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"It's not about jealousy, as a swinger, why does a person. need to connect ? " we have sex with strangers /swinging friends I connect with my hubby but then everyone is different and some cant tell the difference | |||
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"I think, cos generally women are more jealous then men." you've clearly not met many couples we've seen way way more jealous men than women and as single guys get way more clingy than women in our opinion | |||
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"My partner loves seeing me with men, during mfm yet says he needs to connect with a woman during mff, otherwise it's mechanical. I do not feel comfortable with him ' connecting ' in this way , perhaps because I compartmentalise during mfm, know I'm the centre of attention ? Help me understand the dynamics ? Why do I not enjoy him being unobandoned, with another woman ? He says he loves seeing me unobandoned in this way, yet I dont get the same turn on when he's with a woman, not necessarily having penetrative sex. He's telling me this is wrong, your thoughts ? " It's jealousy pure and simple. You are quite happy being the centre of attention but if he's having fun then you don't like it. Maybe reassess whether swinging is for you. When with a partner I love the buzz of seeing them fuck another woman. | |||
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"My partner loves seeing me with men, during mfm yet says he needs to connect with a woman during mff, otherwise it's mechanical. I do not feel comfortable with him ' connecting ' in this way , perhaps because I compartmentalise during mfm, know I'm the centre of attention ? Help me understand the dynamics ? Why do I not enjoy him being unobandoned, with another woman ? He says he loves seeing me unobandoned in this way, yet I dont get the same turn on when he's with a woman, not necessarily having penetrative sex. He's telling me this is wrong, your thoughts ? It's jealousy pure and simple. You are quite happy being the centre of attention but if he's having fun then you don't like it. Maybe reassess whether swinging is for you. When with a partner I love the buzz of seeing them fuck another woman. " I don't think it's jealousy, it's because the man wants a woman who he "connects" to, whereas OP herself does not form connections to the men in mmf. It's a different dynamic. Maybe he doesn't actually want to do mff all that much XXX | |||
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"As the partner in question I should clarify that i'm not saying it's wrong. It's my preference to be connected. There is no motivation to simply lick what might as well be a peanut if no person is attached to it. Even if it's the peanut of the most stereotypicaly beautiful bodied person in the world. It's just a peanut. I realise that I may differ from a lot of men who simply want to get the chance to put their cocks in different women." No I feel the same way. I don't go for quantity. I've only ever had my wife and a 5 minute with a woman at a club and my friend. I understand what you mean | |||
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"I think I can understand the need to connect. I need to feel something for the person. Sometimes girls misunderstand. It isn't about more than for the time we're together, but for that time I want to feel we're lovers. An illusion sometimes. I don't think I could do a gang bang or pay someone for sex because I need to feel that's it's me that's wanted... even though I know often it's just someone they want. I get off on her pleasure because it reflects on my ability to make her feel like that. So that's my need for connection. It's a bit of an ego thing. " What he said sums it up to a tee, I really couldn't add anymore to that. What my partner says of meeting men is that it makes her feel desired. Well men like a bit of that too. I will add a comment about arousal and risk the wrath of women. Men have to get hard and stay hard, not an issue for a teenager, but I find mental stimulation the best personally. | |||
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