I have never been to any before and meet a few good people in my life before I settle down In the rather long and distant future.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

I think its what you put in, not what you want to take out that matters....

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford

"People expect fun to just fall into the laps

Yes it takes time - even more for us males

It's all about connection

Yes it's hard to get a meet where everyone clicks

But it does happen - and it's all amazing - hot - sensual - when the fun happens. "

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

"Anybody else find this site draining with all the timewasters and fakes, We used to find it fun but now it's getting a little boring. Xx"

Bye

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"I think its what you put in, not what you want to take out that matters....

No doubt, We've changed a lot of our profile, Worked on the pics too, H has really worked on it more than me tbh and seeing as we have been sent friend requests by two ladies in two days it seems to be better to read, So I guess I should shut up whinging now

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Nope, it's fun

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hanging in there to hopefully find a decent guy!

Lol

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

I haven't used Fab to arrange a meet in years.

I'm just here for the forums and to find out whats happening at the clubs, that is where I meet. Much less hassle and I know that I won't be sitting around waiting for someone who has no intention of showing up.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nope we love it - only the odd one that bugs us - we block and carry on - here for fun and fun we have

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I wouldnt do something i found draining.

Ive noticed no difference in nine years. Im having a ball

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It gets frustrating, but what can you do.

Ask that all members have to be at least photo verified within a month of joining?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"It gets frustrating, but what can you do.

Ask that all members have to be at least photo verified within a month of joining? "

Yeah & watch page hits & member numbers on-line drop like a stone, therefore revenue from advertisers do likewise...I'll see a ham sandwich fly past my window before that happens unfortunately

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

"It gets frustrating, but what can you do.

Ask that all members have to be at least photo verified within a month of joining? "

So how would you know that I won't waste your time by having a pic on here of me proving my gender?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *orgeouslyyoursWoman
over a year ago

essex just looking around

"It gets frustrating, but what can you do.

Ask that all members have to be at least photo verified within a month of joining?

So how would you know that I won't waste your time by having a pic on here of me proving my gender?"

I think they all have to be now anyway !! Not that it means much tbh!!

In 9 years on sites and events

ill tell you swinging if definatley a winter sport..

The first 6 months are crazy then it dies then changes after a year

Thats cause your new n fresh in beginning and then people leave or embrace lifestyle which means they play less and are more social ..

Its definitely a roller coaster of dips and follows trends ..

Just depends how long you want to stay on the ride !! Lol

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *orgeouslyyoursWoman
over a year ago

essex just looking around

"I haven't used Fab to arrange a meet in years.

Hear hear to that xx

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes and judgemental hypocrites that take this hit to seriously. I'm here to have fun

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep

My pet hates are persistent guys who won't take no for an answer, timewasters,fakes,guys who blow hot and cold, social misfits and desperados

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are arseholes and timewasters. Makes us genuine guys look bad.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swing on in clubs!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

Post new Message to Thread